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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago
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I too am old,although my understanding of love language is a person's preference on giving and receiving love.
Therefore mine would be acts, as i love cooking/feeding for the ones I love.
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
Yeah..
Receiving I'm tactile and like a lot of touch and sex. I also love quality time.
Giving.. I'm good on words of affirmation, touch and dedicated time. I like to give little gifts and surprises too but more in the way of hidden notes and cute thoughtful stuff rather than grand material things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do the quiz online to find out!
They are.....
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
Gifts
Quality time
Acts of service.
I'm predominantly two of them but don't fancy giving away which two. But everyone has a different spread of them.
Really interesting and was used in sex therapy when I had to go. It really does help see your partner's well. |
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I very much disregarded it all as hogwash the first time someone tried to explain it to me, but the more I paid attention, the more I saw it very much applies and simplifies how individuals express and expect love, and why what some people do out of love are not always "received" or accepted as love.
It would appear that mine and my Husband's are at opposite ends of the spectrum; - Mine are quality time, acts of service and gifts, whereas his are words of affirmation and physical touch.
So he doesn't feel loved if I'm not fucking him, but I don't feel loved and don't want to fuck him if he's not doing shit around the house.  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I very much disregarded it all as hogwash the first time someone tried to explain it to me, but the more I paid attention, the more I saw it very much applies and simplifies how individuals express and expect love, and why what some people do out of love are not always "received" or accepted as love.
It would appear that mine and my Husband's are at opposite ends of the spectrum; - Mine are quality time, acts of service and gifts, whereas his are words of affirmation and physical touch.
So he doesn't feel loved if I'm not fucking him, but I don't feel loved and don't want to fuck him if he's not doing shit around the house. "
But isn’t love doing the things you don't want to do ? I hate washing the pots but I’ll do them for someone I care about without being asked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physical touch and secondary was quality time. I'm a very affectionate person. I think I'd struggle being with anyone for whom gifts is the primary love language, for multiple reasons. |
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"I very much disregarded it all as hogwash the first time someone tried to explain it to me, but the more I paid attention, the more I saw it very much applies and simplifies how individuals express and expect love, and why what some people do out of love are not always "received" or accepted as love.
It would appear that mine and my Husband's are at opposite ends of the spectrum; - Mine are quality time, acts of service and gifts, whereas his are words of affirmation and physical touch.
So he doesn't feel loved if I'm not fucking him, but I don't feel loved and don't want to fuck him if he's not doing shit around the house.
But isn’t love doing the things you don't want to do ? I hate washing the pots but I’ll do them for someone I care about without being asked "
It's not that I don't want to fuck, it is just not how I express my love nor how I want it expressed to me.
I do enjoy non-sexual cuddles and touching without the expectation of sex but I, personally, feel LOVED and APPRECIATED and therefore more attracted to him MORE if he does those things around the house without being asked.
I like quality time but being touchy-feely doesn't make me feel loved and nor is it how I express mine. |
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