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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
F"
There is no reason you can't be here just for social meets, there is no requirement to meet at all...
All I would say is be clear on your profile about that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There is no reason you can't be here just for social meets, there is no requirement to meet at all...
All I would say is be clear on your profile about that. "
But I like to confuse people! 
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I'm more than happy to meet people just for socials. This is as much a way to meet interesting like minded people that can be friends for me as it is to find people that may want to get naked with me. So yes - if you enjoy being on here stay around. If people have expectations when you have been clear otherwise - then that is on them!  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I'm here for me and whatever I may find in my own way and time.
It is one reason why I value connection as much as I do. The sex is not an obligation it just happens, or it may not but I'm happy to just be here/there (wherever) with the connection.
So I'm here for that - forum, social, sex - so long as connection exists. |
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We always social if it progresses then great, but to be honest right now I'm not looking for any more than social, I'm not in the space to be arsed about sex with others, socials are all good.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the time I'm only here to meet people socially but it's just me so it's easier for me to wing it and do whatever feels right at any particular time.
There's no right or wrong way to be here. |
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I don't think I ever expect more. It can move into more and back to less.
I am not even sure I see friends as less. No I don't think I do.
I do have expectations around honesty and trust. And I find the people I form friendships with usually emphasise the importance of this very early on.
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We've made some good and close freinds on the scene. Naturally if we ever stopped swinging they would still be close freinds. The club and party environment is a lot of fun and well feel far more comfortable in that environment (not just in terms of clothing or lack of). So yes it seems totally logical you can stay and enjoy the scene purely socially. After all it is a big part of it for many. However we love the social side but we are also looking for the sexual side with the right people. So if you are purely social its so important to be clear with people from the outset about this and let them decide if they are happy to invest time knowing there is only a potential social connection on the table. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Coffee dates are the way forward for the remainder of 2023 and beyond.
I hope you actually mean a cuppa tea and cake meet..
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Not at all. I mean coffee just as I typed. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I'm absolutely only here for social meets. And I'm pretty clear about that in my profile.
If you enjoy the forum, and want to potentially just meet up with people socially, or even never meet another soul from fab and just fanny about in the forum, I'd say hang about. But be clear about it and don't lead anyone on, even if you flirt like a hussy on heat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the social meets - most of the people I chat with and meet with are social (waffles on Sunday with a Fab friend this weekend). With those friends there is no expectation of anything further, it is just nice meeting up (as Cede says with like minded and interesting people - I find people on Fab fascinating). There are some on Fab that I would like it to go further, but that is up to them and people's timetables and lives are busy (for me work dominates at the mo, and I can see that other than this w/end I may not have free time til Feb, so even socials will get squeezed out. |
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We’ve got friends on here that will just remain that. We enjoy the social side of the lifestyle.
But we also have friends with benefits too and we enjoy having the mix.
What you are asking is what we do anyway…make a connection first and then take it further if we all decide we’d like to. There’s never any pressure to take it further.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds hot. I’m in.
You can’t make people fancy you in a sexual way, on fab or anywhere else. So I always kind of met in a social way. Never expecting anything more.
So I’d probably lean towards that anyway.
There’s some good character here and good people. (Like yourself op) that I’d be happy to just be friends with and meet socially |
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I only meet socially as there are many people on here I like to spend time with, and we have mutually agreed we won’t be sexual partners for many different reasons but still enjoy each other’s company.
I don’t think there’s right or wrong way of doing Fab, as long as it’s giving you the joy. |
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I've seen quite a few profiles that are only sticking around for socials and to keep in contact with friends. So as long as you're on the profile (and probably have filters setup to the max), you'll be fine 
We're only very occasional sex havers with others but even then, I think we'd hang around for the social side if we ever stopped
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I do really enjoy the social side of swinging and thoroughly enjoy meeting new people in the scene, but I also love the sex. Definitely here to enjoy sex with different people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both are great, if the social develops into something more then fab, if it doesnt thats alright as well.
Meeting new people is what its all about
The sex is just a very rewarding bonus |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I do a real mixture.
If you enjoy the social side then stick with it. I put out coffee meets now and then and will usually pick unverified people from the deluge of responses to give them their first verification that they are indeed a real human  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do a real mixture.
If you enjoy the social side then stick with it. I put out coffee meets now and then and will usually pick unverified people from the deluge of responses to give them their first verification that they are indeed a real human "
Thats very kind of you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've seen quite a few profiles that are only sticking around for socials and to keep in contact with friends. So as long as you're on the profile (and probably have filters setup to the max), you'll be fine
We're only very occasional sex havers with others but even then, I think we'd hang around for the social side if we ever stopped
LvM"
I'd still like to have sex with you. Let's make it an every two week sort of thing?
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Yep, I'm not here to hunt new men, I'm happy flitting around the uk meeting up with friends at socials, I go to at least one a month, sometimes two
In fab I'll often put up a cuppa social, there's quite a few interesting people on here, who are happy to meet for just a cuppa and maybe a slice of cake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
F"
I'm always happy to do social meets and have the same approach to dating. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
F"
Only for social meets? No.
Meets just for socialising? Yes
If that makes sense. |
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"I've seen quite a few profiles that are only sticking around for socials and to keep in contact with friends. So as long as you're on the profile (and probably have filters setup to the max), you'll be fine
We're only very occasional sex havers with others but even then, I think we'd hang around for the social side if we ever stopped
LvM
I'd still like to have sex with you. Let's make it an every two week sort of thing?
F"
Oh go on then, as it's you. How do Thursdays work for you?
LvM |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
F
Only for social meets? No.
Meets just for socialising? Yes
If that makes sense. "
McFlurry social? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way I see your post OP, is that you make it clear that it’s only social meets. Don’t even mention the possibility of that changing down the line.
If you find that you get that urge during a social, you can let that/those individual/people know there and then.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At the minute, it does feel like I'm only here for social meets as I'm sure as shit not getting anything else "
Did you not get the memo? Orgy at TT2s hotel room on the 9th September? Only one person turned up.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
F"
I'd come hang out with you both socially.
I'd love to do that with more people but most of the time people get hopeful that a social will become something else.
Finding friends to talk life and fab life with has to be awesome surely! |
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"Finding friends to talk life and fab life with has to be awesome surely!"
It’s even more fun when you fancy each other as well, but this on its own is still awesome. And such friendships are worth finding. |
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Probably, As a couple and myself solo as I have slightly more free time than him (more aimed towards women than men, or a couple), we do say I'm happy to meet alone for them.
However those offers are pretty much non existent so who knows 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you here for social meets only?
If you stopped 'swinging' would you stay for social meets only?
Can social meets stay as social meets or would you allow them to generate into more?
I'm just curious as we (F and Mr) need to have a sit down and see what we want to do. I'm thinking just sticking around for social meets, and if down the line we all want to go further we can but there being no expectation of it.. Rather than most people will probably expect more once a social has happened.
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I'd come hang out with you both socially.
I'd love to do that with more people but most of the time people get hopeful that a social will become something else.
Finding friends to talk life and fab life with has to be awesome surely!"
As long as all my socials end in Spoons, I'm happy
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