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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally no
Try and deal with the root cause of the unhappiness. If you can honestly say youve done all that you can then walk away.
Why cause more hurt |
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I don’t think anything, ever, justifies cheating 
Staying in unhappy/ unhealthy relationships for the kids is the most damage you can do to the kids, IMO.
Each to their own  I judge for it and avoid people in that situation where possible x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think yes
Divorce can be rough financially and on the kids
A dead bedroom sometimes isn’t anyone’s fault
Sometimes the marriage is fine but you just need to sex
It’s not black and white
Especially if it’s a dead bedroom situation. If the bed room is dead why do you care if they cheat?
It’s always about the context |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if u are not happy in your relationship nd just for sake of kids you are dragging. Do u think cheating in such relationship valid"
Lots of people cheat. I have started a chat on here for them to go, I am married does that bother you or with a gf etc.
Fab is full of cheaters.. Just they do not say so in public or profile.
I get,.. I am in a sexless marriage. All the time lately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that cheating can be avoided
Our journey started off due to sex being infrequent
Mel knew it was bothering me and it was bothering her
We were both worried the other would stray and so we opened up and had a night away from the kids and an honest chat
I had no idea of what she would say and vice versa
Best thing we did was talk
Now as long as we know the other is safe we have the others “blessing” to explore what we want. Went very quickly into a place where it was encouraged and enjoyed and we have opened up many avenues of pleasure
Try honesty before dishonesty you don’t know what doors it will open x |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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For me, no. Mainly being that I wouldn't want to do something that I know would hurt my partner and family if they knew. When cheating/lying, it takes away the other person's choice.
I would say most people instinctively know something isn't quite right when cheating occurs in their relationship and to me, that's very unfair to enable a situation where they are overriding instincts. It can cause such damage and pain.
I would put my energy into breaking up well rather than risking heartbreak and bad break up.
Life can be better for everyone when an unhealthy relationship ends. The kids included. I do know this from experience.
There are many ethical ways to address the situation. So I would go for that personally.
I know it isn't easy to make big changes and how hard it is to stay in a sexless or affectionless relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. And I don't think people think enough about impact on their kids and partner if they find out about cheating. And that is why I didn't stay in a very unhappy relationship. Financially it's made a huge impact on me. But it was no way to live. |
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Absolutely not, it's about doing the right thing, by yourself, your partner and thr kids, cheating can and often causes more hurt and damage to deal with. As well as the side that we pass on things to thr next generation by tjr things that we do and what we show them, you show them it's ok to cheat they'll believe it's ok to cheat.
More so than the initial root cause of the decision to cheat... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honest answer?
A child just needs to know it is loved. Whether parents are together or not.
I split with my daughter's mother when daughter was 5. She is now a well adjusted successful 19 year old. She has virtually no memories of when her parents were together. Had we stayed together her memories would have been of growing up in a family where the dynamic between her parents was all wrong.
Staying for the sake of the children has the potential to do more harm than good. |
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That’s just a form of cognitive dissonance. Rationalising because the cheater know really it would be hurtful to their partner so they blame it on the situation, or the partner, instead of dealing with the issues or accepting it’s best to walk. |
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I have been with Cammy over 20 years and I am so happy. I have never, and would not ever cheat on her. That’s how we both decided we would occasionally meet and play with others as a couple.
My first marriage was toxic. I never wanted to be in it and often cheated. I often worked away, I often stayed out rather than go home
My opinion? I was living a lie. Cheating makes you both untrustworthy and a liar.
Go and be happy |
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It's not for me, I would put it out in the open. My general principle is not to hide anything that would affect the other person's decision to stay in a relationship.
Is life more complex than simple rules, yes of course it is. But and more knots to a tangled mess is just going to make more of an ordeal when it has to be unravelled.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if u are not happy in your relationship nd just for sake of kids you are dragging. Do u think cheating in such relationship valid"
Fuck me, that question took a twist. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You should do what you think is best op. If you're seeking validation from other people you probably won't get it here... publicly anyway "
Agree with you, i will do what comes in my mind
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"if u are not happy in your relationship nd just for sake of kids you are dragging. Do u think cheating in such relationship valid"
If you are not happy in the relationship how is cheating going to make you happy? Ok it may make you feel loved? Wanted? Desired? In that moment but the problems at home would still be there. If you are truly not happy in a relationship and you have exhausted every avenue of communication to work on the relationship then it’s time to walk away. Even if kids are involved. |
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