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By *oecutter OP Man
over a year ago
Clonakilty |
I see a common complaint on here about how hard it is to get verified as a single man (let alone arrange a meet).
Somewhat predictably, the blame for this is then foisted squarely on women.
But it's not that hard (… as the actress said to the Bishop).
I've just had my first verification (from a video call), and getting it was as easy as acting like a decent human and having a conversation, rather than sending inappropriate pictures of my anatomy and wondering why my approaches are as welcome as a turd on my pillow.
Interestingly enough, the lady messaged me out of the blue.
Why?
Because of a thoughtful and intelligent comment I made on a forum promting her to ask me a question (she wasn't seeking a playmate, in other words).
Chaps, it's not about how tall you are (I'm a short-arse), how well-endowed you are (about average), how young you are (I'm 58), or how popular you are (like most autistics, the popular kid ain't me).
Nope. This is all a suite of learnable skills.
They're not complicated or hard, but the chances are you'll start off bad at them and won't get better until you practise them.
Fair?
Probably not.
But so what?
It's still incumbent on YOU to learn them.
And ladies... if you read the verification and like what you see, don't get your hopes up too high.
TC |
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over a year ago
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I think it depends on your expectations and what you want from here. You were clearly happy to be verified by video call and putting yourself across as a decent human being is literally the bare minimum anyone can do on here.
However, it would be naive to say it isn't tough for those looking for something more or something deeper which goes for both men and women and pretty much everyone here. Conversations that pass time are brilliant but eventually, people do look for more  |
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By *oecutter OP Man
over a year ago
Clonakilty |
"I think it depends on your expectations and what you want from here.
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However, it would be naive to say it isn't tough for those looking for something more or something deeper which goes for both men and women and pretty much everyone here. Conversations that pass time are brilliant but eventually, people do look for more "
There's a world of difference between having a desired outcome as a preferred-indifferent and being emotionally invested to the point of rage when you don't get what you want.
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By *oecutter OP Man
over a year ago
Clonakilty |
"They'll still cry and blame the size of the cock, body shape, height, size of left big toe anything but admit that they put zero effort in and expected sex on tap.
Mrs "
Yup. I see exactly the same infantile behaviour with business owners.
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"RIP your inbox OP
Now you’ve let everyone know how thoughtful and intelligent you are your gonna be swimming in verifications!
* you’re. "
Not everyone's first language is English and some have dyslexia etc. |
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"Wow just wow.
The op was just sharing his personal opinion and he is hung out to dry for it.
Welcome to the forums op.
T
Who's hanging him out to dry I think I'm reading a different post?!
Mrs "
I was thinking the same!! |
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"I see a common complaint on here about how hard it is to get verified as a single man (let alone arrange a meet).
Somewhat predictably, the blame for this is then foisted squarely on women.
But it's not that hard (… as the actress said to the Bishop).
I've just had my first verification (from a video call), and getting it was as easy as acting like a decent human and having a conversation, rather than sending inappropriate pictures of my anatomy and wondering why my approaches are as welcome as a turd on my pillow.
Interestingly enough, the lady messaged me out of the blue.
Why?
Because of a thoughtful and intelligent comment I made on a forum promting her to ask me a question (she wasn't seeking a playmate, in other words).
Chaps, it's not about how tall you are (I'm a short-arse), how well-endowed you are (about average), how young you are (I'm 58), or how popular you are (like most autistics, the popular kid ain't me).
Nope. This is all a suite of learnable skills.
They're not complicated or hard, but the chances are you'll start off bad at them and won't get better until you practise them.
Fair?
Probably not.
But so what?
It's still incumbent on YOU to learn them.
And ladies... if you read the verification and like what you see, don't get your hopes up too high.
TC"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"RIP your inbox OP
Now you’ve let everyone know how thoughtful and intelligent you are your gonna be swimming in verifications!
* you’re. "
Lol. "Your" is correct.
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"I see a common complaint on here about how hard it is to get verified as a single man (let alone arrange a meet).
Somewhat predictably, the blame for this is then foisted squarely on women.
But it's not that hard (… as the actress said to the Bishop).
I've just had my first verification (from a video call), and getting it was as easy as acting like a decent human and having a conversation, rather than sending inappropriate pictures of my anatomy and wondering why my approaches are as welcome as a turd on my pillow.
Interestingly enough, the lady messaged me out of the blue.
Why?
Because of a thoughtful and intelligent comment I made on a forum promting her to ask me a question (she wasn't seeking a playmate, in other words).
Chaps, it's not about how tall you are (I'm a short-arse), how well-endowed you are (about average), how young you are (I'm 58), or how popular you are (like most autistics, the popular kid ain't me).
Nope. This is all a suite of learnable skills.
They're not complicated or hard, but the chances are you'll start off bad at them and won't get better until you practise them.
Fair?
Probably not.
But so what?
It's still incumbent on YOU to learn them.
And ladies... if you read the verification and like what you see, don't get your hopes up too high.
TC"
Just wait for the deluge of clunge that's going to descend, like an apocalyptic hoard of hungry vixens, cougars, brats, and amy other label you can think of, that's going to decimate your inbox, and eat you all up alive Op, all thanks to the mighty magical power of the veri . .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"RIP your inbox OP
Now you’ve let everyone know how thoughtful and intelligent you are your gonna be swimming in verifications!
* you’re.
Lol. "Your" is correct.
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The 2nd your isn’t
Sadly I wasn’t born as thoughtful and intelligent as some  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"RIP your inbox OP
Now you’ve let everyone know how thoughtful and intelligent you are your gonna be swimming in verifications!
* you’re. "
Considerate and thoughtful etc etc then you act like the grammar nazi! People have disabilities or didn't get the chance to learn properly... you have no idea people's past!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow just wow.
The op was just sharing his personal opinion and he is hung out to dry for it.
Welcome to the forums op.
T"
It’s because this isn’t a genuine post about how guys can do better
It’s a thinly veiling “look at me ladies, aren’t I great” thread with hints of “look how shitty other guys are! Aren’t I cool for noticing”
You can give advice and tell people how to do better without shitting on the average guy in an attempt to make yourself look better |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Veris mean very little to me so I don't know why so much is invested in them. One person's perfect meet is another ones disaster. Reading someone's veris has never made mme decide that I want to chat or meet someone,in fact the only notice of take of veris is to know who to avoid if they have met one of the drama loving individuals on here. Easier to avoid than be dragged into that sesspit of fab.
Well done OP on getting your first veri and it's good you're happy with it.I don't see the need to have to tell other men who haven't been as lucky what they must be doing something wrong though. There are plenty of decent men on here who do and have struggled to get a first veri and through no fault of their own.
Those who are rude or crude well they will continue to carry on that way and will continue to wonder why it doesn't work for them on here. No matter what advice they get and to be honest that's a good thing because it's easier not to interact,than have someone showing a false façade at the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"RIP your inbox OP
Now you’ve let everyone know how thoughtful and intelligent you are your gonna be swimming in verifications!
* you’re.
Lol. "Your" is correct.
The 2nd your isn’t
Sadly I wasn’t born as thoughtful and intelligent as some "
Ha, missed that. Well, it's the thing that gets most people! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it depends on your expectations and what you want from here.
[...]
However, it would be naive to say it isn't tough for those looking for something more or something deeper which goes for both men and women and pretty much everyone here. Conversations that pass time are brilliant but eventually, people do look for more
There's a world of difference between having a desired outcome as a preferred-indifferent and being emotionally invested to the point of rage when you don't get what you want.
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Of course there is, but it's very rarely one or the other. There are nuances and phases of emotion that people go through on here where they can try they hardest to get a positive outcome that doesn't result in rage, but maybe a lack of self worth for example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They'll still cry and blame the size of the cock, body shape, height, size of left big toe anything but admit that they put zero effort in and expected sex on tap.
Mrs "
Yep.. Sure fine thing that they do. Some people think legs open all the time.. Means sex on legs.Dissapointed well we are not free for alls. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages. |
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"If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages. "
And if you can smash a paving flag with your cock - obvs!!  |
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"If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages.
And if you can smash a paving flag with your cock - obvs!! "
Or have your cock smashed by a paving flag even more Impressive |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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op what worked for you wont work for other other women and couples wont be like the one who messaged you there is and never have been one way .. whoppee you have a veri that 99% wont take any notice of ??? its not the all important meet veri
seems to me like a bit of a wow look me if im honest you should just look after you leave other to look after themselves .... oh and your posting on a forum that attracts less than 1% of the site of which most dont meet ....
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
I'm a bit confused really.
What's the fuss about? A video call is very easy to get, you can get one by going to the chat rooms. Don't even have to leave the house.
If you really really want one go to a club or an organised social.
Now an actual "she had sex with me" verification, or even a 1on1 social date/meeting... Now that right there is the tricky part.
Additionally it is forum produced. It's a much smaller and close knit part of fab that is easier to be noticed upon based on things said. Only a small % actually use and stuck to the forum over a longer period of time, the general fab user does not use it. Standard getting a verification process methods are far more difficult than this. |
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"If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages.
And if you can smash a paving flag with your cock - obvs!!
Or have your cock smashed by a paving flag even more Impressive "
I can see there’s important research to be done!!!  |
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I'm not sure I want to treat it as a suite of learnable skills, I suppose everyone is different.
If it makes you happy then I wish you well. Congratulations on your success and thank you for sharing your wisdom.  |
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"What you've said is right, OP, but I don't think I would blame other men for feeling condescended to by your post. "
I think for that I would have to think I was somehow referenced or the subject of his post.. ive read and re read it - i think OP
Makes valid points about some behaviours on here- not my behaviour - Im pretty
Much perfect in every way to be fair but I. CAn see those faults in all the others…  |
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"If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages.
And if you can smash a paving flag with your cock - obvs!!
Or have your cock smashed by a paving flag even more Impressive
I can see there’s important research to be done!!! "
I'll do the dropping of said paving stone |
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"If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages.
And if you can smash a paving flag with your cock - obvs!!
Or have your cock smashed by a paving flag even more Impressive
I can see there’s important research to be done!!!
I'll do the dropping of said paving stone "
You’re a proper gent!! |
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"If someone wants a veri it's usually quite easy to get.
Will it change their life overnight? Nope.
It'll get you round a search filter. That's about it.
It's far less important than how your profile and pics portray you and the style and content of your messages.
And if you can smash a paving flag with your cock - obvs!!
Or have your cock smashed by a paving flag even more Impressive
I can see there’s important research to be done!!!
I'll do the dropping of said paving stone
You’re a proper gent!! "
Hence all the meaningless veris I have.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been on over a year no veris, I’m 5’8 and 52 so too old for many, still get meets mostly social and never asked for a verification never given one either, we lurk in the shadows |
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By *oecutter OP Man
over a year ago
Clonakilty |
"Op 6 weeks to get a cam veri, thats amateur at its best
Or perhaps discerning professionalism?
Who knows?
I know it isn't discerning professionalism. That's for sure "
Lol, confirmation bias and ego for the win.
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"Op 6 weeks to get a cam veri, thats amateur at its best
Or perhaps discerning professionalism?
Who knows?
I know it isn't discerning professionalism. That's for sure
Lol, confirmation bias and ego for the win.
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We can talk psychological concepts and theories all day long. Freudian school of thought will tell you a ego is a good think.
And definitely no Confirmational biases at play. It's experience of fab, seeing certain look at me threads generated, under the guise of helping those poor struggling men, who cannot get a meet. |
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"I see a common complaint on here about how hard it is to get verified as a single man (let alone arrange a meet).
Somewhat predictably, the blame for this is then foisted squarely on women.
But it's not that hard (… as the actress said to the Bishop).
I've just had my first verification (from a video call), and getting it was as easy as acting like a decent human and having a conversation, rather than sending inappropriate pictures of my anatomy and wondering why my approaches are as welcome as a turd on my pillow.
Interestingly enough, the lady messaged me out of the blue.
Why?
Because of a thoughtful and intelligent comment I made on a forum promting her to ask me a question (she wasn't seeking a playmate, in other words).
Chaps, it's not about how tall you are (I'm a short-arse), how well-endowed you are (about average), how young you are (I'm 58), or how popular you are (like most autistics, the popular kid ain't me).
Nope. This is all a suite of learnable skills.
They're not complicated or hard, but the chances are you'll start off bad at them and won't get better until you practise them.
Fair?
Probably not.
But so what?
It's still incumbent on YOU to learn them.
And ladies... if you read the verification and like what you see, don't get your hopes up too high.
TC"
Yay for you.. Your inbox will overflowing now you've fixed it. |
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"Op 6 weeks to get a cam veri, thats amateur at its best
Or perhaps discerning professionalism?
Who knows?
I know it isn't discerning professionalism. That's for sure
Lol, confirmation bias and ego for the win.
We can talk psychological concepts and theories all day long. Freudian school of thought will tell you a ego is a good think.
And definitely no Confirmational biases at play. It's experience of fab, seeing certain look at me threads generated, under the guise of helping those poor struggling men, who cannot get a meet."
True that people throw the word ego around; without a scooby do what it means. |
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"Op 6 weeks to get a cam veri, thats amateur at its best
Or perhaps discerning professionalism?
Who knows?
I know it isn't discerning professionalism. That's for sure
Lol, confirmation bias and ego for the win.
We can talk psychological concepts and theories all day long. Freudian school of thought will tell you a ego is a good think.
And definitely no Confirmational biases at play. It's experience of fab, seeing certain look at me threads generated, under the guise of helping those poor struggling men, who cannot get a meet.
True that people throw the word ego around; without a scooby do what it means."
Like most things, I sounds good, buy no real understanding of what it really is.... |
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"a ego is a good think"
"Confirmational biases"
AND you can read minds.
I give up. I'm clearly outclassed."
No reading of minds, well there is as I get to read what you generate cognitively, on the forums.... |
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By *avessMan
over a year ago
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Some people act like dicks and some people like that.
Some people use forums, some don't.
Some people are nice and genuine and some people like that.
Some people just moan (not found anyone that likes that!)
Everyone has their own way and everyone has their own likes and dislikes. There's no denying that fab is like the wild west sometimes and there are a LOT of nutters out there (Across all Men, Women, Couples, LGTBQ+). Just leave them to their tyrads.
Why don't we enjoy what we enjoy and have a good ole time! We're all here for a good time so have it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What you've said is right, OP, but I don't think I would blame other men for feeling condescended to by your post.
I think for that I would have to think I was somehow referenced or the subject of his post."
Well the title is "whiny single men". And then lots of "helpful" advice. You have to question the motivation. |
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Like most things, I sounds good, buy no real understanding of what it really is....
As I said, I'm clearly outclassed.
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Feeling the need to reiterate that point, just for clarity purposes. Enjoy your veri, I hope it brings you all thr quim in thr world |
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"What you've said is right, OP, but I don't think I would blame other men for feeling condescended to by your post.
I think for that I would have to think I was somehow referenced or the subject of his post.
Well the title is "whiny single men". And then lots of "helpful" advice. You have to question the motivation. "
You do indeed. Still got us discussing him so job done |
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