Is it off putting to ladies when someone doesn't cum? I know it depends what mood I'm in but sometimes I can go for ages without Cumming and I wounder if that's enjoyable, after all surly someone can go too long and it becomes uncomfortable. |
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"I like seeing the people I'm with enjoying themselves. If they don't get to cum I feel uncomfortable."
Oh don't get me wrong I really enjoy myself during, just cause I don't always cum doesn't mean I won't eventually. In a good way it can prolong the evening. |
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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago
Headington, Oxford |
It is quite frustrating when a guy doesn’t cum. While I want more than a 30 second ride, I also don’t want an hour of tiresome effort.
Of course I have seen first time nerves and that is to be understood, but especially now I’m older, I don’t want an endurance competition. I’d much rather half an hour of pleasure than an hour of hard work. |
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"It is quite frustrating when a guy doesn’t cum. While I want more than a 30 second ride, I also don’t want an hour of tiresome effort.
Of course I have seen first time nerves and that is to be understood, but especially now I’m older, I don’t want an endurance competition. I’d much rather half an hour of pleasure than an hour of hard work."
So to you a guy not Cumming means he hasn't enjoyed himself, or is that that you want his cum on/in you? |
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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago
Chipping Norton |
Frustration, excitement, enjoyment, hot desire - they're all infectious. Everyone wants to feel their partner is enjoying themselves, and everyone wants to feel enjoyed by one's partner. Nothing's perfect but it's a shame when an experience is a slog. |
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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago
Headington, Oxford |
Sex is only part of the pleasure for me, and a long session of pounding while a guy desperately tries to cum is not much fun. But I suppose also it just spoils the mood a bit.
But to be honest I’d rather a guy make me cum a couple of times even if he doesn’t, rather than the all too common alternative where I am left to give myself one as he has cum and that’s it all over. |
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"Sex is only part of the pleasure for me, and a long session of pounding while a guy desperately tries to cum is not much fun. But I suppose also it just spoils the mood a bit.
But to be honest I’d rather a guy make me cum a couple of times even if he doesn’t, rather than the all too common alternative where I am left to give myself one as he has cum and that’s it all over."
I'm not trying desperately to cum tho, I'm not bothered if I do or u don't I just wondered if women felt the same
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"I don’t always cum visibly Sometimes it’s just dry. As a trans woman pumped fill of estrogen my cum shots are 50/50 if they visible or not with fluid "
I'm not in quite the same situation as your mighty fine self.. But yes sometimes I orgasm but as you out it it's dry. |
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Antidepressants ewwww hated it when I was on them so frustrating one session was 4 hours straight and no matter what we tried he was having non of it.
Hard as a rock but non compliant.
As a guy I can't imagine not ejaculating when having sexy time.
Jools on the other hand has never been able to orgasm via penetration and believe me it's not through lack of trying on my part her part and many male partners.
It's clitoral only to this end she doesn't always have an orgasm but still enjoys sex.
She has recently come off antidepressants for the same reason it was turning into a marathon experience trying to get her to cum.
Now she has full sensation back it's multiple orgasm city baby.  |
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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago
Headington, Oxford |
Thinking about it a bit more, it tends to become the elephant in the room. Trying not to make him feel embarrassed about it by not mentioning it, but he typically gets more and more frustrated and embarrassed by not being able to perform as expected.
It tends to follow a cycle of determination to get there and it just makes the mood uneasy. |
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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago
Headington, Oxford |
I think you will find it quite common that women don’t cum through penetration. I don’t, the only way I can do it is if I tense my legs and the guy gets the right technique of pressing his pelvis against my clit while he is inside me. |
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I think it's common in group play and at clubs.
Guy's hold back so they can be ready for further assistance to other playmate's if required without having to go through the whole " resuscitation" of the little chap getting him back to action stations having already put out one fire elsewhere  |
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"I think it's common in group play and at clubs.
Guy's hold back so they can be ready for further assistance to other playmate's if required without having to go through the whole " resuscitation" of the little chap getting him back to action stations having already put out one fire elsewhere "
I don't hold back, I know the situation I'm in can make a difference sometimes. I was being to think it might be my age effecting me. |
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"In my experience, women like to experience stories with a beginning, middle and end. Regardless of whether I want to keep going because I'm enjoying it so much  "
And herein lies the issue, that so much hetero sex ends/is meant to end with this ejaculation (no wonder it's called the money shot in porn). I've heard of men faking their orgasm so that they could finish fucking without it being "awkward"!
I've never been on a one-on-one especially when the man didn't come, if anything they come more then once. But my partner ejacs maybe once a year. I will say it bothered me at first, it bothers him, now we stop when we have had enough and I don't ever try to make him come cos the fixation is the frustrating bit. As a result I enjoy esp. a mouthful during a casual meet, but not too fussed if there'll be ejaculate, as long as everyone's happy and getting some pleasure |
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"In my experience, women like to experience stories with a beginning, middle and end. Regardless of whether I want to keep going because I'm enjoying it so much
And herein lies the issue, that so much hetero sex ends/is meant to end with this ejaculation (no wonder it's called the money shot in porn). I've heard of men faking their orgasm so that they could finish fucking without it being "awkward"!
I've never been on a one-on-one especially when the man didn't come, if anything they come more then once. But my partner ejacs maybe once a year. I will say it bothered me at first, it bothers him, now we stop when we have had enough and I don't ever try to make him come cos the fixation is the frustrating bit. As a result I enjoy esp. a mouthful during a casual meet, but not too fussed if there'll be ejaculate, as long as everyone's happy and getting some pleasure "
Tbh I have faked cumming a few times when a woman goes on and on about it. I just flex pulsate my dick for half a minute and say it’s cum. Whip off the rubber snd in bin it goes before they notice it  |
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"In my experience, women like to experience stories with a beginning, middle and end. Regardless of whether I want to keep going because I'm enjoying it so much
And herein lies the issue, that so much hetero sex ends/is meant to end with this ejaculation (no wonder it's called the money shot in porn). I've heard of men faking their orgasm so that they could finish fucking without it being "awkward"!
I've never been on a one-on-one especially when the man didn't come, if anything they come more then once. But my partner ejacs maybe once a year. I will say it bothered me at first, it bothers him, now we stop when we have had enough and I don't ever try to make him come cos the fixation is the frustrating bit. As a result I enjoy esp. a mouthful during a casual meet, but not too fussed if there'll be ejaculate, as long as everyone's happy and getting some pleasure
Tbh I have faked cumming a few times when a woman goes on and on about it. I just flex pulsate my dick for half a minute and say it’s cum. Whip off the rubber snd in bin it goes before they notice it "
I like your style. |
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I guess it depends on the individual.
I like to make a guy cum either during oral or whilst fucking. Sometimes it just doesn't happen wether that be the guy or the gal.
I'd rather it be the exception than the norm. I enjoy oral and swallowing too much so having a guy that hardly/never cums would be a disaster for me personally. |
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"I guess it depends on the individual.
I like to make a guy cum either during oral or whilst fucking. Sometimes it just doesn't happen wether that be the guy or the gal.
I'd rather it be the exception than the norm. I enjoy oral and swallowing too much so having a guy that hardly/never cums would be a disaster for me personally."
Never had anyone make me cum from just oral alone. |
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over a year ago
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In the best possible sense, it doesnt bother me either way, so long as both are enjoying and having a good time what does it matter? Pressuring a man to cum is along the same lines as the 'I'll make you squirt' brigade or those who promise to make you cum with their oral skill. I dont focus on more than what's happening in the moment |
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I've found this thread very interesting. All my adult life I've had difficulty in cumming with a partner, this has in turns been advantageous and frustrating, particularly as a teenager and again now in my Fab life.
Quite a few partners seem to take it personally if you cannot cum, despite enjoying the various acts enormously, others have subconsciously put pressure on me to 'deliver' saying how much they want my cum.
I always explain to potential partners upfront to avoid disappointment or awkwardness.
QG x |
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I occasionally don't come during sex. Even though I am thoroughly enjoying it and am still fully erect sometimes it just won't happen. On these occasions I just lie with my partner/partners and masturbate until I've come. No-one's ever objected to me doing it, they've all been perfectly happy for me to finish this way. As long as my partners are satisfied, I am too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they have explained that to me before hand so I know its not me it's fine. It's all about communication. "
I had a partner who I had absolutely amazing sex with but he could go for ages and ages and not always cum. The first few times I worried it’s me not doing something right, not turning him on enough.
But once I learned that’s just how his body works and he was happy all was good.
So all I’d say is reassure the lady it’s not her fault |
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It can happen to us all. Important thing is to talk about it with your partners. If they don’t respect you then I would not meet them again. Will get some who say they can cum again and again and never fail. You believe them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the best possible sense, it doesnt bother me either way, so long as both are enjoying and having a good time what does it matter? Pressuring a man to cum is along the same lines as the 'I'll make you squirt' brigade or those who promise to make you cum with their oral skill. I dont focus on more than what's happening in the moment "
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If I knew beforehand, it would be fine but it may be disconcerting if I'd not known. It may indicate that a guy isn't enjoying himself, isn't into me so much, etc. The overall experience is what's important, though I'd like some reassurance. |
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