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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm just curios. What would you prefer as a means of a polite "no thanks"?
Would you rather see your message has been deleted, or read and left?
This isn't a post about moaning by the way, I'm just wondering how people prefer to deal with messages that aren't of interest. Or how would you prefer as a non verbal way of being told there's no interest? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i delete them as soon as i send them so i never know if they are read / unread or deleted"
Forgive my ignorance, but doesn't deleting a sent message not delete it at their end too? I assumed because it says "delete thread" that it would delete at the other end simultaneously |
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"i delete them as soon as i send them so i never know if they are read / unread or deleted
Forgive my ignorance, but doesn't deleting a sent message not delete it at their end too? I assumed because it says "delete thread" that it would delete at the other end simultaneously "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i delete them as soon as i send them so i never know if they are read / unread or deleted
Forgive my ignorance, but doesn't deleting a sent message not delete it at their end too? I assumed because it says "delete thread" that it would delete at the other end simultaneously
Nope."
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"i delete them as soon as i send them so i never know if they are read / unread or deleted
Forgive my ignorance, but doesn't deleting a sent message not delete it at their end too? I assumed because it says "delete thread" that it would delete at the other end simultaneously
Nope."
Can you see that the sender has deleted? |
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If it's left on read for more than a couple of days I assume they're not interested.
If it's deleted then that's a clear no.
Sometimes I respond to say they're not for me but experience tells me to just delete to avoid abuse.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm ambivalent about this.
I rarely look at the sent items folder, I go in there to delete the contents.
I concentrate on my inbox its a far more productive use of my fab time and energy  |
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I used to take the view that if it's deleted that's a not interested, as that's the view generally expressed on here.
But then I've had women say I didn't mean to delete that. I did it by accident or bulk deleted.
I am someone who doesn't really like to 'read' into things or make assumptions. I tend to check my understanding too. It is better to be explicit with me, but I appreciate there are many reasons why women choose not to.
I am also terrible at replying sometimes, due to ADHD. It's really no indication of my level of interest. |
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Depending on the person that's messaged me, if it's a blank profile then I just delete but if I can actually see what they look like and I'm not attracted I just say sorry but there's no attraction for me.
I have no preference on how they let me know they aren't attracted to me. |
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"Depending on the person that's messaged me, if it's a blank profile then I just delete but if I can actually see what they look like and I'm not attracted I just say sorry but there's no attraction for me.
I have no preference on how they let me know they aren't attracted to me. "
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t allow anyone to initially message me anymore.
I do if I lose interest, or feel that the other person isn’t really that interested, I just block, delete thread and move on.
The only games that I am interested in playing are sexual ones with interesting people  |
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