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Initially it's their face/smile but a person's sense of humour is a massive deciding factor on whether I'm drawn to them or not.
They could be the best looking person on the planet but if they can't make me laugh then no it ain't happening.
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"People that are weird.
When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.
Bless their hearts.
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Oh. That moment. When someone isn't just people any more. They're a person  |
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"People that are weird.
When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.
Bless their hearts.
Oh. That moment. When someone isn't just people any more. They're a person "
Exactly that, It's so rare and so wonderful. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not quite sure. I like people who have good energy around them. Are passionate and engaging in a way that makes me happy to listen to them waffle on.
I like those who are weird. Perhaps not weird. I like people who are my sort of weird. Where I can feel comfortable being myself around them and don't need to filter/be on guard around them. |
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"So many different things that add up to their vibe. Smile and sense of humour for sure. The way they move. Confidence. Holding your gaze."
This is a great summary! There's so much that has to all add up isn't there?? Facial attraction is massive for me, then it's chat/personality and if that clicks/is easy and fun. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"People that are weird.
When you're chatting to someone and it clicks in your head that they're just as awkward and weird as you.
Bless their hearts.
Oh. That moment. When someone isn't just people any more. They're a person "
Oh that
You put it well, person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes there's just instant chemistry when you meet someone, and when that happens it's all over for me
Why what happens next  "
When it's the right chemistry it's impossible for me to resist Steve  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes there's just instant chemistry when you meet someone, and when that happens it's all over for me
Why what happens next
When it's the right chemistry it's impossible for me to resist Steve "
Mmmmmmm
Then what?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A good voice makes me weak at the knees
*deepens voice*
Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?"
(Croaks) thank you, young man, but I have my stick. Would you like a Werther's? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A good voice makes me weak at the knees
*deepens voice*
Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?
(Croaks) thank you, young man, but I have my stick. Would you like a Werther's?"
Eww no. I wasn’t coming onto you  |
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Initially a nice face or smile, but confidence in themselves is what really attracts me, I love people who just don't care what anyone else thinks! Comfortable in their own skin, and obviously sexually confident, and know what they want! |
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If the connection moment is there. Someone used the term 'seen' with me recently.
That resonated for me. She feels seen, I feel seen.
It's almost like a switch inside me just clicks. Although it's not always sexual.
It's love really. Powerful, precious and yet fragile.
Happened on the weekend. A very special friend, very dear to me. It's happened so often we don't even say anything anymore, just sit with the moment.
What is it she said: heaven would be this for me. Just you and me, in a meadow by a stream.
And then she said: everyone is delusional they act like death isn't coming for them and instead get involved in drama and tik tok videos 
I think I need both in a partner not just the revelation of the nicer aspects of their humanity, also their shadow. Otherwise only half is seen.
That's what is most attractive to me. Depth, openness, authenticity, self-awareness I could throw a hundred words at it and not capture it. |
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"A good voice makes me weak at the knees
*deepens voice*
Hi, ma’am. Do you need a hand crossing the road?
(Croaks) thank you, young man, but I have my stick. Would you like a Werther's?
Eww no. I wasn’t coming onto you "
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Confidence, humour, clean nails, great chat, someone who leads an interesting life and has plenty of stories to tell about it.
One of my favourite ever meets I only realised when I got to the bar that we hadn't swapped photos so I had no idea what he looked like. He reeled me in with great chat and funny phone conversations about every topic imaginable. Thankfully we both liked each others' looks (though he'd have needed to be extraordinary for me to be turned off by that point!). |
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Buggered if I know really. A combination of lots of things. I suppose at core I want them to be a decent human being who is concerned about others and the state of the planet generally. Also I guess that they have to be trans supportive and intersectionally aware or they won't be able to stand being in the same room as me - though that's all part of being a decent person.
What was the question? Something about me liking them, or them liking me? Dunno. I'll tell you when she finds me. Xx |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Huge things for me are intelligence, humour and personality. And yes - I know it's a massive cliché that's bandied around a lot.
They're things that you can gauge before even meeting someone, through messages, online chat and then calls.
Sure. You may have already seen their photos and usually their face by then.
But looks and images (even videos) are very two dimensional. Lots of people look good. Lots of people can present themselves in an attractive manner. Lots of people know how to 'sell' themselves online via profiles and pictures.
But it's much harder to convey individuality, attitudes, values and humour without a two way conversation.
If that proves hard, requires considerable effort, or feels forced or awkward at any stage, then no matter how attractive you may find them it becomes mechanical, a means to an end and all about purely physical connections rather than mental.
And that's never going to be anywhere near as enjoyable as actually having the extra element of cerebral connection. |
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Homour is a big one for me, make me laugh and your half way there, a nice smile, good conversation and feeling comfortable is what mainly attracts me.
I'm not someone who can be attracted to anyone by looks alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am always attracted to the eyes and mouth. A good smile goes a long way for me.
If i get the chance to talk to them then it becomes the way they chat ie being polite and engaging. I know its a swingers and sex site but for me the conversation does not even have to be sexual (although its enjoyable too) as i am already bought into all the above. |
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"Physically…smile, eyes and hands. But saying that I am more attracted to someone with a good vibe, good communication and confidence. "
Trouble is after over 20 years in the build trade my hands look a little worse for ware  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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their energy (i'm extremely sensitive with picking up and sensing other people's energy), physical attraction of course (can't meet up and play with just anyone), their personality (what they're about) and honesty (which is self explanatory i think). |
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Their face initially ,as that's what I have to be attracted to.
If they're not v nice people or lack a sense of humour ,I can soon go off them .
It works a bit the other way in that people can become more attractive the more I get to know them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That click.
They're your people. Make you laugh, can sit comfortably in silence and can talk about shit and it doesn't matter. Alternatively you can have intricate or deep conversations. That is attractive to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That click.
They're your people. Make you laugh, can sit comfortably in silence and can talk about shit and it doesn't matter. Alternatively you can have intricate or deep conversations. That is attractive to me."
That's it, isn't it? And it's so damn elusive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way they engage with me, react to my unusual sense of humour, hold their own and feel comfortable to give back and look me in the eye while they do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kindness
Humility
A sense of humour
Someone who sees beyond my physical beauty
Unselfishness
Unbothered by others opinions
Chivalry
Health conscious
Happiness
Being comfortable being themselves unapologetically
Quick witted
Decisiveness
Spontaneity
Passionate about something in life |
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