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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You know the ones... the irritating neighbour, the arse that runs the shop down the road.. The relative maybe who just has to ruin every function going.. the one who causes trouble at every turn kind of thing.
Do you think they can change?? Mellow out or is it a true case of a leopard never changes its spots?? |
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almost everyone has the capacity to change their lives around ...the will and motivation to do so is a different matter and often much harder to find. Until the person sees a benefit to changing their behaviour generally they wont!
there are exceptions, those with real problems which cannot be overcome , but as a rule they arent going to be among the people you're talking about. |
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"my ex father in law was always a nasty piece of work, as he got older he just seemed to mellow out and now hes actually quite nice  "
All well and good but what about the grief and heartache these types of people cause for years, sometimes decades, until they realise the error of their ways and expect to be forgiven. Fuck them, I say. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and those that ignore that don't deserve one iota of forgiveness.
Take Tiger Woods, for example. He knew he was betraying a thoroughly decent woman by all accounts yet that mattered not one jot to him. He didn't stop to think about her or his kids when he was parking the love torpedo in a succession of beauties who thought even less of HIS family - they just wanted to shag the world's richest sportsman.
- And then he gets caught!
"Oh I'm so sorry for my indiscretions."
"I'll never do it again."
"From now on I'll strive to be a better husband and father."
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Well, tough fucking shit mate! You had ya chance and blew it and were only sorry coz you got found out or you'd still be shooting ya load into any unscrupulous tart who wants it to this day.
Forgiveness?
Fuck them! |
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All well and good but what about the grief and heartache these types of people cause for years, sometimes decades, until they realise the error of their ways and expect to be forgiven. Fuck them, I say.Forgiveness?
Fuck them!"
So... seems you think, fuck em then lol??  |
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"You know the ones... the irritating neighbour, the arse that runs the shop down the road.. The relative maybe who just has to ruin every function going.. the one who causes trouble at every turn kind of thing.
Do you think they can change?? Mellow out or is it a true case of a leopard never changes its spots?? "
If you are looking for help just say so and stop all this beating around the bush  |
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All well and good but what about the grief and heartache these types of people cause for years, sometimes decades, until they realise the error of their ways and expect to be forgiven. Fuck them, I say.Forgiveness?
Fuck them!
So... seems you think, fuck em then lol?? "
Yup. With a cricket bat!
What's a baby seal and Tiger Woods got in common?
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They both get clubbed by Scandinavians.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you think they can change?? Mellow out or is it a true case of a leopard never changes its spots??
If you are looking for help just say so and stop all this beating around the bush "
Might have known you'd surface lol....
No help required here ta.... I'll be mean and nasty till I drop pmsl... |
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"Do you think they can change?? Mellow out or is it a true case of a leopard never changes its spots??
If you are looking for help just say so and stop all this beating around the bush
Might have known you'd surface lol....
No help required here ta.... I'll be mean and nasty till I drop pmsl... "
Sorry, it was too early to write a serious answer… and it would need to be a long answer. I’ll try for a shorter one:
Yes – some behaviour traits can and do often change.
No - some behaviour traits will not change.
Yes – some people reflect and learn from their mistakes and poor judgement calls.
No – some people already know the consequences of the actions they are about to take and still take them… their remorse is hardly likely to be sincere.
Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"everyone can change....used to be so chilled out here that I was almost comatose....now...get more and more like Victor Meldrew everyday!!!!!!! "
"I don't believe it"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
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All very fair... I'd like to think in most cases I see the 'good' in people until thoroughly proven they have none!
Seeing the good does leave you wide open however...
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"Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
All very fair... I'd like to think in most cases I see the 'good' in people until thoroughly proven they have none!
Seeing the good does leave you wide open however...
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This is also very true... sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
All very fair... I'd like to think in most cases I see the 'good' in people until thoroughly proven they have none!
Seeing the good does leave you wide open however...
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It can leave you wide open sometimes but how awful to go through life not trusting anyone and assuming that at some point you will be proved right
I like wide open |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Perception is probably the key to this as all of us can see bad in some where others only see good and vice versa.
"But mum I love him" is often opposed by "but he's no good for you" but who is to say who's right or wrong.
The toughest walk in life is the tightrope of the middle ground, constantly trying not to put a foot too firmly into one camp in order to maintain the status quo and for an easy life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
All very fair... I'd like to think in most cases I see the 'good' in people until thoroughly proven they have none!
Seeing the good does leave you wide open however...
It can leave you wide open sometimes but how awful to go through life not trusting anyone and assuming that at some point you will be proved right
I like wide open "
I also like wide open in a woman |
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"Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
All very fair... I'd like to think in most cases I see the 'good' in people until thoroughly proven they have none!
Seeing the good does leave you wide open however...
It can leave you wide open sometimes but how awful to go through life not trusting anyone and assuming that at some point you will be proved right
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There is no assuming - if you look hard enough for something you will find it.... or at least believe you have. This works both ways... whether looking for good or bad.
The trick is not to look... but not to ignore what's under your nose (dangle bogies included) |
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The toughest walk in life is the tightrope of the middle ground, constantly trying not to put a foot too firmly into one camp in order to maintain the status quo and for an easy life "
Do you mean faking it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my ex father in law was always a nasty piece of work, as he got older he just seemed to mellow out and now hes actually quite nice
All well and good but what about the grief and heartache these types of people cause for years, sometimes decades, until they realise the error of their ways and expect to be forgiven. Fuck them, I say. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and those that ignore that don't deserve one iota of forgiveness.
Take Tiger Woods, for example. He knew he was betraying a thoroughly decent woman by all accounts yet that mattered not one jot to him. He didn't stop to think about her or his kids when he was parking the love torpedo in a succession of beauties who thought even less of HIS family - they just wanted to shag the world's richest sportsman.
- And then he gets caught!
"Oh I'm so sorry for my indiscretions."
"I'll never do it again."
"From now on I'll strive to be a better husband and father."
.
.
Well, tough fucking shit mate! You had ya chance and blew it and were only sorry coz you got found out or you'd still be shooting ya load into any unscrupulous tart who wants it to this day.
Forgiveness?
Fuck them!"
yeah but he is mega rich so i would fook him haha |
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"Yes & No – because sometimes it is not the person ‘doing’ who needs to change it is the perception of the onlooker and their mindset of only seeing what supports their belief… so the question there would be can the onlooker pause to take an objective view from another angle.
All very fair... I'd like to think in most cases I see the 'good' in people until thoroughly proven they have none!
Seeing the good does leave you wide open however...
It can leave you wide open sometimes but how awful to go through life not trusting anyone and assuming that at some point you will be proved right
There is no assuming - if you look hard enough for something you will find it.... or at least believe you have. This works both ways... whether looking for good or bad.
The trick is not to look... but not to ignore what's under your nose (dangle bogies included)"
Bat in the cave!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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The toughest walk in life is the tightrope of the middle ground, constantly trying not to put a foot too firmly into one camp in order to maintain the status quo and for an easy life
Do you mean faking it?"
Faking it or diplomacy or even cowardice you choose the word but the one thing I do know about life is that keeping the peace is about the hardest fucking task we ever take on |
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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago
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"You know the ones... the irritating neighbour, the arse that runs the shop down the road.. The relative maybe who just has to ruin every function going.. the one who causes trouble at every turn kind of thing.
Do you think they can change?? Mellow out or is it a true case of a leopard never changes its spots?? "
no never once twats always twats |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if they was really bad to start with to make me not trsut them, i would wonder why they are changing and would be worried to trust them again.
I always thought you were blonde and therefore naturally daft but that post is making me revise my opinion of you..............clucking bell no I am worried as to whether I could ever trust you "
never trust me darling.....  |
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"if they was really bad to start with to make me not trsut them, i would wonder why they are changing and would be worried to trust them again.
I always thought you were blonde and therefore naturally daft but that post is making me revise my opinion of you..............clucking bell no I am worried as to whether I could ever trust you
never trust me darling..... "
Your a woman so that goes without saying, never worked you lot out yet and doubt I ever will |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if they was really bad to start with to make me not trsut them, i would wonder why they are changing and would be worried to trust them again.
I always thought you were blonde and therefore naturally daft but that post is making me revise my opinion of you..............clucking bell no I am worried as to whether I could ever trust you
never trust me darling.....
Your a woman so that goes without saying, never worked you lot out yet and doubt I ever will "
blonde tames the gent..!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'can bad people change?' well you've had the same pic up for months now notts, so i guess not
No point changing perfection ya dummy pmsl.... "
Well that explains your wifes half of the avatar, but what about yours? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"'can bad people change?' well you've had the same pic up for months now notts, so i guess not
No point changing perfection ya dummy pmsl.... Well that explains your wifes half of the avatar, but what about yours? "
No point going over the top is there... seeing yours you clearly see that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'can bad people change?' well you've had the same pic up for months now notts, so i guess not
No point changing perfection ya dummy pmsl.... Well that explains your wifes half of the avatar, but what about yours? "
u do know MR notts is the one in the black init?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my ex father in law was always a nasty piece of work, as he got older he just seemed to mellow out and now hes actually quite nice
All well and good but what about the grief and heartache these types of people cause for years, sometimes decades, until they realise the error of their ways and expect to be forgiven. Fuck them, I say. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and those that ignore that don't deserve one iota of forgiveness.
Take Tiger Woods, for example. He knew he was betraying a thoroughly decent woman by all accounts yet that mattered not one jot to him. He didn't stop to think about her or his kids when he was parking the love torpedo in a succession of beauties who thought even less of HIS family - they just wanted to shag the world's richest sportsman.
- And then he gets caught!
"Oh I'm so sorry for my indiscretions."
"I'll never do it again."
"From now on I'll strive to be a better husband and father."
.
.
Well, tough fucking shit mate! You had ya chance and blew it and were only sorry coz you got found out or you'd still be shooting ya load into any unscrupulous tart who wants it to this day.
Forgiveness?
Fuck them!"
You always come across as the life and soul of the party to me. A veritable laugh a minute. Full of understanding. Not stuffy and myopic at all xxxxx |
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You always come across as the life and soul of the party to me. A veritable laugh a minute. Full of understanding. Not stuffy and myopic at all xxxxx "
Myopic.... I likes that lol... Nice word! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my ex father in law was always a nasty piece of work, as he got older he just seemed to mellow out and now hes actually quite nice
All well and good but what about the grief and heartache these types of people cause for years, sometimes decades, until they realise the error of their ways and expect to be forgiven. Fuck them, I say. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and those that ignore that don't deserve one iota of forgiveness.
Take Tiger Woods, for example. He knew he was betraying a thoroughly decent woman by all accounts yet that mattered not one jot to him. He didn't stop to think about her or his kids when he was parking the love torpedo in a succession of beauties who thought even less of HIS family - they just wanted to shag the world's richest sportsman.
- And then he gets caught!
"Oh I'm so sorry for my indiscretions."
"I'll never do it again."
"From now on I'll strive to be a better husband and father."
.
.
Well, tough fucking shit mate! You had ya chance and blew it and were only sorry coz you got found out or you'd still be shooting ya load into any unscrupulous tart who wants it to this day.
Forgiveness?
Fuck them!
You always come across as the life and soul of the party to me. A veritable laugh a minute. Full of understanding. Not stuffy and myopic at all xxxxx "
I am quite tolerant usually but these guys who cheat and hope they can get away with it and then bleat about how sorry they are when they get found out just make my blood boil.
Aaaaaanyway, it's C.H.R.I.S.T.M.A.S !!!! ..... and I know for sure that I'll be having a better one than Tiger feckin Woods lol
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