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So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead! |
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Sounds a little sensitive to me. People don't have to sleep with anyone they don't want to, that's a preference, trying to weaponise people's preferences isn't a good look.
I understand filters will get in the way a lot but there's always in person social events or p club nights 
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It’s hard to tell tbh with these things. I think ultimately if someone gives you a reason that is ageist, then you’ll know. But if not then don’t do the guessing, it’ll drive you crazy. |
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over a year ago
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!"
Seriously? I wish I was 53! |
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It depends what you're looking for OP. Most people around your own age will have filters around the same. If you're looking for people young enough to be your kids then it's no great surprise that you're filtered out.
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I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old. |
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People are allowed preferences it's not ageism, I don't want to fuck someone who could be my granny, am I ageist no!!
People always moan about others preferences, I'm pretty sure there's plenty of people looking to meet your age, if they aren't they are not for you.
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I get more attention at 50 than I ever did at 40. Maybe it’s not your age, perhaps look at your profile see if it needs a refresh? People have their own preferences of course, but I don’t think she is a big one. |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Seriously? I wish I was 53!"
I’m 53 in a couple weeks  |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Seriously? I wish I was 53!
I’m 53 in a couple weeks "
And looking good  from a fellow over 50  |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Seriously? I wish I was 53!
I’m 53 in a couple weeks
And looking good from a fellow over 50 "
Thanks. I probably feel better in myself than I ever have to be honest. And being 53 is better than the alternative!  |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Seriously? I wish I was 53!
I’m 53 in a couple weeks
And looking good from a fellow over 50
Thanks. I probably feel better in myself than I ever have to be honest. And being 53 is better than the alternative! "
Agreed. Feel OK myself. Got that lived in look, by now give less thought to what people think |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Seriously? I wish I was 53!
I’m 53 in a couple weeks
And looking good from a fellow over 50
Thanks. I probably feel better in myself than I ever have to be honest. And being 53 is better than the alternative!
Agreed. Feel OK myself. Got that lived in look, by now give less thought to what people think "
I think you do when you get older. This is me. Like it or lump it attitude! |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Seriously? I wish I was 53!
I’m 53 in a couple weeks
And looking good from a fellow over 50
Thanks. I probably feel better in myself than I ever have to be honest. And being 53 is better than the alternative!
Agreed. Feel OK myself. Got that lived in look, by now give less thought to what people think
I think you do when you get older. This is me. Like it or lump it attitude!"
Yep. Like me or not, it's not gonna break me |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old. "
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist. |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist. "
That's fine. More for me  |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
That's fine. More for me "
Fife, I love women over 50! So you have some competition at least  |
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You will probably have a chance at 53. 55 seems to be a cut off point for most of the profiles I see. And even if there’s no age range you can tell preferences from friends lists and verifications. |
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Sorry I just saw the thread title and the opening from teletubbies popped in to my head!
"Over the hill and far away, Teletubbies come to play"
As you were... |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
That's fine. More for me
Fife, I love women over 50! So you have some competition at least "
Steady son, us old uns know how too woo better |
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For what it’s worth our age range is 25-50 but it’s not exclusive. We don’t block messages from older or younger. Connection is far more important. We have played with guys in the 60’s! We are far more likely to engage with an older guy/couple than we are with a younger one. Experience comes with age |
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"People like what they like.
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I have no issues with this stance and I’m picky myself it’s just when preferences seem a bit loaded and there’s more behind it. I’m clearly too old for a lot of people and there’s people too young for me but I don’t judge people on their age. Maybe they’re sexual,prowess but not age. I don’t mind people not being interested because of my age. I’m just proposing the question. Is there ageism driving some people’s preference, are there people who think older people shouldn’t be here? That is all |
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"People like what they like.
I have no issues with this stance and I’m picky myself it’s just when preferences seem a bit loaded and there’s more behind it. I’m clearly too old for a lot of people and there’s people too young for me but I don’t judge people on their age. Maybe they’re sexual,prowess but not age. I don’t mind people not being interested because of my age. I’m just proposing the question. Is there ageism driving some people’s preference, are there people who think older people shouldn’t be here? That is all"
You're only 53 bud. I still get meets, and I look like a bulldog chewing a wasp 
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist. "
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist?? |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
That's fine. More for me
Fife, I love women over 50! So you have some competition at least
Steady son, us old uns know how too woo better "
True my generation only know how to send dick pics I fear |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist??"
I don't want to meet people at 28, my oldest daughters age. I'd chat at a social, but it just feels a bit 'eww' to me. Each to their own |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist??"
No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working. |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist??
No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working. "
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist??
No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working.
Sanatogen and cod liver oil "
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"All together now, "They say I might as well face the truth..."
You'll still be with plenty of people's age brackets, OP. I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about those where you're not."
ah, not worried, just opening the question. I guess because I see fab as a social place, not just a sex site, I don’t understand why people block people of a certain age (not saying that they shouldn’t be allowed to block) just wondering if it has its roots in ageism. |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist??
No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working. "
Hahaha. My hips are fine. My left knee is a bit dodge though |
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"I really don’t get (as with a lot of isms) how someone can be accused of ageism if they don’t want to fuck someone old! Or young. It’s ridiculous! Not employing someone because of their age then yes I get it. I’ll take the ageist label if that’s what the majority think because I won’t meet young or old.
I think it’s about reasoning like I said. If someone said, I won’t fuck women over 50 because they’re all (insert ageist comment) then that preference is ageist. Still their preference ofc but ageist.
So. I won’t fuck men over 73 because they’re older than my dad. I won’t fuck people under 27 because they’re younger than my child. That’s ageist??
No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working.
Sanatogen and cod liver oil
Will it make me smart? "
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- and while we’re at it, so what if someone is ageist, racist or transphobic. So what? What’s going to happen to all these ‘ist’s and ‘bic’s?? Who’s going to ‘sort’ them all out? |
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Surely people tend to stick to those roughly their own age. I know I do. *shrugs*"
Very much this.
Even though it's harder to find other couples who have looked after their bodies at our age. |
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No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working. "
To be fair I can't run because it makes my hips hurt! Dammit. I've caught the 50s |
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"All together now, "They say I might as well face the truth..."
You'll still be with plenty of people's age brackets, OP. I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about those where you're not. ah, not worried, just opening the question. I guess because I see fab as a social place, not just a sex site, I don’t understand why people block people of a certain age (not saying that they shouldn’t be allowed to block) just wondering if it has its roots in ageism. "
We chat with people of all ages here on the forums and at organised socials. That's the social place. We also have some friends that we chat to in messages. But our profile shows what we're looking for.
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No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working.
To be fair I can't run because it makes my hips hurt! Dammit. I've caught the 50s "
We could play tig |
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"I think it’s the ‘nearly dead’ woe is me vibe that may, just may, be the issue if there is one "
nearly dead was a joke. Honestly people are so easily upset here. I’m only putting forward a question. Believe me there is no woe is me at all and I haven’t attacked anyone but fk me, am I getting it in the neck. |
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"I think it’s the ‘nearly dead’ woe is me vibe that may, just may, be the issue if there is one nearly dead was a joke. Honestly people are so easily upset here. I’m only putting forward a question. Believe me there is no woe is me at all and I haven’t attacked anyone but fk me, am I getting it in the neck. "
Your opening post does look like a whinge though. |
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"- and while we’re at it, so what if someone is ageist, racist or transphobic. So what? What’s going to happen to all these ‘ist’s and ‘bic’s?? Who’s going to ‘sort’ them all out?"
I’ll do a separate thread on that later x |
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No . Ageist reasons are more, I won’t fuck anyone that’s under 30 because they’re all stupid or anyone over 50 because none or their hips are working.
To be fair I can't run because it makes my hips hurt! Dammit. I've caught the 50s "
I always found you attractive but knew you’d have dodgy hips the moment I saw your age |
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Most men on here, once they are approaching the big 50, tend to change their age back to 48 so maybe try that
But tbh age is just a number..
I've got 5 yrs on you and I don't feel cancelled but maybe it's different for women  |
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Ffs people chiiiillll? Haha! I’m only putting forward a theory, asking a question. I haven’t accused anyone of anything. I’ve said I’ve noticed racism, trans/homophobia and do people think ageism exists too. Please don’t be disingenuous and angry with your replies or I will be inclined to think I’ve found some truth in my theory. Sites like this are probably somewhere where ageism is justified but aggressive, I’ll considered retorts are just meh. I’m not desperate or missing out on anything, far, far from it. Chill your bones peeps, let’s have a rational discussion, if that’s at all possible here |
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life. "
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"Most men on here, once they are approaching the big 50, tend to change their age back to 48 so maybe try that
But tbh age is just a number..
I've got 5 yrs on you and I don't feel cancelled but maybe it's different for women "
I think it probably is. There’s not many men I can’t message because of their filters but I can’t seem to message many women. Although I can’t really talk as I think my age range stops at 50 |
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life.
^ has serious zaddy issues"
Fair. Zero point denying that. Although I'm working through them and discovering the joy of late thirties/early forties people so soon it will be minor zaddy issues. |
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"Most men on here, once they are approaching the big 50, tend to change their age back to 48 so maybe try that
But tbh age is just a number..
I've got 5 yrs on you and I don't feel cancelled but maybe it's different for women "
never!!! I’m a silver fox (sometimes vixen)
I think guys clearly struggle more in all scenarios here, maybe age too. I’m not complaining, I’ve just noticed that more profiles are not open to me now I’m in my niftiest that’s all |
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life.
^ has serious zaddy issues
Fair. Zero point denying that. Although I'm working through them and discovering the joy of late thirties/early forties people so soon it will be minor zaddy issues."
I hope I never work through my mummy or daddy issues because the older women be …  nvm |
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You're not even old.
But people are welcome to have their preferences. As long as they're not a dick about it  "
great reply. I’m certainly not old and at 53 still a good, highly skilled pole dancer. Thank you for your measured response x |
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life. "
what a disappointment I’d be to a gold digger, I have enough kids and grandkids to not want daddy issues. Im not sad because I ain’t getting any. Bloody hell, my dressing room door has to be manned after shows to stop people wanting a private show. Im just wondering IF there is ageism |
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"Your confusing ageism with preferences - we’ll all have them, I don’t like tomatoes but it doesn’t make me a fruitist "
I’m not confusing anything, I’m quite astute. I’m asking the question, is it just preference or is there some truth in ageism being a driving factor. I don’t get confused by much, apart from a clear post being taken out of context. Though I should expect that on fab
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over a year ago
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"Ffs people chiiiillll? Haha! I’m only putting forward a theory, asking a question. I haven’t accused anyone of anything. I’ve said I’ve noticed racism, trans/homophobia and do people think ageism exists too. Please don’t be disingenuous and angry with your replies or I will be inclined to think I’ve found some truth in my theory. Sites like this are probably somewhere where ageism is justified but aggressive, I’ll considered retorts are just meh. I’m not desperate or missing out on anything, far, far from it. Chill your bones peeps, let’s have a rational discussion, if that’s at all possible here"
Of course ageism exists!
Do I want to play with anyone ageist? No
Any more than I want to play with a racist or any trans/ homophobic.
I prefer being older, I am more confident and self-assured, fitter physically and generally enjoying my mostly stress-free life.
I see my age as just another useful filter |
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"Your confusing ageism with preferences - we’ll all have them, I don’t like tomatoes but it doesn’t make me a fruitist I’m not confusing anything, I’m quite astute. I’m asking the question, is it just preference or is there some truth in ageism being a driving factor. I don’t get confused by much, apart from a clear post being taken out of context. Though I should expect that on fab"
You asked is there ageism, and i merely offered a reply/opinion - not sure how you think that’s been taken out of context 
Just to add some context to my answer; my hubby is the same age as you and has no problem meeting people.
Maybe stop worrying about profiles that aren’t looking for people in your age group
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"I get more attention at 50 than I ever did at 40. Maybe it’s not your age, perhaps look at your profile see if it needs a refresh? People have their own preferences of course, but I don’t think she is a big one. "
I’m not struggling with meets, even though it’s rare from here. My profile is perfect for what I’m looking for, I’m not sad or lonely, I’m a drag queen with more attention than I want. It’s a very basic question. Are some preferences driven by ageism. It’s not a loaded question. I don’t come here for sex meets, I find the social side is my driving factor but more and more profiles are blocked to me purely on my age and it’s not fair that people don’t get a chance to have a slice of my wit.  |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life.
^ has serious zaddy issues
Fair. Zero point denying that. Although I'm working through them and discovering the joy of late thirties/early forties people so soon it will be minor zaddy issues.
I hope I never work through my mummy or daddy issues because the older women be … nvm"
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"Ffs people chiiiillll? Haha! I’m only putting forward a theory, asking a question. I haven’t accused anyone of anything. I’ve said I’ve noticed racism, trans/homophobia and do people think ageism exists too. Please don’t be disingenuous and angry with your replies or I will be inclined to think I’ve found some truth in my theory. Sites like this are probably somewhere where ageism is justified but aggressive, I’ll considered retorts are just meh. I’m not desperate or missing out on anything, far, far from it. Chill your bones peeps, let’s have a rational discussion, if that’s at all possible here
Of course ageism exists!
Do I want to play with anyone ageist? No
Any more than I want to play with a racist or any trans/ homophobic.
I prefer being older, I am more confident and self-assured, fitter physically and generally enjoying my mostly stress-free life.
I see my age as just another useful filter "
yes this. Great response dear, I’d share a cocktail with you and chew the fat (er yuk!) any day. Thank you for not being triggered by my post. |
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You're not even old.
But people are welcome to have their preferences. As long as they're not a dick about it "
This..
And if anyone chooses to apportion 'blame' for this aspect and the perceived lack of success (especially when someone has many verifications) on assumptions then that's not a good look in my humble opinion..
Enjoy those who do meet you and maybe don't wallow in a cul de sac of other people's issms .. |
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"I get more attention at 50 than I ever did at 40. Maybe it’s not your age, perhaps look at your profile see if it needs a refresh? People have their own preferences of course, but I don’t think she is a big one. I’m not struggling with meets, even though it’s rare from here. My profile is perfect for what I’m looking for, I’m not sad or lonely, I’m a drag queen with more attention than I want. It’s a very basic question. Are some preferences driven by ageism. It’s not a loaded question. I don’t come here for sex meets, I find the social side is my driving factor but more and more profiles are blocked to me purely on my age and it’s not fair that people don’t get a chance to have a slice of my wit. "
I think it’s tempting to say ageism but I’ve not seen anything on here which would suggest it. Not saying it’s not on here of course. But I guess it’s less obvious than homo/trans phobia (which I’ll not say is prevalent on here, rather certain forum members are just very vocal about it) |
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"Your confusing ageism with preferences - we’ll all have them, I don’t like tomatoes but it doesn’t make me a fruitist I’m not confusing anything, I’m quite astute. I’m asking the question, is it just preference or is there some truth in ageism being a driving factor. I don’t get confused by much, apart from a clear post being taken out of context. Though I should expect that on fab
You asked is there ageism, and i merely offered a reply/opinion - not sure how you think that’s been taken out of context
Just to add some context to my answer; my hubby is the same age as you and has no problem meeting people.
Maybe stop worrying about profiles that aren’t looking for people in your age group
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I don’t struggle with meets, as I’ve said before. I turn down lots of offers. My reason for being here is A find a more permanent play thing/ husband and even more than that socialising. Hmmmm, sorry, I wasn’t being personal when I said out of context. It was meant generically. I’m not looking to date younger people, I’m just asking the question am I being cancelled now I’m in my 50s it’s not about having sex with younger people, it’s about them missing out on my wit and insight. Poor things |
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"I get more attention at 50 than I ever did at 40. Maybe it’s not your age, perhaps look at your profile see if it needs a refresh? People have their own preferences of course, but I don’t think she is a big one. I’m not struggling with meets, even though it’s rare from here. My profile is perfect for what I’m looking for, I’m not sad or lonely, I’m a drag queen with more attention than I want. It’s a very basic question. Are some preferences driven by ageism. It’s not a loaded question. I don’t come here for sex meets, I find the social side is my driving factor but more and more profiles are blocked to me purely on my age and it’s not fair that people don’t get a chance to have a slice of my wit.
I think it’s tempting to say ageism but I’ve not seen anything on here which would suggest it. Not saying it’s not on here of course. But I guess it’s less obvious than homo/trans phobia (which I’ll not say is prevalent on here, rather certain forum members are just very vocal about it)"
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"I get more attention at 50 than I ever did at 40. Maybe it’s not your age, perhaps look at your profile see if it needs a refresh? People have their own preferences of course, but I don’t think she is a big one. I’m not struggling with meets, even though it’s rare from here. My profile is perfect for what I’m looking for, I’m not sad or lonely, I’m a drag queen with more attention than I want. It’s a very basic question. Are some preferences driven by ageism. It’s not a loaded question. I don’t come here for sex meets, I find the social side is my driving factor but more and more profiles are blocked to me purely on my age and it’s not fair that people don’t get a chance to have a slice of my wit.
I think it’s tempting to say ageism but I’ve not seen anything on here which would suggest it. Not saying it’s not on here of course. But I guess it’s less obvious than homo/trans phobia (which I’ll not say is prevalent on here, rather certain forum members are just very vocal about it)"
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!"
Oversensitive. Loads have age range up to 55, so you are a mere youngster |
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"Your confusing ageism with preferences - we’ll all have them, I don’t like tomatoes but it doesn’t make me a fruitist I’m not confusing anything, I’m quite astute. I’m asking the question, is it just preference or is there some truth in ageism being a driving factor. I don’t get confused by much, apart from a clear post being taken out of context. Though I should expect that on fab
You asked is there ageism, and i merely offered a reply/opinion - not sure how you think that’s been taken out of context
Just to add some context to my answer; my hubby is the same age as you and has no problem meeting people.
Maybe stop worrying about profiles that aren’t looking for people in your age group
I don’t struggle with meets, as I’ve said before. I turn down lots of offers. My reason for being here is A find a more permanent play thing/ husband and even more than that socialising. Hmmmm, sorry, I wasn’t being personal when I said out of context. It was meant generically. I’m not looking to date younger people, I’m just asking the question am I being cancelled now I’m in my 50s it’s not about having sex with younger people, it’s about them missing out on my wit and insight. Poor things "
Well they do say youth is wasted on the young
Just say your 21 and haven’t adjusted for VAT & inflation yet - but your interest rates are always attractive |
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Just say your 21 and haven’t adjusted for VAT & inflation yet - but your interest rates are always attractive "
Excellent - but it may be a case of the level of inflation they are experiencing in Turkey |
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life.
^ has serious zaddy issues
Fair. Zero point denying that. Although I'm working through them and discovering the joy of late thirties/early forties people so soon it will be minor zaddy issues.
I hope I never work through my mummy or daddy issues because the older women be … nvm
Meli, Steve. I am 42. Just thought I'd mention that... "
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Just say your 21 and haven’t adjusted for VAT & inflation yet - but your interest rates are always attractive
Excellent - but it may be a case of the level of inflation they are experiencing in Turkey "
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
Oversensitive. Loads have age range up to 55, so you are a mere youngster "
I had a feeling that I may have been over sensitive, that’s why I asked the question but I seem to have incurred the wrath of fab for it. Also quite entertaining. |
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You're not even old.
But people are welcome to have their preferences. As long as they're not a dick about it
This..
And if anyone chooses to apportion 'blame' for this aspect and the perceived lack of success (especially when someone has many verifications) on assumptions then that's not a good look in my humble opinion..
Enjoy those who do meet you and maybe don't wallow in a cul de sac of other people's issms .. "
I’m sorry if it appears wallowing, maybe I could’ve framed the question better. When I message someone, it’s usually intrigue about their profile and opening up a discussion not a request for a sexual liaison ,but there’s been a significant amount of profiles I’ve wanted to message that have said that I’m outside their age preference, enough to question wether I’ve “out aged” this site and to move on to somewhere else but I do enjoy the forums, even if they’re a bit reactionary sometimes. Despite my op maybe looking a bit reactionary, it wasn’t intended that way. |
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Well I'm older than you but no point pretending to be someone I'm not. I'm quite comfy in my skin. I don't expect youngsters to be queuing up but people do get in touch. I really do need to tidy up.my profile and sort out some pictures. Fab deleted my last profile pic |
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!"
When you say most people, do you mean those much younger than you? |
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By *acktopervMan
over a year ago
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"I’m sorry if it appears wallowing, maybe I could’ve framed the question better. When I message someone, it’s usually intrigue about their profile and opening up a discussion not a request for a sexual liaison ,but there’s been a significant amount of profiles I’ve wanted to message that have said that I’m outside their age preference, enough to question wether I’ve “out aged” this site and to move on to somewhere else but I do enjoy the forums, even if they’re a bit reactionary sometimes. Despite my op maybe looking a bit reactionary, it wasn’t intended that way."
You are 10 years younger than me and i defo don't feel "out aged". Yes, i havn't met anyone new since i last came back to FAB, but i still meet lots of people from previous FAB incarnations and still have fun.
Over the years i have been on here i have found it much more important to keep in touch and keep hold of good friends. You have many "friends" and also many meets listed............maybe work on them more than finding or waiting for new meets ? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"No, it's not ageism.
You don't have many years left OP, why not focus on those with daddy issues/gold diggers and forget about the rest? Make the most of life.
^ has serious zaddy issues
Fair. Zero point denying that. Although I'm working through them and discovering the joy of late thirties/early forties people so soon it will be minor zaddy issues.
I hope I never work through my mummy or daddy issues because the older women be … nvm
Meli, Steve. I am 42. Just thought I'd mention that... "
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"Sounds a little sensitive to me. People don't have to sleep with anyone they don't want to, that's a preference, trying to weaponise people's preferences isn't a good look.
I understand filters will get in the way a lot but there's always in person social events or p club nights
LvM"
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"So, I seem to be in that “outside most people’s age bracket” bracket. Which is kinda fine because I don’t get nearly as many unsolicited messages but (it’s only a little but) I do feel a little cancelled. Is it ageism dressed as preference. I’ve noticed racism and homo/transphobia dressed as preference here, so, is it? Or am I being over sensitive now I’m nearly dead!
When you say most people, do you mean thosemuch younger than you?"
No, that’s not what I mean at all. I don’t message people for sex. I message people whose profiles interest me. I’m not wanting, desperate or aiming at young people. “Most people” could sound misleading. What I mean is, I’ve had significant enough encounters with profiles where I turn out to be outside their age range, upon messaging to wonder if I’ve just out aged this site. Despite still having plenty, if not more to offer. |
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"I think you are being over sensitive but perhaps that's my viewpoint as I'm not over that age threshold yet.
Guessing you were a bit annoyed when you did your status update? "
no. I wasn’t annoyed at all, I’m sorry it came across that way. I come on here to find interesting, even nuanced conversation, a meet or a new friend later down the line is a bonus but certainly not expected. I think fibbers have to deal with so many frustrated men, that I’ve instantly been categorised as that. My attitude to being outside someone’s age range because I won’t get to converse with an interesting profile is more awwww, that’s a shame rather than grrrr why am I being rejected. As I don’t feel rejected and have actually got fans. Yes, real fans. I don’t miss out on affection, I have a good sex life. I was just wondering if older people here have had similar experiences |
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""I’m sorry if it appears wallowing, maybe I could’ve framed the question better. When I message someone, it’s usually intrigue about their profile and opening up a discussion not a request for a sexual liaison ,but there’s been a significant amount of profiles I’ve wanted to message that have said that I’m outside their age preference, enough to question wether I’ve “out aged” this site and to move on to somewhere else but I do enjoy the forums, even if they’re a bit reactionary sometimes. Despite my op maybe looking a bit reactionary, it wasn’t intended that way."
You are 10 years younger than me and i defo don't feel "out aged". Yes, i havn't met anyone new since i last came back to FAB, but i still meet lots of people from previous FAB incarnations and still have fun.
Over the years i have been on here i have found it much more important to keep in touch and keep hold of good friends. You have many "friends" and also many meets listed............maybe work on them more than finding or waiting for new meets ?"
It’s not about meets, though it is about meeting new people to talk to here, as much as the old ones. Some profiles I find intriguing, so I want to know more, only to find an age hurdle. No I’m not looking for young people before you ask, I’m not jimmy saville lol. I think I could’ve framed the question better, it was clearly taken out of context. |
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"Sounds a little sensitive to me. People don't have to sleep with anyone they don't want to, that's a preference, trying to weaponise people's preferences isn't a good look.
I understand filters will get in the way a lot but there's always in person social events or p club nights
Lv
I’m not expecting to sleep with anyone, that’s not why I message people. I could stand at my door and shout I’m horny and have choices. I’m not desperate I think my profile shows that.
Spot on "
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It’s playing the odds. Odds are an over 50 will be less attractive to most people. I’m over 60 and I get regularly flirted with by considerably younger women who meet me in person. On the internet, I’m not worth the effort. Such is life…
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"I think you are being over sensitive but perhaps that's my viewpoint as I'm not over that age threshold yet.
Guessing you were a bit annoyed when you did your status update?
no. I wasn’t annoyed at all, I’m sorry it came across that way. I come on here to find interesting, even nuanced conversation, a meet or a new friend later down the line is a bonus but certainly not expected. I think fibbers have to deal with so many frustrated men, that I’ve instantly been categorised as that. My attitude to being outside someone’s age range because I won’t get to converse with an interesting profile is more awwww, that’s a shame rather than grrrr why am I being rejected. As I don’t feel rejected and have actually got fans. Yes, real fans. I don’t miss out on affection, I have a good sex life. I was just wondering if older people here have had similar experiences"
I've yet to have a meet on here, so don't have veris. That in turn puts some off from messaging me, because I don't have veris.
There are various reasons that people can "reject" us, mein freund...and certainly age can be one of them. Having said that, some older people on here do really well on here.
At the end of the day, it all comes down to who and what others are attracted to.
We can't be everyone's type, any more than everyone can be ours.
As for me personally, despite my lack of communications / meets on here, I do really well away from this site.
I came on here to "meet" interesting people on here,chat, maybe meet and have some fun sex. These days,I just tend to use the forums and perv on a few profiles, here and there.
Dude,don't worry about those who aren't interested. As you say, you do well otherwise (same as I do). Just take this site for what it is and there are plenty on here (of differing ages) who will show interest, even if you're outside their usual age restrictions |
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over a year ago
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"It’s playing the odds. Odds are an over 50 will be less attractive to most people. I’m over 60 and I get regularly flirted with by considerably younger women who meet me in person. On the internet, I’m not worth the effort. Such is life…
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This too...I have lots of success with younger ladies, but online an age can be off-putting to some.
When you meet someone in person and there's an attraction on various levels, they don't tend to care about age |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"Ffs people chiiiillll? Haha! I’m only putting forward a theory, asking a question. I haven’t accused anyone of anything. I’ve said I’ve noticed racism, trans/homophobia and do people think ageism exists too. Please don’t be disingenuous and angry with your replies or I will be inclined to think I’ve found some truth in my theory. Sites like this are probably somewhere where ageism is justified but aggressive, I’ll considered retorts are just meh. I’m not desperate or missing out on anything, far, far from it. Chill your bones peeps, let’s have a rational discussion, if that’s at all possible here
Of course ageism exists!
Do I want to play with anyone ageist? No
Any more than I want to play with a racist or any trans/ homophobic.
I prefer being older, I am more confident and self-assured, fitter physically and generally enjoying my mostly stress-free life.
I see my age as just another useful filter yes this. Great response dear, I’d share a cocktail with you and chew the fat (er yuk!) any day. Thank you for not being triggered by my post. "
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I'm 53, I don't feel over the hill, nearly dead or subject to any kind of homophobia. It's ages since I've even had a bad email that way.
People just like what they like, I certainly don't feel cancelled by someone's preference on a sex site! Cancelling is a deliberate act of political control, not a sexual boundary.
If anyone wants a 53 yo CD/kinkster I'm here!
People often feel the blues when they still like younger and gradually get older. Potentially-interested people are still there, but it's a diminishing return obviously. But such is life. Fortunately I like a range of ages.
Remember Fabswingers really is only a fraction of the world, online and off it.
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"I'm 53, I don't feel over the hill, nearly dead or subject to any kind of homophobia. It's ages since I've even had a bad email that way.
People just like what they like, I certainly don't feel cancelled by someone's preference on a sex site! Cancelling is a deliberate act of political control, not a sexual boundary.
If anyone wants a 53 yo CD/kinkster I'm here!
People often feel the blues when they still like younger and gradually get older. Potentially-interested people are still there, but it's a diminishing return obviously. But such is life. Fortunately I like a range of ages.
Remember Fabswingers really is only a fraction of the world, online and off it.
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