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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys. "
I totally agree with you....the younger guys appear to be more respectful too.... |
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
I totally agree with you....the younger guys appear to be more respectful too...."
Would you say the same about late 20s or? |
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
I totally agree with you....the younger guys appear to be more respectful too....
Would you say the same about late 20s or?"
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"Hello what's your opinion on age gaps? For fun and more? Are you an age is just a number or does it matter to you??"
On here, we would actively avoid anyone who is younger than our kids, or older than our parents.
In a club situation, it's all about they come across. People can seem older or younger than their actual age, and we've never asked peoples age in a club.
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I've never believed age is just a number and my lower age filters reflect that.
I don't meet or chat to anyone within 10 years of my kids age so it doesn't matter to me how mature, respectful or experienced anyone below that may be. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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Oh, age really never was a turn off or turn on for me. I really don't care. If I click with someone, I click.
I prefer girls my age because they're usually fitter and we have more in common, and they are not as tied down as milfs are (with kids and what not) but I think I never ever asked anyone for their age irl. Well, once, but she looked VERY young. And yes, she was 14. Dunno how she got into the club tbh.
Anyhoo. No, age doesn't matter but I know people who really fret about it. Had a woman here from fabs who freaked out because I was 8 years younger than her. Like cmon. We aren't going to marry and you liked me until I told you (although it's on my profile too...  ) |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys. "
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot."
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Age gaps can be fun adventures, you experience things and get new perspectives & interpersonal growth you might not otherwise experience.women love a sexy mentor! And guys feel energised by a younger woman |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet."
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Doesn’t matter to me
At 29 I dated an 18 year old for a yeae
At 31 I dated a woman in her late 40s
No one got taken advantage of. No one had a bad time. Everyone was a consenting adult |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Age is but a number. While I do prefer older ladies for both fun and relationships, if the personality is good and we match then who cares. It’s more about the person than the age in reality. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet.
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke."
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology. |
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet.
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke.
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology."
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet.
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke.
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology."
Intresting opinions there, do you study at Hustlers University by any chance?. |
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet.
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke.
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology."
You’ll get hate for that view but yeah, millions of years of evolution is on your side
People hate to admit that they might not have as much free will as they think and a lot of our desires and behaviours are down to uncontrollable instincts programmed over millions of years |
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Nothing against them generally if it works for them and there wasn't anything predatory about it. I'm not sure I could though, I like to build a relationship with people, and I've got nothing to talk to about with a nineteen year old... 
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet.
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke.
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology.
You’ll get hate for that view but yeah, millions of years of evolution is on your side
People hate to admit that they might not have as much free will as they think and a lot of our desires and behaviours are down to uncontrollable instincts programmed over millions of years "
- humans actually haven’t been on earth millions of years or anything like it. We have about 5percent free will - all of us. The rest is programmed but we still all have a modicum of free will - knowing and believing this (most people/ all npc’s don’t realise ) can change an individual’s life exponentially  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet.
I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke.
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology."
I'll come back to this - caffeine is needed and I've got a couple of things to do before 9am.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Age gaps can be fun adventures, you experience things and get new perspectives & interpersonal growth you might not otherwise experience.women love a sexy mentor! And guys feel energised by a younger woman "
I've always seen mentoring as a non-sexual role. I presume you don't mean professional mentoring because I would find that creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I prefer younger men. And the ones I've met just generally find older women more attractive. For a range of reasons. My last boyfriend was 10 years younger but I've been with men 20 years younger although I wouldn't go for that big a gap again.
I think it's just a very individual thing. |
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"I prefer younger men. And the ones I've met just generally find older women more attractive. For a range of reasons. My last boyfriend was 10 years younger but I've been with men 20 years younger although I wouldn't go for that big a gap again.
I think it's just a very individual thing. "
Thought you were going to let me get some |
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"I prefer younger men. And the ones I've met just generally find older women more attractive. For a range of reasons. My last boyfriend was 10 years younger but I've been with men 20 years younger although I wouldn't go for that big a gap again.
I think it's just a very individual thing.
Thought you were going to let me get some"
Go for the 99 year old. You know you want to! |
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"I prefer younger men. And the ones I've met just generally find older women more attractive. For a range of reasons. My last boyfriend was 10 years younger but I've been with men 20 years younger although I wouldn't go for that big a gap again.
I think it's just a very individual thing.
Thought you were going to let me get some
Go for the 99 year old. You know you want to!"
Ew. They’re out of my age range |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello what's your opinion on age gaps? For fun and more? Are you an age is just a number or does it matter to you??
On here, we would actively avoid anyone who is younger than our kids, or older than our parents.
In a club situation, it's all about they come across. People can seem older or younger than their actual age, and we've never asked peoples age in a club.
Cal "
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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I love an age gap but don't care what way, either way, and don't need it either.
I will get something out of a gorgeous 50 year old that I wouldn't around my age, but around my age we probably have more things in common. Like being broke? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Age too me isn't just a number but maturity which can fall from many ages which is important and act appropriately, respectfully given the moment even though might be a big kid hidden inside which I'm sure we all are  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I think so. I'm not sure why that is. I do think the older you get, the more likely you are to want someone younger? At least in terms of being on here (but I'm noting my confirmation bias). I always thought significantly older was for me.
I'm learning far more seeing someone who isn't too far from my age than I have before.
Maybe it's more about the person for me than age. Maybe I'm over my daddy* issues.
*this is a joke.
From my experience - no. At some point "older" is too old, and then they just wish the same age. But generally speaking, just a little older is the sweet spot for women, while men like a little younger, if possible. There are always the guys who tell you they like milfs, but that's usually just catering to the audience or as an excuse why you never see them with young girls.
Women want stability, men want fertility. If we admit it or not, that is just deep, deep down in our biology.
I'll come back to this - caffeine is needed and I've got a couple of things to do before 9am. "
So, I'm back. It's a different viewpoint and one I've read before. I'm not too sure how much I buy in to it being completely true in today's society - it's very much through a heteronormative lense which may not be the most applicable. I think that fertility can be a driving factor for men, much like stability *could* be for women. There's some truth in the fertility argument - you can see it in terms of societal beauty standards as one example.
I also think that a lot has changed, whether it's the relationships we seek, the deeper understanding we have of sexuality (gay people, as an example, really aren't going to be driven by fertility, are they?).
I think that some people have a greater understanding of their innate biological drives and in a way are less likely to be s*aves to them?
I do genuinely believe some men have a thing for older women. Much like women can have a thing for younger men.
I suppose I thought stability was to be found in an older man, to a certain degree. In finding that stability in myself I've been able to enjoy seeing men far closer to my age. |
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"Hello what's your opinion on age gaps? For fun and more? Are you an age is just a number or does it matter to you??"
We have a 7 year age gap. And got together when we were 26 and 33 respectively.
We think anyone below the age of 20 with an age gap of 10+ years is on morally shakey ground. For example a 16 year old dating a 30 year old. That doesn’t sit right with us. It’s still possible to groom someone of legally consenting age. |
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Depends on the person really... one of the loveliest guys I've met on here is only just 25, biggest age gap so far and he's an absolute babe.
For a relationship... I'd probs still go younger, but maybe only 10 years or so. |
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"I love an age gap but don't care what way, either way, and don't need it either.
I will get something out of a gorgeous 50 year old that I wouldn't around my age, but around my age we probably have more things in common. Like being broke? "
I'm broke too |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"I love an age gap but don't care what way, either way, and don't need it either.
I will get something out of a gorgeous 50 year old that I wouldn't around my age, but around my age we probably have more things in common. Like being broke?
I'm broke too "
Great! Let's do the sex and complain about inflation! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello what's your opinion on age gaps? For fun and more? Are you an age is just a number or does it matter to you??"
I have had a couple of younger ladies and guys, doesn't bother me at all. |
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"I love an age gap but don't care what way, either way, and don't need it either.
I will get something out of a gorgeous 50 year old that I wouldn't around my age, but around my age we probably have more things in common. Like being broke?
I'm broke too
Great! Let's do the sex and complain about inflation!"
Whoop! |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"I seem to go for guys in their 30's lately.
They are more mature and laid back than older guys.
Yep, exactly the same for me. I always thought I was solely attracted to those who are at least 15 years older than me. Lately I've discovered how much fun and how easy it is to see men who are in their thirties.
I had this weird misconception that somehow they wouldn't have their shit together, they'd be less emotionally mature... nope. Men in their thirties are my sweet spot.
Women always like men who are a little older, don't they? When I was a teenager, they all wanted the 20 year olds. Early 20s want end of 20s, middle of twenties want the 30s and so on. Always a slightly bit above themselves.
If you're 50, you don't want 35, I bet."
That's completely incorrect for me & many other women my age on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me it depends on gender. For example, I could very easily see myself doing sexual stuff with a woman in her 30s/40s but with men anything over 28 and I start feeling like I've accidentally entered the bingo halls. Plus, they gotta be older than me as I cannot get sexually aroused by someone younger than me. |
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"For me it depends on gender. For example, I could very easily see myself doing sexual stuff with a woman in her 30s/40s but with men anything over 28 and I start feeling like I've accidentally entered the bingo halls. Plus, they gotta be older than me as I cannot get sexually aroused by someone younger than me."
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