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Is it shallow to have a preference?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? |
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No I don't think it is shallow as we all have our preference. A lot of us won't just jump into bed with anyone it has to feel right and for me that is just as much about personally as looks but I still need to find them attractive |
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Hell no it's not shallow. You gotta put your needs first and foremost. No one else will lol
It just counts a lot of folks out which seems like a shame to me. You could stumble into someone amazing by being more open minded. But if you're happy and satisfied, fuck what anyone else thinks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean of course it isn't
I prefer men taller than me and slim(not gym fit)
That's ALWAYS been my preference, and I'm not going to suddenly start sleeping with people I don't find attractive cause I'm worried about people calling me shallow
But there will always be men who don't fit that preference who will come on here and call women shallow/picky etc, although it seems very ok for them to have preferences  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? "
In what way is it shallow?
You like what you like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hell no it's not shallow. You gotta put your needs first and foremost. No one else will lol
It just counts a lot of folks out which seems like a shame to me. You could stumble into someone amazing by being more open minded. But if you're happy and satisfied, fuck what anyone else thinks.
Scott x"
Do your own preferences not also count alot of people out? |
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I think you can get caught up in a “type” and depending on what you are looking for from the site, you may miss out. It’s cool to have preferences, we all do, but some of my most memorable fab times have come from moving outside of the boundaries I’ve built. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? "
Of course it's ok, it's just human nature of we're all honest. People are too hung up about "preferences", we use this site to play out our fantasies, so the person we seek must fit into our preferences for it to work. Just my opinion x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean of course it isn't
I prefer men taller than me and slim(not gym fit)
That's ALWAYS been my preference, and I'm not going to suddenly start sleeping with people I don't find attractive cause I'm worried about people calling me shallow
But there will always be men who don't fit that preference who will come on here and call women shallow/picky etc, although it seems very ok for them to have preferences "
Yeah but they're just sad because they can't get their dick wet. Name calling doesn't make me want to fuck them.  |
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"Hell no it's not shallow. You gotta put your needs first and foremost. No one else will lol
It just counts a lot of folks out which seems like a shame to me. You could stumble into someone amazing by being more open minded. But if you're happy and satisfied, fuck what anyone else thinks.
Scott x
Do your own preferences not also count alot of people out? "
Cuts every man out like.. lol
The op sounded very specific in her preferences. I said it might be cool to be a bit more open minded.. But that she shouldn't give a fuck what anyone thinks. There isn't anymore to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends:
Do I meet their criteria? It’s *fine* to have preferences
Do I not meet their criteria? The stupid, ugly, shallow slags
That’s the way I see it, anyway  |
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"I mean of course it isn't
I prefer men taller than me and slim(not gym fit)
That's ALWAYS been my preference, and I'm not going to suddenly start sleeping with people I don't find attractive cause I'm worried about people calling me shallow
But there will always be men who don't fit that preference who will come on here and call women shallow/picky etc, although it seems very ok for them to have preferences
Yeah but they're just sad because they can't get their dick wet. Name calling doesn't make me want to fuck them. "
Well if they revert to name calling they are not the person you would want to meet anyway. How can people not be polite it's not hard.some seem to be on here to avoid paying for it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hell no it's not shallow. You gotta put your needs first and foremost. No one else will lol
It just counts a lot of folks out which seems like a shame to me. You could stumble into someone amazing by being more open minded. But if you're happy and satisfied, fuck what anyone else thinks.
Scott x
Do your own preferences not also count alot of people out?
Cuts every man out like.. lol
The op sounded very specific in her preferences. I said it might be cool to be a bit more open minded.. But that she shouldn't give a fuck what anyone thinks. There isn't anymore to it "
I'm not offended.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends:
Do I meet their criteria? It’s *fine* to have preferences
Do I not meet their criteria? The stupid, ugly, shallow slags
That’s the way I see it, anyway "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hell no it's not shallow. You gotta put your needs first and foremost. No one else will lol
It just counts a lot of folks out which seems like a shame to me. You could stumble into someone amazing by being more open minded. But if you're happy and satisfied, fuck what anyone else thinks.
Scott x
Do your own preferences not also count alot of people out?
Cuts every man out like.. lol
The op sounded very specific in her preferences. I said it might be cool to be a bit more open minded.. But that she shouldn't give a fuck what anyone thinks. There isn't anymore to it "
So you age preference is OK but OP should be more "open minded" OK |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? "
It’s not shallow at all we like what we like & you can’t be pressured to fuck someone you don’t find attractive  .
I deffo have a preference both on physical appearance & esp personality & won’t compromise on it  cause I know my worth |
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Shallow people are people who are concerned ONLY about looks and nothing else. Having preferences means you care about looks. As long as you also care about other characteristics of a person, you are not shallow. |
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If shallow means on the surface then yes any pretence based solely on looks could be defined as shallow. But it's key meaningless. If that's so you want to fuck then that's who you will pick. For me personality and someone easy to talk to are more important but you could consider those shallow too. They are just words at the end of the day. |
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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago
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A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option. |
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option."
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?"
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As humans we all have something that initially piques our interest in someone else. Many times, it’s something visual.
For me, I can’t be into someone based wholly on their physical appearance. That may initially intrigue me, but I need more beyond good looks to take interest.
I look at preferences as the things that make me sort out whether someone is for me or not. I can still find someone attractive and not want to share my body with them. Equally, I recognise I cannot be everyone’s cup of tea either. Shallow would be to deem everyone suitable. If you have no rubric, by which to sort out others, then your connections are likely shallow or at least hollow as you’d likely only be seeking to selfishly fulfil your need without any thoughts to how you connect with anyone else or share mutually in pleasure . Very much a hole is there to fill mentality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a shallow site that's mainly about physical attraction, it has to be said.
But shallow means lack of depth - that you've given no thought to your own preferences. But of course you will have. Therefore = not shallow.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!"
Said with experience  |
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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!"
I don't mind a bellend |
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans? "
Why do you want to know, Sally?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally? "
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend "
With some crackers? |
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend
With some crackers? "
The cheese is probably provided |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend
With some crackers? "
Stuffed with minced beef and rice |
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I don't think it's shallow you like what you like, many blokes may call or shallow and do because they don't match your preferences, but when any holes a hole to many I don't give a shit what they think.
Keep going for what you like your preferences are valid.
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question "
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend
With some crackers?
The cheese is probably provided"
Underrated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby. "
Speaking of cheese... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend
With some crackers?
Stuffed with minced beef and rice "
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese... "
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite  |
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite "
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though |
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend
With some crackers?
The cheese is probably provided
Underrated "
Even Caerphilly? The moon is made out of that you know! |
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though "
Really? Surely I would have remembered. I'm such a slut... deep though. Deep slut ooh that's a good username. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has a preference...mine is a preference for people who aren't knobheads
Shit. That's me out then.
That's half of the men in my inbox.
And 90% of the remaining half are bellends too!
I don't mind a bellend
With some crackers?
The cheese is probably provided
Underrated
Even Caerphilly? The moon is made out of that you know!"
I didn't know. More suitable for Hans' arse, I would have thought? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though
Really? Surely I would have remembered. I'm such a slut... deep though. Deep slut ooh that's a good username."
I was thinking of changing mine. Thanks for the suggestion! |
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though
Really? Surely I would have remembered. I'm such a slut... deep though. Deep slut ooh that's a good username.
I was thinking of changing mine. Thanks for the suggestion! "
Hey that's mine get your mitts off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though
Really? Surely I would have remembered. I'm such a slut... deep though. Deep slut ooh that's a good username.
I was thinking of changing mine. Thanks for the suggestion!
Hey that's mine get your mitts off!"
FINE. I will be "deeperslut" |
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though
Really? Surely I would have remembered. I'm such a slut... deep though. Deep slut ooh that's a good username.
I was thinking of changing mine. Thanks for the suggestion!
Hey that's mine get your mitts off!
FINE. I will be "deeperslut" "
You always have to go one better don't you... actually that kind of works.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not shallow to like only certain things especially aesthetically speaking.
You might be missing out if your "wants" narrow the audience too much but not really shallow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s shallow at all- you can’t be attracted to every single person.
I think it only becomes shallow when you start to say that other types of people are unattractive because they don’t fit your type |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? "
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"A left wing politician in the C20 had a great love of wine; some of his colleagues attacked him for it, saying that a true socialist shouldn't care what he drank. "Should I also be indifferent to who I sleep with at the end of day?" he replied.
Having tastes isn't shallow, it's taking an interest in the world. Having no tastes - not caring in the slightest what sort of person you sleep with - would be the shallow option.
But how do you know what your taste is if you don't try it all?
Are you applying this to sex, Hans?
Why do you want to know, Sally?
Just because she does, what’s wrong with that can’t anyone ask a question
Anyone can, ask away let's pop some pringles baby.
Speaking of cheese...
I'm smearing the boursin all over my butt right now. No socialist, dairy lea here only the best...
Go on try it, take a bite
Oh, I've tried that already. Ta, though
Really? Surely I would have remembered. I'm such a slut... deep though. Deep slut ooh that's a good username.
I was thinking of changing mine. Thanks for the suggestion!
Hey that's mine get your mitts off!
FINE. I will be "deeperslut"
You always have to go one better don't you... actually that kind of works. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If shallow means on the surface then yes any pretence based solely on looks could be defined as shallow. But it's key meaningless. If that's so you want to fuck then that's who you will pick. For me personality and someone easy to talk to are more important but you could consider those shallow too. They are just words at the end of the day. "
Fair point, why are words considered 'better' than visual attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As humans we all have something that initially piques our interest in someone else. Many times, it’s something visual.
For me, I can’t be into someone based wholly on their physical appearance. That may initially intrigue me, but I need more beyond good looks to take interest.
I look at preferences as the things that make me sort out whether someone is for me or not.
*** I can still find someone attractive and not want to share my body with them.***
Equally, I recognise I cannot be everyone’s cup of tea either. Shallow would be to deem everyone suitable. If you have no rubric, by which to sort out others, then your connections are likely shallow or at least hollow as you’d likely only be seeking to selfishly fulfil your need without any thoughts to how you connect with anyone else or share mutually in pleasure . Very much a hole is there to fill mentality. "
*** Some people find this concept difficult to understand.
Even the any hole people have something in common. The shared lust for another person's body. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think it's shallow you like what you like, many blokes may call or shallow and do because they don't match your preferences, but when any holes a hole to many I don't give a shit what they think.
Keep going for what you like your preferences are valid.
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"I don’t think it’s shallow at all- you can’t be attracted to every single person.
I think it only becomes shallow when you start to say that other types of people are unattractive because they don’t fit your type "
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"I think you can get caught up in a “type” and depending on what you are looking for from the site, you may miss out. It’s cool to have preferences, we all do, but some of my most memorable fab times have come from moving outside of the boundaries I’ve built. "
Took the words right out of my mouth. |
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By *iss69Man
over a year ago
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How is it shallow, we all have preferences, you can’t be expected to sleep with someone you don’t have any attraction to. I know I personally wouldn’t be able to do that, I have a few close female friends that I get on with really well but doesn’t mean I would want to sleep with them. |
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Preferences aren't always shallow.
Shallow to me is when someone gets off on attention alone.
The more people they can get to climb on that rickety old bandwagon the more shallow they become.
If that's their preference then yes that's when preference is shallow. |
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? "
I don't actually know what would be defined as shallow, however the real question is, is it wrong to be shallow when it comes to sex?
I've said this on other threads, because I firmly believe this, if you feel any judgement or pressure about your sexual preferences which influences your decision who to fuck, then a significant part of consent has been taken away from you.
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck?
I don't actually know what would be defined as shallow, however the real question is, is it wrong to be shallow when it comes to sex?
I've said this on other threads, because I firmly believe this, if you feel any judgement or pressure about your sexual preferences which influences your decision who to fuck, then a significant part of consent has been taken away from you.
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By *iss69Man
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck?
I don't actually know what would be defined as shallow, however the real question is, is it wrong to be shallow when it comes to sex?
I've said this on other threads, because I firmly believe this, if you feel any judgement or pressure about your sexual preferences which influences your decision who to fuck, then a significant part of consent has been taken away from you.
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Sorry Miss Outsider.
I don't believe it is shallow at all. Although I do believe that forming a strong image of a type can blinker us.
My wife of 18 years, whom I loved deeply, was completely different to anyone I'd ever met. There's no way I would have considered her my type before we met. Or indeed my gf before her.
I have a type in the sense that sometimes there's something special there between us, where everything else feels like detail. Nothing is complex when we are together.
If I knew what the formula was for that I wouldn't be here at all. I suspect it has little to do with appearance though. |
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"I only like certain types of people. Body type, height, age, face.
I won't meet people that aren't in that type. Is that shallow?
What does shallow mean when finding someone to fuck? "
No Everyone has preferences in life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The pond might look deep, but if we keep to the edges we will feel safe. The bigger fish need more space and if you dive to the depths you might get entangled and drown. So long as paddling in the shallows is fun just enjoy your place in the sun. |
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