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Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number 
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone |
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I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt |
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt "
Thank you  I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly |
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly "
if he continually rings and texts you surely that's stalking and can be dealt with I mean stalking is a huge crime isn't it |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt"
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person "
I'd of actually tried to use words when you was there not steal private info to then WhatsApp you later and lie |
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"Sounds a terrible thing to happen. Mind you, He has no problems with his eyesight!"
A friend I spoke to for a bit of comfort was a bit puzzled how someone can see numbers off of another person's phone but I was literally right infront of him on the bus
It wasn't a nice thing to learn was going on while sat infront of a person xx |
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly if he continually rings and texts you surely that's stalking and can be dealt with I mean stalking is a huge crime isn't it "
Oh fully 100% |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person I'd of actually tried to use words when you was there not steal private info to then WhatsApp you later and lie "
Precisely very odd behaviour and then tell a person their number just popped up on to their phone like a magic trick |
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"I don#t think it's strictly illegal unless you told him not to look. It will likely depend what they do with the number after recoding it. It does show you have to be careful for sure. pt"
Very cautious and I plan to get a screen protector helps keep the phone private when its on display in public |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person
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So he wanted you to think you rang him d*unk or something? Did he have a big line? Sounds like a real piece of work to be honest, someone who wants you on the back foot. You are right to respect more upfront people for sure.
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"  sometimes it’s embarrassing to share the Y chromosome with these muppets.
I suggest as (arguably childish) revenge, writing his number on wall of the toilets in your toughest local boozer  "
I said to a male friend the creepy guys make life harder for genuine men. |
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" sometimes it’s embarrassing to share the Y chromosome with these muppets.
I suggest as (arguably childish) revenge, writing his number on wall of the toilets in your toughest local boozer
I said to a male friend the creepy guys make life harder for genuine men."
The creepy guys make many women cautious of all men |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person
So he wanted you to think you rang him d*unk or something? Did he have a big line? Sounds like a real piece of work to be honest, someone who wants you on the back foot. You are right to respect more upfront people for sure.
pt "
He wanted me to believe I rang him and then his story changed to he just found my number  |
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" sometimes it’s embarrassing to share the Y chromosome with these muppets.
I suggest as (arguably childish) revenge, writing his number on wall of the toilets in your toughest local boozer
I said to a male friend the creepy guys make life harder for genuine men.
The creepy guys make many women cautious of all men"
That is for sure  |
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I am men. I would not behave in theannet previously described. Ergo they are not typical examples of men.
As I would like to be an example of men to rely upon, please feel free to let me know if this other example is bothering you. I would love the opportunity to put it in its place.
I want my daughter to live a life of freedom too. |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone "
That’s really creepy, sorry to hear that OP and I’m glad to hear you’re safe at home.
I got one of those screen protectors and can’t recommend them enough.
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"I am men. I would not behave in theannet previously described. Ergo they are not typical examples of men.
As I would like to be an example of men to rely upon, please feel free to let me know if this other example is bothering you. I would love the opportunity to put it in its place.
I want my daughter to live a life of freedom too."
Thank you
We live in different times now, children can't be raised the same as we were.
The way we was raised was for a world that no longer exists |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
That’s really creepy, sorry to hear that OP and I’m glad to hear you’re safe at home.
I got one of those screen protectors and can’t recommend them enough.
Hugs xx"
Thank you it was disturbing couldn't believe it had happened xxx |
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over a year ago
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly "
Unfortunately I had an experience years ago where I had to report someone to the police, I was told by the officer I delt with that it only needs to be one message or call to be classed as harassment |
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"Op
You could always turn around see whose around before using your phone. it's how identity theft is done unware who is able to see content on your device "
What about while using my phone?
Is it still advised to occasionally Check? |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person
So he wanted you to think you rang him d*unk or something? Did he have a big line? Sounds like a real piece of work to be honest, someone who wants you on the back foot. You are right to respect more upfront people for sure.
pt
He wanted me to believe I rang him and then his story changed to he just found my number
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Sounds like he thinks he's the world's greatest charmer if changed his lie not once but twice! Young men need to be told they can't take advantage like this. Since Andrew Tate became too big to ignore they are making an effort now. It sounds like the kid strategised the whole thing to win you over to me - and it could even be a patented Tate approach (he used to charge to hear this stuff). What these young men don't have is respect for women's basic rights, and that's a really backward thing for everyone.
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly
Unfortunately I had an experience years ago where I had to report someone to the police, I was told by the officer I delt with that it only needs to be one message or call to be classed as harassment "
Ohh ok I never thought it would of been classed as harassment but that does make sense xx thank you |
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"He rang you up? Not sure I'd give him lack of courage. pt
He messaged on whats app, reason I say he has lack of courage is because rather than attempting conversation in physical while I was right infront of him, he was sneaky to start looking at my chat on my phone and took my number down from seeing me give it on my phone.
Someone courageous would just make an effort to initiate conversation and state their agenda instead of spying on a person
So he wanted you to think you rang him d*unk or something? Did he have a big line? Sounds like a real piece of work to be honest, someone who wants you on the back foot. You are right to respect more upfront people for sure.
pt
He wanted me to believe I rang him and then his story changed to he just found my number
Sounds like he thinks he's the world's greatest charmer if changed his lie not once but twice! Young men need to be told they can't take advantage like this. Since Andrew Tate became too big to ignore they are making an effort now. It sounds like the kid strategised the whole thing to win you over to me - and it could even be a patented Tate approach (he used to charge to hear this stuff). What these young men don't have is respect for women's basic rights, and that's a really backward thing for everyone.
pt"
That is true, he tried to ask if he could take me for a coffee he definitely thought he was a charmer |
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly
Unfortunately I had an experience years ago where I had to report someone to the police, I was told by the officer I delt with that it only needs to be one message or call to be classed as harassment
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If it was a specifically 'harassing' call yes. This guy admitted all his lies as he went along, he'd probably get strong words and a caution maybe. They know what they are doing.
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Some people need a hard dose of 'no' in the form of a baseball bat.
Christ...that's not cool thsts jot on that's STALKING. There is no excuse for people to be this gross and creepy.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's getting harder out there for girls when people like this...
Take care and sign that number up to as many spam numbers as you can. Give his number to a random guy and see how he likes it.
I'm so mad. |
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly
Unfortunately I had an experience years ago where I had to report someone to the police, I was told by the officer I delt with that it only needs to be one message or call to be classed as harassment
If it was a specifically 'harassing' call yes. This guy admitted all his lies as he went along, he'd probably get strong words and a caution maybe. They know what they are doing.
pt"
Contact was made on whats app not a phone call
Definitely knew what he was doing |
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"Some people need a hard dose of 'no' in the form of a baseball bat.
Christ...that's not cool thsts jot on that's STALKING. There is no excuse for people to be this gross and creepy.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's getting harder out there for girls when people like this...
Take care and sign that number up to as many spam numbers as you can. Give his number to a random guy and see how he likes it.
I'm so mad."
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"Op
You could always turn around see whose around before using your phone. it's how identity theft is done unware who is able to see content on your device "
I was planning on being the first to as a similar question. Why did you put yourself in the position of letting your screen be visible to others? |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone "
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal |
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Guy exhibits stalking behaviour / lies and tries to gaslight you with message .
Yes this guy is absolutely a sex predator / red flag in the making if not already one ..
Keep his number and copy of messages if you need to report this weirdo .
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Whilst he is clearly suffering from punch in the face syndrome IE that's what he needs.
But OP a certain amount of awareness and street smarts is required particularly for a lone female.
Being aware of your surroundings whilst it's an inconvenient truth it's gotta be done unfortunately.
I'm 50 odd year old man and when I was a teenage lad I got badly beaten and ended up in hospital for a week by a group of national front thug's in Southall
Since then and even to this day I always take note of my surroundings read the room/area and keep my eyes open for threat's.
You have to take control of your own security and safety unfortunately.
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"Op
You could always turn around see whose around before using your phone. it's how identity theft is done unware who is able to see content on your device
I was planning on being the first to as a similar question. Why did you put yourself in the position of letting your screen be visible to others?"
I'm sure she will from now on. It doesn't hurt to have a little sympathy for someone who's learned a lesson the hard way. |
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"Whilst he is clearly suffering from punch in the face syndrome IE that's what he needs.
But OP a certain amount of awareness and street smarts is required particularly for a lone female.
Being aware of your surroundings whilst it's an inconvenient truth it's gotta be done unfortunately.
I'm 50 odd year old man and when I was a teenage lad I got badly beaten and ended up in hospital for a week by a group of national front thug's in Southall
Since then and even to this day I always take note of my surroundings read the room/area and keep my eyes open for threat's.
You have to take control of your own security and safety unfortunately.
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This unfortunately is true.
I think people who bemoan the fact that others are wary of them despite them being one of the good 'uns need to realise this. |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal"
You can log incidents online nowadays which is useful.
I wonder if he has done this before or if he will graduate to more sophisticated tactics. |
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Why are we victim blaming? This was a massive invasion of privacy and very predatory and yet some people in thus thread are putting the blame on the OP for not covering her phone when sending a number to a friend. No, let's not do that. |
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"Op
You could always turn around see whose around before using your phone. it's how identity theft is done unware who is able to see content on your device
I was planning on being the first to as a similar question. Why did you put yourself in the position of letting your screen be visible to others?"
Nothing like a bit of victim blaming there.
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"Why are we victim blaming? This was a massive invasion of privacy and very predatory and yet some people in thus thread are putting the blame on the OP for not covering her phone when sending a number to a friend. No, let's not do that."
It's just an extension of the age old attitudes of why did you put yourself in the position for a someone to be able to do that to you. Instead of asking the perpetrator why they did it. It's never going to stop |
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I think its just a response to the bizarre chain of events and how this unfortunate situation unfolded
Why the OPs friend needed her number on snap at that very moment.. that in the time it took to type the number and send it, the creeper behind was poised with phone in hand to be able to capture it and use it nefariously. |
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"I think its just a response to the bizarre chain of events and how this unfortunate situation unfolded
Why the OPs friend needed her number on snap at that very moment.. that in the time it took to type the number and send it, the creeper behind was poised with phone in hand to be able to capture it and use it nefariously."
You're questioning the accuracy of the op? |
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"Why are we victim blaming? This was a massive invasion of privacy and very predatory and yet some people in thus thread are putting the blame on the OP for not covering her phone when sending a number to a friend. No, let's not do that."
If I was on a bus or in a public place and wanted to log into my internet banking I'd definitely be looking round to check if someone is looking over my shoulder I also go to the extreme to make sure I'm not sitting under a CCTV camera.
Definitely not blaming the OP as yes it's an invasion of privacy and damn right creepy but sadly it's the world we live in just advising someone to be aware of their surroundings.
I'm sure the OP knows this now and hopefully this thread could potentially make someone else a bit more aware to prevent similar happening.
I'd be reporting the guy in question to the police and asking the bus company for CCTV records to provide the police with the proof.
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"Why are we victim blaming? This was a massive invasion of privacy and very predatory and yet some people in thus thread are putting the blame on the OP for not covering her phone when sending a number to a friend. No, let's not do that.
If I was on a bus or in a public place and wanted to log into my internet banking I'd definitely be looking round to check if someone is looking over my shoulder I also go to the extreme to make sure I'm not sitting under a CCTV camera.
Definitely not blaming the OP as yes it's an invasion of privacy and damn right creepy but sadly it's the world we live in just advising someone to be aware of their surroundings.
I'm sure the OP knows this now and hopefully this thread could potentially make someone else a bit more aware to prevent similar happening.
I'd be reporting the guy in question to the police and asking the bus company for CCTV records to provide the police with the proof.
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I used internet banking as an example btw. |
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"I think its just a response to the bizarre chain of events and how this unfortunate situation unfolded
Why the OPs friend needed her number on snap at that very moment.. that in the time it took to type the number and send it, the creeper behind was poised with phone in hand to be able to capture it and use it nefariously.
You're questioning the accuracy of the op?"
Is that allowed?  |
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I was on a bus recently using my phone. It wasn't until I got off that I noticed they use cctv. I wasn't doing anything that could compromise me but I hadn't even considered it before opening fab up. I won't be doing anything other than looking at fluffy kittens in future |
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"Op
You could always turn around see whose around before using your phone. it's how identity theft is done unware who is able to see content on your device
I was planning on being the first to as a similar question. Why did you put yourself in the position of letting your screen be visible to others?"
I was sitting on the bus, I'm not expecting a creep to be watching my screen |
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"I think its just a response to the bizarre chain of events and how this unfortunate situation unfolded
Why the OPs friend needed her number on snap at that very moment.. that in the time it took to type the number and send it, the creeper behind was poised with phone in hand to be able to capture it and use it nefariously.
You're questioning the accuracy of the op?
Is that allowed? "
Of course. |
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"I was on a bus recently using my phone. It wasn't until I got off that I noticed they use cctv. I wasn't doing anything that could compromise me but I hadn't even considered it before opening fab up. I won't be doing anything other than looking at fluffy kittens in future"
Carefully how you search for 'fluffy kittens'! Remember what happened to the MP and his innocent (ah hm) search for tractors!  |
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"Op
You could always turn around see whose around before using your phone. it's how identity theft is done unware who is able to see content on your device
I was planning on being the first to as a similar question. Why did you put yourself in the position of letting your screen be visible to others?
I was sitting on the bus, I'm not expecting a creep to be watching my screen "
I bet you will be now.
The point about cctv is also valid. I don't know if it's only the driver who can see it or if it's recorded but its worth considering |
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"I was on a bus recently using my phone. It wasn't until I got off that I noticed they use cctv. I wasn't doing anything that could compromise me but I hadn't even considered it before opening fab up. I won't be doing anything other than looking at fluffy kittens in future
Carefully how you search for 'fluffy kittens'! Remember what happened to the MP and his innocent (ah hm) search for tractors! "
I will be sure not to search 'fluffy pussies'
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal"
I've lost my faith in police taking certain things seriously |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal
I've lost my faith in police taking certain things seriously "
I think the best way forward with this is to be aware that people can see your phone screen and either cover it or don't send compromising information unless you know you're completely private.
I hadn't even considered cctv until reading this thread. I will now. |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal"
Sadly the days of the Police having a word with someone have gone You would have to have him charged. Otherwise the Police can be accused of harassment. I was advised this after I had to deal with a nasty on Facebook who copied my children into his torrent of abuse. I had him charged. |
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What's sad is this is the second thread in the last few days where an innocent lady just going about her normal routine has been creeped out and scared by a man acting very inappropriately.
Perhaps guy's will read this and understand that there's very real consequences to our actions and think with your head and not your cocks and respect people's personal space. |
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"Whilst he is clearly suffering from punch in the face syndrome IE that's what he needs.
But OP a certain amount of awareness and street smarts is required particularly for a lone female.
Being aware of your surroundings whilst it's an inconvenient truth it's gotta be done unfortunately.
I'm 50 odd year old man and when I was a teenage lad I got badly beaten and ended up in hospital for a week by a group of national front thug's in Southall
Since then and even to this day I always take note of my surroundings read the room/area and keep my eyes open for threat's.
You have to take control of your own security and safety unfortunately.
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I know this however it was daylight while this was going on taking a journey on a bus.
I'm not to know that someone would be looking over my shoulder while I use my phone
If ever I need to send bank card details to someone I take it very seriously and wouldn't do it on a bus or a busy public place
Fraudsters are everywhere waiting for a chance to see a person's bank card details and get their security number off of it |
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"What's sad is this is the second thread in the last few days where an innocent lady just going about her normal routine has been creeped out and scared by a man acting very inappropriately.
Perhaps guy's will read this and understand that there's very real consequences to our actions and think with your head and not your cocks and respect people's personal space. "
Tbf, most guys do not act in the ways described. |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal
I've lost my faith in police taking certain things seriously
I think the best way forward with this is to be aware that people can see your phone screen and either cover it or don't send compromising information unless you know you're completely private.
I hadn't even considered cctv until reading this thread. I will now. "
I will be getting a screen protector that's for sure xxx |
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" I suggest as (arguably childish) revenge, writing his number on wall of the toilets in your toughest local boozer
You’re my kind of guy because that’s exactly what I’d do  "
More effective in the gents toilets
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"What's sad is this is the second thread in the last few days where an innocent lady just going about her normal routine has been creeped out and scared by a man acting very inappropriately.
Perhaps guy's will read this and understand that there's very real consequences to our actions and think with your head and not your cocks and respect people's personal space. "
This is true, I was very shaken up could hardly talk when I called friends for a bit of comfort |
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"Whilst he is clearly suffering from punch in the face syndrome IE that's what he needs.
But OP a certain amount of awareness and street smarts is required particularly for a lone female.
Being aware of your surroundings whilst it's an inconvenient truth it's gotta be done unfortunately.
I'm 50 odd year old man and when I was a teenage lad I got badly beaten and ended up in hospital for a week by a group of national front thug's in Southall
Since then and even to this day I always take note of my surroundings read the room/area and keep my eyes open for threat's.
You have to take control of your own security and safety unfortunately.
I know this however it was daylight while this was going on taking a journey on a bus.
I'm not to know that someone would be looking over my shoulder while I use my phone
If ever I need to send bank card details to someone I take it very seriously and wouldn't do it on a bus or a busy public place
Fraudsters are everywhere waiting for a chance to see a person's bank card details and get their security number off of it "
I feel for you I genuinely do,I despair at how society is these days with no-one understanding privacy and boundaries.
My wife regularly goes to our local nudist beach alone (weather permitting)
And I have installed in her to be aware of who's around, leaving her phone unattended,if guy's are taking pics of her and mainly going back to the car making sure she's not being followed and try to walk back when there's a group of people going in the same direction.
Sadly it's those momentarily lapses in concentration that catches us out and the predators prey on this.
Hopefully you can get over this op without too much more distress.x |
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"Whilst he is clearly suffering from punch in the face syndrome IE that's what he needs.
But OP a certain amount of awareness and street smarts is required particularly for a lone female.
Being aware of your surroundings whilst it's an inconvenient truth it's gotta be done unfortunately.
I'm 50 odd year old man and when I was a teenage lad I got badly beaten and ended up in hospital for a week by a group of national front thug's in Southall
Since then and even to this day I always take note of my surroundings read the room/area and keep my eyes open for threat's.
You have to take control of your own security and safety unfortunately.
I know this however it was daylight while this was going on taking a journey on a bus.
I'm not to know that someone would be looking over my shoulder while I use my phone
If ever I need to send bank card details to someone I take it very seriously and wouldn't do it on a bus or a busy public place
Fraudsters are everywhere waiting for a chance to see a person's bank card details and get their security number off of it
I feel for you I genuinely do,I despair at how society is these days with no-one understanding privacy and boundaries.
My wife regularly goes to our local nudist beach alone (weather permitting)
And I have installed in her to be aware of who's around, leaving her phone unattended,if guy's are taking pics of her and mainly going back to the car making sure she's not being followed and try to walk back when there's a group of people going in the same direction.
Sadly it's those momentarily lapses in concentration that catches us out and the predators prey on this.
Hopefully you can get over this op without too much more distress.x"
Thank you, I been through enough to have had to bounce back fast.
I'll be ok thank you once again |
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" I suggest as (arguably childish) revenge, writing his number on wall of the toilets in your toughest local boozer
You’re my kind of guy because that’s exactly what I’d do
More effective in the gents toilets
I'm sure some of us on this site could make his phone more interesting for him too"
P!ease don't think of doing something like this. It just makes you as bad as him and you have no way of knowing that you wouldn't be the one targeting an innocent victim. |
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"Just imagine what other information he could have gotten, such as your address if you were buying something online when in a public area."
Luckily I don't do online shopping but it just goes to show.
Privacy today is hanging by a thread |
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"I'm sorry for this invasion of your privacy the guy was totally out of order for his actions and possibly illegal I hope your safe and have managed be abit calmer I can't imagine how you must of felt
Thank you I'm safe at home. I have calmed down quite bit and yes it's probably illegal what he did but there's a lot the police doesn't take serious enough sadly
Unfortunately I had an experience years ago where I had to report someone to the police, I was told by the officer I delt with that it only needs to be one message or call to be classed as harassment "
The offence of harassment requires 'a course of conduct' ie two things.
Nevertheless OP, this behaviour crosses the line and I would report it to the police, because even if they don't do anything in this case it adds to the intelligence picture they have on the individual and may be important if they have other reports.
You have a piece of information that may help someone else.
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so sorry that you have had to experience this. Its creepy and weird and can bring up a host of past unwanted experiences related to loss of power, feeling unsafe and a personal/private space invaded.
I hope you are feeling a lot safer after sharing this here and with friends and feeling the support of many men who would not dream of this disgusting behaviour.
But if you are still feeling the effect then some resources would be to write it all down ( feelings especially) draw/ paint, scream, shout into a pillow, and hit pillows to release any unresolved feelings.
Also, be gentle with yourself and give yourself some me-time and treats. All the best, Jay |
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" a VERY creepy thing to do. Just an appalling way to behave. Glad you're ok, OP. 
thank you I was spooked it was like the unthinkable happened. Quite disturbing "
It is very disturbing to think that someone is watching you thinking that it's ok to steal your number! What a psycho x |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone
I would report this to the police! This behaviour is proper stalker-ish. I worry that this guy, given the right response to his behaviour could be a danger to women... it is definitely worthwhile putting him into "the system". The police might even have a chat with him.
Cal
I've lost my faith in police taking certain things seriously "
It doesn't necessarily matter if they take it seriously at this point, it's more important that it's recorded and the chap in question is recorded. Often reports like this are really important in creating a profile of an offender if his behaviour was to get progressively worse. Also if he was to be prosecuted for some future transgression of a similar nature, the outcome is different for someone "with a history of" than "it's a one off, moment of madness"
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I think the kid's seen her around and tried it on. It's a rights thing, they need more respect for women.
I nearly said this yesterday, I was sitting outside a cafe yesterday in the sun and I thought I'd go on the forum. When I went back in the cafe I noticed that the whole long seating bar against the window (fairly high with tall chairs) had an absolutely perfect view of all the phone users on certain seats, including mine! Like right on top of them. I'm normally quite careful (even of cctv!) but the heat got to my head I think! It was a very clear day too.
I think we've all noticed that its quite easy to take pictures with phones while looking like you are using them - phone handling is a huge issue. I've read about people video-recording hand actions at pin machines as another example.
Protect your space I guess.
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"He was way out of order. Absolutely disgraceful behaviour"
It is, but look how easy it was to get her number.
I am not in anyway blaming the person, but we are all guilty of not thinking about, who could be looking at anything we put on the screen. |
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"Today I was on the bus sitting infront of a guy who was looking at my phone.
He took my number down when I gave it to a friend on my snap chat
It's only when he contacted me on whats app tried to fool me that I called him and then it changed to he just found my number, he eventually admitted he was sat behind me on the bus and saw me send my number
Lack of courage really making certain guys do some weird creepy things. I was short of breath explaining to my friend why I was upset earlier
Even cancelled plans of going out tonight it was very disturbing. Going forward I will be putting those privacy screen protectors on my phone "
Complain to the bus company, they can find the creep. Buses have video recording |
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"I don#t think it's strictly illegal unless you told him not to look. It will likely depend what they do with the number after recoding it. It does show you have to be careful for sure. pt
Very cautious and I plan to get a screen protector helps keep the phone private when its on display in public "
That’s really terrible and I’m sorry you had such an awful experience. Just thought I’d mention the privacy screen won’t hide anything from someone directly behind you (I always have a privacy screen on my phone), but if you tilt it to the side you should have a decent level of privacy |
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"Some people need a hard dose of 'no' in the form of a baseball bat.
Christ...that's not cool thsts jot on that's STALKING. There is no excuse for people to be this gross and creepy.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's getting harder out there for girls when people like this...
Take care and sign that number up to as many spam numbers as you can. Give his number to a random guy and see how he likes it.
I'm so mad."
Baseball bat is not the answer for anything especially this. It’s horrible and I feel for OP. But it’s not just men. I’ve had far worse from ladies on two occasions - one from here. Some absolute terrible people out there and it can be hard for men too. |
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"Some people need a hard dose of 'no' in the form of a baseball bat.
Christ...that's not cool thsts jot on that's STALKING. There is no excuse for people to be this gross and creepy.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's getting harder out there for girls when people like this...
Take care and sign that number up to as many spam numbers as you can. Give his number to a random guy and see how he likes it.
I'm so mad.
Baseball bat is not the answer for anything especially this. It’s horrible and I feel for OP. But it’s not just men. I’ve had far worse from ladies on two occasions - one from here. Some absolute terrible people out there and it can be hard for men too. "
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