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By *alefun OP Man
over a year ago
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Something I want to finally explore is the world of BDSM.. not sure whether to start with clubs or if I can connect with someone into it.. just don’t know where to start to finally start my life in BDSM |
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"This is something I want to explore too. Would love to meet some fellow kinksters locally to break me in gently. Any advice or offers gladly accepted."
Find your local munches and get to know people there is your best bet. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I never liked the idea of going to a club and I went to a munch once and it wasn’t for me. It all feels a bit 50 shades , touristy?
I did meet someone who was able to reawaken what was always there and I got a huge amount of confidence and then I read about RACK which is for me not SSC which is for many.
It’s a very individual journey , good luck  |
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"This is something I want to explore too. Would love to meet some fellow kinksters locally to break me in gently. Any advice or offers gladly accepted.
Find your local munches and get to know people there is your best bet."
Forgive me for sounding a bit dopey but what does "munches"mean"?? |
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"This is something I want to explore too. Would love to meet some fellow kinksters locally to break me in gently. Any advice or offers gladly accepted.
Find your local munches and get to know people there is your best bet.
Forgive me for sounding a bit dopey but what does "munches"mean"??"
BDSM casual socials, usually in a normal bar where you can meet other kinksters fully dressed and normal presenting and talk about what it is you like or want to explore. |
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"This is something I want to explore too. Would love to meet some fellow kinksters locally to break me in gently. Any advice or offers gladly accepted.
Find your local munches and get to know people there is your best bet.
Forgive me for sounding a bit dopey but what does "munches"mean"??
BDSM casual socials, usually in a normal bar where you can meet other kinksters fully dressed and normal presenting and talk about what it is you like or want to explore."
Ah, right. Thank you. I know there's Club Play in Blackpool but it's Literally on my doorstep and I MEAN literally, so I'm a little concerned about rocking up there as much as I'd love to. This is something I'd prefer to keep private for now so any local BDSMers reading this please feel free to get in touch. Would be nice to meet up with some like minded people for a drink and a chat. |
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"Ah, right. Thank you. I know there's Club Play in Blackpool but it's Literally on my doorstep and I MEAN literally, so I'm a little concerned about rocking up there as much as I'd love to. This is something I'd prefer to keep private for now so any local BDSMers reading this please feel free to get in touch. Would be nice to meet up with some like minded people for a drink and a chat. "
Club Play is a very different thing to a munch. Though I think I'm down there this weekend for Taboo which is slightly more bdsm focused than they usually do. |
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"This is something I want to explore too. Would love to meet some fellow kinksters locally to break me in gently. Any advice or offers gladly accepted.
Find your local munches and get to know people there is your best bet.
Forgive me for sounding a bit dopey but what does "munches"mean"??
BDSM casual socials, usually in a normal bar where you can meet other kinksters fully dressed and normal presenting and talk about what it is you like or want to explore.
Ah, right. Thank you. I know there's Club Play in Blackpool but it's Literally on my doorstep and I MEAN literally, so I'm a little concerned about rocking up there as much as I'd love to. This is something I'd prefer to keep private for now so any local BDSMers reading this please feel free to get in touch. Would be nice to meet up with some like minded people for a drink and a chat. "
Club play is a club...it's not a munch.
A quick search shows there is a Blackpool munch every month at the 3 piers cookhouse  |
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"Lol, just searched for Blackpool munch. Hundreds of unhealthy eating establishments but no BDSM unfortunately. Anyone have any contact details?"
I suggest you look on the other website that can't be mentioned. And look at the events... |
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over a year ago
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"Lol, just searched for Blackpool munch. Hundreds of unhealthy eating establishments but no BDSM unfortunately. Anyone have any contact details?"
It's not something you're likely to find on Google |
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I would find a local event and make myself known to the community. They will be very welcoming (if my experience is anything to go by)
There is nothing wrong with going to your local club. Personally I would go and not care who seen me but I am not a good guide on things like that I guess. At the very least I would chat to them on a night where its open. They can tell you about a local munch (a meet and greet)
Once there just really relax and enjoy being surrounded by your people. |
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"I would find a local event and make myself known to the community. They will be very welcoming (if my experience is anything to go by)
There is nothing wrong with going to your local club. Personally I would go and not care who seen me but I am not a good guide on things like that I guess. At the very least I would chat to them on a night where its open. They can tell you about a local munch (a meet and greet)
Once there just really relax and enjoy being surrounded by your people. "
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"I would find a local event and make myself known to the community. They will be very welcoming (if my experience is anything to go by)
There is nothing wrong with going to your local club. Personally I would go and not care who seen me but I am not a good guide on things like that I guess. At the very least I would chat to them on a night where its open. They can tell you about a local munch (a meet and greet)
Once there just really relax and enjoy being surrounded by your people. "
Yeah, I might just do that,got to come out the closet sooner or later. |
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"I would find a local event and make myself known to the community. They will be very welcoming (if my experience is anything to go by)
There is nothing wrong with going to your local club. Personally I would go and not care who seen me but I am not a good guide on things like that I guess. At the very least I would chat to them on a night where its open. They can tell you about a local munch (a meet and greet)
Once there just really relax and enjoy being surrounded by your people.
Yeah, I might just do that,got to come out the closet sooner or later. "
It's common when attending your first munch to message someone who's going, (group leaders etc) and ask them to meet you beforehand so you don't have to walk in on your own. |
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Don't go looking for a mistress. Go looking to learn more about yourself.
Female dominants are not super common.
Go meet people, be part of the community and don't worry about finding a relationship.
Learn what you like and don't like. Grow personally.
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"That’s good advice thank you.. just don’t know where to start, joined another site which is hard to navigate around "
Find your local munches and get to know people in the scene.
Dommes are a rarity in terms of supply and demand, if you go in just looking for a domme you're likely to only find the professionals interested. |
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"Ye I’m not strictly looking for that, I’m open minded and just want to be introduced to the scene "
Sale is greater Manchester right? That means you'll have an abundance of munch options on your doorstep.
Good luck  |
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If you have signed up to the FETish LIFEstyle type website use the event finder on there. It is probably the best part of the website and allows you to search for what kind of event (munch/tutoring/play), where and when. We both started by attending the local to us munches, then local play events and then play events all over the country. A few years later we have ran our own kink events, hosted peer rope classes and DM'ed for many events all over the north.
The people that are part of the lifestle are in the main incredibly welcoming and there is always plenty eager to teach. We gravitated towards the 'older/experienced' people, they helped us learn and understand about the play we wanted, the safest ways to go about it and what to do if things go wrong, because don't forget it can be very dangerous. Even a single twist of 6mm rope has the ability to paralyse someone.
Sorry if that's all been repeated above. |
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"Wow there’s a munch in Manchester starting in 2 hours ??"
Manchester has a fabulous scene. Be glad you're not stuck in the middle of nowhere like me and having to travel hours to get to anything fun |
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"Ye I guess I’m lucky in that sense, I’m quite nervous as I like to be discreet but at least I’ve got options"
The whole BDSM scene is very discreet. It has to be since what we do and enjoy is essentially still illegal. |
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