Whether it be the relationship we have with a family member, a friend or a partner, which is the greater evil (that's just a phrase) in a relationship:
A - Not to be trusted by the other.
B - Not to trust the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have very few people I would call very close friends. Neither A nor B applies to them.
As for everyone else,I treat everyone with suspicion. I don't expect them to see me any differently |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is the question about trust? Once the trust has gone its more about how you see yourself. We're you wronged or were you the wrongdoer? Presumably the lesser evil would be the one that effects you least emotionally. Different scenarios would get different answers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Wow deep question for a Sunday morning, I believe once trust has gone its near on impossible to get it back , once doubt gets in there I don't think it can ever be fixed.
Speaking from experience of messing about and having a partener who messed me about , its something I learnt to live with.
If you thought about it all the time I think you'd go mad !
I've a headache now  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I prefer not to know stuff these days... it is easier"
I tried that but you always know something unless you meet without any communication beforehand, none except the non-verbal during and, no communication after. At the end of it you still know something, however little, and what you think can be trusted about that exchange may not be what the other thinks. |
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"I agree with the once the trust has gone comments up to a point.
In answer to the OP I say B. If you don't exhibit any trust why should your partner do anything to keep your trust?"
An interesting point.... but does that apply the other way around? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Water doesn't exist without the hydrogen and the oxygen, if one is missing you can't have H2O.
To answer Polo's question I believe you need the A and the B to have trust, if either is missing you have acceptance which is something entirely different.
So in my opinion because trust would not exist without both, neither A or B would be a greater evil with regard to trust. That said, the abscence of one may be a greater evil with regard to acceptance. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree with the once the trust has gone comments up to a point.
In answer to the OP I say B. If you don't exhibit any trust why should your partner do anything to keep your trust?
An interesting point.... but does that apply the other way around?"
Yes, but I can't control anyone else. |
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