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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago
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Interesting views in the affairs thread. The comments I found most interesting were the ones who were now happily in relationships DUE to having had an affair in the first place.
Which got me thinking.
If your parents had you as a result of cheating, would you still have the same view on affairs as you do? If your best mate who was really unhappy but found a new partner and was over the moon due to an affair - would you still hate them?
Just you know. Inception next level thoughts here. |
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I'd not hate my best friend even if I didn't agree with something she'd done eg an affair.
My parents well it wouldn't suprise me.
As for cheating I'm not proud I've done it in the past and I've had it done to me many a time, I'd never put anyone through that there's always other options than to cause hurt.
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I'd never hate someone for their actions if it had no bearing on me.
Laying all my cards on the table, I cheated years and years ago - I was being manipulated by the person I was cheating with (he went on to abuse me, so I got my comeuppance if you believe in that sort of thing) and I was also suicidal and on a carousel of different medication....not an excuse but it was my reason, and I'd never do it again. |
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I am genetically my father's, but my early childhood would have been better without having to witness how miserable they made each other.
If my friends start cheating, I step away from it and them. I value honesty and openness in my friends as well as my partners, and don't want to spend my time with someone who lies to the person who is supposed to be important to and loved by them. If they can't afford their spouse the chance to make informed decisions, how can I expect better from them as a friend? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not the cheating I don't like, I mean it happens, a lot. It's the way some people, fuck it, men, it's the way some MEN go about it.
It's not my fault it's my wife's fault, I'm entitled to sex blah blah blah. You've clearly got a dick now have some balls and fucking own what you're doing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the result of a one night stand, my mother didn't even know my father's name. I found him through dna last year.
Does it put me off hookups? Nope! 
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I've seen all kinds of dynamics and know people whom have had affairs and reconciled and lived happily ever after - because it really is that simple.
I am not about judging others: I take people as I find them and how they treat me.
I have my boundary. If you hide something that would affect my decision to stay in the relationship then you run the risk of losing my trust. And I would absolutely expect the same. |
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Nope. I've distanced myself from a friend before for serial cheating. Not on his partner but as a single guy he would shamelessly hook up with women he knew were attached. Yes he was happy but it wasn't something I wanted to be around, worst case I'd get dragged into it by questioning or something. His defence was always "it takes two to tango", which may as well have been utter gibberish 
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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To be honest it would change my view of my friend , especially if she tried to involve me with any form of deception.
I wouldn't hate her ,but I'd probably distance myself from it all,as I've known her partner for absolutely years too.
There weren't any experience of f affairs when I was growing up,my dislike of cheats comes from a man I met (not on here ) who claimed to be single ,but wasn't. I got a call from his angry partner one day after I'd been seeing him a while & it took me a good while to persuade her I didn't have a clue she existed .
She was devastated & I never want anyone else to feel that way because I've hooked up with their partner ,knowingly or otherwise. |
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