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By *lison tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago
near Pontefract |
Is it just me ,when poeple see the words bareback they run. I think if you ask you will find that poeple who do it are on prep a drug on NHS from Nov 2020 after tests the only thing I got to say to all who married when was you last tested do you know the signs
I hate it when. Poeple message me tell me that I'm dirty not like they are cheating and not tested as us who understand it test have a good day rant over |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly that. Trust. Not saying someone hasn't tested before, but I'd always rather be safe then sorry.
Wouldn't play bb with anyone unless I knew them extremely well. |
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By *lison tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago
near Pontefract |
Yes it is a trust issue but if you tested you know the signs after you played so you go get the antibiotics to help no sex two week but if people test even married and there no issues it stops it all they going to do that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it is a trust issue but if you tested you know the signs after you played so you go get the antibiotics to help no sex two week but if people test even married and there no issues it stops it all they going to do that"
So what happens if you play before showing signs? Not all STIs show clear signs immediately. Some don't show at all. It's just easier not to do it. |
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"Yes it is a trust issue but if you tested you know the signs after you played so you go get the antibiotics to help no sex two week but if people test even married and there no issues it stops it all they going to do that"
But I still wouldn't take a chance with a random stranger, but I appreciate many people are compliant  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I think it is best not to worry about what others are doing and why. Some people don't want to use protection, some dont want to have bareback sex.
Those who don't do sex how you want to do sex just aren't for you. Whether married or not. |
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Taking PrEp help prevent contracting HIV but it does prevent the various hepatitis strains. There are vaccines for a couple of strains but not all and obviously we are all super aware now that vaccines aren’t 100%. Bareback is a huge risk, even with PrEp |
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Trust, is a big one, trust them to have taken a sexual health test. For me it would have to be "exclusive" so trust they were also being exclusive.
My partner and I were told during a 3sum that the other person can't cum using a condom.. we politely said safe sex only.. |
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Everyone has their preferences, we play bare, the issue often comes when people aren’t honest particularly men playing with men in secret where sadly the risks are higher as not all prepared to take the precautions putting both themselves and others at risk |
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By *lison tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago
near Pontefract |
"Everyone has their preferences, we play bare, the issue often comes when people aren’t honest particularly men playing with men in secret where sadly the risks are higher as not all prepared to take the precautions putting both themselves and others at risk "
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"That's the point poeple talk about not doing it how many go get tested simple even when tested you have a choice get tested. Be sure you clean "
Testing is important whether you have sex with or without a condom. So many people forget that. |
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"Is it just me ,when poeple see the words bareback they run. I think if you ask you will find that poeple who do it are on prep a drug on NHS from Nov 2020 after tests the only thing I got to say to all who married when was you last tested do you know the signs
I hate it when. Poeple message me tell me that I'm dirty not like they are cheating and not tested as us who understand it test have a good day rant over"
Why would you even remotely care what some fucktard randoms on a casual sex site like this think of you ? ..... they are not compatible with you or just trolling.. so nothing lost .. ..
Focus on the people that are into same things as you not everyone can have same likes/dislikes. levels of safety etc |
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"Is it just me ,when poeple see the words bareback they run. I think if you ask you will find that poeple who do it are on prep a drug on NHS from Nov 2020 after tests the only thing I got to say to all who married when was you last tested do you know the signs
I hate it when. Poeple message me tell me that I'm dirty not like they are cheating and not tested as us who understand it test have a good day rant over
Why would you even remotely care what some fucktard randoms on a casual sex site like this think of you ? ..... they are not compatible with you or just trolling.. so nothing lost .. ..
Focus on the people that are into same things as you not everyone can have same likes/dislikes. levels of safety etc "
Agreed |
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By *lison tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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Simple think is go get tested even if you married aids and STDs and COVID not gone away look after number 1 which is you yes you think it all bull shit you thought the same about aids and covid and a man porsate and a woman get tested simple
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Simple think is go get tested even if you married aids and STDs and COVID not gone away look after number 1 which is you yes you think it all bull shit you thought the same about aids and covid and a man porsate and a woman get tested simple
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Who has said it's all bullshit? I haven't seen that |
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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago
the land of tall tales and yarn |
"I think it is best not to worry about what others are doing and why. Some people don't want to use protection, some dont want to have bareback sex.
Those who don't do sex how you want to do sex just aren't for you. Whether married or not."
Very eloquently said |
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Honestly what you prefer is just that personally we prefer protected we have played with somebody unprotected but that was after months of playing and even then we got tested before playing with anybody else for us being clean and looking after your self is a big thing and yeah prep is cool and all but it doesn't stop it.. But keep doing what your doing and you shouldn't care what others think.. |
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"Simple think is go get tested even if you married aids and STDs and COVID not gone away look after number 1 which is you yes you think it all bull shit you thought the same about aids and covid and a man porsate and a woman get tested simple
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Put the kettle on, Jesus.
Play safe. Always. Or take a risk. End of. |
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If a new partner just wants to rush into it - I would be wary.
Any partner I went bareback with would be one where it was within a relationship. And we were both open and honest about our sexual activity testing etc.
It is a trust thing ultimately and I wouldn't be happy if a partner was breached the boundaries we had established.
Outside of that it's not my business. |
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There’s definitely some education needed around prep.
Is it 100% protection?
Could you carry the virus, not get infected but still pass it on?
And then there is, as already said, is the trust thing. |
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"There’s definitely some education needed around prep.
Is it 100% protection?
Could you carry the virus, not get infected but still pass it on?
And then there is, as already said, is the trust thing. "
Prep is absolutely effective on par if not higher than condom for preventing HIV when used correctly, much like a condom ..
What it doesnt do is help with the lower STI like C/G/S ...its just to stop HIV ..
Prep has been the single biggest reason for the monstrous decreases in HIV over last 5 years in Gay/Trans/Bi community (LGBT are more likely to be testing than non LGBT, there is more advertising for sexual health towards the community than the straight community)
if people want to know more they should look at Terrence Higgins trust/ Dean street / various NHS resources all about sexual health and HIV/preventive / management etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s definitely some education needed around prep.
Is it 100% protection?
Could you carry the virus, not get infected but still pass it on?
And then there is, as already said, is the trust thing.
Prep is absolutely effective on par if not higher than condom for preventing HIV when used correctly, much like a condom ..
What it doesnt do is help with the lower STI like C/G/S ...its just to stop HIV ..
Prep has been the single biggest reason for the monstrous decreases in HIV over last 5 years in Gay/Trans/Bi community (LGBT are more likely to be testing than non LGBT, there is more advertising for sexual health towards the community than the straight community)
if people want to know more they should look at Terrence Higgins trust/ Dean street / various NHS resources all about sexual health and HIV/preventive / management etc "
Great response - well said |
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"There’s definitely some education needed around prep.
Is it 100% protection?
Could you carry the virus, not get infected but still pass it on?
And then there is, as already said, is the trust thing.
Prep is absolutely effective on par if not higher than condom for preventing HIV when used correctly, much like a condom ..
What it doesnt do is help with the lower STI like C/G/S ...its just to stop HIV ..
Prep has been the single biggest reason for the monstrous decreases in HIV over last 5 years in Gay/Trans/Bi community (LGBT are more likely to be testing than non LGBT, there is more advertising for sexual health towards the community than the straight community)
if people want to know more they should look at Terrence Higgins trust/ Dean street / various NHS resources all about sexual health and HIV/preventive / management etc "
We’ll put!
For me there needs more open conversation about it but as stated above, the information is out there
And, of course, it needs to be used properly |
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"That's the point poeple talk about not doing it how many go get tested simple even when tested you have a choice get tested. Be sure you clean "
It doesn't mean someone is clean just because they are tested.... I'd not play bare with anyone but a trusted partner.... and I take prep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone asks for BB when I have safe sex in my profile it tells me all I need to know about them......
It's a good filter  "
Indeed; it seems to be too much trouble for a lot of people to even look at profiles.
It would be great if we lived in an STI free world but unfortunately we don't, and much as I would like to have unprotected sex of all sorts it isn't worth the risk. |
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I tend to avoid people who openly prefer bareback.
Everyone is entitled to whatever choices they want to make in regards to their own sexual health, but I don't want to expose myself or the people I care about to a level of risk I consider unacceptable to me or have to adjust the practices with my partners for the sake of a random fuck.
I wouldn't play bare with a stranger regardless. But if I knew they were regularly active with multiple partners and not taking what I consider basic and reasonable precautions then I wouldn't want any amount of skin on skin contact.
Not because I think they're dirty, we just have very concepts of what constitutes safety and respect in that area and it's a massive incompatibility  |
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"I tend to avoid people who openly prefer bareback.
Everyone is entitled to whatever choices they want to make in regards to their own sexual health, but I don't want to expose myself or the people I care about to a level of risk I consider unacceptable to me or have to adjust the practices with my partners for the sake of a random fuck.
I wouldn't play bare with a stranger regardless. But if I knew they were regularly active with multiple partners and not taking what I consider basic and reasonable precautions then I wouldn't want any amount of skin on skin contact.
Not because I think they're dirty, we just have very concepts of what constitutes safety and respect in that area and it's a massive incompatibility "
I have a very similar view. |
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I think a lot of people think safe sex means wewring condoms. I was talking to a young lady the other day who was against testing completely and thinks condoms are enough protection.
Bareback sex can only work if both partners are on the same wavelength re standards and test regularly which is a hard thing to do and requires a lot of trust. Everyone should make a reasonable judgment re this issue but the important thing here is to avoid risky practice and test regularly. |
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I prefer bareback sex. It’s natural, feels better, I have a breeding kink, and it’s just damn well naughtier for Hubby and I.
That being said, aside from the occasional slip up when getting carried away, I only do it with people I kind of trust, even though there are absolutely no guarantees. It’s a calculated risk.
I’m yet to meet a guy that ‘only plays safe’ who isn’t willing to put it in without protection when offered, and I’ve heard many, many stories of ‘holier than though’ couples who bend their own rules in private when it suits them. And anyone who regularly partakes in unprotected oral sex is taking a similar amount of risk.
What I absolutely can’t stand is duplicity, double-standards and lying. I am an advocate of being honest and open about what I do, so that anyone who’s interested in meeting me has all the facts and agency over their own decisions. That’s the only obligation as far as I’m concerned.
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"I prefer bareback sex. It’s natural, feels better, I have a breeding kink, and it’s just damn well naughtier for Hubby and I.
That being said, aside from the occasional slip up when getting carried away, I only do it with people I kind of trust, even though there are absolutely no guarantees. It’s a calculated risk.
I’m yet to meet a guy that ‘only plays safe’ who isn’t willing to put it in without protection when offered, and I’ve heard many, many stories of ‘holier than though’ couples who bend their own rules in private when it suits them. And anyone who regularly partakes in unprotected oral sex is taking a similar amount of risk.
What I absolutely can’t stand is duplicity, double-standards and lying. I am an advocate of being honest and open about what I do, so that anyone who’s interested in meeting me has all the facts and agency over their own decisions. That’s the only obligation as far as I’m concerned.
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Totally agree just be honest that what we say. We are open that we are a bareback couple at least that way it’s out there and people can decide if they want to chat and maybe play with us |
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