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When you don't really want to...you like how you are... but doctors won't give you an op till you drop a considerable amount of weight.
Wouldn't mind but the reason for needing to loose the weight is the risk under anesthetic.... yet they have offered me to have a gastric band... which requires anesthetic 
I have no health issues relating to my weight. Even my surgeon double checked my results were mine when doing my pre op... before refusing Me just on bmi..
So motivation needed.... I am losing it but the brat in me wants to just say sod it...
So far I've set myself things like... i want to get back into my bike leathers.. and I want to go horse riding again. Horse riding has a 15 stone limit at all the stables near me.
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Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t |
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t "
I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
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The only person to do this for is yourself, I have struggled my weight for 20 years...good luck x |
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I go rock climbing I use the wait and center of mass to my advantage it feels great when I finally do a route that's been bothering me. Use it as an excuse to train and build muscle |
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
The only person to do this for is yourself, I have struggled my weight for 20 years...good luck x"
that's the issue.
I'm not struggling with mu weight...I was very happy before being told to drop 11 stone in total... I have less than 9 to go now...
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"Have interim goals that are stepping stones to where you need to be. "
thanks I do. I have events over the next 2 years that I've set goals to get too..like I want another 2 stone off by new year.
I was doing okay, but my consultant changed the goal by almost a stone today.... and it just made me think fuck it. |
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
The only person to do this for is yourself, I have struggled my weight for 20 years...good luck xthat's the issue.
I'm not struggling with mu weight...I was very happy before being told to drop 11 stone in total... I have less than 9 to go now...
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Fair enough ... that's fantastic.. I'd like to lose another 6 stone to get where I'd like to be.. I've lost 3 and a half stone so far |
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"When you don't really want to...you like how you are... but doctors won't give you an op till you drop a considerable amount of weight.
Wouldn't mind but the reason for needing to loose the weight is the risk under anesthetic.... yet they have offered me to have a gastric band... which requires anesthetic
I have no health issues relating to my weight. Even my surgeon double checked my results were mine when doing my pre op... before refusing Me just on bmi..
So motivation needed.... I am losing it but the brat in me wants to just say sod it...
So far I've set myself things like... i want to get back into my bike leathers.. and I want to go horse riding again. Horse riding has a 15 stone limit at all the stables near me.
So other ideas for motivation "
I also needed motivation as I couldn't have an op because of bmi... my health and mental health was so bad.. I've now lost over 4st since April... a lot to go into,feel free to inbox if you want to know anything.. hope you get some good advice from here x |
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"Change a few habits gradually and don't weigh yourself too often. "
that won't help with motivating me to shift weight I don't want to shift in the first place
They told me to increase my activity... I'm already active... I swim daily and do aqua aerobics. Have to be careful what I do due to issues nothing to do with being a bigger girl. Hypermobility being one issue.
I get weighed once a week and I'm doing measurements every 4 weeks x |
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"Could you speak to the doctor about getting that new drug? Sema-something?
Not sure who they offer it to but it’s meant to be great "
Semaglutide .. good luck with that there's a manufacturing problem that's been going on for months which makes getting hold of it nigh on impossible, not only that but because of the way it works ( essentially suppressing the appetite) as soon as you stop using it then weight will go back on |
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"Could you speak to the doctor about getting that new drug? Sema-something?
Not sure who they offer it to but it’s meant to be great
Semaglutide .. good luck with that there's a manufacturing problem that's been going on for months which makes getting hold of it nigh on impossible, not only that but because of the way it works ( essentially suppressing the appetite) as soon as you stop using it then weight will go back on "
Well that’s a shame. Heard promising things about it |
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"Could you speak to the doctor about getting that new drug? Sema-something?
Not sure who they offer it to but it’s meant to be great "
nope. I wouldn't ever take medication to loose weight. Last time I did that, it gave me issues that have never gone away. X plus you would just put it back on again if you stopped
I can loose the weight, done it several times... it's finding the motivation when they could do it anyway.. I've been told if I could pay for it then I could have the op. X( sadly that's not an option) |
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"Could you speak to the doctor about getting that new drug? Sema-something?
Not sure who they offer it to but it’s meant to be great nope. I wouldn't ever take medication to loose weight. Last time I did that, it gave me issues that have never gone away. X plus you would just put it back on again if you stopped
I can loose the weight, done it several times... it's finding the motivation when they could do it anyway.. I've been told if I could pay for it then I could have the op. X( sadly that's not an option)"
Well sadly, here’s the hard truth
Motivation is crap because no one’s motivated day to day. When things get hard, motivation leaves
Discipline will get you everything you need and more. Discipline never dwindles or shrinks. |
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"Could you speak to the doctor about getting that new drug? Sema-something?
Not sure who they offer it to but it’s meant to be great nope. I wouldn't ever take medication to loose weight. Last time I did that, it gave me issues that have never gone away. X plus you would just put it back on again if you stopped
I can loose the weight, done it several times... it's finding the motivation when they could do it anyway.. I've been told if I could pay for it then I could have the op. X( sadly that's not an option)
Well sadly, here’s the hard truth
Motivation is crap because no one’s motivated day to day. When things get hard, motivation leaves
Discipline will get you everything you need and more. Discipline never dwindles or shrinks. "
lol my discipline definitely goes awol ..I've had some good ideas in private , as well as some on here.
It would be so much easier if i was doing it because I wanted to, rather than had to. |
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
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Will it mean lots more sex? 
What motivated you to lose weight before? Could you lean on that?
Sponsored slim?
Just diet today? And then again tomorrow... because one day is easier than long stretches of time. X |
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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago
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It’s easier said than done but joining a class or joining a local group that takes part in brisk walks/jogs might help?
I see more people exercising in pairs nowadays, I assume that’s one way to remain motivated. |
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
Will it mean lots more sex?
What motivated you to lose weight before? Could you lean on that?
Sponsored slim?
Just diet today? And then again tomorrow... because one day is easier than long stretches of time. X"
Spite motivated me the last time
I was seeing a guy who loved big girls. He cheated on me with a bigger girl when I lost 2 stone. He told me to put the weight back on.. I lost loads... 
The time before I just decided I was going to be
The biggest issue is I have a issue that I link bad times in my life to being slim. |
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
Will it mean lots more sex?
What motivated you to lose weight before? Could you lean on that?
Sponsored slim?
Just diet today? And then again tomorrow... because one day is easier than long stretches of time. X Spite motivated me the last time
I was seeing a guy who loved big girls. He cheated on me with a bigger girl when I lost 2 stone. He told me to put the weight back on.. I lost loads...
The time before I just decided I was going to be
The biggest issue is I have a issue that I link bad times in my life to being slim. "
Well without getting into it too deeply, are you sure you like the way you are now? Or just don’t like the idea of being slimmer? Bit of both? Worth thinking about
As far as diet goes, there’s certain diet types that are designed to make losing weight easier. Something like intermittent fasting might work for you |
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Well without getting into it too deeply, are you sure you like the way you are now? Or just don’t like the idea of being slimmer? Bit of both? Worth thinking about
As far as diet goes, there’s certain diet types that are designed to make losing weight easier. Something like intermittent fasting might work for you "
I follow slimming world but don't do the unlimited free foods. Ie I watch portion sizes on pasta, rice, chicken etc. I find fasting makes me feel awful. I drink lots of water.
My first husband was a fitness instructor and a nutritionist, so I kinda know how to...the how to isn't the issue... its the why should I.
I did discuss the first question on a therapy session and we came to the conclusion that while I had no direct health issues due to my weight, I actually enjoyed it.
I'm very active in my daily life, as in even my holidays I'm normally hiking up a volcano.
I have had someone point out that once I've had my op, if I'm not happy, I can always put weight back on... which is true.
So far I have.... bike leathers as a goal ( I'm not replacing them unless I crash)
I've also like the idea someone said of doing it sponsored..as then it's for someone else not me. |
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Well without getting into it too deeply, are you sure you like the way you are now? Or just don’t like the idea of being slimmer? Bit of both? Worth thinking about
As far as diet goes, there’s certain diet types that are designed to make losing weight easier. Something like intermittent fasting might work for you
I follow slimming world but don't do the unlimited free foods. Ie I watch portion sizes on pasta, rice, chicken etc. I find fasting makes me feel awful. I drink lots of water.
My first husband was a fitness instructor and a nutritionist, so I kinda know how to...the how to isn't the issue... its the why should I.
I did discuss the first question on a therapy session and we came to the conclusion that while I had no direct health issues due to my weight, I actually enjoyed it.
I'm very active in my daily life, as in even my holidays I'm normally hiking up a volcano.
I have had someone point out that once I've had my op, if I'm not happy, I can always put weight back on... which is true.
So far I have.... bike leathers as a goal ( I'm not replacing them unless I crash)
I've also like the idea someone said of doing it sponsored..as then it's for someone else not me. "
That’s not a bad way to keep yourself accountable for your results, or lack of.  |
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"If you can swim even better it's a great exercise as your using the entire body "
I already swim 4 to 5 times a week and do aqua aerobics,and pilates... also have my physio to do daily which is mostly resistance bands and small weights.
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"Your weight is getting in the way of needed medical care and you can’t find the motivation?
You might just have to stay this way
What kind of motivation was you expecting fab to give you that a doctor saying “your too big to operate on” wouldn’t I need a medical procedure that I'd need even if I was a size 8. The fact is they are prepared to give me the more risky gastric surgery.. yet not something i need...
They refused me when I was slimmer as what if I wanted more kids or met a new partner
Will it mean lots more sex?
What motivated you to lose weight before? Could you lean on that?
Sponsored slim?
Just diet today? And then again tomorrow... because one day is easier than long stretches of time. X Spite motivated me the last time
I was seeing a guy who loved big girls. He cheated on me with a bigger girl when I lost 2 stone. He told me to put the weight back on.. I lost loads...
The time before I just decided I was going to be
The biggest issue is I have a issue that I link bad times in my life to being slim. "
Spite the doctor! Lose the weight, have the op for free then have fun putting the weight back on..
This time will be a good slim time.  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"If you can swim even better it's a great exercise as your using the entire body I already swim 4 to 5 times a week and do aqua aerobics,and pilates... also have my physio to do daily which is mostly resistance bands and small weights. "
That's great, which just leaves the diet cut off or reduce greasy food, dairy products salt and sugar keep a guide on your intake fruit can also put weight on so control by using say a cup as a measurement some fruit helps release toxins from the body which are great like black berries as an example do little research then make a list |
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"Have interim goals that are stepping stones to where you need to be. thanks I do. I have events over the next 2 years that I've set goals to get too..like I want another 2 stone off by new year.
I was doing okay, but my consultant changed the goal by almost a stone today.... and it just made me think fuck it. "
Do I say keeps you off the wating list.
I have a cysts that's needs removing nothing wrong with my waight but just told they are not taking elective surgery. Wating for GP to call but not holding on to much hope will be going private in the spring. |
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"If you can swim even better it's a great exercise as your using the entire body I already swim 4 to 5 times a week and do aqua aerobics,and pilates... also have my physio to do daily which is mostly resistance bands and small weights.
That's great, which just leaves the diet cut off or reduce greasy food, dairy products salt and sugar keep a guide on your intake fruit can also put weight on so control by using say a cup as a measurement some fruit helps release toxins from the body which are great like black berries as an example do little research then make a list "
I do find Apples help fill me up and they take time to eat so slows down consumption. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Google what would happen if you don't have the op.. That would probably motivate me.
You sound pretty adventurous..stick to things that play to your desires rather than your resistance. Horse riding agsin is a good motivation. Choose something else too which has a weight restriction.. That you've always wanted to do or that you've not done for a while. Gliding? Indoor skydiving? Theme park? Ski lessons?
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"If you can swim even better it's a great exercise as your using the entire body I already swim 4 to 5 times a week and do aqua aerobics,and pilates... also have my physio to do daily which is mostly resistance bands and small weights.
That's great, which just leaves the diet cut off or reduce greasy food, dairy products salt and sugar keep a guide on your intake fruit can also put weight on so control by using say a cup as a measurement some fruit helps release toxins from the body which are great like black berries as an example do little research then make a list
I do find Apples help fill me up and they take time to eat so slows down consumption."
They also contain sugar |
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This may not help with motivation, but it may help with the journey - there's a therapy called 'virtual gastric band'. It's a combination of CBT and hyp-no-therapy and it really works! I had 4 sessions about 5 years ago and lost 3 stone without it being an issue. The therapist gave me audios to play as I went to sleep or if I felt like stuffing my face and I found it really helpful.
Weight snuck up a bit after I had covid so I'm going back for a top-up course next week, focusing on my over fondness / addiction to sweet things.
The hyp-no-therapy is gentle and calming - more like suggestions and strategies rather than anything pushy. The therapist can also suggest small, achievable goals which act like stepping stones.
(Not allowed to say hyp in the forums!)
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"If you can swim even better it's a great exercise as your using the entire body I already swim 4 to 5 times a week and do aqua aerobics,and pilates... also have my physio to do daily which is mostly resistance bands and small weights.
That's great, which just leaves the diet cut off or reduce greasy food, dairy products salt and sugar keep a guide on your intake fruit can also put weight on so control by using say a cup as a measurement some fruit helps release toxins from the body which are great like black berries as an example do little research then make a list
I do find Apples help fill me up and they take time to eat so slows down consumption.
They also contain sugar "
Yes but more filling than a packet of chrisp or a chocolate bar as a snack. |
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"If you can swim even better it's a great exercise as your using the entire body I already swim 4 to 5 times a week and do aqua aerobics,and pilates... also have my physio to do daily which is mostly resistance bands and small weights.
That's great, which just leaves the diet cut off or reduce greasy food, dairy products salt and sugar keep a guide on your intake fruit can also put weight on so control by using say a cup as a measurement some fruit helps release toxins from the body which are great like black berries as an example do little research then make a list
I do find Apples help fill me up and they take time to eat so slows down consumption.
They also contain sugar
Yes but more filling than a packet of chrisp or a chocolate bar as a snack."
True and help digest food |
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I’ve currently got a goal to fit back into my riding leathers, but also because when I did lose the weight I felt a lot better.
Thankfully nowhere near where I was back a year ago, but still a long way to go. Cut down on what I eat, started walking more etc. |
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"When you don't really want to...you like how you are... but doctors won't give you an op till you drop a considerable amount of weight.
Wouldn't mind but the reason for needing to loose the weight is the risk under anesthetic.... yet they have offered me to have a gastric band... which requires anesthetic
I have no health issues relating to my weight. Even my surgeon double checked my results were mine when doing my pre op... before refusing Me just on bmi..
So motivation needed.... I am losing it but the brat in me wants to just say sod it...
So far I've set myself things like... i want to get back into my bike leathers.. and I want to go horse riding again. Horse riding has a 15 stone limit at all the stables near me.
So other ideas for motivation "
Like most of life, it's your choice, lose it and have better opportunities and the op that you want... Don't lose it and complain but know in your head you didn't bow down to "the man"... "nobody tells me what to do".
Easy to say but a lot harder to do and if you do find the magic motivation to start shifting the weight... Share it on here as god knows I need to do the same thing. |
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"When you don't really want to...you like how you are... but doctors won't give you an op till you drop a considerable amount of weight.
Wouldn't mind but the reason for needing to loose the weight is the risk under anesthetic.... yet they have offered me to have a gastric band... which requires anesthetic
I have no health issues relating to my weight. Even my surgeon double checked my results were mine when doing my pre op... before refusing Me just on bmi..
So motivation needed.... I am losing it but the brat in me wants to just say sod it...
So far I've set myself things like... i want to get back into my bike leathers.. and I want to go horse riding again. Horse riding has a 15 stone limit at all the stables near me.
So other ideas for motivation "
Out of interest, do you really want the operation? |
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I am losing weight. I have lost over 2 stone already.... just have 9 to go. It was 8 but they decided that didn't put me low enough.
To those asking. I need a hysterectomy... I've been trying to have one for over 22 years
..think my lack of motivation is I've lost the weight before, they then refused me it for several other reasons.
So potentially I'm losing weight that I'm quite happy being the size I am...and for me being slimmer has issues and mentally it unsettles me. For them to find yet another reason not to do it.
The other thing is..there reason for not doing so is a cop out.... as they have offered me an operation I don't want and the risks are actually higher
I don't need advice on how to lose weight,what to eat etc as to be fair... I know and can when I set my mind to it do it.
I need this operation and thing is every month I don't have it.. I get anything from 10 days to actually 4 whole weeks where it makes physically leaving my house difficult...and they could do it without anesthetic if they wanted.
I was okay ish till they added an extra stone to what they wanted me to lose. This is the 2nd time they have changed the goal. That's why I'm lacking motivation as I feel I will get there and still be refused for some stupid reason.
So i need to find a reason other than because they said so.... have had some good ideas.
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"I am losing weight. I have lost over 2 stone already.... just have 9 to go. It was 8 but they decided that didn't put me low enough.
To those asking. I need a hysterectomy... I've been trying to have one for over 22 years
..think my lack of motivation is I've lost the weight before, they then refused me it for several other reasons.
So potentially I'm losing weight that I'm quite happy being the size I am...and for me being slimmer has issues and mentally it unsettles me. For them to find yet another reason not to do it.
The other thing is..there reason for not doing so is a cop out.... as they have offered me an operation I don't want and the risks are actually higher
I don't need advice on how to lose weight,what to eat etc as to be fair... I know and can when I set my mind to it do it.
I need this operation and thing is every month I don't have it.. I get anything from 10 days to actually 4 whole weeks where it makes physically leaving my house difficult...and they could do it without anesthetic if they wanted.
I was okay ish till they added an extra stone to what they wanted me to lose. This is the 2nd time they have changed the goal. That's why I'm lacking motivation as I feel I will get there and still be refused for some stupid reason.
So i need to find a reason other than because they said so.... have had some good ideas.
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A few issues all mixed in there. Firstly.. Well done on losing your first 2 stones. Amazing achievement. As for how crap the comms has been with the health care provided... Probably best you have an adult conversation with them and be crystal clear about how it has unsettled and demotivated you. If they do it to you they can be doing it to others... And plus you may just get the clarification you need to give you your motivation. Good luck with it though |
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