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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago
London |
When you're on here? Will you chat to anyone and have a laugh and just want good vibes, or do you come here with a scowl and hunt for dickheads or comments to judge and make comments about?
Be honest with yourselves, do you think you come across as nice/fun here? |
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Good intentions but I'm pretty sarcastic, don't take it or life too seriously, others do and I guess can get offended. I never block people or take notes from comments made on a forum, just scroll on. Others don't. White Knights are tiresome as are those that continuously take offence at anything. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
Don't know how I come across to others, I will chat to anyone on the forums tho. I don't look for particular threads to post on I usually only post if I've got something to say. And I am always judging you Brucey!  |
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I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.
I'm not here for any of the reasons you've given, if I see a fun happy post I'll join in, If I see a dick head I'll call them out, if I agree with someone/something I'll agree with them, if I disagree I'll disagree with them.
I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.
Mrs |
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"I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.
I'm not here for any of the reasons you've given, if I see a fun happy post I'll join in, If I see a dick head I'll call them out, if I agree with someone/something I'll agree with them, if I disagree I'll disagree with them.
I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.
Mrs "
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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"I'm here for amusement. I like to chat when I've got the energy. I tend to avoid the threads where people are being unpleasant. And I'd like to think I come across as nice and friendly "
I think you do a great job. But I'm only saying that to get on top of you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will chat to anyone,but there does seem to be more and more horrible people appearing on here, either in attitude or just seeking people out constantly on the forums to nitpick at other people's comments.
Bit of a bollocky attitude to have but that's on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As Transvision Vamp once said.
"No you don't have to say you love me
Baby it's alright
Cos honey I don't care
Oh baby I don't care
Oh honey I don't care
Oh honey I don't care" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.
I'm not here for any of the reasons you've given, if I see a fun happy post I'll join in, If I see a dick head I'll call them out, if I agree with someone/something I'll agree with them, if I disagree I'll disagree with them.
I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.
Mrs
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This is my stance op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh I'm really catty with people that don't read the profile and if people call me cringe words then I can be quite spicy towards them. Negativity is fun! It fuels me. |
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I chat to many people on here, I'm quite open to conversation most of the time. Whether its filthy or mundane.
I always mean well and the times I feel annoyed or worked up over somones comments I do my best to refrain from calling them a cunt and just move on.
Dry sarcastic cynicism on the other hand I indulge in all to frequently...
But it comes from a good place  |
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I don’t look for issues but if I see something I’ll call it out. I tend to step away from stuff that really makes my blood boil but the odd comment here and there I don’t think makes me too grumpy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean well with my messages though those who get them may not think so. I will reach out if I think a status is worrying.
I mean well with my threads and the threads I post on. Some may think am too serious with some of my threads.
Hard to tell how other people view you here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you're on here? Will you chat to anyone and have a laugh and just want good vibes, or do you come here with a scowl and hunt for dickheads or comments to judge and make comments about?
Be honest with yourselves, do you think you come across as nice/fun here?"
I don't come across as friendly on the forums and I don't care
Those who know me and those who have met know I'm actually a really nice person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t look for issues but if I see something I’ll call it out. I tend to step away from stuff that really makes my blood boil but the odd comment here and there I don’t think makes me too grumpy. "
This is me, I think some people just pander to others on the forums where as some people call out others rubbish and often gey called trouble makers as a result of it hahaha |
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Yeah, I mean well and like to chat to anyone, but will occasionally bite when I see someone talking bollocks...
I'm trying to do better at avoiding the threads that will be bad for my blood pressure. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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How people read me? That's their choice. The majority of the time I'm curious and want to ponder a topic or not really taking it too seriously. At all.
I do try and avoid interacting with people who are quite... confrontational. Bitchy. I don't really have the energy to be dealing with that.
But then again, maybe other people think they're a delight. So... I'm just going to keep on doing me.  |
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I will add though last week or the week before a few of the forum peeps thought my posts we're a little like I was feeling down & they messaged to check in, I thought that was absolutely lovely they took their time out to do that.
I guess people do pick up on things we don't even realise when we comment.
Mrs |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
Honestly? My profile is as bitchy as possible because my heart sinks every time I get a message asking if I want to chat. I like the forums, but I’m blunt as fuck and a load of people are offended by that. Normally people who think I’m too easily offended, too. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I keep myself to myself mostly. My energy for chit chat is low. Unless I secretly covet their cock I guess I’m quite guarded.
That said, I also don’t come to the forums looking for drama, but sometimes people get right on my pip.
I also seem to have a different sense of humour to most on here so……I’m probably not seen as fun fun fun.
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Is nice really nice if it is insincere?
I think joy, happiness and fun emerge spontaneously from engaging in something meaningful. Things feel meaningful to me when they are authentic.
I enjoy learning about and from people, to discuss, explore, share ideas, but I learnt a long time ago not to debate with those who need me to agree with them.
My intentions are positive. I try to be myself and respect the rights of others to do the same.
I don't really see dickheads. I see dickish behaviour sometimes. We are all capable of that? I know I am. |
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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"Yeah, I mean well and like to chat to anyone, but will occasionally bite when I see someone talking bollocks...
I'm trying to do better at avoiding the threads that will be bad for my blood pressure."
See it's that damn attitude and the chiseled Greek god looks that makes you my arch nemesis on this place.
Which is really hard when I think you're a dude too. Ffs YOLO! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on my mood really.
Sometimes everything I read irritates me and I’ll react to something I’d be better off ignoring.
Other times my mood is lifted by a thread.
Many times I’ll read quick witted, funny replies and wish I had the ability to do that.
Strangely enough I do in everyday life but lack the confidence on here. |
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Generally I will welcome anyone if they approach well.
But if I am instantly asked to meet for sex, it's going to be a big fat dose of ignorance from me.
There is one single exception but I don't think she's on here. |
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By *NGthe2ndWoman
over a year ago
Here and there |
I just throw it out there with the best of intentions.
Most likely outcome will be A. I've misread the thread and it makes no sense or B. I'll witter on and bore the thread senseless
I'll never change  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning Brucey
I genuinely scroll through the forums for lighthearted fun and giggles mostly
But then I spot the other type of threads and can’t help go and have my honest 10p worth with my opinion  and I do hate offending people but my opinions and views often do so I do try and about those threads as hard as possible  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I consider this a pleasant distraction and treat it as such. That said, I prefer positive vibes and try to avoid controversial / heavy topics. Not through lack of interest, but rather no patience for drama. |
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I only pop in now and again. It's a hobby or a distraction rather than a vocation.
I don't need to spend any time looking for dickheads to have a pop at because it's like wandering into the local and they have been sitting at the bar all day.
I'm just here to watch all the fit people exercising.
All that eye rolling, jumping through hoops and bending over backwards has got to be good for you doesn't it? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I don't really care how I come across I've no idea.
I'm not here for any of the reasons you've given, if I see a fun happy post I'll join in, If I see a dick head I'll call them out, if I agree with someone/something I'll agree with them, if I disagree I'll disagree with them.
I'm me, I'm honest, people will like or dislike me and that's all good.
Mrs "
This.
And everyone judges. Even if it's just a 'tut' in their head and they don't actually type a response or comment.
People make assumptions, build perceptions and form images of people based on forum posts all the time. It would be somewhat delusional to think they don't.
But if you're not happy being seen to post something or display an opinion, then the only way to avoid people 'judging' you in any way is to not comment.
And that would make for very dull forums......... |
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I don't know whether I come across as a right laugh or a total douche, but I'm on here for a good time and a bit of fun. I don't want drama, don't want controversy, just want a bit of entertainment and a way to keep myself smiling while I'm in some tedious meetings.
If I get to look at photos of sexy people and maybe even have some sex as well, so much the better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think most people I interact with, or have met, would say I’m a decent enough lad
You do seem it to be fair from the few posts I've seen anyway
Haha thanks. Ignore Boo"
I'm only teasing!
His alright to be fair...... |
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I used to reply to every message I received when I first joined.
Unfortunately that just leaves you open to abuse from some who can't take rejection.
I think it's easier to have a "chat friendship" with someone who lives far away as you know that's all it's gonna be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I come from a good place with good vibes but quickly get turned the other way when people start being dickheads.
And generally if I start to dislike you it doesn't change.
And sometimes I'm a twat and I'm the dickhead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you're on here? Will you chat to anyone and have a laugh and just want good vibes, or do you come here with a scowl and hunt for dickheads or comments to judge and make comments about?
Be honest with yourselves, do you think you come across as nice/fun here?"
Always mean well. But you can never judge how sensitive other people might be, how they may judge the comment you make if its tounge in cheek. Some people may not understand your humor. Plus without been able to read the tone personally, or read facial expressions it can be a bit of a mine field. But that's their problem not mine  |
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"I'm here for amusement. I like to chat when I've got the energy. I tend to avoid the threads where people are being unpleasant. And I'd like to think I come across as nice and friendly "
Can I pinch this. Sums up my outlook perfectly |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I don't do negativity or meanness or shouty.
I was at my brother's yesterday when he put Gordon Ramsay's show on. I Instantly tensed up and felt unhappy and I left the room.
So in answer, I come in to be pleasant. It would take a lot for me to comment negatively rather than just avoiding commenting if I was unhappy with something. |
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"I don't do negativity or meanness or shouty.
I was at my brother's yesterday when he put Gordon Ramsay's show on. I Instantly tensed up and felt unhappy and I left the room.
So in answer, I come in to be pleasant. It would take a lot for me to comment negatively rather than just avoiding commenting if I was unhappy with something. "
This is something I aspire to but do not always achieve. X |
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"Yeah, I mean well and like to chat to anyone, but will occasionally bite when I see someone talking bollocks...
I'm trying to do better at avoiding the threads that will be bad for my blood pressure.
See it's that damn attitude and the chiseled Greek god looks that makes you my arch nemesis on this place.
Which is really hard when I think you're a dude too. Ffs YOLO! "
Ah, I've just seen this, Brucey. I am banking "Greek god", even though I suggest an urgent eye test.
But don't worry, we don't need to be nemeses, we can team up like Professor X and Magneto and take Fab by storm...
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