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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly  |
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over a year ago
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
life's to short just go for it i like a lady to make first move definitely |
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Do it, nothing wrong with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
It really depends upon the situation. Most recent occurrence was when Lucy came by to pick up an eBay purchase, she sent me a text after to ask if I wanted to meet up for a coffee/drink.
It’s a brave thing to do and most men would admire that trait. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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It's hot if I find them hot.
I admire the confidence and appreciate the compliment regardless of where it is from.
It is not going to make me say yes just because they asked though. Honestly for the most part women just don't do it enough though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But unfortunately 97% of women on here do not initiate contact with men first when they getting overwhelmed already with messages from men. So probably have to appreciate the minority of women who do |
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely.
Mrs TMN x"
Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not 
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Stop thinking on the lines of does it desperate or is it desirable.
Has he asked you out?
No
Does he want to?
Well if you feel there's chemistry maybe.
Is it likely he will ask you out in the future?
Indications seem to suggest not.
So what have you got to lose? Just be a grown adult and ask him. And if he can't be an adult and respect you taking the initiative its no loss really. Personally I like/respect women who are adults and confident to clearly communicate with me how they feel, especially if they where looking for a relationship or at least something regular like FWB. Communication and openness are traits I value.
(BTW I think it coming across as desperate and/or cringy has more to do with how you ask rather than should you ask)
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It's doesn't look desperate for a woman to make the first move especially in this so called equal society some guy's are really shy when it comes to talking to women because a lot of guys feel intimidated by going up to a woman and trying to ask them out because we are sceard of regection sorry about the spelling and they would love for a woman to make the first move and trust me 9 out of 10 times the guy will say yes because it tells them that they are disired by someone. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Fucking do it. Especially this day and age! I think no one can complain about not meeting the right people etc if they aren't giving it a go and taking chances and realising what's the worst that can happen...
(*Which by the way is a block on here - doesn't change too much, some people just don't like you)
...so just do it! Us men LOVE a compliment. Crawl into our DMS, tell us we look good - we don't mind! |
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
I think you should assert yourself and pop the question. It’s another fake gender role where guys have to face and deal with possible rejection. It is never a given that your attraction will be reciprocal. Just feel the fear and do it anyway. What’s the worse that can happen? A bruised ego? |
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So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
They have to with me. If they don’t then I have no idea how they’re responding to me. I can’t read facial expressions or body language, and so I have no way of telling if a woman is flirting with me.
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"I’ve made the first move 3 times, and each one said no (I respect their decisions of course)
But now I hate making the first move  "
It's no different to guys who have to make first moves a gillion times  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose
I'd have to find another car wash!! Lol!!"
To be honest, around my way no one in the car washes speaks english, so if you've not got the courage to ask him in English, figuring out his lingo, going through Google translate and getting a no could be a tad embarrassing |
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely.
Mrs TMN x
Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not
LvM"
Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know.
Mrs TMN x |
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely.
Mrs TMN x
Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not
LvM
Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know.
Mrs TMN x"
Fancy a fuck? 
LvM |
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Dating for guys can be a mine field these days. And actually scary. I think it should now and always should’ve been the woman’s prerogative to make the first move. Then they wouldn’t have to deal with unwanted advances. |
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely.
Mrs TMN x
Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not
LvM
Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know.
Mrs TMN x
Fancy a fuck?
LvM"
Yep. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Its definitely hot. As a man depending on the situation I prefer the women to make the first move. In a nightclub situation we all know that guy who has to gets physically picked out the way because he is harssing women and does not get the hint. I do not want to be associated with that guy.
In a nightclub situation it can be difficult to guess people's intentions and boundaries. For me grinding with someone is just dancing and there is nothing more to it. Where as someone else may see that as a massive invasion of space. Another situation you may fancy her but all she wants to do is grind with you.
Basically I don't want to accidently hurt someone or be accused of something. So it's best for the women to make the first move. That way you know where you stand. Imo. I know a lot people will disagree with my cautious approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never understood why it's seen as desperate to ask for something you want. Genuinely.
Mrs TMN x
Because you've got to be all sexy and mysterious to the point that nobody actually knows if you're interested or not
LvM
Fuck that. If I like you, you'll know.
Mrs TMN x"
And if she doesn’t, you’ll also know! |
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The lady would have to be my type for it to be hot and appealing. Nothing worse than being hit on by someone who is not my type. You have nothing to lose trying though after all there are plenty of car wash places around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I did get messages from couples only to realise that it was mostly men trying to be women to get my attention hence why I blocked straight couples messaging me along with other men and trans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Is he single? |
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
If it's someone I like the look of, it's really hot. If it isn't it's rather awkward. |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly
Is he single?"
I don't know!! I just know him as hot car wash guy!! |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Does he give all the lady drivers the eye?
Maybe that's just what he's like... do you even know if he's single? And straight? "
I don't know if he does it to all women but he definitely bloody does it to me  |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly
Is he single?
I don't know!! I just know him as hot car wash guy!!"
I usually ask leading questions. Like, oh I bet your girlfriend (cos you've checked for a wedding ring) has to wash your car cos you do everyone else's.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Just go for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"20 seconds of courage...what have you got to lose
Dignity I my case I'd be mortified if they turned me down, no matter how nicely they did it lol"
He’s very unlikely to turn her down |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"OK shy ladies here an offer for you send me sample of what your first message to someone would be and I'll give you feedback ."
I personally have no problem messaging someone on Fab- it's the face to face approach I struggle with!! |
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By *reg2021Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I was going out with my girlfriend for a month be for i kissed here she got told back thing about me so in the end she said we going to bed i want a shag fuck the kiss LOL still with her now still don't kiss MUTCH so jf you like him love go OVER GIVE him you number if not give it to a friend of his |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey OP I say do it. Write a little note with your number on it. Then there's no worry about him having to give an answer to your face.
At least then, if you don't hear from him you have your answer, no embarrassment, you know where you stand without an actual rejection!
Hopefully the signals are correct and he acts on it!
Be brave, try it! X  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK shy ladies here an offer for you send me sample of what your first message to someone would be and I'll give you feedback .
I personally have no problem messaging someone on Fab- it's the face to face approach I struggle with!!"
I find it hard to believe he’d turn you down |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx"
Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx
Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!! "
Real life is easy compared to Fab |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx
Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!!
Real life is easy compared to Fab "
I don't agree, I'm afraid! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love you not THAT shy your on here don't mean it in a bad way xx
Lol!! Fab isn't the same as in real life! I get approached on Fab by men I'm very attracted to, who only message me because it's Fab. They wouldn't give me a second glance if we passed each other on the street!!
Real life is easy compared to Fab
I don't agree, I'm afraid!"
Fair enough - don’t expect you to agree |
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Is giving your number "making the first move"? I see it as "here's how to contact me, I'll wait for you to make the first move".
Ask him out... that would be making the first move.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In theory it would be best for women to block all single men but make the first move on the men they interested in as it eliminates (or limits) unwanted attention from the men they not keen on |
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By *.L.0460. OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In theory it would be best for women to block all single men but make the first move on the men they interested in as it eliminates (or limits) unwanted attention from the men they not keen on"
This thread is about real life, not online... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?"
It’s quite possibly the hottest thing possible! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why can't I do it????
I regularly take my car to a local car wash & the attendant is HOT!! We give each other the eye every time but I keep chickening out of giving him my number!
So, men of Fab- what do you think of women that make the first move? Hot or not? Is it appealing or does it seem desperate?
Opinions please!!
Ta muchly "
Confidence is attractive to me,
Worst case he doesn't call or accept the number, he might have a partner already, and you have to use a different car wash
Fortune favours the brave |
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"Thanks for the comments.
I think I'll take the car for a clean a couple more times while I pluck up the courage!!! "
Maybe get him into a conversation a couple of times before you decide about giving him your number, but do let us know… |
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