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Similar to another post about attraction and definitely needs to be 2-way. I think it was an offshoot of the keys in a bowl thread - supposedly the old way swingers parties worked… sounds like a nightmare!!  if theres no attraction on any level then i don’t see how it can be enjoyable. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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This is one of the many (many!) reasons I’ve stopped meeting. Because whatever way you look at it, because your eyes aren’t locking across a crowded room, how can you be sure that the attraction is genuine and they’re not just saying what they think you want to hear?
I like an attraction. But I like it to be a genuine attraction of someone liking me and wanting me for me, not just because I have boobs and a free day on Fridays.
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"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?
Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering.
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Mutual attraction? Yes of course! Why would you embark on it otherwise?
I do worry sometimes that meets can be made out of pressure or a sense of responsibility and things like that. For God's sake people, if you ever really don't want to meet, don't meet, I say. Yes I suppose you might enjoy it, but do you really want to leave it just to luck? Each to their own I guess though.
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"Not for the sapiosexuals.
No one meets their standards, but some like to do their bit for charity.
Blimey! What makes you say that?"
I was still caught up laughing from the other thread. The one over there. ***Points in random direction*** |
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"This is one of the many (many!) reasons I’ve stopped meeting. Because whatever way you look at it, because your eyes aren’t locking across a crowded room, how can you be sure that the attraction is genuine and they’re not just saying what they think you want to hear?
I like an attraction. But I like it to be a genuine attraction of someone liking me and wanting me for me, not just because I have boobs and a free day on Fridays.
This is massively depressing but sadly probably too often true.. Surely must be mutual. Also I’d say you have to trust sometimes that’s it genuine. Talking beforehand and messaging helps filter out the loons and liars. Got to have the spark though so if ain’t there on phone or in person, that’ll be a no . Good luck. H
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"This is one of the many (many!) reasons I’ve stopped meeting. Because whatever way you look at it, because your eyes aren’t locking across a crowded room, how can you be sure that the attraction is genuine and they’re not just saying what they think you want to hear?
I like an attraction. But I like it to be a genuine attraction of someone liking me and wanting me for me, not just because I have boobs and a free day on Fridays.
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The key thing here is what we 'VALUE' Yes mutual attraction is how it should be. However the harsh reality is the dynamics between men and women will never change. Sites/communities like these only exacerbate gender disparities. Its a sex site, men and women value diferent things that lead to intimacy. Most men see beauty and a womans assets for sex as the main value a(nd the end goal). Most women need to see value in more attributes in a man before getting intimate with them.
So naturally women are more selective than men in an already imbalanced pool. The pool wbich the number men greatly exceed women because of what the site stands for, being polygamous. More men are open to do tbat than most women.
As a result, it become a game of most women get what they want and most men get what they can.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mutual
Consented
Connection
Fancy because I am not going to fancy someone who does not meet the above.
Someone who I feel comfortable around.
We bounce off each other in conversation
Attraction to me is all the above along with pure honesty and respect. Op
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"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive "
I agree. I don't think a woman enjoying a gang bang necessarily finds all the men attractive. What about blindfold meets, dark rooms and glory holes? |
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"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive
I agree. I don't think a woman enjoying a gang bang necessarily finds all the men attractive. What about blindfold meets, dark rooms and glory holes?
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I think circumstances and kinks can become the mutual attractions. Hopefully they are equitable attractions though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think people can still have successful 'meets' (if you mean enjoy the sex) if they find the circumstances of it attractive
I agree. I don't think a woman enjoying a gang bang necessarily finds all the men attractive. What about blindfold meets, dark rooms and glory holes?"
Exactly this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it necessary for successful meets on fab?
Feels like a silly question but the theme of messages i’ve had today has me wondering. "
I think it differs from person to person. For me, connection and chemistry is key. If I don’t fancy you physically or feel like we could sit in a bar chatting I won’t meet.
But for some people it’s just sex! There is definitely people on here who get off on anonymous sex, or who just wants the physical deed and could do it with anyone without needing any kind of connection.
And btw that’s ok - let’s not judge people, everyone has their own kink and own reason for being here! You’ll find someone who likes the same on here im sure! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course it is. Unless someone is willing to meet up without a face picture and you keep their eyes close the whole time. …
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*woody hopes for an answer on this one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it bizarre the people who can just shag without an attraction. I need a little spice to light that initial fire.. whether it continues to burn or not is a different story. |
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"For me yes
For many No. "Any hole is a goal" is their mantra
Worst is when they do the deed and ghost you, cos you never know why...."
That's usually because they've had the hole and move on to the next conquest/notch on the bedpost! |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"For me yes
For many No. "Any hole is a goal" is their mantra
Worst is when they do the deed and ghost you, cos you never know why....
That's usually because they've had the hole and move on to the next conquest/notch on the bedpost!"
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