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By *eli OP Woman over a year ago

When it comes to meeting people/spending time with them, do you have ideas about how they'll be/behave?

Whether that's physically or personality wise.

Have you ever been surprised? Do you have expectations on how others perceive you?

Let's keep this free from dirty laundry airing/bitching etc.

Thank you!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I try not to have expectations of others where I can.

If it's a new person, I just hope that if we don't have the chemistry that they're at least a respectful and decent human.

If it's one of my people, I probably do expect them to behave in the way I know them to usually.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve always been surprised that people have found me engaging when I’ve met them.

Or at least that’s the illusion I have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, I thought this was going to be a book review thread. I read Great Expectations - it wasn't as good as I'd hoped.

Bess x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

"When it comes to meeting people/spending time with them, do you have ideas about how they'll be/behave?

Whether that's physically or personality wise.

Have you ever been surprised? Do you have expectations on how others perceive you?

Let's keep this free from dirty laundry airing/bitching etc.

Thank you!"

Maybe not so much in a behaviour way but I guess we all have preconceptions especially forum people as you do get a hint of their personality.

I've been pleasantly surprised meeting people at socials, there have been profiles I'd think we wouldn't get on/not for us but in person they are amazing (same vice versa)

I've met people I thought I'd be a little intimidated by, I'm not a hardened swinger by any means and I've felt super comfortable they have been lovely.

I do worry about people's perceptions of me I won't lie, we love our photography it's my little kink but I worry people expect me to me more..... outgoing/sexier/confident than I actually am, I'm fairly quiet, shy and far from a porn star which I do think some expect.

Mrs

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By *apidaryMan over a year ago

Chipping Norton

Keep a lid on the expectations, keep a fire burning under the hopes.

Don't look for people to click with wonderful immediacy and be the stuff of your fantasies, but don't so dampen the meeting that those things can't happen, either in the future or in a glorious burst of suddenness at the time.

Grandiloquence aside, the aim is to have a good meet and maybe make a new friend, or at least a fun companion. And the tingle of excitement at meeting someone wouldn't be there without the twin possibilities of a meet exceeding your expectations or disappointing them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was going to have a right good bitch until I read you don’t want that stuff in here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From fab- I think my expectations are based on our interactions in the forums or if they’re not a forum user then in message. I am usually not surprised by how people are in person. Though recently I’ve been so pleasantly surprised by a couple of people from this website.

I wonder how people perceive me and how they think I’ll be in person. I hope I live up to the hype.

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I tend not to have expectations of anyone. I like to make a connection before we meet so I would probably describe it as a “hope we get on” in RL.

Then I go from there.

Just one happy little moment at a time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest, I usually assume they wlll he lovely. I then spend time (too much time) over thinking the idea that I might not meet their expectations!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good thread, OP. I was going to post something similar but you pipped me to it.

It's always best to take people at face value. Most will be exactly as expected but some will always pretend to be something that they're not - almost a sham personality.

And no one wants to have a sham.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good thread, OP. I was going to post something similar but you pipped me to it.

It's always best to take people at face value. Most will be exactly as expected but some will always pretend to be something that they're not - almost a sham personality.

And no one wants to have a shandy."

FIFY

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By *apidaryMan over a year ago

Chipping Norton

There's a place for a shandy, but it involves a very hot summer's day and an overwhelming sense of youthful nostalgia.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a place for a shandy, but it involves a very hot summer's day and an overwhelming sense of youthful nostalgia."

Ah well maybe next August

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From fab- I think my expectations are based on our interactions in the forums or if they’re not a forum user then in message. I am usually not surprised by how people are in person. Though recently I’ve been so pleasantly surprised by a couple of people from this website.

I wonder how people perceive me and how they think I’ll be in person. I hope I live up to the hype. "

I’m gutted I never got to speak to you at the weekend dude. Sorry about that.

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Good thread, OP. I was going to post something similar but you pipped me to it.

It's always best to take people at face value. Most will be exactly as expected but some will always pretend to be something that they're not - almost a sham personality.

And no one wants to have a sham."

Not even a sham-69? Or a Shang-a-lang?

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I expect them to be decent, and know how to behave in public. Sadly that's not always the case!

Mostly I try not to have any, then I won't be disappointed.

I have no idea what people think I'm going to be like! Definitely not the sexy milf/cougar stereotype

(not in public anyways)

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By *amie HantsWoman over a year ago

Atlantis

Most of the time I’m pleasantly surprised. I love meeting new people and try to take them for as they are in person.

Sometimes though, it can feel like people are more comfortable and confident behind the keyboard and in my experience that doesn't always translate to real life in the same way

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan over a year ago

A den in the Glen

I had a fantastic build up with someone through messaging. All clean fun, a little flirting, a good bit of banter. We met for a social and when I met her outside the pub to walk on together she had a twang to her accent. She was Eastern European. Her written English was superb, I had not asked her too much about her background and nothing prepared me for this. Had a great night.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

Sometimes I'll have an idea on personality, which is usually why I want to meet them in the first place

I think my biggest surprises are usually people's voices

and I tend not to go in with particular expectations either

LvM

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Not anymore. Online persona's vs real life persona's can wildly differ on here, so I like to be pleasantly surprised.

As you know Meli, I'm the same online as in person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not anymore. Online persona's vs real life persona's can wildly differ on here, so I like to be pleasantly surprised.

As you know Meli, I'm the same online as in person

Stop the cap! You’re way way way better in person

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Not anymore. Online persona's vs real life persona's can wildly differ on here, so I like to be pleasantly surprised.

As you know Meli, I'm the same online as in person

Stop the cap! You’re way way way better in person"

That's only cos I can't type as fast as I speak

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Damn it sexy Meli I also thought this was going to be a Charles Dickens based discussion corner.

Pip

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By *eli OP Woman over a year ago

"Oh, I thought this was going to be a book review thread. I read Great Expectations - it wasn't as good as I'd hoped.

Bess x"

I'm sorry Bess, I'm such a clickbaiter! I really loved it! It also reminds me a lot of a little star of a friend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have many expectations on the person I meet as most details are generally covered during the chats pre-meeting. It usually becomes quite revealing and if a meet materialises then I know what to generally expect.

For their expectations of me, I tend to be more anxious but more about the physical side. Even though my pics are true and recent, I always wonder if I am enough to keep them interested or if my physical appearance will stop proceedings in its tracks.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Yes last week a meet took a rather weird turn.

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By *eli OP Woman over a year ago

"Most of the time I’m pleasantly surprised. I love meeting new people and try to take them for as they are in person.

Sometimes though, it can feel like people are more comfortable and confident behind the keyboard and in my experience that doesn't always translate to real life in the same way "

You have such a way with words Jamie, I'm here for it.

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By *ake_or_deathMan over a year ago

Manchester

I generally only meet someone after a fair amount of conversation has been had via message so I usually have a fair idea of the kind of person they are, but chemistry is a whole different thing - you can think you have it virtually, but in person it might just not be there at all.

I generally try to treat every meet as the chance to meet someone interesting. Maybe it will lead to something physical. If not, hopefully a pleasant conversation will be had and that's no bad thing. Overly high expectations can make you miss something very worthwhile that's right in front of you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I just hope they’re suitable to be out in public with

don’t wanna be meeting anyone who shouts at waiters or throws spoons