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Is sexual history important?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they bareback without thought then that would put me off.Obviously relationships are exempt from that. I don't need to know anything else about their sexual history. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not something I'd ask about
But if it's laid out for me to see (veris, forum posts) , then it would influence my thoughts "
If I know their history it puts me off. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's not something I'd ask about
But if it's laid out for me to see (veris, forum posts) , then it would influence my thoughts "
Yep, very much this. I don't really think about it until it's there for me to see. Sexual health wise I'm responsible for my own. Someone's past is their past but if I can see it? It might influence things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the person
I wouldn’t shame someone for not wanting to date someone with a high body count
I can’t agree personally, but it’s their choice
But really, you’ll never know the truth. If a girl doesn’t want you to know that she slept with the entire rugby team at a party, she’s not gonna tell you |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
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You can’t know what you don’t know, however, we tend to judge how careful people are with their own health.
If you see lots of bareback photos that look like different people and if they mention they want bareback then we class them as higher risk. 150 play veris also makes us question the risk we’re taking. Some, of course, may do lots of bareback/meets but hide it well.
Sexual history is definitely important to assess the situation in some cases. |
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I find people are often willing to share it in conversation. I don't think I've ever asked directly. I have been asked and if both are comfortable to share it can be fun.
It's another way to find out about each other and develop intimacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends on the person
I wouldn’t shame someone for not wanting to date someone with a high body count
I can’t agree personally, but it’s their choice
But really, you’ll never know the truth. If a girl doesn’t want you to know that she slept with the entire rugby team at a party, she’s not gonna tell you"
For me, it would be the fact she told everyone she fucked the whole rugby team. Same with veris on profiles. I don't want to see them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m an adult that understands how to have safe sex and has safe sex. So I don’t really care too tough who else a woman has slept with or is sleeping with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Off the back of another thread...
Does peoples sexual history help you decide to get jiggy or not?
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Yes it does. And if someone is or isn't open about their history doesn't bother me either way. I quite like hearing what they've got up to and what their experiences have been. I don't mean names etc, but their overall sexual adventures and experiences can tell me what type of lover they are. And as such if we match up in sexual preferences etc.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"If I’m interested in the person, I’m usually interested about the history & I don’t always like it, but it is what it is. I’d rather wait and they tell me than read about it on FAB"
This is close enough for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Off the back of another thread...
Does peoples sexual history help you decide to get jiggy or not?
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Not really. I find men are more interested in mine than vice versa. I'm always curious how a guy got into kink. But not in a "this will help me make my mind up" way. |
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"I’m definitely more attracted to others with a similar mind set and relaxed approach so maybe that’s down to past experiences"
I think this is true. We are attracted to like-minded. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to leave anyone I’ve met a sexual veri and they’ve never left me one either. I just wouldn’t be interested in someone who plasters their sex life on here so I obviously am attracted to people of the same mind set. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's another way to find out about each other and develop intimacy."
Exactly this. If their sexual history is something that makes me recoil then they aren’t the person for me. Equally, if they share their sexual history in a such a way that it develops intimacy I don’t see it as negative. We all have a past. Judging someone on theirs, exclusively, is a bit strange. We are hopefully dynamic individuals and not static. What’s more important is their sexual health. |
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It depends.
If I'm dating someone then no, it doesn't bother me as they're interested in me as I am them.
If it's someone on here, with loads of verifications from meeting for sex and not just attending gatherings, I find it intimidating and quite off-putting as a result.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s important to have this conversation as soon as possible because after a point you can’t really come back from telling your partner that you slept with their mum at a swingers club. |
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By *ullyMan
over a year ago
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As has been said, history no health yes, also a big no no is having bareback on a profile or saying they are on prep. This does nothing to assure me, instead I immediately think they are throwing caution to the wind and are very very promiscuous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest. "
Mine was a 50+
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"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.
Mine was a 50+
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That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.
Mine was a 50+
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That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently "
You mean when you entered mine. I have the verification remember.
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"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.
Mine was a 50+
F
That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently
You mean when you entered mine. I have the verification remember.
F"
I had to wear 2 condoms when I entered you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d sooner not know if a bird I was meeting had previously used her bumhole as collecting device for a 20+ person anal creampie party. If I’m honest.
Mine was a 50+
F
That’s why I was wearing a full body condom when you entered my space recently
You mean when you entered mine. I have the verification remember.
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I had to wear 2 condoms when I entered you "
Just 2? I'd get yourself tested mate |
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