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Have you lost your mojo?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lost the want to actually like someone a long time ago.
Now I just go through the motions and stick to meaningless sex. It's easier.
Plus I've lost my wand so I kinda want sex more than ever. |
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Mine went for a good while earlier this year and it really wound me up. Couldn't figure out why or what I could do to get it back. And now, all on it's own, it seems to be making it's way back. I think it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you know why yours has gone though, maybe you can help bring it back 
LvM |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I left it in the forum somewhere blimey place is like a maze hope you enjoy the humour If someone finds it a fry up and a brew is the reward have a great Sunday peeps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine went for a good while earlier this year and it really wound me up. Couldn't figure out why or what I could do to get it back. And now, all on it's own, it seems to be making it's way back. I think it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you know why yours has gone though, maybe you can help bring it back
LvM"
Mines a feeling of being defeated, that what I aim for will not happen. What I go for will end up being the opposite.
For weeks I have tried to tackle the same thing to no avail. I feel like I've used lots of headspace on it and actively tried to clear the way for it. But I'm still at square one.
And then there's the feeling that despite what I was giving, what I wasn't giving meant losing all what was there in more than one case. For reasons I think were not justified in some cases and me sticking to boundaries.
The only way to change it is to get a good result somewhere but I'm fucked if I can find where the easiest or most likely one is to be achieved. |
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My mojo is very much where it should be at the moment but yes I do lose it at times. Usually more to do with other things in life getting on top of me but sometimes it can be when no one is really sparking my interest. It isn’t usually lost for long thankfully.
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"No. Disinterest in new partners is mine, I guess like a known sofa I'm comfortable with what I have
Did they cum from DFS
No but I often find a quid down the back"
Is your disinterest next to the quid, have a feel whilst your down there |
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"Mine went for a good while earlier this year and it really wound me up. Couldn't figure out why or what I could do to get it back. And now, all on it's own, it seems to be making it's way back. I think it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you know why yours has gone though, maybe you can help bring it back
LvM
Mines a feeling of being defeated, that what I aim for will not happen. What I go for will end up being the opposite.
For weeks I have tried to tackle the same thing to no avail. I feel like I've used lots of headspace on it and actively tried to clear the way for it. But I'm still at square one.
And then there's the feeling that despite what I was giving, what I wasn't giving meant losing all what was there in more than one case. For reasons I think were not justified in some cases and me sticking to boundaries.
The only way to change it is to get a good result somewhere but I'm fucked if I can find where the easiest or most likely one is to be achieved."
That does sound horrible, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling all this. Hopefully a bit of time will help with what's been troubling you, and maybe doing some things just for yourself in the meantime 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have, would rather watch tv than have sex, been a good few months and i dont miss it one bit, i chat to guys hoping maybe it will make me feel like wanting sex but nope nothing, think it's just my age |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine went for a good while earlier this year and it really wound me up. Couldn't figure out why or what I could do to get it back. And now, all on it's own, it seems to be making it's way back. I think it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you know why yours has gone though, maybe you can help bring it back
LvM
Mines a feeling of being defeated, that what I aim for will not happen. What I go for will end up being the opposite.
For weeks I have tried to tackle the same thing to no avail. I feel like I've used lots of headspace on it and actively tried to clear the way for it. But I'm still at square one.
And then there's the feeling that despite what I was giving, what I wasn't giving meant losing all what was there in more than one case. For reasons I think were not justified in some cases and me sticking to boundaries.
The only way to change it is to get a good result somewhere but I'm fucked if I can find where the easiest or most likely one is to be achieved.
That does sound horrible, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling all this. Hopefully a bit of time will help with what's been troubling you, and maybe doing some things just for yourself in the meantime
LvM"
I'm fine. Just a bit meh at everything  |
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"Mine went for a good while earlier this year and it really wound me up. Couldn't figure out why or what I could do to get it back. And now, all on it's own, it seems to be making it's way back. I think it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you know why yours has gone though, maybe you can help bring it back
LvM
Mines a feeling of being defeated, that what I aim for will not happen. What I go for will end up being the opposite.
For weeks I have tried to tackle the same thing to no avail. I feel like I've used lots of headspace on it and actively tried to clear the way for it. But I'm still at square one.
And then there's the feeling that despite what I was giving, what I wasn't giving meant losing all what was there in more than one case. For reasons I think were not justified in some cases and me sticking to boundaries.
The only way to change it is to get a good result somewhere but I'm fucked if I can find where the easiest or most likely one is to be achieved."
I know that feeling as my mojo was effectively taken! nothing I did could get it back and believe me I tried, but blocked at every attempt.
Now I've got to get a new one, the trick is start small and work up.... Little successes that you build up to bigger ones, that way your mojo starts to grow. Then slowly the thief will lose your mojo and you'll have a new one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely lost mine ATM. If only I could have lost my horn at the same time. I am wanting the sex but feel very lack lustre in my approach to getting any. I'm on a promise today so hopefully that will kick start the mo and the Jo will follow ;-p |
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"And then there's the feeling that despite what I was giving, what I wasn't giving meant losing all what was there in more than one case. For reasons I think were not justified in some cases and me sticking to boundaries.
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I did wonder whether to DM but as you posted in the forum I'll reply here.
The bit that you weren't giving. I think it very much depends on whether you weren't giving it because you didn't feel it. Or because you were determined to stick to your boundaries out of stubbornness. Only you know which, but in the first case you could be feeling guilty that you weren't able to reciprocate. And the second is even messier. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven’t lost my mojo. But I have gained an edge to me."
Oh, I like your 7th Oct 'toilet challenge photo. I think the Forum should run one. I may add to my photos later today for the shere fun of it - all in the best possible taste. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I did lose it. Thought I was very unfuckable and not the sort of woman a person would choose to spend time with, in any capacity. Unattractive. A lot of the un words. I know why it happened, I won't be going in to it. I know, such an enigma.
I've been rediscovering it lately. And myself. My confidence. The joy of not overthinking. The happier I am, the more my libido seems to roar into life. I'm very happy it's back. Very happy indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have, would rather watch tv than have sex, been a good few months and i dont miss it one bit, i chat to guys hoping maybe it will make me feel like wanting sex but nope nothing, think it's just my age "
You're only 46 ffs. That's no age at all. I think that is roughly the age I started playing! However, I can sympathise with you re the tele, I have been known to ignore a partner naked in front of me when there is an England footie game on the TV (er, that did not go well!)  |
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By *ingpot!Man
over a year ago
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"Mine went for a good while earlier this year and it really wound me up. Couldn't figure out why or what I could do to get it back. And now, all on it's own, it seems to be making it's way back. I think it just comes and goes as it pleases. If you know why yours has gone though, maybe you can help bring it back
LvM"
"I think it just comes and goes as it pleases."
So much this! It can be infuriating and cyclically self-defeating in my experience - worrying about it certainly makes it worse  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have, would rather watch tv than have sex, been a good few months and i dont miss it one bit, i chat to guys hoping maybe it will make me feel like wanting sex but nope nothing, think it's just my age
You're only 46 ffs. That's no age at all. I think that is roughly the age I started playing! However, I can sympathise with you re the tele, I have been known to ignore a partner naked in front of me when there is an England footie game on the TV (er, that did not go well!) "
Oh I've had that done to me, no that's not a good move.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine has took a bit of a bashing these last few weeks but that’s down to how I’ve been treated.
I have lots to look forward too so it’s starting to simmer away nicely once again "
Surely that's just the anti climax of returning from your Croatian hols (still jealous here), and you have your next one coming up.
I will meet you in Peru if you like, can show you the sights of Machu Pichu and explore the Nazca Lines  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
In the past, it's gone on holiday usually as a consequence of life's stresses. Fortunately it bounces back quickly, just like its owner
Very much tied to our emotional headspace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have, would rather watch tv than have sex, been a good few months and i dont miss it one bit, i chat to guys hoping maybe it will make me feel like wanting sex but nope nothing, think it's just my age
You're only 46 ffs. That's no age at all. I think that is roughly the age I started playing! However, I can sympathise with you re the tele, I have been known to ignore a partner naked in front of me when there is an England footie game on the TV (er, that did not go well!)
Oh I've had that done to me, no that's not a good move.
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Yep. It was when I was in my 20s and I've not done it again (though I don't think the opportunity has arisen again - besides England' male team [both in footie and rugby] never live up to expectation and always disappoint). |
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I lost mine for a couple of years so made some small changes to my lifestyle. I improved my diet, cut back on the alcohol, changed how I exercised, removed a lot of the stresses in my work life and made sure I get plenty of sleep. It has made a big difference. Hence why I’m back here. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why?"
It's not seeing my pictures isn't it?! I knew it! |
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My majo disappeared completely for a while due to some health issues. Since then it's been very up and down. I have met a couple of women (not from here) and things have gotten sexual but I've had to feel very comfortable with the person even for casual. I've also met a couple of ladies (including from Fab) when my mojo wasn't great and I wasn't at my best so things didn't go further. It's frustrating not knowing if it's going to desert me. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"I lost the want to actually like someone a long time ago.
Now I just go through the motions and stick to meaningless sex. It's easier.
Plus I've lost my wand so I kinda want sex more than ever."
No one offer to buy her another wand! |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
Lives in Preston, Eng |
"I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why?"
My mojo is very much around. But my and my mojo's priorities and goals are changing. Not currently in alignment with each other but it is fun though occasionally frustrating trying to line them up.
I hope you are doing ok OP. We all need a break sometimes maybe even our mojo's need to take time off to recharge. X |
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"I lost mine for a couple of years so made some small changes to my lifestyle. I improved my diet, cut back on the alcohol, changed how I exercised, removed a lot of the stresses in my work life and made sure I get plenty of sleep. It has made a big difference. Hence why I’m back here. "
Sounds like solid advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why?"
SAD always affected mine.
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By *boroM2Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
With most people as they age a little their testosterone levels lower so this is your mojo on the decrease, have it measured by blood tests, if it is low enough you can have 3 monthly injections, that what I am doing, it helps, slightly.  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"keep it on the thread please.
FFS I'm going to have to put a sentence about this on any thread I make.
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Make sure it's in block capital letters 
Op, you'll have to accept that these thought provoking threads as considered by many as an "angle" to DM. It's not proper etiquette, true, but when has that ever stopped people here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With most people as they age a little their testosterone levels lower so this is your mojo on the decrease, have it measured by blood tests, if it is low enough you can have 3 monthly injections, that what I am doing, it helps, slightly. "
Do you do any kind of strength training?
That can have beneficial effects on T levels |
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By *boroM2Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"With most people as they age a little their testosterone levels lower so this is your mojo on the decrease, have it measured by blood tests, if it is low enough you can have 3 monthly injections, that what I am doing, it helps, slightly.
Do you do any kind of strength training?
That can have beneficial effects on T levels "
Im too old and knackered for that , although work as online driver for supermarket which is v strenuous |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"keep it on the thread please.
FFS I'm going to have to put a sentence about this on any thread I make.
Make sure it's in block capital letters
Op, you'll have to accept that these thought provoking threads as considered by many as an "angle" to DM. It's not proper etiquette, true, but when has that ever stopped people here?"
It's always lurkers. Always people that aren't even on the thread.
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It's crazy isn't it how one's mojo flitters and absconds? My mojo tends to wax and wane like the crescent moon. I need to feel desired otherwise it just simmers in the background waiting to be reignited by someone who carries a spark of intent.
Sometimes I go looking for that "spark" hoping to reclaim my lost mojo...and it's something I've started doing over the weekend... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's crazy isn't it how one's mojo flitters and absconds? My mojo tends to wax and wane like the crescent moon. I need to feel desired otherwise it just simmers in the background waiting to be reignited by someone who carries a spark of intent.
Sometimes I go looking for that "spark" hoping to reclaim my lost mojo...and it's something I've started doing over the weekend..."
I can have lots of mojo in the summer without anyone desiring me, or just because life is good and I'm positive. But the energy in me from my mojo also helps with the positivity in life and achieving so it's like a full moon.
I wonder if someone desiring me would be enough to put it back. I could try that but it would feel like I'm forcing myself. |
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I lost mine around Christmas time. I was so ill for weeks. Then real life stuff has made me sad and tired. I'm slowly getting some energy back, but the mojo is stubbornly hiding. It's frustrating, but I can but hope it will return soon. I know my husband is looking forward to it's return. |
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"It's crazy isn't it how one's mojo flitters and absconds? My mojo tends to wax and wane like the crescent moon. I need to feel desired otherwise it just simmers in the background waiting to be reignited by someone who carries a spark of intent.
Sometimes I go looking for that "spark" hoping to reclaim my lost mojo...and it's something I've started doing over the weekend...
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I can have lots of mojo in the summer without anyone desiring me, or just because life is good and I'm positive. But the energy in me from my mojo also helps with the positivity in life and achieving so it's like a full moon.
I wonder if someone desiring me would be enough to put it back. I could try that but it would feel like I'm forcing myself."
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I think being desired does play a part to an extent. Sometimes that "extent" is enough to rekindle the embers of a dormant mojo. I wouldn't think of it as "forcing" yourself; more like a gentle nudge and persuasion to coax that mojo back into action. Granted, it can feel contrived though, but that view is open to interpretation. |
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"I lost mine around Christmas time. I was so ill for weeks. Then real life stuff has made me sad and tired. I'm slowly getting some energy back, but the mojo is stubbornly hiding. It's frustrating, but I can but hope it will return soon. I know my husband is looking forward to it's return."
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Are you feeling better now, Dee?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine walked off at the end of a recent relationship.
I’m pushing positivity and can feel myself improving everyday.
Still a little way to go but I’m smiling again. |
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"It's crazy isn't it how one's mojo flitters and absconds? My mojo tends to wax and wane like the crescent moon. I need to feel desired otherwise it just simmers in the background waiting to be reignited by someone who carries a spark of intent.
Sometimes I go looking for that "spark" hoping to reclaim my lost mojo...and it's something I've started doing over the weekend...
I can have lots of mojo in the summer without anyone desiring me, or just because life is good and I'm positive. But the energy in me from my mojo also helps with the positivity in life and achieving so it's like a full moon.
I wonder if someone desiring me would be enough to put it back. I could try that but it would feel like I'm forcing myself."
You have lots of people desiring you PW, don't think you haven't, some of us are just a smidge too young to contact you
I hope you find it again, my life's far too busy to even think about mojo, when it happens, it happens and I'm cool with that |
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Perhaps, I don't know. I do know that it seems like it depends too much on the 'feeling desired' bit at the moment - which is not good! I need to get better at not internalising the 'un words' as Meli put it. Not only for myself, but for others too - I feel like I'm a better person when I don't feel like I'm placing a burden on others. When I can focus on them and make them smile instead of being an uncheerful sod.
I do have a proper long holiday coming up though, so I'll be taking a break from these thoughts and hopefully that's enough to recharge my batteries. It's going to be a 'New Year, New Me'! |
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By *oopy Lou 666Woman
over a year ago
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Wow reading this post you would never believe so many peoples mojos have gone
Being new to site to me it seems like everybody and everyone is at it all the time……. how wrong was I …… I now see the desperation in messages I get to get a shag of some kind
There’s a Mo for everyJo out there let’s hope they meet and put our mojos back together
Mine considering my age is brill at the moment xx |
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Yep, pretty much. It pops back occasionally, but I've sort of got used to life without it. Not sure if I miss it or not, tbh.
(I assume we're just talking sexy mojo on this here sex site. Because life is good otherwise, which is maybe why I'm not that bothered by its disappearance!?!) |
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By *oopy Lou 666Woman
over a year ago
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"I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why?"
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"I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why?"
I have. And quite recently. I know why and I've learned to be gentle with myself. My mojo can be quite the distraction sometimes so I've used that time to explore myself in other ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mines flown away too, it’s work, too much of it, too many almost obtainable key performance indicators therefore narrowly missing out on quarterly bonuses, twats the lot of them |
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Maybe I had Mojo once but kids, work, chores and responsibilities that I never asked for have me on the ropes. The worst part is feeling that stuff we could be doing that would bring the mojo back with a vengeance are just out of reach and we’ll regret not making the most of it when we still could.
sorry! Maybe I should just go to bed! |
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"I seem to have. I think I know why. I think some would assume they know why I've lost mine but they would probably be wrong.
Im sure it'll come back eventually.
Have you lost yours and do you know why?"
Yes mine has done a runner.. I know exactly why..and I know that it will come back ... |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
I had, between exhaustion and a looming surgery that had me scared and worried.
But now I am back to normal, still tired from work, but gradually getting my mojo back. 
Knowing that I am restored back to full health has been an enormous boost and it has helpex with the old mojo. |
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