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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It really depends. If we’ve had no interaction whatsoever and they ask me for a socia then probably not.

If we’ve spoken on forums or chat room or messages and got along well then sure, but I would stress it’s a social

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Depends why you're meeting them. If it were me I'd want to be totally clear with the other person that it was purely social and not a "let's meet and see" deal, either then or later.

Mrs TMN x

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By *estinyIsAllCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Depends why you're meeting them. If it were me I'd want to be totally clear with the other person that it was purely social and not a "let's meet and see" deal, either then or later.

Mrs TMN x"

I agree with this completely.

D x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

It depends if they were in the area, we'd interacted and fancied a coffee if it was just that a coffee then yeah why not.

If they thought more would happen definitely not.

Mrs

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

Depends. If it's someone I've spoken with before, at a social or the forum, then probably. But it also depends on what intentions they had, if as you said I'm not interested to this person, and they're dropping heavy hints of more than a social, there's a good chance I'd put my foot down or just turn it down completely.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually I’ve thought about it and I would meet for a social, simply because a social is exactly that right?

There are no expectations of play?

I’m playing the

advocate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually I’ve thought about it and I would meet for a social, simply because a social is exactly that right?

There are no expectations of play?

I’m playing the

advocate"

That’s what I’m inclined to think but sometimes I wonder if I give off the wrong assumption unintentionally. Thus, I was curious. Perhaps being overtly clear is what’s missing.

I did meet someone for a coffee after a year of back and forth messages. It was very well clear it was just a coffee. I thought they’d try to make it more but they did adhere to coffee free of expectations. They did wish they’d kissed me afterwards and well, I never saw them again.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I'd go somewhere interesting with them, as long as they were absolutely ok with nothing sexual happening between us.

If they're happy to be a friend then I'd do it.

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By *heelerMan over a year ago

Northants

No id still meet might lead to a bit of fun

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Actually I’ve thought about it and I would meet for a social, simply because a social is exactly that right?

There are no expectations of play?

I’m playing the

advocate"

I've been groped at just a social, and been asked for a blow job in an alley on the way back to the station.

I don't do socials now.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"Depends why you're meeting them. If it were me I'd want to be totally clear with the other person that it was purely social and not a "let's meet and see" deal, either then or later.

Mrs TMN x"

Same. Also there's a difference at group socials too. Happy to chat with anyone there, no matter if I find them attractive or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd go somewhere interesting with them, as long as they were absolutely ok with nothing sexual happening between us.

If they're happy to be a friend then I'd do it.

I don’t have sex anyway. I’m Virgin Bella.

But yeah, it’s whether they truly see it as nothing ever happening. Not even a kiss.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"No id still meet might lead to a bit of fun"

But the person has insisted they don't want a bit of fun.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"Actually I’ve thought about it and I would meet for a social, simply because a social is exactly that right?

There are no expectations of play?

I’m playing the

advocate

I've been groped at just a social, and been asked for a blow job in an alley on the way back to the station.

I don't do socials now.

Yes, I was asked for a BJ in the car by the first guy we ever met socially

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No id still meet might lead to a bit of fun"

See this is the type of thinking I reckon the other person is hoping for.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I'd go somewhere interesting with them, as long as they were absolutely ok with nothing sexual happening between us.

If they're happy to be a friend then I'd do it.

I don’t have sex anyway. I’m Virgin Bella.

But yeah, it’s whether they truly see it as nothing ever happening. Not even a kiss. "

No matter how much we insist there will be no intimacy, some people will still think "you never know "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It depends if they were in the area, we'd interacted and fancied a coffee if it was just that a coffee then yeah why not.

If they thought more would happen definitely not.

Mrs "

With you two I think more would happen, I think we'd become very good friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends why you're meeting them. If it were me I'd want to be totally clear with the other person that it was purely social and not a "let's meet and see" deal, either then or later.

Mrs TMN x

Same. Also there's a difference at group socials too. Happy to chat with anyone there, no matter if I find them attractive or not. "

Yea, not a group social. Just two people meeting socially for a coffee.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If we've spoken and got on well & they were clear and happy that it would be a social only,then possibly.

Otherwise no.

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

Someone from Fab? We wouldn’t be meeting them for a social unless it was to explore the possibility of a meet, so if there was no attraction then no.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Actually I’ve thought about it and I would meet for a social, simply because a social is exactly that right?

There are no expectations of play?

I’m playing the

advocate

I've been groped at just a social, and been asked for a blow job in an alley on the way back to the station.

I don't do socials now.

Yes, I was asked for a BJ in the car by the first guy we ever met socially

Oh yes, I've had that too.

One drove us to somewhere quiet and thought I was going to suck his cock.

I think he was lying about being able to accommodate and didn't want the bother of going for a d*unk etc.

Another reason I stopped doing socials to see if we feel any attraction.

I do all that online now.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Actually I’ve thought about it and I would meet for a social, simply because a social is exactly that right?

There are no expectations of play?

I’m playing the

advocate

I've been groped at just a social, and been asked for a blow job in an alley on the way back to the station.

I don't do socials now.

Yes, I was asked for a BJ in the car by the first guy we ever met socially

Oh yes, I've had that too.

One drove us to somewhere quiet and thought I was going to suck his cock.

I think he was lying about being able to accommodate and didn't want the bother of going for a d*unk etc.

Another reason I stopped doing socials to see if we feel any attraction.

I do all that online now.

Going for a drink. I wasn't d*unk

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By *illy IdolMan over a year ago

Midlands

"I'd go somewhere interesting with them, as long as they were absolutely ok with nothing sexual happening between us.

If they're happy to be a friend then I'd do it.

I don’t have sex anyway. I’m Virgin Bella.

But yeah, it’s whether they truly see it as nothing ever happening. Not even a kiss. "

Just stress it's a social. If you've been chatting and they seem decent I'm sure they'll respect this.

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By *weet.touchMan over a year ago

liverpool

I'd say so yes. I would feel awkward knowing at some point I will have to reject them.

I would love to have a female friend or two where there is no lust just shits and giggles. Someone on my wave.

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

It would utterly depend on my mood.

I'm erring towards unlikely though.

I make friends easily enough in the real world, I don't need leches off here

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By *estinyIsAllCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

"No id still meet might lead to a bit of fun"

This is exactly why I wouldn't. Before it's happened some guys would hope for more or try their luck - even when it's just a social with no interest of more.

D x

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman over a year ago

your head

No, not at all but I'm only looking to see people socially at the moment. I would have to have a reason to want to meet them but that's because I'm not much of a people person. I only like certain ones.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Depends why you're meeting them. If it were me I'd want to be totally clear with the other person that it was purely social and not a "let's meet and see" deal, either then or later.

Mrs TMN x

Same. Also there's a difference at group socials too. Happy to chat with anyone there, no matter if I find them attractive or not.

Yea, not a group social. Just two people meeting socially for a coffee. "

I don’t tend to meet purely socially from fab, unless it's a group social. People I've got to know via fab and am now friends with, that's different. But just meeting from fab for a cuppa? I wouldn't.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No harm in a coffee or drink .. May even get on un real life

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No id still meet might lead to a bit of fun

This is exactly why I wouldn't. Before it's happened some guys would hope for more or try their luck - even when it's just a social with no interest of more.

D x"

Exactly x

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By *weet.touchMan over a year ago

liverpool

"No, not at all but I'm only looking to see people socially at the moment. I would have to have a reason to want to meet them but that's because I'm not much of a people person. I only like certain ones. "

I hear that. I'm social but lately became picky with who I spend time with

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"No id still meet might lead to a bit of fun"

Did you understand the original question?

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By *etterdays2021Man over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Its like wining the lottery here if you got a reply..a social its like a 100000000000000000000 in one

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

Is this assuming they've told you they fancy you? I can see if you've already had "the chat" you might want to be careful not to appear as if you're leading them on, but I'd otherwise always be up for a social with someone I didn't fancy where we got on as friends (or I thought we would from chatting online etc).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never expect any play on a social, and don’t play beyond maybe a kiss on a first social, however attraction or not I would like to share a quote on someones profile

“Your personality matters. Physically gorgeous people can be really ugly and physically less attractive people, initially, can become hotter with a well-disposed personality.“

Sometimes you might be surprised if you focus less on what you seek and more on what is out there

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By *oitering-With-intentMan over a year ago

city of Lodon

Maybe if you say something like "Definitely no sex on a first meet basis".

That way if you have been messaging for a while they know wherw they stand.

Unfortunately some people don't think that will apply to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going to sound really shallow here but let's face it, if we can't be honest here, what's the point?

If when I get a face pic and I don't fancy them, it's end of conversation as far as I'm concerned, I am not one of these people "turn my mind on the rest will follow" if I don't fancy you, I'm not going to meet you. If we get on really well over text and stuff and I've made it clear we aren't going to meet and just carry on chatting via text for friendship, totally different and could it lead to having a social further down the line but as mates? Who knows.

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe if you say something like "Definitely no sex on a first meet basis".

That way if you have been messaging for a while they know wherw they stand.

Unfortunately some people don't think that will apply to them. "

It’s not a matter of being coy or an inability to say hey it’s social. It’s more the idea of not being able to control their view of my idea of what social only means. It’s not social that will one day lead to more. It’s social and it’s all it will ever be. But do they get that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is this assuming they've told you they fancy you? I can see if you've already had "the chat" you might want to be careful not to appear as if you're leading them on, but I'd otherwise always be up for a social with someone I didn't fancy where we got on as friends (or I thought we would from chatting online etc)."

This isn’t where there is mutual interest or attraction. It’s where it’s one sided. Coffee is coffee for me. But there’s some coffee that’s intentional and worthy of exploring beyond the coffee. The thighs speak to you. The mind too. You want to explore further.

There is also coffee that feels almost forced. They find you intriguing, your mind attractive, or whatever but you’re not feeling the same. To me, social coffee is okay even if I’m not attracted to someone, and they’d know it’s coffee only not an opportunity to make me think it can be more solely because they are happy for it to be more.

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By *armandwet50Couple over a year ago

Far far away

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By *armandwet50Couple over a year ago

Far far away

Why would you want to meet someone socially if you have no intentions to take it further?

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By *offiaCoolWoman over a year ago

Kidsgrove

A very long time ago I met someone for a social, I couldn't have made it clearer that it was a social only to gauge any chemistry for a possible future meet. He turned up on the Friday evening, and part way through the evening told me he had an overnight bag packed ready in the car, he was glad because we were getting on so well. I said that I had repeatedly told him this was a social only. He said yes, but as we get on so well and I'm not doing anything this weekend, I thought we could make a weekend of it. I told him I was working 12 hour shifts Saturday and Sunday. He said it's ok, I'll wait in bed for you. I couldn't get him to understand that no way on this earth was I going to leave a random bloke in my house, come home from work after a 12 hour plus shift, stay up late having sex, get up at 05.30.........he posted a status update that I was a timewaster

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By *offiaCoolWoman over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Why would you want to meet someone socially if you have no intentions to take it further?"

For friendship, emotional support, to give someone an opportunity for a verification......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? "

as long as everyone knows that theres no attraction and its just a social theres no harm in getting to know people and having a laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

I would happily meet someone just for a social if I got on with them. If I knew I wouldn't want anything more than that though I would make that completely clear as leading people on is shit

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think this is one of those cases were over communication is a good idea

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I would happily meet someone just for a social if I got on with them. If I knew I wouldn't want anything more than that though I would make that completely clear as leading people on is shit "

^^ this. 100%

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman over a year ago

Schitts Creek

I’ve actually done this a few times and one of my closest friends now is the result of just having a social without expectations.

Thankfully I’ve only once had someone overstep boundaries - it was also my first ever social, so now I am very particular who I will and won’t meet and will spend time getting to know people over messages first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A very long time ago I met someone for a social, I couldn't have made it clearer that it was a social only to gauge any chemistry for a possible future meet. He turned up on the Friday evening, and part way through the evening told me he had an overnight bag packed ready in the car, he was glad because we were getting on so well. I said that I had repeatedly told him this was a social only. He said yes, but as we get on so well and I'm not doing anything this weekend, I thought we could make a weekend of it. I told him I was working 12 hour shifts Saturday and Sunday. He said it's ok, I'll wait in bed for you. I couldn't get him to understand that no way on this earth was I going to leave a random bloke in my house, come home from work after a 12 hour plus shift, stay up late having sex, get up at 05.30.........he posted a status update that I was a timewaster

Ugghhh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why would you want to meet someone socially if you have no intentions to take it further?"

Omg yes!! What's the point of a person if they won't fuck!!

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'm going to sound really shallow here but let's face it, if we can't be honest here, what's the point?

Danish x"

That seems very mixed messages to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why would you want to meet someone socially if you have no intentions to take it further?

Omg yes!! What's the point of a person if they won't fuck!!"

I guess this confirms to everyone that we’ve had sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person. "

I loved it.

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person. "

I actually didn’t say that…

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Why would you want to meet someone socially if you have no intentions to take it further?"

For a nice day out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I loved it.

You don’t find me attractive, F? Swear on my life you don’t?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I actually didn’t say that…

I know you fancy me my love

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I actually didn’t say that…

I know you fancy me my love"

I cannot lie. I do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I loved it.

You don’t find me attractive, F? Swear on my life you don’t?"

I didn't say that. I just didn't fancy you for a social.. I thought we were going to have hot steamy sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I loved it.

You don’t find me attractive, F? Swear on my life you don’t?

I didn't say that. I just didn't fancy you for a social.. I thought we were going to have hot steamy sex.

Phew. I was going to drink a lot of wine

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

No, as long as they're happy being friends and only friends. I'd be very clear - it's fair on us both and stops any awkward moments. You can be friends with people you wouldn't mind bumping uglies with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I actually didn’t say that…

I know you fancy me my love

I cannot lie. I do

LB, fuck around and get this pickle I swear

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

I would still meet, because for me looks are only one part of fancying someone. I have had occasions of not initially fancying someone but then becoming attracted to their personality

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I met someone that didn’t fancy me for a social and it was one of my favourite fab experiences. She’s a great person.

I actually didn’t say that…

I know you fancy me my love

I cannot lie. I do

LB, fuck around and get this pickle I swear

. That’s what I’m after

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"No, as long as they're happy being friends and only friends. I'd be very clear - it's fair on us both and stops any awkward moments. You can be friends with people you wouldn't mind bumping uglies with. "

Meli that is an awesome saying

And so so true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet a number of fabsters socially, they are gorgeous people and I love spending time with them, can guarantee they don't fancy me, but we enjoy the others company.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? "

Would depend on them and there approach also to socials and expectations of a social.

I've seen photos of people and thought I dont fancy you, your not my usual type but then met them for a social and they look way better than the photos and I do find them attractive and found them super interesting which makes them more attractive.

Though I always do socials with zero expectations and let people know that before arranging.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not?

Would depend on them and there approach also to socials and expectations of a social.

Though I always do socials with zero expectations and let people know that before arranging. "

No one should agree to a social and believe that it’s a god given right to then have sex with them

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? "
some people can be sexy and attractive without being good looking, sometimes the only way to find out is by meeting in person, Chatting with someone online and judging by pictures alone can lead to a false representation of the actual person.

The same can be said in reverse for a seemingly attractive person in pic's and messages.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? some people can be sexy and attractive without being good looking, sometimes the only way to find out is by meeting in person, Chatting with someone online and judging by pictures alone can lead to a false representation of the actual person.

The same can be said in reverse for a seemingly attractive person in pic's and messages.

Well said. There’s some very sexy attractive ladies with very ugly off putting personalities

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? "

I've always met people socially one on one whom I at the time fancied and knew fancied me. As I was here for connections which involved sex, there was little point in meeting someone socially that didn't present that possibility.

Meeting others in group socials was completely different as I'd chat to as many people as I could, regardless of attraction level. Interestingly, a few who I wasn't attracted to online proved different in person and did pique my interest.

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By *ansoffateMan over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? "

That's a tricky one. Historically, when that hasn't worked often - it's generally had that someone wants more vibe. However, if there's trust and open communication there's a been a few amazing exceptions.

I am absolutely far more interested in friendship than just sex. There's no contest between the two for me.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

No not all all, I'd still happily meet, as long as it was clear to them and they understood it was just a social and social only and nothing was going to change that

Tinder x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

The same can be said in reverse for a seemingly attractive person in pic's and messages.

Perhaps I’m weird, but attraction - initially - for me is physical. That can either be sustained or or can fall off the scales all together based on personality. The person isn’t hideous in appearance. My dislike is based on non physical attributes, and there’s no way to overcome that.

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

I'll meet you in any context just don't mind the drool

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No, I wouldn't waste mine or their time.

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By *apnDomMan over a year ago

London | Belfast

"If you don’t fancy someone, would that prevent you from meeting them socially?

They fancy you though. Does this present an imbalance which affects whether you’d meet socially or not? "

Dont see the point of this thread. If women don't fancy you, they won't even talk to you let alone spend their time meeting you. I get it, why would you meet a man, that you don't fancy, and spend time with them, knowing fully well that they will use the time to smooth you over anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'll meet you in any context just don't mind the drool"

I had a few droolers’ meet ups

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll chat to anyone, but I wouldn't go to the effort of meeting if I didn't fancy them. I like making new friends but I think doing that via Fab would just be sending mixed signals.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends why you're meeting them. If it were me I'd want to be totally clear with the other person that it was purely social and not a "let's meet and see" deal, either then or later.

Mrs TMN x"

I think this is the best way to go into any social. I hate the idea of a social and let's see because my stupid brain likes to compartmentalise a social and sex meet and don't like to switch my brain from one to the other. Just be clear!

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By *ruceyyMan over a year ago

London

"I'll meet you in any context just don't mind the drool

I had a few droolers’ meet ups "

I'm pretty good for providing lubricant to be fair

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