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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter |
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over a year ago
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Mental strength comes and goes for me
All I need and can offer is my mental strength and hopefully someone else may get something from it.
Gone are the days, or should be gone, where admitting that you are struggling is a weakness.
Mental strength, for me, is admitting that you are struggling and having in place a support network or knowing what you need at that moment
Hurting others for hurting sake be it through words or actions when you’re struggling or others are struggling is so low
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Yeah, similar to an earlier poster on this thread, it took time to get there. Life is far too short to waste any energy in a negative way. Life gives you lessons and opportunities to grow, I take them and am grateful for them.
I truly free'd myself when I heard the following 'what others think of you is none of your business', it doesn't matter what their truth is, you know your own truth.  |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Mental strength comes and goes for me
All I need and can offer is my mental strength and hopefully someone else may get something from it.
Gone are the days, or should be gone, where admitting that you are struggling is a weakness.
Mental strength, for me, is admitting that you are struggling and having in place a support network or knowing what you need at that moment
Hurting others for hurting sake be it through words or actions when you’re struggling or others are struggling is so low
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Very wise words |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Isn’t everyone like that? 
I would add tolerate the uncomfortable, protect your own happiness, #be kind, cliched, but personal sacrifice makes you stronger "
Thats lovely  |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Yeah, similar to an earlier poster on this thread, it took time to get there. Life is far too short to waste any energy in a negative way. Life gives you lessons and opportunities to grow, I take them and am grateful for them.
I truly free'd myself when I heard the following 'what others think of you is none of your business', it doesn't matter what their truth is, you know your own truth. "
Thats wonderful and long may it continue  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter"
Interesting. What source did you get this from? I'm not disputing what you've written, just curious.
Incredibly, I relate to virtually every point on the list. Though I feel even mentally resilient people might have wavered on n° 1 and n°6 at some point in their lives. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
Mmm it's funny really as I would say that there are several on the list that I'm really not good at. But I'm very good at packing them away in neat little boxes to be dealt with at a later date - where I drown in a box pile  |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Yes!
However, with therapy. I had years of therapy following trauma and I can honestly say, I wouldn't be mentally strong without it.
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Whatever it takes to get us there right. Thank you for sharing and I so happy you're feeling strong |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter
Interesting. What source did you get this from? I'm not disputing what you've written, just curious.
Incredibly, I relate to virtually every point on the list. Though I feel even mentally resilient people might have wavered on n° 1 and n°6 at some point in their lives."
A book I am reading written by Amy Morin. Im not sure everyone nails everything all the time |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If that's the list? I don't think I've ever known someone, friend or lover who is mentally strong 100% of the time. Or can tick off all those numbers.
And that's fine. There are a couple of things on the list I'm actively aware of and working on. I'm still youngish and have time on my side to get there. And belief in myself I will. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Mmm it's funny really as I would say that there are several on the list that I'm really not good at. But I'm very good at packing them away in neat little boxes to be dealt with at a later date - where I drown in a box pile "
You know what they say about how you eat an elephant |
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"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter"
I should be working harder on 1, 5, 7 (definitely!) I'm pretty alright with the rest though, so I think I qualify as mentally not jacked, but not weak either |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"If that's the list? I don't think I've ever known someone, friend or lover who is mentally strong 100% of the time. Or can tick off all those numbers.
And that's fine. There are a couple of things on the list I'm actively aware of and working on. I'm still youngish and have time on my side to get there. And belief in myself I will."
I agree it would be exhausting to be 100% of 100%. Belief in yourself is an amazing thing |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter
I should be working harder on 1, 5, 7 (definitely!) I'm pretty alright with the rest though, so I think I qualify as mentally not jacked, but not weak either "
10 seems a strong score to me |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"3, 6, 9 and 10-13 - pretty good at.
4 and 7 - needs significant work.
1, 2, 5 and 8 - getting better, occasional slips. "
Yah I have to say 4 is a tough mother trucker |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter
Interesting. What source did you get this from? I'm not disputing what you've written, just curious.
Incredibly, I relate to virtually every point on the list. Though I feel even mentally resilient people might have wavered on n° 1 and n°6 at some point in their lives.
A book I am reading written by Amy Morin. Im not sure everyone nails everything all the time "
No one can be a rock 100% of the time. I personally have no problems with any of the numbers stated. I have wavered a bit on n°1 and n°6 in the past. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter
Interesting. What source did you get this from? I'm not disputing what you've written, just curious.
Incredibly, I relate to virtually every point on the list. Though I feel even mentally resilient people might have wavered on n° 1 and n°6 at some point in their lives.
A book I am reading written by Amy Morin. Im not sure everyone nails everything all the time
No one can be a rock 100% of the time. I personally have no problems with any of the numbers stated. I have wavered a bit on n°1 and n°6 in the past."
4 is a killer for me |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If that's the list? I don't think I've ever known someone, friend or lover who is mentally strong 100% of the time. Or can tick off all those numbers.
And that's fine. There are a couple of things on the list I'm actively aware of and working on. I'm still youngish and have time on my side to get there. And belief in myself I will.
I agree it would be exhausting to be 100% of 100%. Belief in yourself is an amazing thing "
It is. I'm not sure how much I agree with all of those points/I think there are some things missed out. It's an interesting read though, thank you for sharing this Knit. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"If that's the list? I don't think I've ever known someone, friend or lover who is mentally strong 100% of the time. Or can tick off all those numbers.
And that's fine. There are a couple of things on the list I'm actively aware of and working on. I'm still youngish and have time on my side to get there. And belief in myself I will.
I agree it would be exhausting to be 100% of 100%. Belief in yourself is an amazing thing
It is. I'm not sure how much I agree with all of those points/I think there are some things missed out. It's an interesting read though, thank you for sharing this Knit. "
Its a list snaffled from a book I'm reading so I agree it could be way longer or some points taken out |
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Yeah I’d say so. As Orwell said “acceptance is the way to happiness” and many of the things thus described in that list are about acceptance.
Accepting things doesn’t denote a lack of ambition, more it confirms the foundation from where change can rise.
The Speaking Cock (I’m trialling a new username, at the third stroke, the sigh, sponsored by Langage Farm, will be “ooooooh”, work with me here, it’s in its genesis) |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I have learned to do most but 2 and 5 are my biggest challenges still "
I think 2 is very important at least to me, but 5 is just your kindness, the trick I think is to ensure you don't suffer to make others happy. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Yeah I’d say so. As Orwell said “acceptance is the way to happiness” and many of the things thus described in that list are about acceptance.
Accepting things doesn’t denote a lack of ambition, more it confirms the foundation from where change can rise.
The Speaking Cock (I’m trialling a new username, at the third stroke, the sigh, sponsored by Langage Farm, will be “ooooooh”, work with me here, it’s in its genesis) "
George was a wise man.
Hello handsone |
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"Yeah I’d say so. As Orwell said “acceptance is the way to happiness” and many of the things thus described in that list are about acceptance.
Accepting things doesn’t denote a lack of ambition, more it confirms the foundation from where change can rise.
The Speaking Cock (I’m trialling a new username, at the third stroke, the sigh, sponsored by Langage Farm, will be “ooooooh”, work with me here, it’s in its genesis)
George was a wise man.
Hello handsone "
Hello tink, it’s been a few, I trust you are keeping well xx |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Yeah I’d say so. As Orwell said “acceptance is the way to happiness” and many of the things thus described in that list are about acceptance.
Accepting things doesn’t denote a lack of ambition, more it confirms the foundation from where change can rise.
The Speaking Cock (I’m trialling a new username, at the third stroke, the sigh, sponsored by Langage Farm, will be “ooooooh”, work with me here, it’s in its genesis)
George was a wise man.
Hello handsone
Hello tink, it’s been a few, I trust you are keeping well xx"
All good here Handsome, you are the only one calling me Tink these days  |
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"Yeah I’d say so. As Orwell said “acceptance is the way to happiness” and many of the things thus described in that list are about acceptance.
Accepting things doesn’t denote a lack of ambition, more it confirms the foundation from where change can rise.
The Speaking Cock (I’m trialling a new username, at the third stroke, the sigh, sponsored by Langage Farm, will be “ooooooh”, work with me here, it’s in its genesis)
George was a wise man.
Hello handsone
Hello tink, it’s been a few, I trust you are keeping well xx
All good here Handsome, you are the only one calling me Tink these days "
Old habits (do you still have that nun costume?) |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Well in that case I'm about as mentally weak and pathetic as they come ...  "
Oh dear the intention wasn't to make anyone feel badly, its just a list I snaffled feom a book Im reading and thought was interting. Lots more attributes go into being mentally strong.
Im sorry if this upset you |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Yeah I’d say so. As Orwell said “acceptance is the way to happiness” and many of the things thus described in that list are about acceptance.
Accepting things doesn’t denote a lack of ambition, more it confirms the foundation from where change can rise.
The Speaking Cock (I’m trialling a new username, at the third stroke, the sigh, sponsored by Langage Farm, will be “ooooooh”, work with me here, it’s in its genesis)
George was a wise man.
Hello handsone
Hello tink, it’s been a few, I trust you are keeping well xx
All good here Handsome, you are the only one calling me Tink these days
Old habits (do you still have that nun costume?) "
**roots around in the back of thr wardrobe** |
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I’m not sure that anyone can be 100% mentally strong all the time.
What makes us human, in my opinion, is having some level of vulnerability.
Now how you deal with that is a whole different matter.
Just my thoughts |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I’m not sure that anyone can be 100% mentally strong all the time.
What makes us human, in my opinion, is having some level of vulnerability.
Now how you deal with that is a whole different matter.
Just my thoughts "
And a very balanced one indeed |
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I'd say I am. Not according to some list, but according to where I've been and where I'm going.
It's a bit like the gym. Arnie or whoever might have a bad day lifting a (fuck off weight) (exercise). I might be smashing it with a (1/10 fuck off weight) (same exercise). |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I'd say I am. Not according to some list, but according to where I've been and where I'm going.
It's a bit like the gym. Arnie or whoever might have a bad day lifting a (fuck off weight) (exercise). I might be smashing it with a (1/10 fuck off weight) (same exercise)."
This list was an example, Im really glad you feel that way |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"I'll just stick with 6 for time being
Whats the word that can happen?"
Well if I've already experienced it not exactly a learning curve but tread carefully as I've learnt and could be prepared |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I'd say going by that list that I'm not... but I hide it well with a "screw it, let's get on with shit" or "well, needs must, no one else is gonna do stuff or care anyway" attitude on the outside most of the time.
So, maybe that's proof I am.
Or, as I said to a friend earlier... maybe my head is like a plate of spaghetti that's been thrown at the wall  |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I'll just stick with 6 for time being
Whats the word that can happen?
Well if I've already experienced it not exactly a learning curve but tread carefully as I've learnt and could be prepared "
A little caution is deffo healthy |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can guarantee that not a single person on the planet is immune to having nor do they never do any of those things. "
I never suggested it was 100% a 100% of the time. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In that case im miles from being mentally strong. It's very difficult to be when everything and everyone around you wants you too fail and you have health issues. Life's shit
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The list is just from a book im reading, im not suggesting anyonr here isnt.
Im sorry for how you are feeling |
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"Well in that case I'm about as mentally weak and pathetic as they come ...
Oh dear the intention wasn't to make anyone feel badly, its just a list I snaffled feom a book Im reading and thought was interting. Lots more attributes go into being mentally strong.
Im sorry if this upset you "
Oh god no it hasn't upset me at all , in fact quite the opposite.. it's made me look inwards at myself.. I'm interested to know what book xx |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I'd say going by that list that I'm not... but I hide it well with a "screw it, let's get on with shit" or "well, needs must, no one else is gonna do stuff or care anyway" attitude on the outside most of the time.
So, maybe that's proof I am.
Or, as I said to a friend earlier... maybe my head is like a plate of spaghetti that's been thrown at the wall "
Getting on with life takes a lot of mental strenght |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd say going by that list that I'm not... but I hide it well with a "screw it, let's get on with shit" or "well, needs must, no one else is gonna do stuff or care anyway" attitude on the outside most of the time.
So, maybe that's proof I am.
Or, as I said to a friend earlier... maybe my head is like a plate of spaghetti that's been thrown at the wall
Getting on with life takes a lot of mental strenght "
Or resignation and an ability to wear blinkers... |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Well in that case I'm about as mentally weak and pathetic as they come ...
Oh dear the intention wasn't to make anyone feel badly, its just a list I snaffled feom a book Im reading and thought was interting. Lots more attributes go into being mentally strong.
Im sorry if this upset you
Oh god no it hasn't upset me at all , in fact quite the opposite.. it's made me look inwards at myself.. I'm interested to know what book xx"
Oh thank goodness.
13 things mentally strong people dont do. Amy Morin |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I'd say going by that list that I'm not... but I hide it well with a "screw it, let's get on with shit" or "well, needs must, no one else is gonna do stuff or care anyway" attitude on the outside most of the time.
So, maybe that's proof I am.
Or, as I said to a friend earlier... maybe my head is like a plate of spaghetti that's been thrown at the wall
Getting on with life takes a lot of mental strenght
Or resignation and an ability to wear blinkers..."
Well im going with mental strenght |
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Absolutely not. Being ripped on for not investing in a crypto, followed by being told that I should live “in poverty” to save money, and then the top one, I shouldn’t budget by a friend, really takes its toll mentally on one aelf |
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"Absolutely not. Being ripped on for not investing in a crypto, followed by being told that I should live “in poverty” to save money, and then the top one, I shouldn’t budget by a friend, really takes its toll mentally on one aelf"
They clearly aren't your friends... hugs x |
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"Well in that case I'm about as mentally weak and pathetic as they come ...
Oh dear the intention wasn't to make anyone feel badly, its just a list I snaffled feom a book Im reading and thought was interting. Lots more attributes go into being mentally strong.
Im sorry if this upset you
Oh god no it hasn't upset me at all , in fact quite the opposite.. it's made me look inwards at myself.. I'm interested to know what book xx
Oh thank goodness.
13 things mentally strong people dont do. Amy Morin"
It made me aware of the things I do /don't do that I need to work on to improve my mental health xx |
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By *yreGuy99Man
over a year ago
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"In that case im miles from being mentally strong. It's very difficult to be when everything and everyone around you wants you too fail and you have health issues. Life's shit
The list is just from a book im reading, im not suggesting anyonr here isnt.
Im sorry for how you are feeling"
I understand the post. There's no need to be sorry, that's just life. I'll use this list and any advice I see to better myself. Thank you. |
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"Absolutely not. Being ripped on for not investing in a crypto, followed by being told that I should live “in poverty” to save money, and then the top one, I shouldn’t budget by a friend, really takes its toll mentally on one aelf
They clearly aren't your friends... hugs x"
Yeah I’m slowly withdrawing from them, ever since they got into it, they’ve gone downhill almost into a gambling addiction. Hugs x |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Absolutely not. Being ripped on for not investing in a crypto, followed by being told that I should live “in poverty” to save money, and then the top one, I shouldn’t budget by a friend, really takes its toll mentally on one aelf
They clearly aren't your friends... hugs x"
This. These are not your people |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"Well in that case I'm about as mentally weak and pathetic as they come ...
Oh dear the intention wasn't to make anyone feel badly, its just a list I snaffled feom a book Im reading and thought was interting. Lots more attributes go into being mentally strong.
Im sorry if this upset you
Oh god no it hasn't upset me at all , in fact quite the opposite.. it's made me look inwards at myself.. I'm interested to know what book xx
Oh thank goodness.
13 things mentally strong people dont do. Amy Morin
It made me aware of the things I do /don't do that I need to work on to improve my mental health xx"
Ive found the book helpful, perhaps you might as well |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In that case im miles from being mentally strong. It's very difficult to be when everything and everyone around you wants you too fail and you have health issues. Life's shit
The list is just from a book im reading, im not suggesting anyonr here isnt.
Im sorry for how you are feeling
I understand the post. There's no need to be sorry, that's just life. I'll use this list and any advice I see to better myself. Thank you."
I hope things improve soon |
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Like many positive principles and rules there can be flipsides.
Too much of these things can turn a person into an island. Become emotionally repressive, struggle to form meaningful attachments. Be vulnerable, reach out for support when needed. Lack empathy for other people's suffering.
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Is my humble offering in this subject. |
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There's too much pressure on us to be strong as humans. We'd all heal and grow a lot better if we accepted and lived through emotions instead of pretending they don't exist. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Like many positive principles and rules there can be flipsides.
Too much of these things can turn a person into an island. Become emotionally repressive, struggle to form meaningful attachments. Be vulnerable, reach out for support when needed. Lack empathy for other people's suffering.
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Is my humble offering in this subject."
I completely agree nothing should be practiced in the extreme |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There's too much pressure on us to be strong as humans. We'd all heal and grow a lot better if we accepted and lived through emotions instead of pretending they don't exist. "
I don't think that I was suggesting a lack of emotion and thst wasnt how I read the list, however I respect your point of view and agree our emotions are important and should be acknowledged. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Only thing I don't do is take risks. I have done when I was much younger. And learn by all those mistakes by not doing it again."
What about when it comes to trying new foods? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Mentally Strong?
What is mental strength?
Well here are apparently 13 things that menatally strong people don't do.
1) They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2) They don't give away their power
3) They don't shy away form change
4) They don't focus on things they can't control
5) They don't worry about pleasing everyone
6) They don't fear taking calculated risks
7) They don't dwell on the past
8) They don't make the same mistakes over and over
9) They don't resent other people's success
10) They don't give up after the first failure
11) They don't fear alone time
12) They don't feel the world owes them anything
13) They don't expect immediate results
So what say you, any of these you should be working harder on not doing?
Knitter
Interesting. What source did you get this from? I'm not disputing what you've written, just curious.
Incredibly, I relate to virtually every point on the list. Though I feel even mentally resilient people might have wavered on n° 1 and n°6 at some point in their lives.
A book I am reading written by Amy Morin. Im not sure everyone nails everything all the time
No one can be a rock 100% of the time. I personally have no problems with any of the numbers stated. I have wavered a bit on n°1 and n°6 in the past."
They do seem such normal eats of thinking , wavered occasionally on 1 & 11 but usually after a breakup for a few days but the rest o cannot imagine living any differently |
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"Only thing I don't do is take risks. I have done when I was much younger. And learn by all those mistakes by not doing it again.
What about when it comes to trying new foods?"
I have tried everything I wanted to.Maybe in time something might come up that I want to try. |
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"Absolutely not. Being ripped on for not investing in a crypto, followed by being told that I should live “in poverty” to save money, and then the top one, I shouldn’t budget by a friend, really takes its toll mentally on one aelf
They clearly aren't your friends... hugs x
This. These are not your people"
Agreed, in time I’ll find new people but for now, need to finish walking away from them x |
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"Like many positive principles and rules there can be flipsides.
Too much of these things can turn a person into an island. Become emotionally repressive, struggle to form meaningful attachments. Be vulnerable, reach out for support when needed. Lack empathy for other people's suffering.
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Is my humble offering in this subject.
I completely agree nothing should be practiced in the extreme "
Except twirling and gitter |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yeah I'm pretty damn mentally strong. I'm happy with my mentality on the whole, I just wish I was a bit more motivated in some areas "
Im really happy that you are happy  |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Only thing I don't do is take risks. I have done when I was much younger. And learn by all those mistakes by not doing it again.
What about when it comes to trying new foods?
I have tried everything I wanted to.Maybe in time something might come up that I want to try."
fair enough |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Like many positive principles and rules there can be flipsides.
Too much of these things can turn a person into an island. Become emotionally repressive, struggle to form meaningful attachments. Be vulnerable, reach out for support when needed. Lack empathy for other people's suffering.
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Is my humble offering in this subject."
Perfectly put Hans. |
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By *nitter OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Like many positive principles and rules there can be flipsides.
Too much of these things can turn a person into an island. Become emotionally repressive, struggle to form meaningful attachments. Be vulnerable, reach out for support when needed. Lack empathy for other people's suffering.
Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Is my humble offering in this subject.
I completely agree nothing should be practiced in the extreme
Except twirling and gitter "
Well of course those things should alway been done to the extreme. And cookies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think I can relate to most of those, does it make me mentally strong…….i have no idea, I don’t analyse myself in those ways. I’d say it probably distances me from most folk. I don’t form friendships, or “socialise”.
It’s been my normal for my entire life. |
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