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"I would have cut it off by now if it isn't exciting meat all. "
Exciting meat is what's on every girls mind... 
But seriously OP, isn't it at least partly YOUR responsibility to make the date exciting?
Couldn't you take her somewhere different, and show here a new experience?
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?
Did you plant it up?
Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.
You didn't have sex with them ( people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).
I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?
Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off. |
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"The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?
Did you plant it up?
Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.
You didn't have sex with them ( people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).
I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?
Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off."
I didn’t plant it up. 1st date person is very grown up and kinda serious. I didn’t get much flirt feel like I did from L who I’ve had two dates with
Kitty (wife) dates still have that zing maybe I’m just spoiled by her after 2,500 dates |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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Did you make a wee typo on the OP and mean that all you could think about was the third date 'would' be much more fun rather than wouldn't?
It can be hard when you know you connect well with someone putting the same into meeting others. Sometimes you just need to take a step back and focus energies on less is more even when the temptation is to try everything at once.
Hope you have a lovely date on Monday  |
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"Did you make a wee typo on the OP and mean that all you could think about was the third date 'would' be much more fun rather than wouldn't?
It can be hard when you know you connect well with someone putting the same into meeting others. Sometimes you just need to take a step back and focus energies on less is more even when the temptation is to try everything at once.
Hope you have a lovely date on Monday "
You know me and typos! 
Yep third date person is much more fun! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Did you make a wee typo on the OP and mean that all you could think about was the third date 'would' be much more fun rather than wouldn't?
It can be hard when you know you connect well with someone putting the same into meeting others. Sometimes you just need to take a step back and focus energies on less is more even when the temptation is to try everything at once.
Hope you have a lovely date on Monday
You know me and typos!
Yep third date person is much more fun! "
It's early - I'm surprised I noticed 
Sometimes it's hard dating others when you know you have people you really connect and enjoy time with. Probably why I rarely feel like making the effort to make myself look human for someone unless I'm 100% sure it's worth it 
But it's learning - I you have a better idea now who you do and do not get on with for future dates!  |
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"Had a date yesterday, nothing particularly wrong, just meh. Got a third date on Monday with someone else and all I could think of was that it wouldn’t be much more fun! "
It takes two to make an effort, just hope the lady in question doesn't read this. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?
Did you plant it up?
Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.
You didn't have sex with them ( people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).
I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?
Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off.
I didn’t plant it up. 1st date person is very grown up and kinda serious. I didn’t get much flirt feel like I did from L who I’ve had two dates with
Kitty (wife) dates still have that zing maybe I’m just spoiled by her after 2,500 dates"
I think comparison can be the thief of joy; to a certain degree you need to take people as they are. Sometimes there's no spark and it's meh and that's fine. It happens. It doesn't mean either of you are in the wrong or bad. It does mean it wasn't for you.
I wouldn't compare closer dynamics/relationships with someone you've just met though. I do think if you're enjoying something a lot, it's okay to not be dating lots of others. Focus your energy where you really want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me a social just means coffee and a chat and I guage a 2nd meet/social from that first meeting.
Bit like a job sounds good on paper in reality would not touch it like a barge pole.
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"Had a date yesterday, nothing particularly wrong, just meh. Got a third date on Monday with someone else and all I could think of was that it wouldn’t be much more fun!
It takes two to make an effort, just hope the lady in question doesn't read this. "
Why? I’ve not said anything terribly bad, just that it was a bit meh? |
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"The third date on Monday is with someone else, yes?
Did you plant it up?
Sometimes dates are meh because there's not really that oomph there. Not because there's anything wrong with either of you.
You didn't have sex with them ( people do that and it's fucking grim/predatory at times).
I'm guessing you've been honest and not asked for another?
Well, then you just need to accept not every date is going to be a success. Do something a la self care, remember it's not the end of the world and shake it off.
I didn’t plant it up. 1st date person is very grown up and kinda serious. I didn’t get much flirt feel like I did from L who I’ve had two dates with
Kitty (wife) dates still have that zing maybe I’m just spoiled by her after 2,500 dates
I think comparison can be the thief of joy; to a certain degree you need to take people as they are. Sometimes there's no spark and it's meh and that's fine. It happens. It doesn't mean either of you are in the wrong or bad. It does mean it wasn't for you.
I wouldn't compare closer dynamics/relationships with someone you've just met though. I do think if you're enjoying something a lot, it's okay to not be dating lots of others. Focus your energy where you really want to."
Very true Meli. In all honesty I think it’s just one of those things where we’re not totally compatible.
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I'm a fucker for going on dates for the sake of it. It rarely bares fruit these days, but on the reverse, you never know if there's a shiny shimmery sparkle until you meet someone face to face.
I don't go on third dates if I'm just not fussed though! Are you just bored? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If in doubt ... make sure there are dogs ...
Okay, it gets in the way if you're looking to get things hot and heavy quickly...
But life is always good when there's dogs.
And also, anyone who doesn't like dogs needs to be viewed with suspicion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dating is fully meh/fake imo - much better when things happen and two (or more!) people get together organically, just walking down the street/shopping. I set myself a dating spree recently - had loads of dates, but left feeling meh at all of them #notforme |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a fucker for going on dates for the sake of it. It rarely bares fruit these days, but on the reverse, you never know if there's a shiny shimmery sparkle until you meet someone face to face.
I don't go on third dates if I'm just not fussed though! Are you just bored? "
A lot of people are bored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d be horrified if someone I went on a date with made a public thread about how ‘meh’ it was. "
Here here it so rude and disrespectful Op. Good bad and keep your thoughts to yourself, if that was me I be fuming. |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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"I’d be horrified if someone I went on a date with made a public thread about how ‘meh’ it was.
Here here it so rude and disrespectful Op. Good bad and keep your thoughts to yourself, if that was me I be fuming. "
I don't think it's rude, and I highly doubt the op would post this post if they were regular forumites. But we all read things in our own viewpoint  |
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If someone who I went on a date with described it as being meh it wouldn’t really bother me theirs a lot worse things that could have been said .
I would just take it to mean we didn’t click and their was no spark .I’m sure we have been on socials where people have though the same and so have we..
I’m sure it’s probably quite rare to go on 1 date and feel a connection some people just don’t click and other people grow on you after time. |
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