We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
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What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request? 
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"We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
But!
What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request?
LvM"
Happens all the time
Get a message from a woman or couple that state they want hung guys
I just politely let them know I’m average, not hung, probably not for them
And almost without fail, they ask for proof
Proof to see that I am inadequate
No thank you  |
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"I get them from couples everytime they message me
And on the rare occasion from single women 
By rare I mean like once every 6 months
You stud, you  But how do you handle them?
LvM"
Tell them I'm not what they're looking for, 9/10 the conversation ends there |
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"We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
But!
What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request?
LvM
Happens all the time
Get a message from a woman or couple that state they want hung guys
I just politely let them know I’m average, not hung, probably not for them
And almost without fail, they ask for proof
Proof to see that I am inadequate
No thank you "
This is the exact reason I put a line in our profile about my "average-ness". Doesn't deter the size queens who no better apparently
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"It’s the worst!
You get a great message and boom. They’re looking for laid back and genuine. I’m neither "
Ah, yeah. You do looking much better bent over anyway  You seen the type to enjoy stringing them along a bit though
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"We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
But!
What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request?
LvM
Happens all the time
Get a message from a woman or couple that state they want hung guys
I just politely let them know I’m average, not hung, probably not for them
And almost without fail, they ask for proof
Proof to see that I am inadequate
No thank you
This is the exact reason I put a line in our profile about my "average-ness". Doesn't deter the size queens who no better apparently
LvM "
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"We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
But!
What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request?
LvM
Happens all the time
Get a message from a woman or couple that state they want hung guys
I just politely let them know I’m average, not hung, probably not for them
And almost without fail, they ask for proof
Proof to see that I am inadequate
No thank you
This is the exact reason I put a line in our profile about my "average-ness". Doesn't deter the size queens who no better apparently
LvM "
I’ve had them try to say it’s ok before, they don’t mind average
So you specifically put in your profile that you want hung, and you expect me to come over knowing full well that I’m not enough but your desperate enough to give me a chance
Again, no thanks |
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I bring it up to them and make sure they're okay with whatever it is. Sometimes it's people being desperate for a meet as others have said.
However wants and desires are pretty fluid and if you have a regular set of wants it would be annoying to have to update your profile everytime you have a new temporary desire
Also it means that you can look for those things rather than having people coming to you looking for them when you don't want it (e.g. an influx of daily messages for something you only want once in a blue moon) |
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"Tell them I'm not what they're looking for, 9/10 the conversation ends there "
I try that, but then they either say the profile preferences are just to stop so many men messaging and they don’t really mean it … or they say ‘yeah, I’m not usually looking for *whatever* but you’re different.’
I can’t win.
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Yeah I don't get it. We are occasionally messaged by guys asking to sub for me. Ehhhhh where on our profile does it suggest that is what we're looking for? Sometimes it's very specific, too. I guess maybe it's a wank fantasy.
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"I bring it up to them and make sure they're okay with whatever it is. Sometimes it's people being desperate for a meet as others have said.
However wants and desires are pretty fluid and if you have a regular set of wants it would be annoying to have to update your profile everytime you have a new temporary desire
Also it means that you can look for those things rather than having people coming to you looking for them when you don't want it (e.g. an influx of daily messages for something you only want once in a blue moon)"
All very true  My question is more about *those* profiles. Y'know, the ones with a forty page manifesto listing, in detail, all of the requirements one must have. Don't fit one of those? Binned. Those profiles
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"Tell them I'm not what they're looking for, 9/10 the conversation ends there
I try that, but then they either say the profile preferences are just to stop so many men messaging and they don’t really mean it … or they say ‘yeah, I’m not usually looking for *whatever* but you’re different.’
I can’t win.
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God, you're just irresistible aren't you? Must be the jawline 
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"This is the exact reason I put a line in our profile about my "average-ness". Doesn't deter the size queens who no better apparently
LvM
We heard you're hung like a Shetland pony "
Like an acorn in long grass
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"This is the exact reason I put a line in our profile about my "average-ness". Doesn't deter the size queens who no better apparently
LvM
We heard you're hung like a Shetland pony
Like an acorn in long grass
LvM"
That's definitely on our profile. Somewhere |
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I thought this when you first messaged us. We're both conspiracy nuts and are both cheating on each other. I take LOTS of drxgs.
But hey, each to their own 
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"I thought this when you first messaged us. We're both conspiracy nuts and are both cheating on each other. I take LOTS of drxgs.
But hey, each to their own
F"
To be fair, you made some good arguments for the moon being hollow.
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"Bizarre, isn't it?! Winks and messages from couples who state no beards or bald guys. We have enough photos on our profile that you can see B has a number one on top and a beard.
J"
Ah but they'll make an exception for you guys
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"I bring it up to them and make sure they're okay with whatever it is. Sometimes it's people being desperate for a meet as others have said.
However wants and desires are pretty fluid and if you have a regular set of wants it would be annoying to have to update your profile everytime you have a new temporary desire
Also it means that you can look for those things rather than having people coming to you looking for them when you don't want it (e.g. an influx of daily messages for something you only want once in a blue moon)"
Totally get that people do sometimes seek someone out of scope, especially for the right people. Or sometimes just look to comprise when they really fancy to look of someone although they are not sexually compatible on paper. Although I think it's a flawed strategy when lead by wishful thinking and/or driven purely by the metaphorical penis rather than actual sexual tastes and desire.
However you'd think if they'd read the profile they'd be well aware that their's is not compatible. So you'd expect them to explain a little in the message their being not compatible on paper. Just some like I/we know that on paper we're intrested in/not intrested in this or that but we feel with you we could work very well. If you have to reply back for clarity on why they messaged you because their profile says this it opens up they way for disingenuous replys if they hadn't indeed read your profile properly. It promps them to carefully tailor replys around what they think you want to hear base off the profile they've now gone and read. So I would say if they've sent a nice message of substance but not acknowledged in it the profile mismatch that's maybe a bit of a red flag.
It's probably not desperation (at least in terms of getting any meets) more that you're really attractive to them. They basically find you hot from the pictures they've seen. Which of course is flattering. But obviously you need to ask are you going to find common ground sexually? Is it just a case they're that desperate to get into your pants they will just say anything and disregard factors of play style, tastes and/or boundaries? |
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I experience this often, sometimes from couples but usually from women: they assume (or pretended to assume) that I am tall, gym-fit and 'washboard toned', follow all sorts of unspeakable kinks, expect me to be hirsute and so forth.
I indulge them in conversation but am often surprised how they will contravene their own steadfast criteria to fit into my requirements. |
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To be fair, with me it’s usually women who have ‘NO MARRIED MEN’ shouting from their profile. And then decide that it’s really more of a guideline than a rule … hardly worth bothering with. Let’s just ignore it.
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By *eliWoman
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I'm going to have to say this but I'm not making it a "race" thread.
When people message me and they have, sometimes even in caps, that they only meet white/Caucasian people, nothing racist it's just a preference blah blah blah.
I do take a little bit of joy in pointing out I don't meet one of their requirements and reading the reasons I'm exempt from that that follows. |
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"I do take a little bit of joy in pointing out I don't meet one of their requirements and reading the reasons I'm exempt from that that follows. "
What’s been the most ridiculous/memorable way of tying themselves in knots trying not to sound racist? |
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"I do take a little bit of joy in pointing out I don't meet one of their requirements and reading the reasons I'm exempt from that that follows.
What’s been the most ridiculous/memorable way of tying themselves in knots trying not to sound racist?"
This should be entertaining
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"We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
But!
What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request?
LvM"
Rub my hands together, mutter to myself “ fishing time “
cast out, and reel in a live one.
Especially if it’s a message just to the mrs. I like to point out that there is two of us and they are a sexist pig. Which I’ve found most men don’t like to be called. I love a rage block.
The mr
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"I do take a little bit of joy in pointing out I don't meet one of their requirements and reading the reasons I'm exempt from that that follows.
What’s been the most ridiculous/memorable way of tying themselves in knots trying not to sound racist?"
Oh! Easy. The couple who told me my facial features aren't "that black" because apparently the Mrs didn't like "black" features. Thanks Mum for the whiteness, really helped me out there. |
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"We all know the annoyance of receiving messages from people who've clearly not read your profile, and don't match at all what you're looking for.
But!
What do you do when you receive an interested message from someone else, and upon looking at *their* profile, find that you do not match what they passionately, vehemently, and exclusively request?
LvM"
I’d either move on or ask them what they found so attractive about my profile, that they messaged, despite having no shared interests and see if there are other, different interests you share. If not, then move on. A physical attraction alone, doesn’t work for me personally. |
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