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Are we not on a site for non monogamous people?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do so many people not want non monogamy?
It’s not that serious I’m just thinking
There are soooooo many negatives in this sentence 
Do you mean they don’t want “the sex”? "
Oh they want the sex then to be exclusive and not have sex with anyone else ever. Personally? Ew. |
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"I don’t use the site for non monogamy.
And would only be in a monogamous relationship 
Each to their own you’re not even a little bit swinger?"
Not on the slightest.
Use this site for clubs and meets with single men whilst I’m single
If I was to date and be in a relationship, absolutely would expect it to be monogamous and only type of relationship I’d be interested in. X |
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"Why do so many people not want non monogamy?
It’s not that serious I’m just thinking
There are soooooo many negatives in this sentence
Do you mean they don’t want “the sex”?
Oh they want the sex then to be exclusive and not have sex with anyone else ever. Personally? Ew. "
Oh ok. I get you now.
If that floats their boat then that’s all cool.
It’s not my boat though. I want a bigger boat…. And to change boats often  |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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To be honest I have no issue with single monogamous people on here just looking for some sex or on a voyage of discovery to see if ENM might be for them
I wish everyone was always upfront about what they wanted and I find it extremely annoying if single monogamous people on here have issue with people who are engaging in or wanting to engage in ENM. Thankfully although I have come across many single but monogamous people I haven't come across ones that judge the ENM people often. |
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To be honest I have no issue with single monogamous people on here just looking for some sex or on a voyage of discovery to see if ENM might be for them
I wish everyone was always upfront about what they wanted and I find it extremely annoying if single monogamous people on here have issue with people who are engaging in or wanting to engage in ENM. Thankfully although I have come across many single but monogamous people I haven't come across ones that judge the ENM people often. "
This!
As long as everyone’s perfectly clear on wants and expectations
I don’t mind borrowing someone’s ENM husband in a club but I know I couldn’t share mine (if I had one!!) haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I have no issue with single monogamous people on here just looking for some sex or on a voyage of discovery to see if ENM might be for them
I wish everyone was always upfront about what they wanted and I find it extremely annoying if single monogamous people on here have issue with people who are engaging in or wanting to engage in ENM. Thankfully although I have come across many single but monogamous people I haven't come across ones that judge the ENM people often. "
Absolutely
I want a monogamous relationship
But it might be with someone that I’d like to be open to pegging me
Not many women are open to pegging. You end up doing a lot if talking stages and first dates just to find out it’s no good.
Fabs is a little more open in the regard |
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For us, it isn't about being non-monogamous, merely giving the Missus the Rolls Royce of cocks/fucks.
We have a very solid relationship, and this just a way of keeping things fresh and exciting. There are a few boundaries which keeps certain things just for us, but with regard to sex, there's no jealousy or resentment, only fun. |
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People may or may not label themselves. I would call myself non monogamous now but I was monogamous when I was married!
I also have had phases of being a massive slut.
Non monogamy can mean different things too. As in loving more than one person at a time v swinging
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"People may or may not label themselves. I would call myself non monogamous now but I was monogamous when I was married!
I also have had phases of being a massive slut.
Non monogamy can mean different things too. As in loving more than one person at a time v swinging
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^^ this!
I would say I have always been monogamous relationship wise previously. I jumped ship fairly quickly for the right human though while finding out a lot about myself on the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right? |
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To be honest I have no issue with single monogamous people on here just looking for some sex or on a voyage of discovery to see if ENM might be for them
I wish everyone was always upfront about what they wanted and I find it extremely annoying if single monogamous people on here have issue with people who are engaging in or wanting to engage in ENM. Thankfully although I have come across many single but monogamous people I haven't come across ones that judge the ENM people often. "
Exactly this. I’m a one at a time person but I know where I am and respect most people aren’t. I’m always more than upfront about what I want too! As long as I carry on finding what I want I shall hang around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right? "
Try twitter.  |
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"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right? "
I know a lot of guys who say they can get laid from Tinder but not fab |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right?
I know a lot of guys who say they can get laid from Tinder but not fab "
I'd agree with this. The top 10% of men on dating apps can date multiple women and have no issue getting laid if that's what they seek. It does of course help that there are far more prospective partners on the traditional dating apps than fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right?
I know a lot of guys who say they can get laid from Tinder but not fab "
Realised Ive done a typo and put non in front of monogamy where I shouldn't have. Fuck it.
And yes I've read that too in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right?
Try twitter. "
Sorry what? |
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"Why do so many people not want non monogamy?
It’s not that serious I’m just thinking"
Cultural conditioning?
Dunno.
People have as many hangups here as anyone else, they're just in denial about it, I think.
Enm seems to be pretty logical in this context, if it's your bag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For the clueless what is ENM please?
Ethically non monogamous x"
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Lots of people here who can answer what "ethically" means  |
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"For the clueless what is ENM please?
Ethically non monogamous x
REPLIES TO STAY ON THE FORUM
Lots of people here who can answer what "ethically" means "
Essentially with consent from their partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right?
Try twitter.
Sorry what?"
Experience has show Twitter for a place where most people are trying to hook up with everyone.
A lot more than Fab or other places where it’s obvious.
People on Twitter will DM you for a FAF easily. . It’s just my oppinion that there’s lots of non monogamous people in there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be "
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy "
Pickle, being really brutally honest? I think the majority of single people on here are emotionally monogamous and just want to fuck around until they meet the right person.
I also think people use poly when really they mean - they want to have lots of friends to have sex with/get their slut on when actually? They're emotionally monogamous. People leave, decide they're going to focus on one person and really give it a go until they're bored and then they want to fuck around again.
Charge it to the game.
(Also you're in London - there are some fantastic ENM things down there, I'll message you elsewhere about them) |
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy "
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy "
True, but poly is far more than not being monogamous
Go a club or party if you want lots of non-monogamy.
Don’t you mean you wish there were more poly people here ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Pickle, being really brutally honest? I think the majority of single people on here are emotionally monogamous and just want to fuck around until they meet the right person.
I also think people use poly when really they mean - they want to have lots of friends to have sex with/get their slut on when actually? They're emotionally monogamous. People leave, decide they're going to focus on one person and really give it a go until they're bored and then they want to fuck around again.
Charge it to the game.
(Also you're in London - there are some fantastic ENM things down there, I'll message you elsewhere about them)"
Charge it to the game?! Meli, keep fucking around like this and GET IT. 
Also I agree with you on the emotional monogamy. But I figure that, the sex shouldn’t be impacted by that? If you’re a swinger at least? Idk I get why people are scared of feelings but I do struggle with people struggling with the idea of people sleeping with others on a site like this.
As I said though, just thoughts, not that deep.
But anyway, YES, send me all the shit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
True, but poly is far more than not being monogamous
Go a club or party if you want lots of non-monogamy.
Don’t you mean you wish there were more poly people here ? "
No? I’m confused why this has become about poly 
Non monogamy is not just about poly? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need "
I know they do. I just thought there’d be more non monogamous people on what is essentially a site designed for non monogamous people |
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need
I know they do. I just thought there’d be more non monogamous people on what is essentially a site designed for non monogamous people "
Here's a question for you Pickles, based on what you said to Meli!..why do you struggle with what others do on here Pickles?. When what others do aint anything to do with you.
Is it not better to just focus on what you do! And those that you connect with. Why watch others so to say? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need
I know they do. I just thought there’d be more non monogamous people on what is essentially a site designed for non monogamous people
Here's a question for you Pickles, based on what you said to Meli!..why do you struggle with what others do on here Pickles?. When what others do aint anything to do with you.
Is it not better to just focus on what you do! And those that you connect with. Why watch others so to say? "
Sorry I should’ve been clearer- I’m talking about my experiences with people there in my response to Meli. |
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need
I know they do. I just thought there’d be more non monogamous people on what is essentially a site designed for non monogamous people
Here's a question for you Pickles, based on what you said to Meli!..why do you struggle with what others do on here Pickles?. When what others do aint anything to do with you.
Is it not better to just focus on what you do! And those that you connect with. Why watch others so to say?
Sorry I should’ve been clearer- I’m talking about my experiences with people there in my response to Meli. "
That makes more sense...
Also, I know this site in essence should attract more ENM leaning people, but on the flip side ppl will hear of it, hear the swingers part, and think we'll this is going to be a free meal ticket to loads of sex.....that were all just throwing our cocks up anything, and the ladies are all just sex demons that can't get enough...so it'll also attract ppl on that basis... |
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need
I know they do. I just thought there’d be more non monogamous people on what is essentially a site designed for non monogamous people
Here's a question for you Pickles, based on what you said to Meli!..why do you struggle with what others do on here Pickles?. When what others do aint anything to do with you.
Is it not better to just focus on what you do! And those that you connect with. Why watch others so to say?
Sorry I should’ve been clearer- I’m talking about my experiences with people there in my response to Meli.
That makes more sense...
Also, I know this site in essence should attract more ENM leaning people, but on the flip side ppl will hear of it, hear the swingers part, and think we'll this is going to be a free meal ticket to loads of sex.....that were all just throwing our cocks up anything, and the ladies are all just sex demons that can't get enough...so it'll also attract ppl on that basis..."
It also attracts people who are none of that. I googled bi curious one day and fab came up. I’m probably as far from a swinger as you can get. Some can’t understand how monogamous people can be on here. I’ll never understand how people can get off watching someone they love fuck someone else. We’re all different. In all my time on here the majority of people I’ve met or interacted with aren’t swingers. There really is something for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry I should’ve been clearer- I’m talking about my experiences with people there in my response to Meli.
That makes more sense...
Also, I know this site in essence should attract more ENM leaning people, but on the flip side ppl will hear of it, hear the swingers part, and think we'll this is going to be a free meal ticket to loads of sex.....that were all just throwing our cocks up anything, and the ladies are all just sex demons that can't get enough...so it'll also attract ppl on that basis..."
They’re not wrong. We’re sluts |
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
Which doesn't have to equate to people being non-monogamous, bearing in mind a lot of people use this site, to sate a base need
I know they do. I just thought there’d be more non monogamous people on what is essentially a site designed for non monogamous people
Here's a question for you Pickles, based on what you said to Meli!..why do you struggle with what others do on here Pickles?. When what others do aint anything to do with you.
Is it not better to just focus on what you do! And those that you connect with. Why watch others so to say?
Sorry I should’ve been clearer- I’m talking about my experiences with people there in my response to Meli.
That makes more sense...
Also, I know this site in essence should attract more ENM leaning people, but on the flip side ppl will hear of it, hear the swingers part, and think we'll this is going to be a free meal ticket to loads of sex.....that were all just throwing our cocks up anything, and the ladies are all just sex demons that can't get enough...so it'll also attract ppl on that basis...
It also attracts people who are none of that. I googled bi curious one day and fab came up. I’m probably as far from a swinger as you can get. Some can’t understand how monogamous people can be on here. I’ll never understand how people can get off watching someone they love fuck someone else. We’re all different. In all my time on here the majority of people I’ve met or interacted with aren’t swingers. There really is something for everyone "
Thats the beauty of the Internet, we can all access the same stuff, doesn't matter what are leanings are, or what our preferences are. We all have the same accessibility.
Which is cool as it gives such diversity. That's the cool bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This has made me giggle a lot!
Because I just sat here thinking about how all week one been saying I might try dating sites to find what I'm after because on here I keep getting the non monogamy types. Im actually thinking I'll have a better chance at non monogamy on dating sites compared to fab.....that's fucking ridiculous right? "
I hear you girl! I’m the same. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I guess polyamory just isn't as popular as some folks would like it to be
I don’t think poly needs to be popular. But I think on this site it would be nice to find more non monogamous people. Considering, you know, swinging is non monogamy
True, but poly is far more than not being monogamous
Go a club or party if you want lots of non-monogamy.
Don’t you mean you wish there were more poly people here ?
No? I’m confused why this has become about poly
Non monogamy is not just about poly? "
I did wonder that !
To answer your OP I’d guess many people here are NM, they sleep with multiple people etc |
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