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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn’t give a rats arse how strangers view me.
I can give a shit how friends see me.
And if someone I care about views me in a bad way. I care lots.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I care how people I like view me, and about how those I have to deal with in my daily life do.
I also care that people don't judge me based on rumours and lies, but it seems that ship has sailed in some cases 
I probably care too much about how other people see me, but I know and understand the completely ridiculous logic behind it, so I am OK with that. |
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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
I used to but not anymore. I just try to be the best version of myself - for myself - and whether people subscribe or not, I frankly do not care. Caring about what people think is a losing game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
Yes and no. My looks and outside facial say 12 year old so childish when in reality I'm really a gentleman polite and sensual. But hey each there own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do care.
I care that homophobic and bigoted people see me. So I remind them the world is not theirs.
I care that my friends and family see me. I lost my twin, so I have to occupy his space in my world too.
I care that being fat fem and gay isn’t the living hell it’s meant to be.
I care about personal security and how my work sees me. I’ve been homeless twice, it’s not pleasant. So I care.
But I tell myself I don’t care. Cos that’s an easy and comforting lie to myself. |
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Yes I do. I don’t want others to think I’m being mean/rude to them. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad, intentionally or unintentionally.
This came up the other day for me, I said to someone they come across really rude and I didn’t want to talk to them. They said they didn’t care what people think of them because life is short.
That’s great, go be a twat to someone else then and leave me alone  |
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"I care how people I like view me, and about how those I have to deal with in my daily life do.
I also care that people don't judge me based on rumours and lies, but it seems that ship has sailed in some cases
I probably care too much about how other people see me, but I know and understand the completely ridiculous logic behind it, so I am OK with that."
I'm needy. I care how ppl see me. More so if I like them but even those I don't it annoys me if they don't like me
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By *yreGuy99Man
over a year ago
Somewhere in Moria |
I don't care what people think of me. If someone judges me without getting to know me, they were never worth my time in the beginning.
If you take something I say the wrong way. That's your problem.
That's just my view |
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I constantly battle with it. Very low self esteem really and this has only happened in the last few years. I never used to care but I find socialising crippling. I always worry about how other people see me and am just so cautious as a response. It's tiring and illogical, I'd love not to care again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've learnt to care less as I've got older, especially when it comes to others opinions. There's a big difference between people who know you and people who know of you. It's only the people who truly know you that have the right to form an opinion, everyone else's opinion? None of my business. |
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Not caring how others view you isn't carte blanche to behave badly in my opinion.
I have no influence on how other people see me because they're looking through the lens of their experience. Earlier someone said they don't like Judi Dench because she looks like a step relative who was horrible. Dame Judi would be daft to care about that because she has no control over it
I do care how people I love and like see me but other than that I think as long as I behave in a decent way towards people I'm happy and I not bothered what people think of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But I tell myself I don’t care. Cos that’s an easy and comforting lie to myself. "
Don’t we all sometimes. I’ve always read and like reading your posts. I’m
Just putting it here that I reckon we’d have got along if we ever have met up. 
Even if you don’t like my rainbows.  *I remember that type of stuff.
*woody offers a fist bump. |
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I worked with a woman who cared deeply what everyone thought of her. I used to get texts late at night from her explaining at length a comment she'd made, I'd usually forgotten all about it and certainly didn't think worse of her for whatever it was.
Oddly she held some awful views which she expressed freely but never thought there was anything wrong with that. |
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People that I know intimately and have a relationship with yes.
It's partly logical. If someone doesn't know me well then they aren't really in the best place to judge me.
Gossip? General opinion. Infamy Infamy they've all got it in for me.
It's not that I do not care at all. I am just of a firm belief that trying to please everyone is both impossible and recipe for psychological distress. Well it's a diagnostic criteria for several personality disorders. It's healthy to have an internal locus of evaluation. |
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I used too. But not any more. If people think well of me, then they communicate positively with me, if not not, I’m not going to worry too much. I’m not perfect, no one is and sometimes personalities clash and mistruths are told, it can’t be controlled so should be forgotten |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
I don't like it when people think I'm a giant dildo no Meli.
I mean each to their own but I do think some people don't get when I'm just being the class clown here which is fun to do to spice it up from the usual doom and gloom you know? |
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I like to be liked but I don't go out of my way to curry favour.
Like others have said, the opinions of strangers mean nothing to me and I only value those from people who actually know me.
I'm well aware that I'm fab marmite and I'm ok with that.
People obviously dislike me because I don't bend the knee on here but those that take the time to compliment me claim that being my own man and not blowing smoke is what they find most attractive. |
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The older I get, the fewer fucks I give.
What I do care about is being misrepresented. If people don't like me for me, that's fine, but if they don't like me cos of some made up shit? That bothers me.
It's pretty pointless, though, because I can't be in charge of that.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The older I get, the fewer fucks I give.
What I do care about is being misrepresented. If people don't like me for me, that's fine, but if they don't like me cos of some made up shit? That bothers me.
It's pretty pointless, though, because I can't be in charge of that.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x
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Why did I not buy you a drink? I need to remember this type of shit.
*barman, get that girl a drink. |
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"The older I get, the fewer fucks I give.
What I do care about is being misrepresented. If people don't like me for me, that's fine, but if they don't like me cos of some made up shit? That bothers me.
It's pretty pointless, though, because I can't be in charge of that.
What about you, OP?
Mrs TMN x
Why did I not buy you a drink? I need to remember this type of shit.
*barman, get that girl a drink. "
I don't know, Woody. I don't know. X |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I like to be liked. But I don't lose sleep over it if I'm not.
At work I think a lot of people think I wander around doing nothing. That's not the case and I wish they understood all of the aspects of my varied job. Again, I don't lose sleep over it but it would be good to be valued rather than wrongly judged. |
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"The folks who say they don’t care…how true is that really? After all, it’s fab. Surely everyone cares how they are viewed on here to sone degree? "
100% true. We present ourselves a certain way. After that we can't influence how people see us.
That doesn't mean we think it gives us free rein to behave like idiots just that we know some people will like us, some won't and some will be indifferent. |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
I care about my appearance and my hygiene as what people think of me no like.me.for.me who I am and what I am if not go fuck yourself |
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"The folks who say they don’t care…how true is that really? After all, it’s fab. Surely everyone cares how they are viewed on here to sone degree? "
If you’re a horrible person maybe you would. I’m a nice person, I’m not mean, I don’t gossip etc. I just get on with my thing. So if people don’t like me I really don’t care why as I’ve not done anything wrong apart from maybe disagree or have different views. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure it's possible to really know how someone view's you.
It's schrodinger's cat
When I realised that I let it all go."
How is it Schrödinger's cat? I'm curious about that reference in context to this.
I don't think we ever know how someone views us truly. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I care how people I like view me, and about how those I have to deal with in my daily life do.
I also care that people don't judge me based on rumours and lies, but it seems that ship has sailed in some cases
I probably care too much about how other people see me, but I know and understand the completely ridiculous logic behind it, so I am OK with that."
Ah fuck it if the ship has sailed in those cases. This thread is going to be a rather sweary one and I didn't think it would be.  If people judge you on those things? That's a them problem, not yours
You're aware of how you think/feel about it and you know why. That's all there needs to be really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The folks who say they don’t care…how true is that really? After all, it’s fab. Surely everyone cares how they are viewed on here to sone degree? "
Very true in my case.
I don’t think I’m a twat our owt like that. I reckon im a decent enough chap. People will either like me or they’ll think I’m a dickhead. I can’t control that so why do I need to care? It’s a waste of my energy.
I’m not changing to fit in with the crowd, or to gain another’s affections. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The folks who say they don’t care…how true is that really? After all, it’s fab. Surely everyone cares how they are viewed on here to sone degree? "
Very true.
Those I talk to don't know me, they only know what I choose to share. I don't put much thought into what they actually think of me as I'm aware they only want to fuck me anyway.
The ones I don't talk to, well most are up their own arse to even realise other people exist on here. The rest are just (insert word I can't here)
So yeah, I don't care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care how strangers view me. I don't care how anyone views me except my daughter and her children.
It matters very much what they think of me, i love them and care for them and i always want them to think good of me  |
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I’m intrigued more than I’d say I cared. The interesting thing about views and opinions imo is that they say more about the person who holds the view than the person it’s about.
What I mean by that is I remember reading something which basically said that we each individually exist 1000s of times over in the minds of others based on their own ideals and perceptions of right, wrong, funny, kind etc with that in mind and you’re always gonna have more negative perceptions than positive ones |
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"The folks who say they don’t care…how true is that really? After all, it’s fab. Surely everyone cares how they are viewed on here to sone degree? "
Starting out here years ago I may have cared how others saw me but I wasn't using the forums back then so it was only every one to one chats.
As time as gone on and I've witnessed first hand the blatant lies, myths and legends created by some people in the hope of being liked or venerated I've come to see how shallow certain individuals really are and I don't want anything to do with that world.
I don't post pics for fabs, which is lucky based on how few I get and I will go out of my way to avoid popularity contests.
I genuinely don't lose any sleep over how people I've never met view me because those opinions are either based solely on my ramblings on here or they are opinions given to them by their friendly neighbourhood influencer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care how strangers view me. I don't care how anyone views me except my daughter and her children.
It matters very much what they think of me, i love them and care for them and i always want them to think good of me "
I think i'm invisible to most people anyway, i seem to fade into the background so no one would be thinking about me at all.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do care.
I care that homophobic and bigoted people see me. So I remind them the world is not theirs.
I care that my friends and family see me. I lost my twin, so I have to occupy his space in my world too.
I care that being fat fem and gay isn’t the living hell it’s meant to be.
I care about personal security and how my work sees me. I’ve been homeless twice, it’s not pleasant. So I care.
But I tell myself I don’t care. Cos that’s an easy and comforting lie to myself. "
 I really appreciate the authenticity and openness. If you've had personal experience of negativity, lived experience of certain things than you're more likely to care because you have been or could be potentially affected by it.
When you say you don't care, full on blanket ban for caring it is an easier lie. It's easier than saying this is how I actually feel. I don't think caring is always the negative depiction that's used. There can be a lot of positivity in caring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense. |
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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense. "
It doesnt hurt at all that you are awesome and sexy as sin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense. "
I wouldn't say not caring makes you arrogant. |
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"Those I talk to don't know me, they only know what I choose to share. I don't put much thought into what they actually think of me as I'm aware they only want to fuck me anyway."
That’s not true. I also want to get riotously d*unk with you in a tiki bar and criticise complete strangers together from the safety of a booth in the corner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense.
It doesnt hurt at all that you are awesome and sexy as sin"
 thank you beautiful lady x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are those that value their worth by the number of social media followers, likes on their Instagram posts or Fabs on their photos.
Their entire self worth determined by what image they’re portraying and how they’re perceived by strangers.
Me? Meh. Just send boobs and vulva to my inbox. That’s enough to keep me happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense.
I wouldn't say not caring makes you arrogant. "
Then we disagree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those I talk to don't know me, they only know what I choose to share. I don't put much thought into what they actually think of me as I'm aware they only want to fuck me anyway.
That’s not true. I also want to get riotously d*unk with you in a tiki bar and criticise complete strangers together from the safety of a booth in the corner."
Then have sex? |
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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense.
It doesnt hurt at all that you are awesome and sexy as sin
thank you beautiful lady x"
Welcome muchly (mwah) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I absolutely do care how others view me...but i can accept we are all different and not every one can or will like me!
How i view myself somedays can be concerning too tbh  |
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I don't care, I know myself and my heart and those who are for me will see it too.
If too much time is spent caring what others think then life is not your own, it becomes their life.
The most important thing is to know a person's intentions and know that not everyone has a vendetta or hidden agenda. Inner peace is very important because life has some extremely bitter people in it |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Those I talk to don't know me, they only know what I choose to share. I don't put much thought into what they actually think of me as I'm aware they only want to fuck me anyway.
That’s not true. I also want to get riotously d*unk with you in a tiki bar and criticise complete strangers together from the safety of a booth in the corner."
I want to do that with her too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those I talk to don't know me, they only know what I choose to share. I don't put much thought into what they actually think of me as I'm aware they only want to fuck me anyway.
That’s not true. I also want to get riotously d*unk with you in a tiki bar and criticise complete strangers together from the safety of a booth in the corner.
I want to do that with her too!"
Ladies first |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Those I talk to don't know me, they only know what I choose to share. I don't put much thought into what they actually think of me as I'm aware they only want to fuck me anyway.
That’s not true. I also want to get riotously d*unk with you in a tiki bar and criticise complete strangers together from the safety of a booth in the corner.
I want to do that with her too!
Ladies first "
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"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense. "
You’re pretty arrogant tbf |
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On here with lots of strangers, with my sense of humour with people who don't really know me I care less. One differing view, support a different political party, have a laugh about midgets and suddenly you can piss people off. Then the White Knights gallop in with their shiny lance's to have a prod when in real life they couldn't lift one.
People I care about. I don't need to worry about as that's covered.
I guess anyone who is on the side of the midgets can block me or write some notes on me!
I like midget gems if that counts btw. |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
I never think about it, and I never conduct myself in a different manner to be liked by others.
I just am. Take it or leave either way I’ll only ignore you anyway and talk to you when I remember to.
The mr
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I care how others see me. I'm not arrogant enough to not give a fuck. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not but I like to present myself as the best version of me. If that makes sense.
You’re pretty arrogant tbf "
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Believe it or not I care.
Not about how I look, or if I’m popular or any of that malarkey.
I do care that people know that I’m big hearted beneath it all. And that *I* care. Might be a bit sappy, but there it is.
Caveat - the bitches & bastards who just don’t like me for whatever agenda they have… that I don’t give two hoots about |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Believe it or not I care.
Not about how I look, or if I’m popular or any of that malarkey.
I do care that people know that I’m big hearted beneath it all. And that *I* care. Might be a bit sappy, but there it is.
Caveat - the bitches & bastards who just don’t like me for whatever agenda they have… that I don’t give two hoots about "
Sap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I care about how others view me. I don’t want them to think I’m a horrible person. Even if I don’t like them. It’s still kinda crippling but it’s got better with, yep, you guessed it- Therapy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care"
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not. |
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not."
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog |
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People’s opinions about you are just that, their opinion.
If it’s a random on here then they don’t know me anyway so I couldn’t care less.
If it’s a friend then I would care more what they thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not.
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like a few others, I care more than I should. Even about strangers' opinion of me. I'm trying to accept that if I want to speak up, some people won't like me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not.
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not.
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog "
What if I like boiling frogs?? Lol |
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over a year ago
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"Yes I do. I don’t want others to think I’m being mean/rude to them. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad, intentionally or unintentionally.
This came up the other day for me, I said to someone they come across really rude and I didn’t want to talk to them. They said they didn’t care what people think of them because life is short.
That’s great, go be a twat to someone else then and leave me alone "
And that's not weird. Or a sign of you being needy or wanting everyone to like you. Not wanting to hurt others is a good way of being, in my mind at least.
Yes. If you don't care and they don't want to talk to you? Go twat it up without you. |
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not.
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog
It's pretty sociopathic, right? "
I'm rereading your messages for clues |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
I don't generally give a fuck what people think, I was singing 'lets go fly a kite' at the top of my lungs, arms raised and wide on the school run. The kids thought I was mental, I couldn't have cared less. They wouldn't stop bickering, they wouldn't listen to me so I did that, they soon stopped their bickering to 'stop mam, your embarrassing.' It worked lol
So yes, think what you want, I don't care.
But I do care about honesty. That's the only time I care, I tend to overshare as I want to make sure people know what I say is real. Although biased by my opinion, or how I felt at the time, I do try to be upfront.
But I know I need to think of others and how it may affect them if what I am saying includes them too. Thats a learning progress *shrugs* |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
I generally give zero fucks as it relates to being viewed on her ...in life I only care as it relates to my career/job. |
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not.
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog
What if I like boiling frogs?? Lol"
Just not bunnies or hedgehogs. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I care that I come across exactly how I intend to. If somebody doesn't like that, because let's face it one person may think I'm amazing while another thinks I'm a twunt, then it's no point worrying over. By being one thing, you are going to turn others off you.
I'll be me, I won't try to be somebody else to please anyone. I'll worry about doing things how I want to project myself, not how others choose to see/view/take it. |
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Don't really think about. How do you know why they viewed you anyway? However it is interesting (and sometimes disconcerting) when someone veiwed you:
5 mins ago
20 mins ago
35 mins ago
55 mins ago
1hr ago
2 hrs ago
4 hrs ago
7 hrs ago
Yesterday |
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"I care that I come across exactly how I intend to. If somebody doesn't like that, because let's face it one person may think I'm amazing while another thinks I'm a twunt, then it's no point worrying over. By being one thing, you are going to turn others off you.
I'll be me, I won't try to be somebody else to please anyone. I'll worry about doing things how I want to project myself, not how others choose to see/view/take it. "
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Don't really think about. How do you know why they viewed you anyway? However it is interesting (and sometimes disconcerting) when someone veiwed you:
5 mins ago
20 mins ago
35 mins ago
55 mins ago
1hr ago
2 hrs ago
4 hrs ago
7 hrs ago
Yesterday "
This answer. Brilliant. Thank you. x |
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But I tell myself I don’t care. Cos that’s an easy and comforting lie to myself.
Don’t we all sometimes. I’ve always read and like reading your posts. I’m
Just putting it here that I reckon we’d have got along if we ever have met up.
Even if you don’t like my rainbows. *I remember that type of stuff.
*woody offers a fist bump. "
I like rainbows. Even been known to appreciate a fist bump occasionally |
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"I probably care a lot more than I should. It's easy to say that I am the way I am and people can like it or lump it but I've always thought that if I'm in the company of that person regularly then I need to make the best impression.
Similarly on here when I started out, I didn't want to make any big or bold statements that rubbed anyone the wrong way but I've gotten better at dealing with that the more time I've spent on here.
I've rambled a bit so TIL: Yes, I do care
Aw I think its different if its people your in the company with regularly but then get to know the real you and they can either like that or not.
That's generally how approach it. Start off nice and inoffensive and then slowly introduce parts of my personality so they're already used to me like a boiling frog
What if I like boiling frogs?? Lol
Just not bunnies or hedgehogs."
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I don’t mind at all Meli. It really is up to them to make their own mind up about me. The only exception is when they make their own mind up about me without getting to know me… then that’s really just silly behaviour. Still doesn’t bother me either way though |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
I don't care about most things. However if someone thinks I'm something I'm most definitely not..then it bothers me
Things like if someone thinks I could do something against my moral code. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
I used to care but being an outsider when I was young due to being deaf and mixed race and getting peoples prejudices for a lifetime means I really don't care anymore. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I care too much.
But I’m content in who I am and how I behave so it’s not something I dwell on unless it’s shoved in front of me.
Twonk
I support this statement
You clearly missed me. "
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The only time we were bothered was when someone described us as unapproachable..
something that we’ve never considered ourselves and have worked hard to be friendly and fun.
We’re hardly “10’s” and consider ourselves normal. |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
On here I really don't care...why would I give any thought to what some strangers opinion/s of me are???
I do care about the opinions of people that know me, I know they will give it honestly x
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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago
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Genuinely couldn't give a f... used to care when I was younger like always wanted be part of the in crowd since I became older and a very little wiser the opinions of people meant less and less to me view me however you wish |
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I'm human, so of course I do. I care very much about how certain people view me but less about the opinions of others.
We all want to be liked, valued, respected and loved in some ways. Some of us more than others of course.
I don't try to be someone I'm not to win approval, at least I hope I don't anymore.
My circle in the real world is actually quite small and we all love each other fiercely.
When it comes to work then I hope I'm liked but mostly I hope my knowledge, experience and skills are valued.
When it comes to fab there are only a very small number of people who's opinion of me I care about.
I hope those people like me and are genuine in that. I think they are and I really care about them. Time is a precious resource for us all so I never want to be a regret.
I'm afraid the rest are strangers on the internet. Sure, I hope most think I'm likeable but there's no relationships there.
Ultimately my days of people pleasing are over. I want genuine connections and I'm working much harder at liking myself more too. It's only now I realise just how important that is.
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I think for most of us its impossible to not be at least a little bothered by this from time to time. Im conscious I will be viewed very differently by my oldest friends, family to how I am viewed in work, by vanilla dates and places like this.
All the versions of me are authentically me but sometimes I do wince at how I might come across particularly here. |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
Just be you, we are all different. No point in hiding who u really are and what your wants are. If you click with someone then its good. |
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Yes I guess I do care to a certain degree. But it mostly applies to people I know. If someone I do not know doesn't like me then it isn't really going to bother me that much.
Years ago I would have been so upset if someone viewed me in a negative light but I'm past that now thank fuck. |
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Our next door neighbour doesn't like me, a woman round the corner has taken one comment I made and run with it to assume that I care full time for an invalid husband, another person dislikes me because I went to her house for coffee once early in the year and for various reasons haven't been again. How would me caring about any of this help? I think all it would do would be to make me unhappy , doubt myself and make me chase after people trying to change their opinion of me. |
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"I do care however I don’t change who I am to curry a favourable opinion of me.
Ultimately though I’d rather people considered me a nice fellow rather than the cuntybollocks I really am. "
I think most people would rather be held in high esteem. If you're realistic though you know it isn't possible and accept that. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Our next door neighbour doesn't like me, a woman round the corner has taken one comment I made and run with it to assume that I care full time for an invalid husband, another person dislikes me because I went to her house for coffee once early in the year and for various reasons haven't been again. How would me caring about any of this help? I think all it would do would be to make me unhappy , doubt myself and make me chase after people trying to change their opinion of me. "
I think that's it really.
If you spend so long worrying about assumptions, about various things you can't change, you lose sight of yourself. No one should change to please another.
It can be easy to be swept into the "oh fuck, they don't like me" but it doesn't really serve you. It can be hurtful sometimes but it's so much better to just carry on. Unless you've been a utter twonk of course. |
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"Our next door neighbour doesn't like me, a woman round the corner has taken one comment I made and run with it to assume that I care full time for an invalid husband, another person dislikes me because I went to her house for coffee once early in the year and for various reasons haven't been again. How would me caring about any of this help? I think all it would do would be to make me unhappy , doubt myself and make me chase after people trying to change their opinion of me.
I think that's it really.
If you spend so long worrying about assumptions, about various things you can't change, you lose sight of yourself. No one should change to please another.
It can be easy to be swept into the "oh fuck, they don't like me" but it doesn't really serve you. It can be hurtful sometimes but it's so much better to just carry on. Unless you've been a utter twonk of course. "
Oh if I've been an utter twonk I'll acknowledge that, feel bad and apologise. The odds are that the person still won't like me though |
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"Our next door neighbour doesn't like me, a woman round the corner has taken one comment I made and run with it to assume that I care full time for an invalid husband, another person dislikes me because I went to her house for coffee once early in the year and for various reasons haven't been again. How would me caring about any of this help? I think all it would do would be to make me unhappy , doubt myself and make me chase after people trying to change their opinion of me.
I think that's it really.
If you spend so long worrying about assumptions, about various things you can't change, you lose sight of yourself. No one should change to please another.
It can be easy to be swept into the "oh fuck, they don't like me" but it doesn't really serve you. It can be hurtful sometimes but it's so much better to just carry on. Unless you've been a utter twonk of course.
Oh if I've been an utter twonk I'll acknowledge that, feel bad and apologise. The odds are that the person still won't like me though "
Very possibly. Fuck it though, you would have been true to yourself, done the right thing and that's the most important thing.
I don't think people are weird for caring or not caring what others think of them. Obviously there's extremes but generally there's not one best way to get through life. |
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I do care yes.
But more worryingly, I care far too much about other people. I'm always feeling for them, and caring that they're happy.
I'm told a lot of times to start thinking of myself a bit more!! Lol |
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Yes of course I do care, because I'm a big soft lump. And that's ok, I deal with it pretty well these days.
I doubt most would be a tad upset if they heard that someone said something mean about them even if they didn't like them. Feelings are ok, it's how you deal with them that's important. |
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you? "
No Op I do not have any insecurities. Do you care how people view you? |
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When do you care about how someone views you? "
On here I don't give two fucks how I'm viewed, why would I care about people, who the vast majority I'll never meet.
In real life it all depends who you are, but then I know those who matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter.... |
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"Our next door neighbour doesn't like me, a woman round the corner has taken one comment I made and run with it to assume that I care full time for an invalid husband, another person dislikes me because I went to her house for coffee once early in the year and for various reasons haven't been again. How would me caring about any of this help? I think all it would do would be to make me unhappy , doubt myself and make me chase after people trying to change their opinion of me.
I think that's it really.
If you spend so long worrying about assumptions, about various things you can't change, you lose sight of yourself. No one should change to please another.
It can be easy to be swept into the "oh fuck, they don't like me" but it doesn't really serve you. It can be hurtful sometimes but it's so much better to just carry on. Unless you've been a utter twonk of course.
Oh if I've been an utter twonk I'll acknowledge that, feel bad and apologise. The odds are that the person still won't like me though
Very possibly. Fuck it though, you would have been true to yourself, done the right thing and that's the most important thing.
I don't think people are weird for caring or not caring what others think of them. Obviously there's extremes but generally there's not one best way to get through life. "
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When do you care about how someone views you? "
Nope, others folks opinion of me is none of my business, I know what I'm about. I'm not a judgement person or make nasty comments about people so all good.
I ignore rumours and gossipy nonsense it just comes back to someones opinion - which is none of my business lol! I send peace and love out to all |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Do you care how others view you? Is it something you think about or do you... not care?
When do you care about how someone views you?
No Op I do not have any insecurities. Do you care how people view you? "
Those I care about yes. Generally I don't want to be seen as a twunt but I can't fix another's perception of me. It's also a drain worrying about me. I don't think it's an insecurity to care about how people view you. It depends on the extent to which you care. |
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"I don't think I want to comment on this honestly because right now I think there's an awful lot of people that think I'm a total arsehole on here.
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That's pretty harsh I think you're one of the good ones |
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