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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Crazy thing you've done that goes against your boundaries or limits or principles or morals?
Could you fall in love with someone who told you they cheated on their spouse more than once?
Could you utterly throw yourself at someone you really fancied?
So could you break your principles, morals, boundaries, limits and so on and have you??? Can you tell us what it was and why?
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"Crazy thing you've done that goes against your boundaries or limits or principles or morals?
Could you fall in love with someone who told you they cheated on their spouse more than once?
Could you utterly throw yourself at someone you really fancied?
So could you break your principles, morals, boundaries, limits and so on and have you??? Can you tell us what it was and why?
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Had sex with a married man fully knowing that he was married. I was young,stupid and naive, and he was a lot older. I didn't plan for it to happen, but I did not say no when it happened. 10/10 would not do it again.
Fall in love? Maybe. Stay with said person and expect them to be honest and loyal? Never. If they already cheated multiple times they will most likely cheat again.
Yes, I could and I did. It paid out as now I'm married to him 
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Curious to see how this one develops. Call me cynical, but morals and principles don’t appear to exist very much in the world today. People talk about them, but they are easily negotiated when they become inconvenient. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Curious to see how this one develops. Call me cynical, but morals and principles don’t appear to exist very much in the world today. People talk about them, but they are easily negotiated when they become inconvenient. "
I'm expecting it to nosedive.
Because I think people will lack the honesty it takes to admit it and won't want to paint themselves in a bad light to others.
But I think it says more about the person if they can be honest and admit it than what they did that was against their own principles etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crazy thing you've done that goes against your boundaries or limits or principles or morals?
Could you fall in love with someone who told you they cheated on their spouse more than once?
Could you utterly throw yourself at someone you really fancied?
So could you break your principles, morals, boundaries, limits and so on and have you??? Can you tell us what it was and why?
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I had sex with someone without a social first. Without sounding like a wet rag here but I do feel as though I need to know the person first and build trust.
Second question is difficult. I don't judge people who have cheated. I think it's unfair to label people for having an affair. There is much more to it than that.
No. I couldn't do that. I am always too scared of rejection.
For the last look at my first answer for the reason why, I was caught up in the fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As for failing for people who have cheated, I could write a book on my last 5 years. Yet I do still love him and I possibly always wlll. I've said it many times but we all eat lies when our hearts are hungry. Both lies from others and the ones we can tell ourselves |
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"Curious to see how this one develops. Call me cynical, but morals and principles don’t appear to exist very much in the world today. People talk about them, but they are easily negotiated when they become inconvenient.
I'm expecting it to nosedive.
Because I think people will lack the honesty it takes to admit it and won't want to paint themselves in a bad light to others.
But I think it says more about the person if they can be honest and admit it than what they did that was against their own principles etc.
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Maybe so. Morals and principals require steadfast understanding and commitment to a specific point of view. That was fine, perhaps, decades ago. But the world, and all of us in it, are shades of grey now. Complex, flexible, flawed. It’s hard to maintain a black and white perspective in a world that is consistently changing. All those lines in the sand are washed away by the tides. |
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"Crazy thing you've done that goes against your boundaries or limits or principles or morals?
Could you fall in love with someone who told you they cheated on their spouse more than once?
Could you utterly throw yourself at someone you really fancied?
So could you break your principles, morals, boundaries, limits and so on and have you??? Can you tell us what it was and why?
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In this lifestyle, there would be no need for them to be dishonest |
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Principles & Morals wise - I don’t break. I’m sure there are many who would conclude I don’t have any. But my overriding principle/moral is to not judge. To read the full story & not just look at the pictures. Rarely is a life simple or a person truly bad.
Boundaries? Personal boundaries. I’m a fucker for getting swept away in a moment. My absolute firm boundaries are just that.
I do tend to lean towards shades of grey though (not that one).
I’m me. Inherently, unashamedly me. I make mistakes. I’m constantly learning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crazy thing you've done that goes against your boundaries or limits or principles or morals?
Could you fall in love with someone who told you they cheated on their spouse more than once?
Could you utterly throw yourself at someone you really fancied?
So could you break your principles, morals, boundaries, limits and so on and have you??? Can you tell us what it was and why?
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I cheated on my wife when we were married prior to having an open relationship. She was the only person I had sex with. It opened my mind so much she wondered how I became a better lover afterwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've stepped over my boundaries multiple times! Sexted with cheating men and told myself it was ok because I wasn't meeting them. The thing I regret most was having sex with a guy I didn't fancy remotely with his parents downstairs because I had kinda led him on. That didn't fit with my moral code at all and it was fucking awful. |
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Definitely thrown myself at people I fancied, regardless of their situation. But that was many years ago. I don't think I would do it now, I wouldn't put myself in that position in the first place now.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I've never cheated on anyone. I don't think I ever will. I'm always very open and honest about those I'm meeting.
I have, however, met people who are married and their partner was unaware. Had some great times. One of my dearest friends is married. However, after being cheated on this year, I've decided I wouldn't do it again. I'm not sure that's because of a moral awakening, more, an "I've been there" and it's an awful feeling when you find out. I wouldn't be able to do that to another now. I can be friends no issue but meeting and having sex with another whilst their partner doesn't know? No.
I have a firm boundary (that I'm not discussing here) that I'll never waiver on. Even if there was a man who was the perfect hybrid of Benedict Cumberbatch, Tom Hiddleston and Neil Gaiman. It's something that's very important to me, the value I place on people. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Not for sex not matter how great but when I get the feels , I think I can still lose common sense.
There was an incident in my early 20s I almost got talked into that could have landed me in very serious trouble , luckily it never became more than a fantasy |
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I have strong principles that I very rarely break, unless the situation places one in conflict with the other. I make decisions I feel I can justify ethically.
The process of how someone makes their decisions and deals with ethical dilemmas is what I look for, in a person. Hence, my desire for open communication. Confusing the dispositional with situational - correspondence bias - is a common human error. I am more wary of people who deal in moral absolutes.
If you judge me without getting to know my internal process then you'll never get to know me.
I've made a lot of sacrifices in my life for others. Including risking harm to myself. Some people have said I need to think of myself more. I have stood up for myself and people have said I need to think of others more. They can't all be right. |
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