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Women, what do you think men want?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are we getting it wrong?
Inspired by the other thread I got to thinking about what men want.
Is it easy for a man to tell us when something could be better or would you see it as rejection?
Are some people almost conditioned to assume that a man should just be glad he's getting sex, even if it's bad sex?
Men, how has it gone when you're with a new partner and you suggest she does something a different way etc?
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I live on that feedback loop. The way I do things varies depending on their reactions.
Not everyone likes the things I particularly enjoy. I've met people who prefer that sterile non drooly kind of blowjob and adhered at the time but not bothered seeing them again as it's a big incompatibility for me.
If someone tells me I'm doing something wrong, I'd be annoyed. If someone guides me to what they like or makes a suggestion of doing something differently, I'm happy to give it a try  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm afraid the answer to that is like trying to nail soup to a wall. Men, women and all those in-between are all human at the end of the day.
What turns on one will disgust another.
The only thing we have is hope that we can find people who share our desires and enjoy their company.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I live on that feedback loop. The way I do things varies depending on their reactions.
Not everyone likes the things I particularly enjoy. I've met people who prefer that sterile non drooly kind of blowjob and adhered at the time but not bothered seeing them again as it's a big incompatibility for me.
If someone tells me I'm doing something wrong, I'd be annoyed. If someone guides me to what they like or makes a suggestion of doing something differently, I'm happy to give it a try "
That feedback loop is sexy. I chase reactions.
I get nervous when they go quiet.
I'd rather that they said I wasn't hitting the spot rather than nothing |
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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago
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You can tell a lot by physical reaction. An example , some men really like their nipples held hard with fingers, even pinched. Wolf being one. He is like putty in my hand if I do it. Others it does nothing for them at all.
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Some of my best encounters have been on the back of unbridled communication in the bedroom; gentle coaxing and the orchestration between us on what we want, need and desire. If either of us are uncomfortable or less amenable to something - either through a vocal or tactile reaction - then we simply tell each other, maintaining reciprocal feedback. It's almost sounds clinical when trying to describe this but in situ it's all natural and instinctive.
I sometimes wonder if there really is such a thing as "bad sex". I think it's more to do with the flawed execution of sex itself. This probably makes no sense whatsoever!  |
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"Some of my best encounters have been on the back of unbridled communication in the bedroom; gentle coaxing and the orchestration between us on what we want, need and desire. If either of us are uncomfortable or less amenable to something - either through a vocal or tactile reaction - then we simply tell each other, maintaining reciprocal feedback. It's almost sounds clinical when trying to describe this but in situ it's all natural and instinctive.
I sometimes wonder if there really is such a thing as "bad sex". I think it's more to do with the flawed execution of sex itself. This probably makes no sense whatsoever! "
This makes no sense whatsoever   |
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Apologies in a silly mood today. Serious hat on.
The feedback loop is indeed where it is at for me. It is the point at which it may dissolve from being reciprocal to a shared experience.
In simplest terms love.
I believe it evolves organically from a mutual desire to explore each other and whilst I am not averse to speaking out. I believe there is a lot to be said for allowing that process to occur. What I think I want, may be based on past experiences. If she is a new partner perhaps what I want with her will be different. I want to experience sex with her - not for her to slot into my preconceived ideas.
I want us to develop our own gallery. |
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"Some of my best encounters have been on the back of unbridled communication in the bedroom; gentle coaxing and the orchestration between us on what we want, need and desire. If either of us are uncomfortable or less amenable to something - either through a vocal or tactile reaction - then we simply tell each other, maintaining reciprocal feedback. It's almost sounds clinical when trying to describe this but in situ it's all natural and instinctive.
I sometimes wonder if there really is such a thing as "bad sex". I think it's more to do with the flawed execution of sex itself. This probably makes no sense whatsoever!
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This makes no sense whatsoever "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find brains fascinating but I am not jumping into any mans brain for this OP because they think for themselves speak for themselves. Have needs
Wants
Desires
Speak now or forever hold your peace  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I like when people, regardless of gender, are able to voice what they want. Even if it takes them a bit of time. I don't assume I know what any person wants until they tell me. Show me. Boring possibly but a heck of a lot easier. |
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"I like when people, regardless of gender, are able to voice what they want. Even if it takes them a bit of time. I don't assume I know what any person wants until they tell me. Show me. Boring possibly but a heck of a lot easier. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They want cheese on tap. Guiness. Their slippers by the fire. A hot bath and a warm wanton woman."
I think you have your cheese and Guinness mixed up but I'll let that slide if you're the wanton woman |
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Is this just about sex, or about what men want more generally?
I mean, sex is probably the easier question. Probably.
What I really want is for our hundredth time together to be as lust-filled and joyful as our first.
(And sometimes for you to bring a friend along. Threesomes are hot.) |
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I want my wife to be as dirty as she possibly can be in the bedroom love her to talk dirty and tell me her fantasys also love if she makes the effort to dress up in stockings ect .. wee uniform every now and then is good as well .. don't think u will get many men disagreeing with what I have said .. x |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"I live on that feedback loop. The way I do things varies depending on their reactions.
Not everyone likes the things I particularly enjoy. I've met people who prefer that sterile non drooly kind of blowjob and adhered at the time but not bothered seeing them again as it's a big incompatibility for me.
If someone tells me I'm doing something wrong, I'd be annoyed. If someone guides me to what they like or makes a suggestion of doing something differently, I'm happy to give it a try
That feedback loop is sexy. I chase reactions.
I get nervous when they go quiet.
I'd rather that they said I wasn't hitting the spot rather than nothing "
Hell yes!! There's nothing like that involuntary moan of pleasure when you hit the right spot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone that will get their tits out, open their legs, flirt with them and do what they want in the bedroom.
It is what is commonly known amongst the men folk of the forums as a "connection"
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"Someone that will get their tits out, open their legs, flirt with them and do what they want in the bedroom.
It is what is commonly known amongst the men folk of the forums as a "connection"
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How very dare you pigeon hole my brethren with this slander.....albeit very much close to reality.... 
As I said earlier
" Hair stroke & a back rub/tickle and you have a VERY happy JizzyMonkey"
So not all of us are that narrow minded  |
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No problem for me to tell someone if I like or don't like something. Communication is the key to well, everything and if they can't handle that then we wouldn't be compatible anyways. I would hope I get the same sort of honesty back as I would want to be the best I possibly can be for them. |
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"Is this just about sex, or about what men want more generally?
I mean, sex is probably the easier question. Probably.
What I really want is for our hundredth time together to be as lust-filled and joyful as our first.
(And sometimes for you to bring a friend along. Threesomes are hot.)"
What if the friend is male |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of the time we just want to feel appreciated for who we are."
If men behave like civilised human beings and read profiles. Be respectful. Not expect a fuck because its a sex site. Im sure you will be appreciated |
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"Most of the time we just want to feel appreciated for who we are.
If men behave like civilised human beings and read profiles. Be respectful. Not expect a fuck because its a sex site. Im sure you will be appreciated "
There's the odd one of us that do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of the time we just want to feel appreciated for who we are.
If men behave like civilised human beings and read profiles. Be respectful. Not expect a fuck because its a sex site. Im sure you will be appreciated
There's the odd one of us that do "
Well im very pleased to hear that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happiness is the moment before you need more.
Give him everything he wants and he'll want more, something else, another level, it's endless. Like all hits, the chase for the next one is the thrill and the dopamine hit will ignite a need for more, something else.
Not just men though. Just humans in general. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give him everything he wants and he'll want more, something else, another level, it's endless. Like all hits, the chase for the next one is the thrill and the dopamine hit will ignite a need for more, something else.
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Poignant post
I do believe most relationships follow this path bar the soulmate ones. We believe in soulmates right?! **deafening silence **  |
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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago
Various |
Looking back over life, my attempts to understand most people have proven futile.
In the end, you have to concede you're not welcome to join the fun and that you should concentrate on books and jaffa cakes.
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To feel loved, desired, and appreciated are the main ones, but laughter, affection, conversation, and mutual respect are vital.
Occasional treats like her wearing lingerie, or the thrill of a meet (MMF OR CPL) are cherries on the cake...
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By *heelerMan
over a year ago
Northants |
"I live on that feedback loop. The way I do things varies depending on their reactions.
Not everyone likes the things I particularly enjoy. I've met people who prefer that sterile non drooly kind of blowjob and adhered at the time but not bothered seeing them again as it's a big incompatibility for me.
If someone tells me I'm doing something wrong, I'd be annoyed. If someone guides me to what they like or makes a suggestion of doing something differently, I'm happy to give it a try "
I'll be a guinea pig for you. |
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"Are we getting it wrong?
Inspired by the other thread I got to thinking about what men want.
Is it easy for a man to tell us when something could be better or would you see it as rejection?
Are some people almost conditioned to assume that a man should just be glad he's getting sex, even if it's bad sex?
Men, how has it gone when you're with a new partner and you suggest she does something a different way etc?
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communication is key I like a bit of a chat understanding before getting down to it so understanding mind helps better understand the body |
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Depend on how tactfully you say it I suppose but I wouldn’t be one to just take shot sex and keep my mouth shut it works two ways if I get no input or work getting out in then I won’t put in the fort them pleasure should be mutual most of the time |
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"A lady who knows where she want's to eat :3
Anywhere is fine. What do you fancy? Touche! haha I'm thinking Italian more garlic the better
Oh no I don’t fancy Italian tonight "
haha 20 nuggets n a park bench it is then..gotta keep it romantic  |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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Men want sex.
In the past, they have to gain women's companionship to get sex.
These days with internet hook ups, they get their "bodily fluid discharge" sex and then go to the pub with their mates for the companionship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Getting fed up of slurping my nob and caressing my balls but want the satisfaction of my heavy load running down your chin… just stick a wet finger up my ass already "
Brace yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Getting fed up of slurping my nob and caressing my balls but want the satisfaction of my heavy load running down your chin… just stick a wet finger up my ass already "
Nice and classy. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want fit birds to sit on my D.
They probably would if they had a fit body to sit on lol
Pretty unnecessary comment don’t you think? "
Which one?. Its ok for him to say he only wants fit body's but not ok for me to comment. Rather sexist dnt you think and an unnecessary comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want fit birds to sit on my D.
They probably would if they had a fit body to sit on lol
Pretty unnecessary comment don’t you think?
Which one?. Its ok for him to say he only wants fit body's but not ok for me to comment. Rather sexist dnt you think and an unnecessary comment "
Meant you said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want fit birds to sit on my D.
They probably would if they had a fit body to sit on lol
Pretty unnecessary comment don’t you think?
Which one?. It’s ok for him to say he only wants fit body's but not ok for me to comment. Rather sexist dnt you think and an unnecessary comment "
You don’t know me, or my general stupid behaviour in the forums. Pretty much everything i post on here needs to be taken with a massive bucket full of salt. |
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"Are we getting it wrong?
Inspired by the other thread I got to thinking about what men want.
Is it easy for a man to tell us when something could be better or would you see it as rejection?
Are some people almost conditioned to assume that a man should just be glad he's getting sex, even if it's bad sex?
Men, how has it gone when you're with a new partner and you suggest she does something a different way etc?
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For me I want someone that I can cuddle up with on the sofa watching TV or a good movie yes sex but mostly company and I prefer if the woman tells me what she wants as I hate being a mind reader |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want fit birds to sit on my D.
They probably would if they had a fit body to sit on lol
Pretty unnecessary comment don’t you think?
Which one?. It’s ok for him to say he only wants fit body's but not ok for me to comment. Rather sexist dnt you think and an unnecessary comment
You don’t know me, or my general stupid behaviour in the forums. Pretty much everything i post on here needs to be taken with a massive bucket full of salt. "
No I dnt like I dnt know thousands on this site so what's your point. I'm sorry I dnt know your banter your sense of humour but neither do I know anyones else's. I never said you so maybe if the cap fits you know what they say. I said something in general there was no name . No reference to you. So not sure why you getting shirty lol |
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By *ags73Man
over a year ago
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"I totally wing it and hope for the best but the silence here is telling.
Men tell us..
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I think I wing it too. Usually there’s a bit of fun in trial and error and exploring with a new person, I guess my own thoughts are that I’m usually grateful for the opportunity and I try to do my best.
I guess I’m not so good at hearing praise so sometimes I’ll get feedback and think that was kind, but sort of not of believe it. maybe comes from being a sort of serial monogamist rather than a ‘shagger’ back in my 20s.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know exactly what they want:
A chef in the kitchen,
A lady in the dining room,
A slut in the bedroom…….
And not too long in the bathroom.
And to leave the car parked in Neutral "
And not kerb the alloys |
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