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Was reading an interesting article about attractiveness. Apparently women find 80% of men unattractive where as men only find 50% of all women... As I was reading it fab definitely came to mind.
It's good to know that us blokes are not only outgunned because of our huge numbers but also biologically.... can't bloody win!
Just wondered what women think of this? Not sure why, might just depress me further |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"I find far less than 20% of men attractive. Did the article point out that probably as individuals women are unlikely to find the same 80% unattractive thereby giving almost all men a chance"
This is based on data from the old ok Cupid blog. You can probably find the original article but it's not on OKC anymore. From what I remember it's the same 20% that is considered attractive. It's a long time since I read the article but it was based on showing women the same sample. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know many people will turn someone down just based on looks but I find that if you connect to them on other levels attraction can happen. We just need to be less picky about the book cover so to speak x
I have know the most amazing looking men but when you talk to them they are so ignorant and pig headed.
Maybe I feel this way because I don’t have the best book cover ????????? something to ponder ?? |
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"I find far less than 20% of men attractive. Did the article point out that probably as individuals women are unlikely to find the same 80% unattractive thereby giving almost all men a chance
This is based on data from the old ok Cupid blog. You can probably find the original article but it's not on OKC anymore. From what I remember it's the same 20% that is considered attractive. It's a long time since I read the article but it was based on showing women the same sample. "
Really, that's interesting was okcupid a dating site?
Does this mean that only 20% of men are in relationships or that many women are with men they find unattractive ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well if that’s true then 80% of women are having to settle for someone unattractive when they partner up, versus only 50% of men.
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"Was reading an interesting article about attractiveness. Apparently women find 80% of men unattractive where as men only find 50% of all women... As I was reading it fab definitely came to mind.
It's good to know that us blokes are not only outgunned because of our huge numbers but also biologically.... can't bloody win!
Just wondered what women think of this? Not sure why, might just depress me further "
This is bullshit spread by incels and toxic grifters trying to make money by telling guys how to “alpha”. |
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"I find far less than 20% of men attractive. Did the article point out that probably as individuals women are unlikely to find the same 80% unattractive thereby giving almost all men a chance
This is based on data from the old ok Cupid blog. You can probably find the original article but it's not on OKC anymore. From what I remember it's the same 20% that is considered attractive. It's a long time since I read the article but it was based on showing women the same sample.
Really, that's interesting was okcupid a dating site?
Does this mean that only 20% of men are in relationships or that many women are with men they find unattractive ?
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OKCupid now have an app that swipes like Tinder! It's a decent dating site, famous for the amount of sexuality options it gives people. It's (like Fab) ok enough to use free.
If they are really from OKC, I wouldn't go by these old stats at all though folks!!!
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"Was reading an interesting article about attractiveness. Apparently women find 80% of men unattractive where as men only find 50% of all women... As I was reading it fab definitely came to mind.
It's good to know that us blokes are not only outgunned because of our huge numbers but also biologically.... can't bloody win!
Just wondered what women think of this? Not sure why, might just depress me further
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Where did you see this quoted OP?
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Ignoring the fact that they have missed medium (how can 80pc be below medium when by defn it's 50pc!) the other interesting fact is women tend to message those they score lower whereas men only tend to message the hottest.
Which kinda ties in with some evolutionary biology theories if this is because women look for more than just looks when selecting for the other half of their kids genetics. |
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These sort of numbers/patterns are accepted as being the norm for online dating (and I suspect same on Fab). So how does a guy stand a chance? I propose the real world is different from the online world. I think too many people over use online apps to find people. Online you really struggle to get that vibe, eye contact and body language which is so important. I think it leads to some great guys getting overlooked. I think people would benifit more from the real world and discover a far more varied selection of great people. From a Fab context I would say people need to get out more in the social/club/party scene and be less on fab. |
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"Ignoring the fact that they have missed medium (how can 80pc be below medium when by defn it's 50pc!) the other interesting fact is women tend to message those they score lower whereas men only tend to message the hottest.
Which kinda ties in with some evolutionary biology theories if this is because women look for more than just looks when selecting for the other half of their kids genetics. "
This! The study quoted SO often also found that women tended to message the average and not so average men the most. But that is never mentioned when the 80/20 rule is cited. For some reason...  |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"I find far less than 20% of men attractive. Did the article point out that probably as individuals women are unlikely to find the same 80% unattractive thereby giving almost all men a chance
This is based on data from the old ok Cupid blog. You can probably find the original article but it's not on OKC anymore. From what I remember it's the same 20% that is considered attractive. It's a long time since I read the article but it was based on showing women the same sample.
Really, that's interesting was okcupid a dating site?
Does this mean that only 20% of men are in relationships or that many women are with men they find unattractive ?"
This is an old article by todays pace, maybe 2009. It was before OKC was bought by Match. A search engine should find it or a recycled version of it. But the number crunching behind the article has never been debunked afaik.
Does it mean that women settle? You tell me. |
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"I find far less than 20% of men attractive. Did the article point out that probably as individuals women are unlikely to find the same 80% unattractive thereby giving almost all men a chance
This is based on data from the old ok Cupid blog. You can probably find the original article but it's not on OKC anymore. From what I remember it's the same 20% that is considered attractive. It's a long time since I read the article but it was based on showing women the same sample.
Really, that's interesting was okcupid a dating site?
Does this mean that only 20% of men are in relationships or that many women are with men they find unattractive ?
This is an old article by todays pace, maybe 2009. It was before OKC was bought by Match. A search engine should find it or a recycled version of it. But the number crunching behind the article has never been debunked afaik.
Does it mean that women settle? You tell me. "
They do when they are looking to settle down and have children in my view. |
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"I find far less than 20% of men attractive. Did the article point out that probably as individuals women are unlikely to find the same 80% unattractive thereby giving almost all men a chance
This is based on data from the old ok Cupid blog. You can probably find the original article but it's not on OKC anymore. From what I remember it's the same 20% that is considered attractive. It's a long time since I read the article but it was based on showing women the same sample.
Really, that's interesting was okcupid a dating site?
Does this mean that only 20% of men are in relationships or that many women are with men they find unattractive ?
This is an old article by todays pace, maybe 2009. It was before OKC was bought by Match. A search engine should find it or a recycled version of it. But the number crunching behind the article has never been debunked afaik.
Does it mean that women settle? You tell me. "
I can only answer for myself and say, no and I think anyone who's seen my partner would agree.
As these statistics are often used as an explanation for why men don't get as much sex as they want I'd say that possibly the answer is no for other women too.
'Do women feel they don't deserve or won't be attractive to very attractive men due to low self esteem?' Is another question altogether |
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I think it's more than 80%. Women usually focus more on 'that bloke on the telly' or 'him in that film' even when in a relationship. But hey, it makes up gents rise to the challenge. See what I did there  |
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I don't find men attractive at all unless I get to know them a little, I can safely say I've never looked at a guy and thought I want to fuck him, my brain doesn't work like that.
I do think men are more aesthetically pleased than women (not all obviously) and women are more attracted to the whole package rather than aesthetics only.
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Another angle.
Women take more care with profile pics (and dare I say it filters) whereas men are shocking.
And maybe women allows for this. So aren't settling. |
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Is it as binary as attractive/unattractive?
Instant attraction is a lot rarer than 50% for me. Off the top of my head one in a thousand maybe? No idea.
My instant thought is how do I know if I am attracted to them if I don't get to know them?
And then I can lose that attraction later. So does that mean that they were never attractive to me? |
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"I don't find men attractive at all unless I get to know them a little, I can safely say I've never looked at a guy and thought I want to fuck him, my brain doesn't work like that.
I do think men are more aesthetically pleased than women (not all obviously) and women are more attracted to the whole package rather than aesthetics only.
Mrs "
Oh Mrs, I feel precisely the same. Good looks just aren't enough for me. |
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I also read that we aren't supposed to be monogamous because of tribe mentality. Apparently when we used to be in smaller tribes men and women would sleep with all the members of the tribe so you had no idea which child was your own. Meaning you would protect the whole tribe because you would effectively be one big family |
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"I also read that we aren't supposed to be monogamous because of tribe mentality. Apparently when we used to be in smaller tribes men and women would sleep with all the members of the tribe so you had no idea which child was your own. Meaning you would protect the whole tribe because you would effectively be one big family"
I think all the women in the tribe would know which baby was theirs!
But I know what you mean, OP... |
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We are not the pack animals we have been in our evolutionary past. We can still bare our teeth, and there are still alpha males who impregnate lots of women. Statistically more women do cheat than men due to that. But it's just a statistic. More men throw punches than women. Look at people individually and it's all evaporates. We are humans, Spock! And together we are more, we can still be human in a global pack! pt |
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