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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
So a bit of a strange one but any advice on helping me cum a bit quicker, it takes ages to come through sex and once in a blue moon through oral. Not much of a complaint you will say but can lead to both parties being sore. Any comments appreciated |
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"Are you on anti depressants?
No not on any medication "
Ok that helps.
Perhaps indulge in extended foreplay.
Abstain from sex a few days beforehand.
Avoid booze and maybe varying location might help. |
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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"Are you on anti depressants?
No not on any medication
Ok that helps.
Perhaps indulge in extended foreplay.
Abstain from sex a few days beforehand.
Avoid booze and maybe varying location might help."
Tried all the above and still no luck, cheers for the suggestions though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most"
Not loads then. Are you horny?
2x a week leaves me a mindless fiend. |
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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most
Not loads then. Are you horny?
2x a week leaves me a mindless fiend. "
Yes always horny just have great will power and prefer playing with rather than alone |
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"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most"
That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman. |
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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most
That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman."
Really? Twice a week at most |
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"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most
That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.
Really? Twice a week at most"
How often do you have sex with a woman? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most
That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.
Really? Twice a week at most"
Twice a week isn’t loads of wanking to be fair. There are plenty who wank daily and don’t find themselves desensitised from using the hand.
Are you heavily focused on cumming? Like watching a pot of water boil, it takes ages if you’re hyper focused on it.
Can try focusing on the pleasure of being with your partner and not think of cumming perhaps that will help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just learned to enjoy it whether I cum or not. And I also am not afraid to learn my body during masturbation and ask my partners to do those things. For example nipple play gets me there quicker and I ask my partners to play with my nipples.
Try learning your body. Try different things. See if anything gets you there. Ask your partners to be patient with you and try things. |
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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most
That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.
Really? Twice a week at most
Twice a week isn’t loads of wanking to be fair. There are plenty who wank daily and don’t find themselves desensitised from using the hand.
Are you heavily focused on cumming? Like watching a pot of water boil, it takes ages if you’re hyper focused on it.
Can try focusing on the pleasure of being with your partner and not think of cumming perhaps that will help. "
Thank you for the advice, i dont think im heavily focused but will try to focus on being with partner |
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"How often are you jacking it? Polishing the meat stick?
Maybe twice a week at most
That's your issue. You have trained your mind to familiarize the sensation of your hand instead of a woman's vagina. You're basically wanking too much instead of being with a real woman.
Really? Twice a week at most
Twice a week isn’t loads of wanking to be fair. There are plenty who wank daily and don’t find themselves desensitised from using the hand.
Are you heavily focused on cumming? Like watching a pot of water boil, it takes ages if you’re hyper focused on it.
Can try focusing on the pleasure of being with your partner and not think of cumming perhaps that will help. "
If he is cumming from wanking but not when being with a woman I believe that's the cause. |
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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"I just learned to enjoy it whether I cum or not. And I also am not afraid to learn my body during masturbation and ask my partners to do those things. For example nipple play gets me there quicker and I ask my partners to play with my nipples.
Try learning your body. Try different things. See if anything gets you there. Ask your partners to be patient with you and try things. "
Have tried all that but will try again, partners are patient at the moment |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I have a similar issue except mine is brought on by medication.
My answer is to stop thinking of orgasms as the end goal and instead focus on pleasure. Many people don’t orgasm or struggle to from sex, mainly femmes, often because of the perceived pressure to orgasm.
I’ve found that being open about it with partners, letting them know that it’s not about them but that I enjoy sex without orgasm and enjoy the pleasure around it as much, helps to avoid any issues.
Orgasms are great but they’re not the goal |
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By *icecock7 OP Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"I have a similar issue except mine is brought on by medication.
My answer is to stop thinking of orgasms as the end goal and instead focus on pleasure. Many people don’t orgasm or struggle to from sex, mainly femmes, often because of the perceived pressure to orgasm.
I’ve found that being open about it with partners, letting them know that it’s not about them but that I enjoy sex without orgasm and enjoy the pleasure around it as much, helps to avoid any issues.
Orgasms are great but they’re not the goal"
Thank you great advice will try that. I enjoy the sex without the orgasm but eventually you need the release aswell. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have a similar issue except mine is brought on by medication.
My answer is to stop thinking of orgasms as the end goal and instead focus on pleasure. Many people don’t orgasm or struggle to from sex, mainly femmes, often because of the perceived pressure to orgasm.
I’ve found that being open about it with partners, letting them know that it’s not about them but that I enjoy sex without orgasm and enjoy the pleasure around it as much, helps to avoid any issues.
Orgasms are great but they’re not the goal
Thank you great advice will try that. I enjoy the sex without the orgasm but eventually you need the release aswell."
Your body will release when it’s ready, you can’t force anything |
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