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Walking away at the last minute?
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Just curious as the topic came up in conversation this weekend... if anybody has ever walked away from a play situation when parties are already semi clothed/ unclothed. Suppose you find there is seomthing not quite right and you dont feel comfortable proceeding.
If so, what reasons would you give? Would you be honest or make an excuse? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Luckily I've not been in this situation, but I think if my gut instinct was telling me something was wrong, or I felt uncomfortable, I would hope I would go with my feelings and extricate myself from the situation without causing either offence or anger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I have. I had gone into a room with 2 guys in a club and as I bent over to take my thong off one of the guys was putting a condom on and started a row with his mate about who was going to fuck me first. I picked my (limited) clothes up and walked out of the room. I had played with one of the guys (not condom guy) before but not the other one.
My safety is paramount |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I have. I had gone into a room with 2 guys in a club and as I bent over to take my thong off one of the guys was putting a condom on and started a row with his mate about who was going to fuck me first. I picked my (limited) clothes up and walked out of the room. I had played with one of the guys (not condom guy) before but not the other one.
My safety is paramount |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Does running out of the play room trying not to puke count?
Having encountered a sticky smelly cock, Mrs didn't really make an excuse, it was pretty much, 'Out of my way I'm going to puke'." Sorry that made me laugh...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a few times mainly in clubs tho i have done it on private meets too
Only reason ive done this is because the guy im playing with has been a selfish lover. if ive been playing with a guy and its perfectly obvious hes only after a blow job and a shag i will and have left |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Luckily I've not been in this situation, but I think if my gut instinct was telling me something was wrong, or I felt uncomfortable, I would hope I would go with my feelings and extricate myself from the situation without causing either offence or anger." That s what I was wondering.. how one would get out of a difficult situation without casuing offense?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have...
The other cpl we're undressed when we arrived...eh looked as if she Had been in bed for days
So i Took the wrap for it and said i didnt feel comfortable as we had only ever met in hotels Lol
Lies ...Had to be done tho...
Boak
Auds xx |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I have cut short a meet. He just wanted me to play with myself whilst he got a blowjob. I made it clear that that was NOT what I was in to. He didn't even touch my pussy, just my boobs. Told him to get dressed and leave.
Strangely he seemed surprised. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have a few times mainly in clubs tho i have done it on private meets too
Only reason ive done this is because the guy im playing with has been a selfish lover. if ive been playing with a guy and its perfectly obvious hes only after a blow job and a shag i will and have left" Can understand that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Knew this would end up a smelly bits thread lol
Its ok - there's no mention of Femfresh yet Ryan!
Gross "
what is, femfresh?
(what is gross i mean im not asking what femfresh is lol) |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Knew this would end up a smelly bits thread lol
Its ok - there's no mention of Femfresh yet Ryan!
Gross
what is, femfresh?
(what is gross i mean im not asking what femfresh is lol)"
Keep up NN I tell you every time it tastes disgusting. Wash the back of your hand with it, then give it a lick. Don't say I didn't warn you though. |
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"Knew this would end up a smelly bits thread lol
Its ok - there's no mention of Femfresh yet Ryan!
Gross
what is, femfresh?
(what is gross i mean im not asking what femfresh is lol)
Keep up NN I tell you every time it tastes disgusting. Wash the back of your hand with it, then give it a lick. Don't say I didn't warn you though. " ive had quite a few guys ask me if i use it as it makes them boak |
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
Livingston |
"Knew this would end up a smelly bits thread lol
Its ok - there's no mention of Femfresh yet Ryan!
Gross
what is, femfresh?
(what is gross i mean im not asking what femfresh is lol)
Keep up NN I tell you every time it tastes disgusting. Wash the back of your hand with it, then give it a lick. Don't say I didn't warn you though. "
on a boak level with guys who spray aftershave on their cock.... or those who leave their socks on!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Knew this would end up a smelly bits thread lol
Its ok - there's no mention of Femfresh yet Ryan!
Gross
what is, femfresh?
(what is gross i mean im not asking what femfresh is lol)
Keep up NN I tell you every time it tastes disgusting. Wash the back of your hand with it, then give it a lick. Don't say I didn't warn you though. "
ok ok im running to keep up lol
I was just asking because i use the wipes all the time, everytime i go to the loo i use one, i mean i wash as well but when your out you cant so i use the wipes, i met a guy once and he made me go and have a wash as he said it tasted horrible, i got offended by this and told him to fook off then, then he said i took him the wrong way and he ment he could taste the femfrsh, i thought he was just being nice so as not to hurt my feeling cause i've never heard anyone say they taste horrible before and it did kinda kill the mood for me after being told to go get a wash, thats why i asked what you ment by gross |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have once when I met a couple and they invited a tv to join us. I was upstairs with the wife when the tv arrived and then I told the wife it wasn't my thing. She didn't mind and said it would be ok if I wanted to leave so I did......came downstairs and the tv was taking her coat off. In fairness the tv looked sexy! Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious as the topic came up in conversation this weekend... if anybody has ever walked away from a play situation when parties are already semi clothed/ unclothed. Suppose you find there is seomthing not quite right and you dont feel comfortable proceeding.
If so, what reasons would you give? Would you be honest or make an excuse? "
Yes we went to a house party last July, I had been unwell and dosed up on cold and flu stuff, only went as we like to stick to our word and not let anyone down!
We got there, I was feeling crap, the house was very small, way too many people crammed into the tiny kitchen and someone had BO, this made me feel sick.
We went outside instead and some d*unk started talking crap at us and having a go about everything!
We went back in and tried to chat some more to others, a big scene with said d*unk man and his partner, no one there we liked anyway, I felt ill and it was just doomed to start with so excused ourselves. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"Knew this would end up a smelly bits thread lol
Its ok - there's no mention of Femfresh yet Ryan!
Gross
what is, femfresh?
(what is gross i mean im not asking what femfresh is lol)
Keep up NN I tell you every time it tastes disgusting. Wash the back of your hand with it, then give it a lick. Don't say I didn't warn you though.
on a boak level with guys who spray aftershave on their cock.... or those who leave their socks on!!! "
I agree that shouldn't be allowed either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My safety word is shouting banana banana. I normally get asked to leave at this point no offence caused to anyone. Or the old I need a wee and do one quick smart. The wee one is only to be used in a club environment x |
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Twice. One man in a club, in a private room and he spat on my bum.....I stood up and fumbled for my undies whilst muttering 'I'm not in a Fkin porn movie'.
Other meet was an outdoor one, he undid his fly and the smell from his cock was overwhelming, it made me sick on him twice. I made an excuse that I wasn't feeling well and drove home |
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Once with a guy who was under the misconception that I was submissive, I gave him absolutely no reason to believe this either before we met nor at our drink and chat.....for some reason he all of a sudden became Mr Grey when we had our second meeting in more intimate surroundings.
He will probably take the time to mention this in advance with other meets as he was left in no doubt that he was assumming far too much without asking me first, it was a very short meet.
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I've chucked someone out of my house and he couldn't understand why!
My daughter phoned to say she was coming home early. It would have taken her about 90 minutes, enough for a quickie.
We were getting undressed when I said if anything we can continue at his house. He looked at me in horror and said he didn't invite swingers into his house, it wasn't a knocking shop!
I now don't invite anyone into my home that doesn't accommodate as I think they have the same mind set as that cheeky fucker! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its actually more difficult than people can have you believe.
I am no shrinking violet and I am assertive but I am not a rude person and I have diplomacy skills which I feel is an important asset.
Whilst I would not go along with a meet or a play situation where I felt uncomfortable, I try and find ways to say this in a polite manner which doesn't rise to an insult. In clubs its easy. If we are in a public room and we are playing with a guy, if others try and touch me I say, sorry guys I don't play with groups of guys at once. I've had very few instances of men trying their luck again, if I have to tell them a second time I will be more forceful and say 'please do not touch me'. It doesn't really happen as a couple because I have a bodyguard there all the time and other men are more wary when a man is guarding the situation.
On a one on one meeting its happened once. I delegated though and my OH explained that I didn't want to continue with a play meet. If I had no choice but to do it myself I'd bee polite and say I'm not continuing with a play meet. If they asked for reasons I probably wouldn't give them. There is no need to tell someone you physically don't find them attractive, all they need to know is the outcome of whether a play meet will take place
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its actually more difficult than people can have you believe.
I am no shrinking violet and I am assertive but I am not a rude person and I have diplomacy skills which I feel is an important asset.
Whilst I would not go along with a meet or a play situation where I felt uncomfortable, I try and find ways to say this in a polite manner which doesn't rise to an insult. In clubs its easy. If we are in a public room and we are playing with a guy, if others try and touch me I say, sorry guys I don't play with groups of guys at once. I've had very few instances of men trying their luck again, if I have to tell them a second time I will be more forceful and say 'please do not touch me'. It doesn't really happen as a couple because I have a bodyguard there all the time and other men are more wary when a man is guarding the situation.
On a one on one meeting its happened once. I delegated though and my OH explained that I didn't want to continue with a play meet. If I had no choice but to do it myself I'd bee polite and say I'm not continuing with a play meet. If they asked for reasons I probably wouldn't give them. There is no need to tell someone you physically don't find them attractive, all they need to know is the outcome of whether a play meet will take place
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This as well,I am lucky to have M who looks after me, and he has told a play meet at a hotel that he needed to leave once he realised I was not comfortable or happy to continue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My safety word is shouting banana banana. I normally get asked to leave at this point no offence caused to anyone. Or the old I need a wee and do one quick smart. The wee one is only to be used in a club environment x
Hey that's my safe word
You just copied x"
Nah you copied me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont think its rude or insultive to tell someone if your not happy with something
If you meet someone who smells they know they havnt had a wash prior to meeting you but still expect you to get up close and personal with you, i think that much ruder than telling them they smell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My safety word is shouting banana banana. I normally get asked to leave at this point no offence caused to anyone. Or the old I need a wee and do one quick smart. The wee one is only to be used in a club environment x
Hey that's my safe word
You just copied x
Nah you copied me "
Impossible my dear. I only lead and never follow you may share as I'm feeling generous this evening x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to add that if someone was rude or insulted either of us then I would certainly tell them straight and have no problems with that.
Actually I've just remembered a time when I've had to tell a guy. We were in the couples room and he started to wave to friends who were watching, in a kinda 'hey look at me I'm playing with someone'. My OH stopped play and I wasn't aware of it, as I had my back to him. When my OH told me I was furious and I found the guy and said 'don't you ever act in such a childish and disrespectful way again'.
He was a nice friendly guy but was obviously immature within the swinging scene. It was at a BBW chams social and I think there is a tendency to show off more at an event |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My safety word is shouting banana banana. I normally get asked to leave at this point no offence caused to anyone. Or the old I need a wee and do one quick smart. The wee one is only to be used in a club environment x
Hey that's my safe word
You just copied x
Nah you copied me
Impossible my dear. I only lead and never follow you may share as I'm feeling generous this evening x
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Oh oh what we sharing is it nice will I like it |
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