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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Happy couples and partnered people, how often do you utter those 3 little words to each other?
We are a bit soppy and probably tell each other 3 or 4 times a day . |
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"Happy couples and partnered people, how often do you utter those 3 little words to each other?
We are a bit soppy and probably tell each other 3 or 4 times a day ."
Oh maximum this many times a year ... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Erm. A few times a day. When he's leaving for work. When he comes back from work. When he brings me a PSL or says use my card and just order it (this is a joke people).
I say it to my friends frequently. I've banned someone from saying it because once it's said, it's not unsaid. Plus I'm weird and can have feelings for people, deep feelings but never full love. |
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Saying "I love you"
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It's not that I want you
Not to say but if you only knew
How easy, it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
'Cause I'd already know
Extreme cheesy mood - sorry |
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"Saying "I love you"
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It's not that I want you
Not to say but if you only knew
How easy, it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
'Cause I'd already know
Extreme cheesy mood - sorry"
Love that song |
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We might not say it daily, more when we feel like we want to say it.
Sometimes one of us will say it without the other saying it back - feels more heartfelt when it’s said when in a moment or when overwhelmed with warmth.
We display it daily through stroking, kissing and hugging each other a lot.
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The quota has definitely been exceeded.
If I love someone, I show it, I demonstrate it to them every day.
And I associate the words negatively, people have used it as a manipulation tactic too many times for it to sit right with me. I don't want to hear it. I want to know it  |
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"Saying "I love you"
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It's not that I want you
Not to say but if you only knew
How easy, it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
'Cause I'd already know
Extreme cheesy mood - sorry
Love that song "
It's great isn't it. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"The quota has definitely been exceeded.
If I love someone, I show it, I demonstrate it to them every day.
And I associate the words negatively, people have used it as a manipulation tactic too many times for it to sit right with me. I don't want to hear it. I want to know it "
Eloquently stated. Words of have meaning. Words have power. Repeated use without actual manifestation of its intent devalues and robs it of its meaning and power.
Love is a word that shouldn't be trivialised. It should be used selectively and backed by real, tangible action / behaviour. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"The quota has definitely been exceeded.
If I love someone, I show it, I demonstrate it to them every day.
And I associate the words negatively, people have used it as a manipulation tactic too many times for it to sit right with me. I don't want to hear it. I want to know it
Eloquently stated. Words of have meaning. Words have power. Repeated use without actual manifestation of its intent devalues and robs it of its meaning and power.
Love is a word that shouldn't be trivialised. It should be used selectively and backed by real, tangible action / behaviour."
I believe this too. You demonstrate love - what good is a warm fuzzy feeling to anyone - but it’s good to say it too. Just because someone abused the word in the past is not a good reason to not say it in the future |
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"Just because someone abused the word in the past is not a good reason to not say it in the future "
I don't enjoy the words. Whatever the reasons may be, I don't like to say them, and I don't like to hear them.
Demonstrating love is me trying to let it be said, because I know it does matter to normal people, and him not pushing those words down my throat when he knows it makes me uncomfortable. And that demonstration is worth far more than some trite words will ever be in themselves |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Just because someone abused the word in the past is not a good reason to not say it in the future
I don't enjoy the words. Whatever the reasons may be, I don't like to say them, and I don't like to hear them.
Demonstrating love is me trying to let it be said, because I know it does matter to normal people, and him not pushing those words down my throat when he knows it makes me uncomfortable. And that demonstration is worth far more than some trite words will ever be in themselves "
For me both are important but I get what you are saying. There a million creative small ways to demonstrate it beyond acts of loyalty /service etc |
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Quite a few times to be fair, when i was diagnosed with a stage 3 rare cancer we hadn't long been a offical item despite seeing each other regularly. She could of walked away and i would of totally understood but she stuck by me and for that i will be eternally grateful.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I say it whenever I think it... and that can be several times a day. Bob never says it to me, has never said it and won't say it unless I tell him he can... because I told him not to. But he shows it, several times a day.
I also say it to my friends when I have the thought. Because giving love is beautiful. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I say it whenever I think it... and that can be several times a day. Bob never says it to me, has never said it and won't say it unless I tell him he can... because I told him not to. But he shows it, several times a day.
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I think that's it really. It can be a beautiful word but at the heart of it it's about actions. Actions matching the unspoken words. The spoken ones.
I've not told someone not to say it because I'm cynical. It's because I have a greater understanding of what it is that actually matters to me - the little gestures, the thoughtfulness. The things that say "I value you".
I don't want lovebombing. Words said with little substance. The grand gestures as much as I'm a fan of classic literary grand romances. I want the stability of demonstration, the consistency of real love. The openness to share that. |
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