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over a year ago
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I think it’s a bit old fashion once and awkward to go restaurant for a first date. A drink, coffee, something like that is a better way to start. More informal. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a bit old fashion once and awkward to go restaurant for a first date. A drink, coffee, something like that is a better way to start. More informal. "
Should a man pay for your drinks then
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it’s a bit old fashion once and awkward to go restaurant for a first date. A drink, coffee, something like that is a better way to start. More informal.
Should a man pay for your drinks then
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Personally I prefer take it in turns, or if he buys the drinks I pay for something else. I don’t like feeling like I’m taking advantage of people (or feeling obligated to them). |
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This is such an outdated concept, it shouldn't matter but often does, it depends on the person, the situation and the cost, I don't expect anyone to pay for me, will happily split the bill or pick it up or being treated is nice too...
What matters is how someone reacts to it, often men will misinterpret you allowing them to pick up the bill as a sure bet they're getting laid and that's an instant turn off for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't have the available funds to buy a round of drinks then you shouldn't be meeting up. That goes for both parties.
Usually if I'm meeting someone for a drink it's because I've asked if I can buy them a drink rather than would you like to meet for a drink. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My dear fellow in the 3½ years I've been on here only ·3· women have paid for the entire meal / coffee & cake and ·2· have gone 'Dutch'.
Take from that what you will."
I wouldn't pay for no one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is such an outdated concept, it shouldn't matter but often does, it depends on the person, the situation and the cost, I don't expect anyone to pay for me, will happily split the bill or pick it up or being treated is nice too...
What matters is how someone reacts to it, often men will misinterpret you allowing them to pick up the bill as a sure bet they're getting laid and that's an instant turn off for me.
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Yeah, I agree with the last point you made. I don’t want to be in a situation where he thinks because he paid that means I then owe him something in return. |
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It depends. Not that I go on many dates and after my recent dalliance in dating possibly never again.
I don't expect anyone to buy me anything but if I'm asked if someone can take me out for a drink or dinner... then that would imply they are paying.
If we agree to go and meet up socially that's different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I offer to pay because there’s still lots of women that like that tradition
If she offers to split off her own back, or says “I’ll get the next one” then I know she’s a keeper
If not I move them into the “fun only” section |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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I've never split a bill with anyone regardless of how much it was.
I will either pay the full amount or they have done.
Rounds of drinks can be taken in turns.
If someone sits there and tries to work out "their" half of a bill I just feel awkward/embarrassed and will just pay so I can leave quicker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll always offer (drinks; meals aren't a first date IMO). It's nice for the lady to say 'ill get this one' after a couple, though "
Interesting you think meals aren’t part of a first date  ? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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There’s only been one occasion in my life I insisted someone pay half , she was truly horrible and she told me that in her culture that was the single biggest insult a man could do. I said good, that was my intention, get your card out. |
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"My dear fellow in the 3½ years I've been on here only ·3· women have paid for the entire meal / coffee & cake and ·2· have gone 'Dutch'.
Take from that what you will.
I wouldn't pay for no one. "
Which means you'll pay for someone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always insisted on going halves. Even if that means one has done the travel and the other gets lunch/dinner. Or it's straight going halves on food/coffee or a hotel.
If a man insists on paying and refuses to let me go halves I see that as a bit of a red flag and won't be inclined to see him again. I really don't like that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always prefer splitting the bill. It just feels more fair because both parties have agreed to meet up. If a person offers to get me drinks I will still try to pay for anything I have had because that just feels like the right thing to do. |
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"My dear fellow in the 3½ years I've been on here only ·3· women have paid for the entire meal / coffee & cake and ·2· have gone 'Dutch'.
Take from that what you will."
I take from that, you've met 5 women in 3.5 years  |
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"I've always insisted on going halves. Even if that means one has done the travel and the other gets lunch/dinner. Or it's straight going halves on food/coffee or a hotel.
If a man insists on paying and refuses to let me go halves I see that as a bit of a red flag and won't be inclined to see him again. I really don't like that.
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If you insist I'll let you pay... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's nice to see not all women like the man to pay. Personally I wouldn't pay for another woman from fab as its a sex site. But if I was dating I would offer to pay. |
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I’ve never been one for working out who had what. I’d split it but it’s never seemed to happen. Either he pays or I pay. I’d never go anywhere not expecting to pay my way though but I won’t sit there and argue if someone insists. Regular people we tend to take it in turns. We never really split things. |
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"The expectation I'd have is we each pay for what we ate and drank.
But I have no issue paying under certain circumstances and situations, especially if I enjoyed the company."
Would you really go to the lengths of working out each persons bill? Surely 50/50 is an easier option? |
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I’d never expect anyone to pay for me so also wouldn’t go somewhere I couldn’t afford. If we were meeting for drinks I’d usually stay for 2 and we each buy a round (unless of course it’s a truly awful date), but if we were eating then either 50/50 or take it in turns. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Date.. Fab swingers do dates
Sign me up"
Open to interpretation. I don't like the terms socials or meets.
If I've arranged to meet someone on here on a specific date and time, whatever the occasion I call it a date. |
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"My dear fellow in the 3½ years I've been on here only ·3· women have paid for the entire meal / coffee & cake and ·2· have gone 'Dutch'.
Take from that what you will.
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I take from that, you've met 5 women in 3.5 years "
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Correct!
All the others were lådies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My dear fellow in the 3½ years I've been on here only ·3· women have paid for the entire meal / coffee & cake and ·2· have gone 'Dutch'.
Take from that what you will."
I hope I’m included in one of those 3!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haven't done the dating thing in a long time. Socials though yeah just drinks not meals. Its always ended up more than one coffee or drink so if I've bought the first they've bought the second etc. Or vice versa. |
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"My dear fellow in the 3½ years I've been on here only ·3· women have paid for the entire meal / coffee & cake and ·2· have gone 'Dutch'.
Take from that what you will.
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I hope I’m included in one of those 3! "
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You have paid for everything!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No. I've been on quite a few dates, socials, whatever.
I've never been in a position where I haven't got the next meal/paid for the hotel/got the next round. I'm more than happy to go halves.
Actually, that's not quite true. A rather horrified Italian shoo shoos me every time I go to pay or get my card out but he's the only person who has ever paid for a meal/drinks for me and I've not erm... gone halves or paid for other things. |
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I'm old-fashioned on this one.
I always pick up the tab for the first meet / date / social.
I'm not trying to be flash or expect favours in return. (Honest!)
If I'm meeting a single mum, who can only work part-time and has to pay for school blazers etc, then I wouldn't expect them to contribute if I'd asked them out. |
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