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Cock obsession.
Why? Most guys (not all) seem to be overly obsessed with the size of their cock, shape, girth just their cock, what is it about it that makes it so important to you men?
We never see women with rulers up their vag 
Or unsolicited vag pics (I'm sure there's the odd one)
Why is it so many think if I have a nice cock I'll get sex? Doesn't quite work that way.
It's always a default when people won't meet either, must be my cock size, everyone wants a big cock.... ERM no it's probably not.
Anyway thought I'd ask you men, what's so special about it that the cock and cock alone think you'll get a shag or you blame it for lack of shags.
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No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
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Insecurity, societal pressures, phrases like "big dick energy" bouncing around the mainstream, porn showing unrealistic (for most) cock sizes, and women's unrealistic reactions to them. All factors which contribute to the plague of cock posts by men, in my opinion.
Personally I think it just takes time and experience for men to get to the realisation that most women don't care about cock size, they're more interested in the men attached to them. |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
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Yes there's women asking for big ones however not the majority, so it's the few women's fault who like the big cocks for you guys being overly obsessive?
And profile pics do as you please, I stated unsolicited.
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over a year ago
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"Mine must be great at telling jokes. Women are always laughing at him.
Now that's a cock I'd be interested in
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He’s great at stand up…
8:30am and I’ve hit my quota for shit jokes already |
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"Insecurity, societal pressures, phrases like "big dick energy" bouncing around the mainstream, porn showing unrealistic (for most) cock sizes, and women's unrealistic reactions to them. All factors which contribute to the plague of cock posts by men, in my opinion.
Personally I think it just takes time and experience for men to get to the realisation that most women don't care about cock size, they're more interested in the men attached to them."
Yes totally agree with the porn, I absolutely can't stand it.
And you are totally correct for the most people are more interested in the man over the cock alone.
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By *y the cCouple
over a year ago
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Don’t have a cock pic on our profile other than the one in shorts.
I suppose for the profiles that are all cock is probably because the rest of the package is lacking.
I do like the idea of “ unsolicited vag pics” but unfortunately have only ever received one. |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
Yes there's women asking for big ones however not the majority, so it's the few women's fault who like the big cocks for you guys being overly obsessive?
And profile pics do as you please, I stated unsolicited.
Mrs "
Try not to use the phrase “you guys” - I don’t give a toss about cock size.
You’d be surprised how many women ask about cock size though.
It’s nobody’s fault |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
Yes there's women asking for big ones however not the majority, so it's the few women's fault who like the big cocks for you guys being overly obsessive?
And profile pics do as you please, I stated unsolicited.
Mrs
Try not to use the phrase “you guys” - I don’t give a toss about cock size.
You’d be surprised how many women ask about cock size though.
It’s nobody’s fault "
I'm not surprised I've been on fab long enough to know there's women that like larger and will ask, there's women that like smaller and will ask, there's women who don't give two shits and won't ask.
The question is about the men you men, you guys, regards if you care or not and not what some women ask for.
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"We've got cock pics on our profile, but they are in the friends only gallery"
We've plenty showing the Mr's cock, however not just his cock, anyone can have anything on their profile, I was referring to the inboxed ones.
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Agree lot of guys obsessed over size. When I was younger did a bit as well. Then as I have got to know so many lovely ladies am relaxed about it. Some size queens but found out it’s how you get on rather than size |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
Yes there's women asking for big ones however not the majority, so it's the few women's fault who like the big cocks for you guys being overly obsessive?
And profile pics do as you please, I stated unsolicited.
Mrs
Try not to use the phrase “you guys” - I don’t give a toss about cock size.
You’d be surprised how many women ask about cock size though.
It’s nobody’s fault
I'm not surprised I've been on fab long enough to know there's women that like larger and will ask, there's women that like smaller and will ask, there's women who don't give two shits and won't ask.
The question is about the men you men, you guys, regards if you care or not and not what some women ask for.
Mrs "
I’ve never ever seen a woman ask for smaller and I’ve seen a lot of profiles.
There are myriad reasons why men think a big cock will attract a woman: -
- porn
- the wider culture - jokes and comments about big cocks being better
- comments from women
- their childhood - try growing up having showers with other boys where comments were always made about your body
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By *archelCouple
over a year ago
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"We've got cock pics on our profile, but they are in the friends only gallery
We've plenty showing the Mr's cock, however not just his cock, anyone can have anything on their profile, I was referring to the inboxed ones.
Mrs "
Nah, we don't inbox cock pics, and we're less likely to if we are asked to |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
Yes there's women asking for big ones however not the majority, so it's the few women's fault who like the big cocks for you guys being overly obsessive?
And profile pics do as you please, I stated unsolicited.
Mrs
Try not to use the phrase “you guys” - I don’t give a toss about cock size.
You’d be surprised how many women ask about cock size though.
It’s nobody’s fault
I'm not surprised I've been on fab long enough to know there's women that like larger and will ask, there's women that like smaller and will ask, there's women who don't give two shits and won't ask.
The question is about the men you men, you guys, regards if you care or not and not what some women ask for.
Mrs
I’ve never ever seen a woman ask for smaller and I’ve seen a lot of profiles.
There are myriad reasons why men think a big cock will attract a woman: -
- porn
- the wider culture - jokes and comments about big cocks being better
- comments from women
- their childhood - try growing up having showers with other boys where comments were always made about your body
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Haven't read my profile then
Agree with all the other points though, especially the other "boys" commenting that does seem to be a theme again among men to men, who's is bigger and all that stuff in the younger generations.
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A man's relationship with his cock seems vastly different to a woman's relationship with her vagina & vulva. Men are obsessed with their cocks and the size of other men. You don't get women flashers either as a general rule and women don't weaponize their genitals. |
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"A man's relationship with his cock seems vastly different to a woman's relationship with her vagina & vulva. Men are obsessed with their cocks and the size of other men. You don't get women flashers either as a general rule and women don't weaponize their genitals."
Total agree.
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Because he’s my best friend, he’s been there through thick and thin, he doesn’t let me down or leave me in a town centre gone midnight with no way home.
Every time I stand up I check that he’s still there and he is, he never goes a wandering or doesn’t answer my calls. He’s the one consistent in my life, the kinda friend that reminds others what a good chap you can be when they’re all ragging on you.
My fab profile is dedicated to him and is a small (  ) celebration and demonstrate of my thanks to him. Here’s to you Philip, you marvellous beast you.
Oh sure there’s bigger ones out there, firmer, straighter, more exotic ones I’m sure, but Philip, I couldn’t have asked for a better life buddy, so stand up and take a bow. |
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"tbh i have two pictures cock is on show, but i class them as a body shot"
Anyone can have any amount of cock pics in their profile it's yours to do with as you please, as for cock shots yours is much better than most held back as far as possible in the hopes it'll look larger pics
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"Because he’s my best friend, he’s been there through thick and thin, he doesn’t let me down or leave me in a town centre gone midnight with no way home.
Every time I stand up I check that he’s still there and he is, he never goes a wandering or doesn’t answer my calls. He’s the one consistent in my life, the kinda friend that reminds others what a good chap you can be when they’re all ragging on you.
My fab profile is dedicated to him and is a small ( ) celebration and demonstrate of my thanks to him. Here’s to you Philip, you marvellous beast you.
Oh sure there’s bigger ones out there, firmer, straighter, more exotic ones I’m sure, but Philip, I couldn’t have asked for a better life buddy, so stand up and take a bow. "
Arw absolutely loving the Philip dedication!
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Men on the whole are simple folk. We can cope with a concept like 'bigger is better'. But anything more complicated defeats us.
More seriously, I'm not entirely sure. There are quite a few profiles on here in which women specify that they're looking for WE or VWE so it obviously can be a 'thing' but equally I've seen lots of women talk about how they specifically *don't* want a huge guy because they find the sex uncomfortable. And yet I have to admit there's a part of me that can't get away from the idea that having a huge cock wouldn't be an equally huge advantage.
I think it's a cultural thing. A sit-com wants to suggest a male character is a loser? Make a joke about him having a small cock. Want to humiliate a person you've had sex with? Tell everyone he has a little dick (see Stormy Daniels ridiculing Donald Trump - who is absolutely vile, but not because he allegedly has a small penis). Porn probably plays a part too, I'm sure.
I'm no historian so I might be wrong here but I heard once that Greek civilisation favoured men with small penises because they were considered evidence that men were becoming more civilised and less beastial. Now we tend to see it as a symbol of masculinity.
That's a bit of a rambling answer, I know. |
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Men care about their cocks in the same way that women care about their boobs or their bums.
Men care about it because other people care about it and ask for it.
What is said on the forums bears very little relationship to what _actually_ happens on the site - size (apparently) doesn’t matter on the forums. On the site it is a factor. |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
Yes there's women asking for big ones however not the majority, so it's the few women's fault who like the big cocks for you guys being overly obsessive?
And profile pics do as you please, I stated unsolicited.
Mrs
Try not to use the phrase “you guys” - I don’t give a toss about cock size.
You’d be surprised how many women ask about cock size though.
It’s nobody’s fault
I'm not surprised I've been on fab long enough to know there's women that like larger and will ask, there's women that like smaller and will ask, there's women who don't give two shits and won't ask.
The question is about the men you men, you guys, regards if you care or not and not what some women ask for.
Mrs
I’ve never ever seen a woman ask for smaller and I’ve seen a lot of profiles.
There are myriad reasons why men think a big cock will attract a woman: -
- porn
- the wider culture - jokes and comments about big cocks being better
- comments from women
- their childhood - try growing up having showers with other boys where comments were always made about your body
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Haven't read my profile then
Agree with all the other points though, especially the other "boys" commenting that does seem to be a theme again among men to men, who's is bigger and all that stuff in the younger generations.
Mrs "
Fair enough - never looked at your profile until now. Nice profile.
Childhood is a big driver - you were seen as inadequate if your dick ( we never called it a cock back in the 80s lol) was smaller. I saw some very small willies in the showers and those lads got terrible stick. |
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"Men care about their cocks in the same way that women care about their boobs or their bums.
Men care about it because other people care about it and ask for it.
What is said on the forums bears very little relationship to what _actually_ happens on the site - size (apparently) doesn’t matter on the forums. On the site it is a factor."
Going by your username, I could understand your probably asked more than Dave over there and messaged more because you fit the narrative some (not all) women are looking for.
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"Men on the whole are simple folk. We can cope with a concept like 'bigger is better'. But anything more complicated defeats us.
More seriously, I'm not entirely sure. There are quite a few profiles on here in which women specify that they're looking for WE or VWE so it obviously can be a 'thing' but equally I've seen lots of women talk about how they specifically *don't* want a huge guy because they find the sex uncomfortable. And yet I have to admit there's a part of me that can't get away from the idea that having a huge cock wouldn't be an equally huge advantage.
I think it's a cultural thing. A sit-com wants to suggest a male character is a loser? Make a joke about him having a small cock. Want to humiliate a person you've had sex with? Tell everyone he has a little dick (see Stormy Daniels ridiculing Donald Trump - who is absolutely vile, but not because he allegedly has a small penis). Porn probably plays a part too, I'm sure.
I'm no historian so I might be wrong here but I heard once that Greek civilisation favoured men with small penises because they were considered evidence that men were becoming more civilised and less beastial. Now we tend to see it as a symbol of masculinity.
That's a bit of a rambling answer, I know."
Speak for yourself in the first sentence here but the rest of your post is fascinating |
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Agree it’s up to the individual what they want in their profile.. go for it.
But it’s the ones who send you unsolicited dick pics normally saying “suck on this” that’s when it’s creepy especially when we have the first line on our profile please don’t send them.
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"Agree it’s up to the individual what they want in their profile.. go for it.
But it’s the ones who send you unsolicited dick pics normally saying “suck on this” that’s when it’s creepy especially when we have the first line on our profile please don’t send them.
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I cannot conceive why people would do this but I cannot conceive why people would vote for Donald Trump.
It’s a very odd world. |
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any man who leads with a unsolicited dick pic in my inbox is blocked ....
it's just like here is what I have ...this should make you want to fuck me ....
it does not work that way
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"Men care about their cocks in the same way that women care about their boobs or their bums.
Men care about it because other people care about it and ask for it.
What is said on the forums bears very little relationship to what _actually_ happens on the site - size (apparently) doesn’t matter on the forums. On the site it is a factor.
Going by your username, I could understand your probably asked more than Dave over there and messaged more because you fit the narrative some (not all) women are looking for.
Mrs "
But that is the whole point - “Dave over there” fixates on it because he is not getting meets whilst (insert username) does. What is Dave supposed to make of that? |
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"any man who leads with a unsolicited dick pic in my inbox is blocked ....
it's just like here is what I have ...this should make you want to fuck me ....
it does not work that way
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Playing devils advocate, there’s not a lot that does work |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"Agree it’s up to the individual what they want in their profile.. go for it.
But it’s the ones who send you unsolicited dick pics normally saying “suck on this” that’s when it’s creepy especially when we have the first line on our profile please don’t send them.
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,,, i agree this is when it becomes out of order |
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"There are a lot of women on here who insist on a cock photo or a certain size. They are probably not my type but I can see how it reinforces the obsession. "
Wish they would at least wait to be asked  |
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"Some love it some don't. I'll stick with the lovers"
Well, I’m sure you’re a great guy because biological happenstance gave you a big cock
All the very best to you I say |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Clearly not a man but I'm following this because it's great to read the male perspective without the usual nonsense that can occur in threads surrounding size. I really enjoyed Oral's reply - hadn't thought too much about it like that. |
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"Some love it some don't. I'll stick with the lovers
Well, I’m sure you’re a great guy because biological happenstance gave you a big cock
All the very best to you I say "
A big cock doesn’t make you a great guy.
As so many woman has said..myself included that’s not important |
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Men are just as insecure as women. Cocks become a focus from young age via humour but actually it haunts many later on.
Men peacock around (literally) in some cases because they hide behind it. It's socially accepted in a lot of ways and it's this belief that they have that it makes them somehow more manly in doing so.
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"Some love it some don't. I'll stick with the lovers
Well, I’m sure you’re a great guy because biological happenstance gave you a big cock
All the very best to you I say
A big cock doesn’t make you a great guy.
As so many woman has said..myself included that’s not important "
Read my comment again and note the tone |
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"Clearly not a man but I'm following this because it's great to read the male perspective without the usual nonsense that can occur in threads surrounding size. I really enjoyed Oral's reply - hadn't thought too much about it like that."
Will you be grading the thread? |
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"Cock obsession.
Why? Most guys (not all) seem to be overly obsessed with the size of their cock, shape, girth just their cock, what is it about it that makes it so important to you men?
We never see women with rulers up their vag
Or unsolicited vag pics (I'm sure there's the odd one)
Why is it so many think if I have a nice cock I'll get sex? Doesn't quite work that way.
It's always a default when people won't meet either, must be my cock size, everyone wants a big cock.... ERM no it's probably not.
Anyway thought I'd ask you men, what's so special about it that the cock and cock alone think you'll get a shag or you blame it for lack of shags.
Mrs "
In my area most women/couple specifying size. So the hung ones mentioning they are hung, and the average ones mentioning something to make it more interesting. Special girth,shape,bend,twist,extra hole. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
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Anyway thought I'd ask you men, what's so special about it that the cock and cock alone think you'll get a shag or you blame it for lack of shags.
Mrs "
I wouldn't engage with anyone that showed interest in me just because of my dick.
I'm stuck with it. It's attached to me and I am to it, but it's just a small part of me. It's not as if anyone has the choice to swap it out to suit someone's individual preferences so why worry about size, shape and colour.
But yes. Some men will use it either as a selling point or an excuse. Always have, always will. |
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On the subject of unsolicited dick pics - I think a lot of the time that's a power trip. They're going to make you look at their cock whether you want to or not. It's remote virtual flashing.
Maybe some guys do it because they're so convinced that their dick is so special the person receiving it will fall instantly in love with it, but it wouldn't surprise me if the numbers doing it for that reason were fairly small.
Personally I have occasionally been sent slightly risqué pictures unsolicited but this is usually during a conversation that's been slightly flirty and usually only involves a little cleavage. And I have had cock pics requested as part of sexting but I would never send them unsolicited because that's just icky. |
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"Cock obsession.
Why? Most guys (not all) seem to be overly obsessed with the size of their cock, shape, girth just their cock, what is it about it that makes it so important to you men?
We never see women with rulers up their vag
Or unsolicited vag pics (I'm sure there's the odd one)
Why is it so many think if I have a nice cock I'll get sex? Doesn't quite work that way.
It's always a default when people won't meet either, must be my cock size, everyone wants a big cock.... ERM no it's probably not.
Anyway thought I'd ask you men, what's so special about it that the cock and cock alone think you'll get a shag or you blame it for lack of shags.
Mrs "
Not for all women, but with some the cock alone will increase a man's chances of getting a shag on here. The average cock in the UK is just over 5 inches. Baring in mind most don't show their faces on their profiles, if you've got an asset that's going to make you stand out, they'll use it. I do think one or 2 pics is enough, but that's up to them I guess. |
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One size fits all with me im afraid, never had any complaints about it's size but I'm aware it's not down my my knee either, I've learnt to work with what I have and can do pretty well with it when given the chance. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Clearly not a man but I'm following this because it's great to read the male perspective without the usual nonsense that can occur in threads surrounding size. I really enjoyed Oral's reply - hadn't thought too much about it like that.
Will you be grading the thread? "
What a peculiar comment. No, I don't think I will be. |
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"Clearly not a man but I'm following this because it's great to read the male perspective without the usual nonsense that can occur in threads surrounding size. I really enjoyed Oral's reply - hadn't thought too much about it like that.
Will you be grading the thread?
What a peculiar comment. No, I don't think I will be."
Sorry you found it peculiar - you just seem to be reviewing the thread, in a Clive James kind of way.
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"I’ve been sent unsolicited pics of fannies and arses and cocks - it’s never really bothered me, but it’s hard to know what to say in response. "
Grade them, in a Clive James kinda way? |
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"Some love it some don't. I'll stick with the lovers
Well, I’m sure you’re a great guy because biological happenstance gave you a big cock
All the very best to you I say
A big cock doesn’t make you a great guy.
As so many woman has said..myself included that’s not important
Read my comment again and note the tone "
Note you’re tone? Nope nothing |
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"I’ve been sent unsolicited pics of fannies and arses and cocks - it’s never really bothered me, but it’s hard to know what to say in response.
Grade them, in a Clive James kinda way? "
Indeed - remember his reviews of that mad Japanese quiz? |
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"Some love it some don't. I'll stick with the lovers
Well, I’m sure you’re a great guy because biological happenstance gave you a big cock
All the very best to you I say
A big cock doesn’t make you a great guy.
As so many woman has said..myself included that’s not important
Read my comment again and note the tone
Note you’re tone? Nope nothing "
Ok - I wasn’t suggesting that men with big cocks are great guys |
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By *eliWoman
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"Clearly not a man but I'm following this because it's great to read the male perspective without the usual nonsense that can occur in threads surrounding size. I really enjoyed Oral's reply - hadn't thought too much about it like that.
Will you be grading the thread?
What a peculiar comment. No, I don't think I will be.
Sorry you found it peculiar - you just seem to be reviewing the thread, in a Clive James kind of way.
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No. I'm bookmarking and highlighting a post I enjoyed reading without going to the depths of a thumbs up. Anyway, this is detracting from an interesting thread so I'll stop replying to you now. |
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"Clearly not a man but I'm following this because it's great to read the male perspective without the usual nonsense that can occur in threads surrounding size. I really enjoyed Oral's reply - hadn't thought too much about it like that.
Will you be grading the thread?
What a peculiar comment. No, I don't think I will be.
Sorry you found it peculiar - you just seem to be reviewing the thread, in a Clive James kind of way.
No. I'm bookmarking and highlighting a post I enjoyed reading without going to the depths of a thumbs up. Anyway, this is detracting from an interesting thread so I'll stop replying to you now. "
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"I’ve been sent unsolicited pics of fannies and arses and cocks - it’s never really bothered me, but it’s hard to know what to say in response.
Grade them, in a Clive James kinda way?
Indeed - remember his reviews of that mad Japanese quiz? "
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"I’ve been sent unsolicited pics of fannies and arses and cocks - it’s never really bothered me, but it’s hard to know what to say in response.
Grade them, in a Clive James kinda way?
Indeed - remember his reviews of that mad Japanese quiz?
Endurance "
Thats it! Oh, I haven’t thought about that for years. Man, you could not do that show now nor could you review it like that now.
Have you read “Unreliable Memoirs”? It’s a fabulous book. |
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I think personally that it's hard to sell yourself on here, 1 thing that always sticks in my head is that I'm always told I look better in real live, I know I'm not the best looking, most ripped or indeed hiding a trouser snake. I know I need to attend more socials when I can and I try to join in on forum threads but unfortunately some people (yes men and women) judge by size and looks. |
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Irs the most important thing in their world so it should be the most important in everyone else's?
Ir can't possibly be anything to do with personality or attraction, if they're less than 16 inches it's just because all women are size Queens?
I don't know. All the men in my life are content with what they have and don't go on about it, so I don't really have any insight to the actual mentality of those who think an unsolicited dick pic is going to sell them to a complete stranger. I just say No and ignore those ones when they hit my inbox  |
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Cock obsession is largely a learned societal thing, isn’t it?
We’re taught from a young age that our dicks are the source or focus of our masculinity and power. That a bigger dick equals a better man. (Whatever a ‘man’ is supposed to be.)
We’re taught that a small willy is something to be laughed at. Literally belittling.
That stuff comes from all sides. From comedy, from playground teasing, from things as simple as common phrases and sayings.
Try talking about sports cars and see how long it takes for somebody to chime in with a comment about ‘compensating for something’.
If anything, I think those of us *not* fixated on our cocks are bucking the trend. |
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"As per a recent thread of mine- I assume rejection of me is because I’m ugly.
I make the same assumption about myself
You’d have loved my thread! "
I love all your threads |
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Just a coincidence but backing up what I said earlier, I've just seen a woman criticise another Fab member (if you'll pardon the pun) for their behaviour in her status and describe it as 'tiny dick syndrome'. |
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Before FAB I didn’t even think whether my cock was big enough or even think about others sizes.
And I still don’t…C has had all different sizes but mine fits and hits the spots it needs and that’s all the matters.
No woman has ever laughed or cried because of the size - so I’m guess I’m middle ground and that to me is perfect.
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"As per a recent thread of mine- I assume rejection of me is because I’m ugly.
I make the same assumption about myself
You’d have loved my thread!
I love all your threads "
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"Just a coincidence but backing up what I said earlier, I've just seen a woman criticise another Fab member (if you'll pardon the pun) for their behaviour in her status and describe it as 'tiny dick syndrome'. "
It is not a coincidence though is it? Rose tinted is spot on with his observations just above. |
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"Just a coincidence but backing up what I said earlier, I've just seen a woman criticise another Fab member (if you'll pardon the pun) for their behaviour in her status and describe it as 'tiny dick syndrome'. "
QED I think |
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"Cock obsession is largely a learned societal thing, isn’t it?
We’re taught from a young age that our dicks are the source or focus of our masculinity and power. That a bigger dick equals a better man. (Whatever a ‘man’ is supposed to be.)
We’re taught that a small willy is something to be laughed at. Literally belittling.
That stuff comes from all sides. From comedy, from playground teasing, from things as simple as common phrases and sayings.
Try talking about sports cars and see how long it takes for somebody to chime in with a comment about ‘compensating for something’.
If anything, I think those of us *not* fixated on our cocks are bucking the trend."
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I dunno , is it just younger insecure men on here ?
It doesn’t seem to be men in the real world of any ages , I have friends from 25 to my own age, we talk about women, kink and fucking quite a lot but we hardly ever mention our cocks |
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"Cock obsession.
Why? Most guys (not all) seem to be overly obsessed with the size of their cock, shape, girth just their cock, what is it about it that makes it so important to you men?
We never see women with rulers up their vag
Or unsolicited vag pics (I'm sure there's the odd one)
Why is it so many think if I have a nice cock I'll get sex? Doesn't quite work that way.
It's always a default when people won't meet either, must be my cock size, everyone wants a big cock.... ERM no it's probably not.
Anyway thought I'd ask you men, what's so special about it that the cock and cock alone think you'll get a shag or you blame it for lack of shags.
Mrs "
Women have an obsession with size of their boobs. Everyone has body issues of some sort. I wish i was 6' but unless i can be stretched in willy wonkas taffy stretching machine it aint going to happen . I agree though that some guys think their huge cock will get them layed as we have had loads try to convince us to meet as he was so sure joanne would enjoy his huge member . Fact is anything over 7.5" is to big for her so she would not want to meet them anyway. I think guys who have smaller have body dysmorphia issues just like ladies have simular issues about a certain part of their body. Nobody is perfect but we are in our own unique way. Wish people would realise this and stop torchering themselves. John. |
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"No cock pics on my profile but you’ll find plenty of profiles from women demanding huge cocks so not all one way. And plenty of profiles showing gaping pussies (look at the current number one on the hot photos list for example).
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Very true mate. Same as large cock pics turn ladies off so so gaping vag pics do the same for some of us men. Sensual pics are more of a turn off than a gyne one. |
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"A man's relationship with his cock seems vastly different to a woman's relationship with her vagina & vulva. Men are obsessed with their cocks and the size of other men. You don't get women flashers either as a general rule and women don't weaponize their genitals."
A lot of women choosing to have boob jobs instead though? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Cock obsession is largely a learned societal thing, isn’t it?
We’re taught from a young age that our dicks are the source or focus of our masculinity and power. That a bigger dick equals a better man. (Whatever a ‘man’ is supposed to be.)
We’re taught that a small willy is something to be laughed at. Literally belittling.
That stuff comes from all sides. From comedy, from playground teasing, from things as simple as common phrases and sayings.
Try talking about sports cars and see how long it takes for somebody to chime in with a comment about ‘compensating for something’.
If anything, I think those of us *not* fixated on our cocks are bucking the trend."
Its this. All this.
Plus when it comes to sex, size queen's and anyone else that wants big are simply just more vocal about what they like and think. You don't see quite as much praise (though it happens now and again, even though rare) for average or small. It can give the impression it matters much more than it does.
Very few people actually go out of their way to reassure those with a smaller size it's not that big a deal. When it's mentioned it is always in a negative way.
Bottom line is, it matters. Even to those that say it doesn't, it matters and plays a part in interest in that person.
I've seen plenty of comments on the forum over the years when the question comes up "it doesn't matter" then later in another thread say they would not go through with sex if it was XYZ size.
And it all plays it's part in adding to an obsession in some way for most. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I’m gonna assume it only really matters to men not having / getting sex.
Guys who have sex with the ladies will know the truth - it matters not, it really is not that important as long as it works for them and you. There’s so much more to sexually incompatibility than cock size
Size queens are very rare even in here and more likely women prefer average than large because of the position of the cervix.
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I never understand it my self. Yes not all cocks are equal. Yes there are some who a certain size is a deal breaker. However the vast majority don't care if they like someone and the chemistry is there. Just the same way although we all preferences the size of a woman's tits or the way her vagina looks is not a deal breaker if they like her and the chemistry is there. So I really don't get the obsession with dicks. That's not to say they don't have a place in profiles picture per se. Guys have them, many people like them and its not a game of blind date. I see not problem with tasteful pictures were a penis is present, just the same for breasts or vaginas. I just don't understand for some why everything is focused on their dick because a man is more than a dick. Likewise its sad when guys worry about their dick size because as I said above despite some dicks being more appealing than others most people just don't care that much. What people care about a lot more is a man's character, how they hold themselves and their way with others. That's where guys should focus their attention and not on their dicks.
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Sometimes it's not about attracting or pleasing a woman/partner. My ex was about 7inches but was always going on about wishing he had an 'extra inch or two' I said that if he had, sex would be painful for me. His response was to laugh and say 'so'  |
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"Agree it’s up to the individual what they want in their profile.. go for it.
But it’s the ones who send you unsolicited dick pics normally saying “suck on this” that’s when it’s creepy especially when we have the first line on our profile please don’t send them.
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Yeah that's just annoying, same time though a great filter to block those that seriously have zero idea what I'm looking for.
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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I don't advertise my cock, I see no reason to. I have only one cock pic and most of it is hidden anyway.
I was once told by a 'size queen' that my cock wasn't big enough. I just agreed, replied that if it wasn't going to touch the sides there wouldn't be much point in meeting. |
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