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why is life so hard for a single woman?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hormones and hearts.
Also if it has tyres or balls it's likely to cause you upset or break down at some point.
Otherwise it's great.. "
 I really lol'd at that.
My car has cost me 4 figures this year and now needs two new tyres. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hormones and hearts.
Also if it has tyres or balls it's likely to cause you upset or break down at some point.
Otherwise it's great..
I really lol'd at that.
My car has cost me 4 figures this year and now needs two new tyres."
Hard year for me.. 4 new tyres |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"31% of adult females in the UK are single. Maybe were onto something  "
age 25-mid sixties, there are more single men, after that women take over big style, probably because their men are dead. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
"Because sometimes it's nice to have someone offer to do something for you whether that is make dinner, give a foot massage without having to ask for it 
Please see my profile title "
When you next in Manchester Brucey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life is so hard. I haven't had sex for six months and I'm SOOOOOOOOOOO horny. But I can't find a man I fancy who isn't a cockwomble. It's tragic.  "
Tell me about it  |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Because sometimes it's nice to have someone offer to do something for you whether that is make dinner, give a foot massage without having to ask for it
Please see my profile title
When you next in Manchester Brucey "
I'll let you know! Turns out middlesborough did not offer anything! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I'm single and have been for many years.
Even when I had a husband I might as well have been single.
I don't think my life is harder because I'm single now.
I have the basics in life and my family.
I have health problems that hinder me physically, but I had some of the issues now that I had when I was married.
I have more, and much better sex now.
I have more freedom.
I still can't put up a curtain pole or decorate my home.
I still sleep alone.
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Pah! Henceforth I shall address you as "Mini Rogue", OP. For you are a womanly rogue with perfidious tendencies to create such questionable threads.
A singleton woman's life is made from the purest carbon, but weaker than a flawed diamond. You pilfer the battle-hardened hearts of men and replace them with the darkest of shadows born from phantoms and ghouls, and you cause carnage upon their goodwill and good nature.
You haemorrhage monthly and yet you bleed us daily, we engineer the widest of roads that resemble a parking lot and yet you continue to manoeuvre 13 times for a 3 point turn. You have brought this upon thyself and yet you inflict blame on the dispirited souls of the gentle men.
You crave sex and the companionship of man and yet, despite the flight of a thousand cold granite steps that lead to your ivory towers, your legs remain steadfastly closed like a drawbridge, leaving us to yearn and lament through the poisoned and twisted bars of your portcullis and gates.
Nay, ladies, retract and disavow from your unwarranted pining and reach out to the moderate mods and beg for this thread to be closed and sanctioned for an eternity. |
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"Hormones and hearts.
Also if it has tyres or balls it's likely to cause you upset or break down at some point.
Otherwise it's great..
I really lol'd at that.
My car has cost me 4 figures this year and now needs two new tyres.
Hard year for me.. 4 new tyres "
Not a goodyear then lol |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
Back of Nowhere and Beyond |
It's no harder for a single woman than for a single man (or single person of other gender), nor is it harder for a single woman than for attached people.
It's just hard in different ways is all. It's proper hard to cuddle yourself to sleep when you're crying, that's for sure.
Posh  |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"31% of adult females in the UK are single. Maybe were onto something "
A higher percentage of men are single around 45 percentage.
Unrealistic expectations perhaps.
Now excuse m I am going to batten down.the hatches. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"Tell me... why?"
You have too high expectations and need to compromise.
It's one of many reasons but also try being a man which isn't easy either.
Who said life was easy anyway. Why should you want or think you are entitled to an easy life?
That's self indulgence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hormones and hearts.
Also if it has tyres or balls it's likely to cause you upset or break down at some point.
Otherwise it's great.. "
Call me a romantic..I took a lady out for a meal.. I really pushed the boat out it was a michelin tyred snack van  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is life any more hard for a single woman than for a partnered woman?
Just different challenges to face."
It IS. SO much harder. Life is impossible. And whatever we do, the MENZ aren't happy!! Woe is me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell me... why?
You have too high expectations and need to compromise.
It's one of many reasons but also try being a man which isn't easy either.
Who said life was easy anyway. Why should you want or think you are entitled to an easy life?
That's self indulgence. "
Go away to your own MAN threads! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you turn your filters up to fuck off and invest in toys, it's fabulous 
Don't like toys. Grumble.
Fair.
My life is way easier without dealing with other people's bullshit "
I just stay desperate. I could almost be a man. Except I don't whinge about it. |
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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Hormones and hearts.
Also if it has tyres or balls it's likely to cause you upset or break down at some point.
Otherwise it's great..
Call me a romantic..I took a lady out for a meal.. I really pushed the boat out it was a michelin tyred snack van "
You Sir are a catch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life is so hard. I haven't had sex for six months and I'm SOOOOOOOOOOO horny. But I can't find a man I fancy who isn't a cockwomble. It's tragic. "
Um. This isn't a serious comment and it's not a serious thread! |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"Tell me... why?
You have too high expectations and need to compromise.
It's one of many reasons but also try being a man which isn't easy either.
Who said life was easy anyway. Why should you want or think you are entitled to an easy life?
That's self indulgence.
Go away to your own MAN threads!"
Prickly one arnt you. Yet if a man was to put the same post you would be jumping righting wouldn't you? One rule for you eh?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell me... why?
You have too high expectations and need to compromise.
It's one of many reasons but also try being a man which isn't easy either.
Who said life was easy anyway. Why should you want or think you are entitled to an easy life?
That's self indulgence.
Go away to your own MAN threads!
Prickly one arnt you. Yet if a man was to put the same post you would be jumping righting wouldn't you? One rule for you eh?
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My god. Literally ONE thread by a woman which is tongue in cheek. Men post multiple threads daily complaining about not getting meets. And you can't hold yourself back from criticism.  |
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"Tell me... why?
Ain't nothin' but a heartache
Tell me why
Ain't nothin' but a mistake
Tell me why
I never wanna hear you say
I want it that way"
Ah chills, literal chills.
It was number 5, number 5 killed my brother! |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Tell me... why?
Ain't nothin' but a heartache
Tell me why
Ain't nothin' but a mistake
Tell me why
I never wanna hear you say
I want it that way"
I'm not gonna let it slide that I made this comment 3 posts in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it."
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart?  |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
Near Clacton |
Is it though ???
I can assure you life is no bed of roses for a lot of single guys either.
Single guy suicides up, drug/alcohol addiction up many many more males living on the streets. In a lot of ways males are not coping or getting on too well with today's world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it though ???
I can assure you life is no bed of roses for a lot of single guys either.
Single guy suicides up, drug/alcohol addiction up many many more males living on the streets. In a lot of ways males are not coping or getting on too well with today's world. "
And there are two threads about single men you can post on. |
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By *oom_88Man
over a year ago
Grays |
"Tell me... why?
Ain't nothin' but a heartache
Tell me why
Ain't nothin' but a mistake
Tell me why
I never wanna hear you say
I want it that way
I'm not gonna let it slide that I made this comment 3 posts in "
I didnt have the chance to read all the comments, great minds think alike |
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"Tell me... why?
You have too high expectations and need to compromise.
It's one of many reasons but also try being a man which isn't easy either.
Who said life was easy anyway. Why should you want or think you are entitled to an easy life?
That's self indulgence.
Go away to your own MAN threads!
Prickly one arnt you. Yet if a man was to put the same post you would be jumping righting wouldn't you? One rule for you eh?
My god. Literally ONE thread by a woman which is tongue in cheek. Men post multiple threads daily complaining about not getting meets. And you can't hold yourself back from criticism. "
We're definitely not the PRICKly ones  |
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it.
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart? "
I tried but the priest dude started trembling, backed away and ran out of the church screaming. |
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it.
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart?
I tried but the priest dude started trembling, backed away and ran out of the church screaming."
Naked? Oh wow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it.
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart?
I tried but the priest dude started trembling, backed away and ran out of the church screaming.
Naked? Oh wow "
Hans just has to look at people and their clothes fall off |
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it.
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart?
I tried but the priest dude started trembling, backed away and ran out of the church screaming.
Naked? Oh wow
Hans just has to look at people and their clothes fall off "
I know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it.
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart?
I tried but the priest dude started trembling, backed away and ran out of the church screaming.
Naked? Oh wow
Hans just has to look at people and their clothes fall off
I know "
Ooh la la! |
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"I don't know something about a snake and an apple.
I only went to Sunday school for the paper mache and my mate's mum used to cook roast beef or lamb after it.
You mean you didn't take the Lord into your heart?
I tried but the priest dude started trembling, backed away and ran out of the church screaming.
Naked? Oh wow
Hans just has to look at people and their clothes fall off
I know
Ooh la la! "
That's why I wear  always thinking of others. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here. "
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How low are you willing to have your standards? Now put them lower than that and you're life will be easy
Can you get lower than the gutter?"
My bedroom? |
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"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her."
It's not a competition. And men have two threads at the moment about how it's hard for them. Why the need to comment here about how hard is it for single men?  |
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"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her.
It's not a competition. And men have two threads at the moment about how it's hard for them. Why the need to comment here about how hard is it for single men? "
. Because we care - we share!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her.
It's not a competition. And men have two threads at the moment about how it's hard for them. Why the need to comment here about how hard is it for single men? . Because we care - we share!! "
Share elsewhere, Todger... |
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"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her.
It's not a competition. And men have two threads at the moment about how it's hard for them. Why the need to comment here about how hard is it for single men? . Because we care - we share!!
Share elsewhere, Todger..."
Sorry Sally but I have had strictly male only threads of mine infiltrated by ladies of the forum.. what’s fair one way…. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her.
It's not a competition. And men have two threads at the moment about how it's hard for them. Why the need to comment here about how hard is it for single men? "
Why do you make it a competition? |
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"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her."
It was the strain of maintaining a false identity rather than living as a man in particular. But then I think about how that doesn't fit the point you're trying to make.
J |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"Personally what I find hard is the relentless sexist crap that some guys spout daily here.
I see what you mean, but then I think about the writer who pretended to be a man for a year and then committed suicide because it was too much for her.
It was the strain of maintaining a false identity rather than living as a man in particular. But then I think about how that doesn't fit the point you're trying to make.
J"
Right. What other undercover authors committed suicide for maintaining a false identity? |
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"Tell me... why?"
It's down to manners and respect firstly and then a man's individual experience with women and how it impacts his view of women.
Not that some of our gender are polite and respectful to men either to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it hard as a single woman and as a single mother. The constant misogyny on here is exhausting, but if I should mention it I am a misandrist. Feeling lonely and needy but as I am "drowning in offers" those feelings are invalidated. Trying to find someone who I find attractive and respects me as a person but reading daily how fussy women are and we go for the top 10%. Supporting the complex needs of my children alone as my ex chooses to be a Disney dad rather than co-parent.
That's why it's hard. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"Men just make everything that little bit better don’t they. With their manly ways.
That's enough of that kind of talk or you'll have my knickers falling at my ankles of their own accord  "
Your knickers are up and down like the Royal Standard!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes when you sneeze you don’t know what’s happening in your pants. Have I gone on? Given birth to an alien? Is that the dna he left in me last night?
Also never knowing why your tummy hurts "
The DNA he left in me last night.
Why is this such an accurate depiction of the struggles of being a woman?
Honestly, you're underappreciated babygirl. |
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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago
Tipton |
"I think these days being single is hard full stop.
Life is by it's very nature busy, throw in dating etc and time is very hard to come by"
Agree as I've been single for over 10 years or more or maybe it's my looks & Body that women dont like ? |
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice."
Innit. How dare we have boundaries! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice.
Innit. How dare we have boundaries!"
In no way am I trying to excuse disrespectful behaviour from men but isn't there also an element of poor selection if this is a recurring experience. |
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice.
Innit. How dare we have boundaries!
In no way am I trying to excuse disrespectful behaviour from men but isn't there also an element of poor selection if this is a recurring experience."
Sounds a bit victim blamey to me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not half as hard as it is for a single man lol
Not a competition...
Was a tongue in cheek comment. No offence meant "
None taken, just quite a few men have posted the same thing. |
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice."
That struck a chord for me, it really did. Someone said to me once that they don't realise they are doing it. But then they don't start like that do they?
That's my line too, if I start feeling like I don't have a voice. That one cuts really deep for me. The disempowerment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice.
That struck a chord for me, it really did. Someone said to me once that they don't realise they are doing it. But then they don't start like that do they?
That's my line too, if I start feeling like I don't have a voice. That one cuts really deep for me. The disempowerment."
No they don't!
The disempowerment is the worst.
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice.
That struck a chord for me, it really did. Someone said to me once that they don't realise they are doing it. But then they don't start like that do they?
That's my line too, if I start feeling like I don't have a voice. That one cuts really deep for me. The disempowerment.
No they don't!
The disempowerment is the worst.
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Isn't empowerment not enabling them to do it repeatedly though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice.
Innit. How dare we have boundaries!
In no way am I trying to excuse disrespectful behaviour from men but isn't there also an element of poor selection if this is a recurring experience."
I hate this comment. It's dumb. You're not the first to say something along the lines of the choice in the first place being the mistake. Which just seems to excuse the behaviour of the other person. The person shouldn't be pushing boundaries or limits out of selfishness. But hey let's brush that under the carpet shall we?
Trouble is on fab the lifestyle means we get in bed with people wearing masks on their best behaviour much sooner than we might normally and by the time they start waving red flags at us like it's a carnival we're already in the situation.
How could someone possibly know that on meet two a man is going to declare he's in with love with them?
How could someone possibly know someone's going to be jealous and possessive until if course they actually show it?
Why is the judgement of the person who picked that man rather than the actions of the man in question. We don't have crystal balls do we?
Have you picked perfect partners every single time I wonder??? |
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In no way am I trying to excuse disrespectful behaviour from men but isn't there also an element of poor selection if this is a recurring experience."
So, if I don't show the real me, and hide certain traits that maybe my predominate traits, Control, possessiveness, jealousy, manipulation, and coercive to name a few. And actively display the opposite, then poor selection can't be to blame.
As I'm showing a mask, a guise to get what i want.
The trouble with this is, true nature will always come to the forefront, as its the true nature to act like that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's hard because no matter how much I make it clear what my boundaries are, people like to cross them, and then when I remind them of what they are and stick to them, they get upset that they can't have what they want and what I'm made to suffer next is completely shitty behaviour where I'm apparently the arsehole. Especially if I make it known that I'm upset with them at any point.
I'm supposed to just do what they want and not have a voice.
That struck a chord for me, it really did. Someone said to me once that they don't realise they are doing it. But then they don't start like that do they?
That's my line too, if I start feeling like I don't have a voice. That one cuts really deep for me. The disempowerment.
No they don't!
The disempowerment is the worst.
Isn't empowerment not enabling them to do it repeatedly though?"
Yes it is. And when you stop allowing that behaviour, recognise it's not a healthy dynamic you get the abuse. The anger. The hurt.
I do think "taking back" that power is difficult but it's also necessary. You can easily be swept up and lose sight of so much good if you don't. It then starts leaking in to future dynamics, eating away at your confidence. No one deserves that. |
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