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Listen the fuck up. Listen to your friends, you should not be letting her treat you like that. She is physically and psychologically abusing you.
The drugs are no longer hedonistic pleasure. They are a maladaptive coping strategy to deal with the trauma from your CSA. Those memory fragments you have, the door, the hiding in the cupboard. That go away when you get high? Why do you think they happen when she abuses you and gaslights you? Why do you feel frozen and can't respond, when it's happening?
It's not your fault. You don't deserve it and you need to respect yourself. Your real friends are trying to tell you that.
Probably wouldn't listen though. |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
For me I would say. You are sacrificing a lot and these are the best years of your life you will never get back. People will drift. Others will see you as an aquantence don't be surprised. Life is hard at the best of times does not mean it's not enjoyable. |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
bedlington |
I don’t think a minute is enough, my main regret in life is spending 15 years with someone but undoing that would mean I haven’t got my kids so not sure how advise that maybe to not take her back in 2014 when she ran off for 6 weeks leaving me with the kids an ms maybe life would be a lot better now |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I don’t think a minute is enough, my main regret in life is spending 15 years with someone but undoing that would mean I haven’t got my kids so not sure how advise that maybe to not take her back in 2014 when she ran off for 6 weeks leaving me with the kids an ms maybe life would be a lot better now "
I'm sorry to hear this |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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My twenty year old self was a bit of a mess. I was studying too hard, working too hard and partying too hard. Trying to prove I could do something whilst trying to do everything.
Yet with all of that, I wouldn't change any of it. I wouldn't have the people in my life I do now if it wasn't for who I was back then.
My only advice would be - hug that close friend of yours a bit tighter because one day he'll be words on a bench near your favourite studying spot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing at all. Life is what makes us. I'd not be me if I did stuff differently and didn't learn from life's experiences. And I think I'm pretty awesome right now.  |
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In 3 years time you will go on a rugby tour to Denmark.
FFS whatever you do, on the first night of the tournament in town - stay with your friends.
In 4 years time you will go to Ecuador. Don't gate crash the beauty competition or you will fuckin shit yourself at the consequences.
The rest of your life you will enjoy. And you at least live into your 50s but with some close scrapes. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Choose a good sector , pharma, tech, telecom not retail or hospitality. Then just do the grind - any job required. Don’t work for companies or people you wouldn’t volunteer for & work for free. Don’t tell lies. Live generously and audaciously and take loads of risks |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"My twenty year old self was a bit of a mess. I was studying too hard, working too hard and partying too hard. Trying to prove I could do something whilst trying to do everything.
Yet with all of that, I wouldn't change any of it. I wouldn't have the people in my life I do now if it wasn't for who I was back then.
My only advice would be - hug that close friend of yours a bit tighter because one day he'll be words on a bench near your favourite studying spot. "
This is beautiful. |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Nothing at all. Life is what makes us. I'd not be me if I did stuff differently and didn't learn from life's experiences. And I think I'm pretty awesome right now. "
This is true. Butterfly effect and all. I think a lot of people have regrets, sand from those regrets they may have learnt life lessons. |
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Stop worrying about what other people think, start enjoying your life.
As for crossdressing, you look good in a dress and lingerie, work on your make up. Get out while you still have the figure to be more convincing.
Don't give up cycling, you were good at it. |
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"My only advice would be - hug that close friend of yours a bit tighter because one day he'll be words on a bench near your favourite studying spot. "
I choose this!… RIP Tony, I fucking love you buddy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id probably say dont measure your worth by what you think others think of you. Be yourself, be open about what you like and embrace that being different isnt a bad thing per se. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
Spend more time going out to clubs and pubs and meeting girls instead of card schools hoping to meet the Queen’s of diamonds, hearts , clubs and spades.35 years later I still haven’t learnt a fucking thing. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Work out who to trust, get some talking therapy and never be afraid to ask. Question the experts: they are wrong, face those demons and narcissists' and join FAB and a sun club ASAP, to meet your future partner and discover those wive changing gloves.
Discover once a day sun-tan-lotion
(A few more lines like this and Baz lurman will be in touch) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When your boss asks you what you really think……lie. oh god DON’t lie …make sure EVERYONE hears and walk out like you just bosses it BECAUSE YOU JUST DID!!"
Well that cost me two promising careers…… |
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Ask to be taken off your current meds, they're one of the main sources of your depression. Actually leave your room to go out and try to socialise, at least occasionally - you'll find out that not everyone hates you. Try to make some friends. Talk to people. Stop self harming... Long list really tbh. |
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"When your boss asks you what you really think……lie. oh god DON’t lie …make sure EVERYONE hears and walk out like you just bosses it BECAUSE YOU JUST DID!!
Well that cost me two promising careers……"
Me too #NoRegrets |
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