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By *illan-Killash OP Man
over a year ago
London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants |
I think so many people have a story to tell that never gets heard.
And they should be. The story when told can be a congratulatory nudge to self, an inspiration to others or simply for a stranger to feel they're not alone.
From long ago, my deepest, darkest lows.......
So many straws.
The loss of my daughter. Seperating from someone I truly thought was "the one". Losing a job that genuinly made me leap out of bed each day. All in the space of a few weeks either side of Christmas.
I drank way too much. I abused dru8s. I pushed away my friends and everyone who cared for me.
Except one person, who's friendship and love I tested to the limits, but never gave up on me. Her tears and faith bought me back to sanity. To this day I thank her for saving my life.
A soulless, loveless, mentally abusive marriage that pretty much destroyed my self confidence and sense of self worth. Something I struggle with to this day.
Both my parents failing health and need for specialist care. A job that was piling stress after stress on me.
I broke. 6 months off work with stress and depression, 6 months of weekly counselling, 3 months of daily care from my local CRIS team and countless anti depressants. I've no idea how many times I seriously considered and planned suicide. I've no idea to this day how or why I didn't do it.
I'm in a better place now but still struggle constantly with self confidence and my sense of self worth.
Some things I'm able to hide behind a mask. A gregarious, confident, fun, laughing, joking chap, without a care or concern in the world.
Beneath the mask.....not so good.
Some things I just can't get past....
Have I fallen since then? Yes. Has my past experience helped me recognise the approach of my own black dog? Yes. Will it come calling again? Who knows. |
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OP, never worry about sharing in your moment of need or even in good times. It helps you and it helps others, especially those that find it hard to talk. You have overcome a lot and not feeling strong all the time is fine. Glad you had that one person to help you. Also glad you feel a lot better. Stay strong, talk and share.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have my own problems, wouldn't talk about it in person to a stranger, had a few times with psychiatrist that left me feeling I'd had the biggest battering of my life both physically and mentally. I'll get by the best I can dealing with it on my own, too late for me anyway now, the important supposed best part of life is gone. Get by best I can |
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By *romleyM41Man
over a year ago
orpington / surrounding |
"I think so many people have a story to tell that never gets heard.
And they should be. The story when told can be a congratulatory nudge to self, an inspiration to others or simply for a stranger to feel they're not alone.
From long ago, my deepest, darkest lows.......
So many straws.
The loss of my daughter. Seperating from someone I truly thought was "the one". Losing a job that genuinly made me leap out of bed each day. All in the space of a few weeks either side of Christmas.
I drank way too much. I abused dru8s. I pushed away my friends and everyone who cared for me.
Except one person, who's friendship and love I tested to the limits, but never gave up on me. Her tears and faith bought me back to sanity. To this day I thank her for saving my life.
A soulless, loveless, mentally abusive marriage that pretty much destroyed my self confidence and sense of self worth. Something I struggle with to this day.
Both my parents failing health and need for specialist care. A job that was piling stress after stress on me.
I broke. 6 months off work with stress and depression, 6 months of weekly counselling, 3 months of daily care from my local CRIS team and countless anti depressants. I've no idea how many times I seriously considered and planned suicide. I've no idea to this day how or why I didn't do it.
I'm in a better place now but still struggle constantly with self confidence and my sense of self worth.
Some things I'm able to hide behind a mask. A gregarious, confident, fun, laughing, joking chap, without a care or concern in the world.
Beneath the mask.....not so good.
Some things I just can't get past....
Have I fallen since then? Yes. Has my past experience helped me recognise the approach of my own black dog? Yes. Will it come calling again? Who knows."
No one should feel like they can’t share either publicly or privately with someone they find comfort in. We have all done it and probably will again, try to keep it all I man and to ourselves but talking and sharing makes a huge difference.
Like you said everyone has their own story, when Ie as going through mine I actually found a lot of comfort in being completely honest and open on a chat room, knowing there was no judgement or fear of anyone knowing who I actually was so I could be me, and get it all off my chest.
Stay strong , look for those signs that things are taking a turn for the worse again, and regardless of whether this is a “sex site” I’ll always be willing to listen to anyone if they want to privately message a stranger, I’m no expert and probably. Any offer much in the way of professional advice but I’ll always listen for as long as someone needs to vent.
Also, CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) helped me massively with being to process and handle things going on in my life at the time, I am a massive advocate for it and would go so far as to say everyone should be taught this in school, might help people take a moment before making bad decisions and also help with a lot of struggles people have.
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By *illan-Killash OP Man
over a year ago
London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants |
"I think so many people have a story to tell that never gets heard.
And they should be. The story when told can be a congratulatory nudge to self, an inspiration to others or simply for a stranger to feel they're not alone.
From long ago, my deepest, darkest lows.......
So many straws.
The loss of my daughter. Seperating from someone I truly thought was "the one". Losing a job that genuinly made me leap out of bed each day. All in the space of a few weeks either side of Christmas.
I drank way too much. I abused dru8s. I pushed away my friends and everyone who cared for me.
Except one person, who's friendship and love I tested to the limits, but never gave up on me. Her tears and faith bought me back to sanity. To this day I thank her for saving my life.
A soulless, loveless, mentally abusive marriage that pretty much destroyed my self confidence and sense of self worth. Something I struggle with to this day.
Both my parents failing health and need for specialist care. A job that was piling stress after stress on me.
I broke. 6 months off work with stress and depression, 6 months of weekly counselling, 3 months of daily care from my local CRIS team and countless anti depressants. I've no idea how many times I seriously considered and planned suicide. I've no idea to this day how or why I didn't do it.
I'm in a better place now but still struggle constantly with self confidence and my sense of self worth.
Some things I'm able to hide behind a mask. A gregarious, confident, fun, laughing, joking chap, without a care or concern in the world.
Beneath the mask.....not so good.
Some things I just can't get past....
Have I fallen since then? Yes. Has my past experience helped me recognise the approach of my own black dog? Yes. Will it come calling again? Who knows.
No one should feel like they can’t share either publicly or privately with someone they find comfort in. We have all done it and probably will again, try to keep it all I man and to ourselves but talking and sharing makes a huge difference.
Like you said everyone has their own story, when Ie as going through mine I actually found a lot of comfort in being completely honest and open on a chat room, knowing there was no judgement or fear of anyone knowing who I actually was so I could be me, and get it all off my chest.
Stay strong , look for those signs that things are taking a turn for the worse again, and regardless of whether this is a “sex site” I’ll always be willing to listen to anyone if they want to privately message a stranger, I’m no expert and probably. Any offer much in the way of professional advice but I’ll always listen for as long as someone needs to vent.
Also, CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) helped me massively with being to process and handle things going on in my life at the time, I am a massive advocate for it and would go so far as to say everyone should be taught this in school, might help people take a moment before making bad decisions and also help with a lot of struggles people have.
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Just having a platform where you're "heard" is a massive help.
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By *romleyM41Man
over a year ago
orpington / surrounding |
"I think so many people have a story to tell that never gets heard.
And they should be. The story when told can be a congratulatory nudge to self, an inspiration to others or simply for a stranger to feel they're not alone.
From long ago, my deepest, darkest lows.......
So many straws.
The loss of my daughter. Seperating from someone I truly thought was "the one". Losing a job that genuinly made me leap out of bed each day. All in the space of a few weeks either side of Christmas.
I drank way too much. I abused dru8s. I pushed away my friends and everyone who cared for me.
Except one person, who's friendship and love I tested to the limits, but never gave up on me. Her tears and faith bought me back to sanity. To this day I thank her for saving my life.
A soulless, loveless, mentally abusive marriage that pretty much destroyed my self confidence and sense of self worth. Something I struggle with to this day.
Both my parents failing health and need for specialist care. A job that was piling stress after stress on me.
I broke. 6 months off work with stress and depression, 6 months of weekly counselling, 3 months of daily care from my local CRIS team and countless anti depressants. I've no idea how many times I seriously considered and planned suicide. I've no idea to this day how or why I didn't do it.
I'm in a better place now but still struggle constantly with self confidence and my sense of self worth.
Some things I'm able to hide behind a mask. A gregarious, confident, fun, laughing, joking chap, without a care or concern in the world.
Beneath the mask.....not so good.
Some things I just can't get past....
Have I fallen since then? Yes. Has my past experience helped me recognise the approach of my own black dog? Yes. Will it come calling again? Who knows.
No one should feel like they can’t share either publicly or privately with someone they find comfort in. We have all done it and probably will again, try to keep it all I man and to ourselves but talking and sharing makes a huge difference.
Like you said everyone has their own story, when Ie as going through mine I actually found a lot of comfort in being completely honest and open on a chat room, knowing there was no judgement or fear of anyone knowing who I actually was so I could be me, and get it all off my chest.
Stay strong , look for those signs that things are taking a turn for the worse again, and regardless of whether this is a “sex site” I’ll always be willing to listen to anyone if they want to privately message a stranger, I’m no expert and probably. Any offer much in the way of professional advice but I’ll always listen for as long as someone needs to vent.
Also, CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) helped me massively with being to process and handle things going on in my life at the time, I am a massive advocate for it and would go so far as to say everyone should be taught this in school, might help people take a moment before making bad decisions and also help with a lot of struggles people have.
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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago
Various |
"I think so many people have a story to tell that never gets heard.
And they should be. The story when told can be a congratulatory nudge to self, an inspiration to others or simply for a stranger to feel they're not alone.
From long ago, my deepest, darkest lows.......
So many straws.
The loss of my daughter. Seperating from someone I truly thought was "the one". Losing a job that genuinly made me leap out of bed each day. All in the space of a few weeks either side of Christmas.
I drank way too much. I abused dru8s. I pushed away my friends and everyone who cared for me.
Except one person, who's friendship and love I tested to the limits, but never gave up on me. Her tears and faith bought me back to sanity. To this day I thank her for saving my life.
A soulless, loveless, mentally abusive marriage that pretty much destroyed my self confidence and sense of self worth. Something I struggle with to this day.
Both my parents failing health and need for specialist care. A job that was piling stress after stress on me.
I broke. 6 months off work with stress and depression, 6 months of weekly counselling, 3 months of daily care from my local CRIS team and countless anti depressants. I've no idea how many times I seriously considered and planned suicide. I've no idea to this day how or why I didn't do it.
I'm in a better place now but still struggle constantly with self confidence and my sense of self worth.
Some things I'm able to hide behind a mask. A gregarious, confident, fun, laughing, joking chap, without a care or concern in the world.
Beneath the mask.....not so good.
Some things I just can't get past....
Have I fallen since then? Yes. Has my past experience helped me recognise the approach of my own black dog? Yes. Will it come calling again? Who knows."
Hopefully, if it does, we'll each be able to give our individual black dogs a biscuit and the space to see what they want, and why they've wandered by.
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By *illan-Killash OP Man
over a year ago
London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants |
"I think so many people have a story to tell that never gets heard.
And they should be. The story when told can be a congratulatory nudge to self, an inspiration to others or simply for a stranger to feel they're not alone.
From long ago, my deepest, darkest lows.......
So many straws.
The loss of my daughter. Seperating from someone I truly thought was "the one". Losing a job that genuinly made me leap out of bed each day. All in the space of a few weeks either side of Christmas.
I drank way too much. I abused dru8s. I pushed away my friends and everyone who cared for me.
Except one person, who's friendship and love I tested to the limits, but never gave up on me. Her tears and faith bought me back to sanity. To this day I thank her for saving my life.
A soulless, loveless, mentally abusive marriage that pretty much destroyed my self confidence and sense of self worth. Something I struggle with to this day.
Both my parents failing health and need for specialist care. A job that was piling stress after stress on me.
I broke. 6 months off work with stress and depression, 6 months of weekly counselling, 3 months of daily care from my local CRIS team and countless anti depressants. I've no idea how many times I seriously considered and planned suicide. I've no idea to this day how or why I didn't do it.
I'm in a better place now but still struggle constantly with self confidence and my sense of self worth.
Some things I'm able to hide behind a mask. A gregarious, confident, fun, laughing, joking chap, without a care or concern in the world.
Beneath the mask.....not so good.
Some things I just can't get past....
Have I fallen since then? Yes. Has my past experience helped me recognise the approach of my own black dog? Yes. Will it come calling again? Who knows.
Hopefully, if it does, we'll each be able to give our individual black dogs a biscuit and the space to see what they want, and why they've wandered by.
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I'll get some Bonio in.....  |
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