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So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
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I don't blame you.
Some of the cretins that slime up my inbox before I block them are enough to make me consider it.
But I like that people I wouldn't have seen otherwise reach out because they think we could actually be compatible. Or people I've met at the clubs whose profile name I've failed to remember can message me.
And most days I can laugh at the cretins before hitting that block button. |
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People are dicks. Lots of jealousy here, and entitlement. There are good people to find. But it’s becoming increasingly apparent that the good ones are meeting in person at clubs and socials
Fab is just entertainment now. |
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I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour."
You don’t have to. And shouldn’t. |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour."
Why you apologising if you’re not one? |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
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oh well thanks for letting us know  |
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I've been on this site forever and yes, way too many dick pics . However I've met some gorgeous and utterly lovely men , most of whom are still friends. If you block all males ,unless you're looking specifically for females and or couples,you will miss out on the possible good meets. Luckily I experience very little rudeness , apart from occasional comments on my preference but I don't take any of that to heart. It's is hard work at times OP but worth it in the end x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided I'm going to do the hunting.
I'll only message super hot men I think will give me a good time, even if they're miles away.
I live in hope  "
I keep refreshing my phone inbox, Nanna.
Still nothing ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've tried various methods of reducing the number of rude and disrespectful messages. However, since headlining my profile with "Not chatting or meeting, just hanging out in the Forums" ... I'm pleased to say that 99% of the males who view my profile respect my wishes. It means I can, if I choose to, peruse their profiles and message them. And, I've had some lovely chats with really lovely guys. The 1% of f**kwits who still send unsolicited messages simply get blocked. Life on here is so much easier now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
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Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks"
Why are you apologising? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising? "
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I've decided I'm going to do the hunting.
I'll only message super hot men I think will give me a good time, even if they're miles away.
I live in hope
I keep refreshing my phone inbox, Nanna.
Still nothing .. "
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
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Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there"
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
You don’t have to. And shouldn’t. "
I know I shouldn't have to but unfortunately the gentleman is lost on a lot of people in today's society, there's no need to be mean and insult someone you don't know and have never met. So I do say sorry for them if if they don't deserve it. Single men have it hard enough on here and in life in general. We don't need others making it harder. |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one?"
Cause someone has to. |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
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Do what you need to do to make fab an enjoyable place to spend time. As for the death threat - bring the police in - lets see if nobby the keyboard warrior likes having their arse dragged away in handcuffs….and not for a fun reason x |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not"
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else |
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over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else "
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over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there"
while I feel sorry for the OP and her experience, and understand her actions, nobody needs to apologise on my behalf. I’ll take accountability for my OWN actions, and those I’m directly responsible for.
And I’ve not sent the OP any abuse tbf |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else "
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
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Dude, it's by far not just men, single men just have the numbers that's all. Stop virtue signalling so much seriously. Unless you are sending death threats or shit like that, you don't need to apologise for others. |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to. "
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "
Whaaaaaat?!? That’s one of the most ridiculous things I ever did read! |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "
Why should i feel embarassed at that? Whats it got to do with me?
Should other women also feel embarassed that this women got that message? |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to. "
This is one I disagree with.
The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.
Anything else is pointless lip service  |
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over a year ago
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"
Interesting that the geography of the two men suggesting we shouldn't be embarrassed as a gender for the behaviour mentioned and apologise for it is so similar.. my time and thoughts here are concluded.. no virtue signalling. I dont need to. |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Interesting that the geography of the two men suggesting we shouldn't be embarrassed as a gender for the behaviour mentioned and apologise for it is so similar.. my time and thoughts here are concluded.. no virtue signalling. I dont need to. "
Youre really not coming off very well in this thread.
First virtue signalling, now youre venturing into xenopbobia.
What a charmer |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"
I'm not saying they are.... I'm saying NO ONE deserves to get abuse from random people..... Male or female it doesn't matter 1 little bit to me. I just hate people that believe it's ok to hide behind a keyboard and others! |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Interesting that the geography of the two men suggesting we shouldn't be embarrassed as a gender for the behaviour mentioned and apologise for it is so similar.. my time and thoughts here are concluded.. no virtue signalling. I dont need to. "
Nah, I'm about 20 miles from you and think that was complete bollocks. If I haven't done anything wrong, I sure as shit don't need you apologisimg for me. Quit the virtue signalling and just accept that you don't speak on behalf of all men |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
This is one I disagree with.
The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.
Anything else is pointless lip service "
Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone. |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks"
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I appreciate the sentiment of both sides that seem to develop on this thread. One side wanting to apologise for all men because of some mens behaviour and the others saying don’t apologise on my behalf because I don’t associate myself in any way with that behaviour which in my opinion isnt actually a gender issue at all. Its a behaviour issue that is not gender specific - its specific to twats and twatty behaviour. Twats are gender neutral. Thats my 2p worth |
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over a year ago
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The OP got abuse and undeserved shite
It gave someone the chance to White Knight
It was crazy to see
Him apologise for me
When my behaviours been whiter than white!
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over a year ago
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By the way, sorry to hear about the abuse OP, no one deserves that on a site that's just meant to be a little bit of fun but unfortunately some take it too far 
Good luck with your own search and hopefully you can find a few decent guys that suit your needs |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men"
Ahem. I'm a delicate flower |
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What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that |
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that"
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Interesting that the geography of the two men suggesting we shouldn't be embarrassed as a gender for the behaviour mentioned and apologise for it is so similar.. my time and thoughts here are concluded.. no virtue signalling. I dont need to. "
Sorry apologising on behalf of the people who sent abuse to OP is a little strange in this context
As well as apologising on behalf of your whole gender, it's not the whole gender who act like this, we all know that |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
This is one I disagree with.
The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.
Anything else is pointless lip service
Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone. "
Yup.
So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"The OP got abuse and undeserved shite
It gave someone the chance to White Knight
It was crazy to see
Him apologise for me
When my behaviours been whiter than white!
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Ahem. I'm a delicate flower "
A snapdragon? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
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OP unfortunately abuse is rife on this site, not just from men, although it does seem to be mostly men from mine and others experience
The best thing you can do it block and report them, and restricting all men from contacting you so you can do the searching instead is probably the best way to go |
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that"
How is see it no defence on my behalf as there's nothing to defend.
What I do see is men apologising for others mens behaviour, now is this born out of honest true empathy for what the op had experienced (which isn't acceptable, but unfortunately normalised behaviour on fab) or is it born out of a guilty conscience? |
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us"
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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A shame that the thread got so detailed on such a subject.
OP as many others I hate that these things have happened to you. That anyone can go to these extremes for anything, especially this. But unfortunately that is the world we live in, and people like this exist.
Now for the detail.
Yeah, apologising on behalf of anyone, especially masses is plain and simple white knighting and virtue signaling.
The centiment at the core of it I get, the problem is its so wrapped up in a great big ball of virtue jargon that it means very little and ends up being half of what you are trying to say.
Also, why do these people need apologising for, will this apology from you for them allow the OP to feel they can now offer forgiveness since an apology has been issued?
False words, and pointless gesture despite the meaning behind it very likely being from a genuine place. |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale"
Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?
I think I know a good way for them to make up for it |
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
This is one I disagree with.
The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.
Anything else is pointless lip service
Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.
Yup.
So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it."
You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it. |
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over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx"
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By *luefunMan
over a year ago
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"That sucks.
On the plus side though, you won’t miss out on those nice guys if you message them first.
Or drop them a wink as that also allows people outside of your filters to message you "
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale"
Ill repeat.
That behanviour has nothing to do with me. I have no more in common with the abuser than any woman on this thread does. Just because i happen to share a gender with him, doesnt automatically endow some commonality with him upon me. No more than if i wore the same boxers as him, or drank in the same bar.
Youre just so blinded by gender politics that you think people should be grouped together and treated in the same way. Well im an individual, im not playing that game. Dont speak for me |
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale"
I've never had to call out a friend for abusive behaviour because I don't have friends like that.
I have called out work colleagues for it, both male and female.
On an anonymous website where shitstirring and one sided stories are a dime a dozen? I'll give that a miss thanks.
Btw I'm only posting this comment because of my geography.
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
This is one I disagree with.
The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.
Anything else is pointless lip service
Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.
Yup.
So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it.
You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it. "
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale"
Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.
I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?
I think I know a good way for them to make up for it"
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
This is one I disagree with.
The only apologies that matter are the ones from the perpetrators. With genuine understanding of the upset they've caused and an honest intent to do better.
Anything else is pointless lip service
Trouble is they're to busy hiding behind their little screens and their anonymity to care if they've upset or insulted someone.
Yup.
So there will not be a sincere apology from the perpetrators. And it's better to accept the truth than take some sycophantic version from someone who wasn't a part of it.
You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it. "
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx
Oh don't enable it "
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.
I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.
Try again. "
you have Eno connection to these other men?? you are a man. you are single, you are on fab. you are associated with the behaviour of single men on fab.. same difference bigger scale.. stop trying to defend the poor behaviour of men and all accept we can do better and by apologising shows some level of care and effort to change.
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Ahem. I'm a delicate flower
A snapdragon?"
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?
I think I know a good way for them to make up for it
Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted."
Oh, now that the women are supposed to do it, you suddenly find it ridiculous? Interesting, very, very interesting
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx"
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"You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it. "
I don't quite understand why you're upset.
Is it because people expressed the opinion that pointless lip service from someone completely uninvolved in the offending matter doesn't actually help?
I'm just trying to understand why that means you should apparently now go for deliberately malicious acts.
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?
I think I know a good way for them to make up for it
Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted.
Oh, now that the women are supposed to do it, you suddenly find it ridiculous? Interesting, very, very interesting
Maybe just don't apologise for others, ever."
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx
Oh don't enable it
I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!"
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Okay, where are the women apologising on behalf of all the bitchy women that were totally rude to me?
I think I know a good way for them to make up for it
Do you not see that that is not the argument, we cant use.. yeah but what about.. as a defence.. if you cant understand that its wasted.
Oh, now that the women are supposed to do it, you suddenly find it ridiculous? Interesting, very, very interesting
Maybe just don't apologise for others, ever.
head, brick wall, banging"
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"You know what..... Sod it I wish I'd never bothered to try and be nice to someone that's been abused. Next time someone I don't know drops something in the street I'll just kick it further away from them then at least I'll deserve the shit I get for it.
I don't quite understand why you're upset.
Is it because people expressed the opinion that pointless lip service from someone completely uninvolved in the offending matter doesn't actually help?
I'm just trying to understand why that means you should apparently now go for deliberately malicious acts.
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He is being a nice guy, who thought he would be praised for his white knightery, but instead people don't and now he is very, very frustrated. |
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"Sorry to hear that OP
I turned my "looking for" off yonks ago. That stopped all, bar from forum messages, as I still want to chat to men from threads and I am free to do my own hunting "
Good thinking. |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx
Oh don't enable it
I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!
You two really found each other lol"
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx
Oh don't enable it
I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!
You two really found each other lol
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Ahem. I'm a delicate flower
A snapdragon?
Harsh! "
I was being nice, mostly. My grandad used to grow them. Fond memories. |
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over a year ago
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OP, I know the thread is being derailed but let's ignore that!
I'm sorry you've had such grief here. And if you've tried this, then please ignore me! But someone suggested to me that I turn off "looking for" men. It made a HUGE impact on my inbox. Basically only men from the Lounge message because it's the only way men find me. I also don't upload photos/videos, so I'm under the radar. Just a thought. I hope your time here improves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm so sorry to hear you've had to resort to that, I honestly don't know what goes though some men's heads that they believe it's ok to behave like that. I can't say sorry enough for their behaviour.
Why you apologising if you’re not one? Cause someone has to.
No, somebody doesnt.
Women arent delicate flowers that need meaningless apologies from a random man on behalf of other random men
Ahem. I'm a delicate flower
A snapdragon?
Harsh!
I was being nice, mostly. My grandad used to grow them. Fond memories."
Mostly...
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.
I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.
Try again.
you have Eno connection to these other men?? you are a man. you are single, you are on fab. you are associated with the behaviour of single men on fab.. same difference bigger scale.. stop trying to defend the poor behaviour of men and all accept we can do better and by apologising shows some level of care and effort to change.
ive seen the very best and the very worst of people in this world. we can al do better"
What exactly does he have to change? Are you saying he's guilty now by some tenuous association that you've drawn, based purely on his gender and martial status?
Are you not seeing how ridiculous you sound in this thread? |
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I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed.
Refreshing to see such a lovely caring man here! xx
Oh don't enable it
I shall say what I jolly well want to its an open forum!thank u very much!!!
You two really found each other lol
It's okay, he already apologised on my behalf and will do so again hopefully soon :P"
Do you need to carry it on, it's just the same behaviour as the OP experienced. It's cool that you have a different opinion. Buy its kinda turning into bollocks now... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, fuck me! That turned into a warzone.
Following great advice it seems that turning off profile might work better."
Just ignore the willy waving, they’ll all be called in for dinner soon.
Hope you’re okay |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.
I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.
Try again.
you have Eno connection to these other men?? you are a man. you are single, you are on fab. you are associated with the behaviour of single men on fab.. same difference bigger scale.. stop trying to defend the poor behaviour of men and all accept we can do better and by apologising shows some level of care and effort to change.
ive seen the very best and the very worst of people in this world. we can al do better"
Ladies! Where is your apology to the OP?
You have eyes, you have ears, you are on a sex site, you are breathing humans. All connected to these other humans that breath and have eyes, ears on a sex site.
Shame on you, shame on all of you for not apologising on behalf of them.
Nah, I'm not connected to these men.
Nobody is defending their poor behaviour. Concern and empathy from me has been show to the OP without a single use of an apology from me, on behalf of somebody else. An apology does not show care.
Nor do I need to make any effort to change anything as I don't use this kind of behaviour that the OP revived. |
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over a year ago
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option "
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me...... |
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over a year ago
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......"
It's good that you clarified. We weren't sure what your point was. |
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over a year ago
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......"
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on |
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on "
Well said |
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on "
What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.
Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'? |
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on
Well said "
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on
What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.
Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'? "
All good with me big man, its good we can back to debating without everyone being offended at opposing views |
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on
What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.
Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'?
All good with me big man, its good we can back to debating without everyone being offended at opposing views "
That i will agree with you on |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
Wow I am sorry that has been the case and I apologise for all men everywhere for being toady dicks
Why are you apologising?
because quite frankly I'm ashamed of us as men.. its not an arse licking an apology its the fact that we still behave like entitled and privileged w***ers
Nobody takes an apology on behalf of a whole gender seriously. I dont need an apology from you on my behalf, nor does any other man out there
well you got one... but then your response tells me all I need... and if you cant see the figurative nature not my issue.. you dont have to comment, you dont even have to care, but my point stands we are an embarrassment in our nature far often than not
You dont have to comment either.
'We' arent an embarassment to anyone, you look after your own house and dont be speaking or apologising on behalf of anyone else
My house is in order and sadly you're wrong. if you don't feel embarrassed that a lady received a death threat because she didn't want to have sex with someone you should ashamed. "
We're not one big homogeneous group just because we were all born with a penis. I don't feel embarrassed a lady received a death threat, I feel the person that made it is an absolute knob head and should be banned from here and will hopefully get his comeuppance in life but I don't feel embarrassed.
Likewise I don't feel I should apologise for idiots and their idiotic behaviour because I'm not responsible.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Oh the joys of “man on man” crime….. 
Anyway… moral of the story… be the hunter, not the hunted!!
Nothing is stopping the OP from making first contact.. and using the block function saves them from “Drive by” random cocks!
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OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
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We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.
Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you |
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.
Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you"
It’s not the problem of the abused?
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.
Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you
It’s not the problem of the abused?
Interesting"
Oh ffs you know what i mean.
The point being is that random strangers on a fuck site have nothing to do with another random stranger who decides to be abusive, and they hold no responsibility for that person |
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.
Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you
It’s not the problem of the abused?
Interesting
Oh ffs you know what i mean.
The point being is that random strangers on a fuck site have nothing to do with another random stranger who decides to be abusive, and they hold no responsibility for that person "
Yes. Sadly I fear I know exactly what you mean.
The point being that abuse will continue to happen unless people actually do something about it. Not just on a “fuck” site (a whole different argument) but in society as a whole. In the minds of certain “people” as a whole.
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. Surely the first 2 (not sure if the others are, perhaps they should be) are bannable offences? I'd hope they were banned by the admins if you reported them. |
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"Well, fuck me! That turned into a warzone.
Following great advice it seems that turning off profile might work better."
Yeah if you delete men off your Looking For list it takes you off the searches. They can still find you via the forum though.
Hope your inbox is quieter. |
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"I think it's meant well that someone wants to apologize on behalf of the men folk, his hearts in the right place. But calling people out and changed behaviour is always better.
OP it's an all too common occurrence on here and pretty much any social media platform unfortunately! You just learn to ignore, best option
I guess my point to it all ladies is, you shouldn't have to block and ignore etc, you should never be subjected to that behaviour in the first place.. and on behalf of all me......
For what it’s worth I don’t think you deserved that pile on
What pile on was this? He was responding to everyone and everyone was responding to him.
Are we not allowed address each other for fear of being accused of 'piling on'?
All good with me big man, its good we can back to debating without everyone being offended at opposing views "
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
We've all got abuse on here. The OP is no different to anyone else.
Its also nobody elses problem but the abuser. I dont expect you to accept some responsibility for abuse I've received from any women in here. Its nothing to do with you
It’s not the problem of the abused?
Interesting
Oh ffs you know what i mean.
The point being is that random strangers on a fuck site have nothing to do with another random stranger who decides to be abusive, and they hold no responsibility for that person
Yes. Sadly I fear I know exactly what you mean.
The point being that abuse will continue to happen unless people actually do something about it. Not just on a “fuck” site (a whole different argument) but in society as a whole. In the minds of certain “people” as a whole.
Not taking responsibility is part of the problem. "
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
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Depends on your perspective. I've spent my whole life not getting involved because getting involved in shit going down where I grew up could be life changing or life ending.
Not getting involved is why I am still here today unaffected by the madness that surrounded me every minute of every day.
I've always gotten involved in relation to individual abuse often to my detriment including being physically attacked.
I have never once in my life been abusive towards a woman and certainly not to one I've never met or on a website.
These forums are full of tall tales every single day and there are often 3 sides to every story so I don't pop in to offer lip service and empathise with everyone having a difficult time or tell them how sorry I am for their experiences.
Should I apologise for being Irish but not getting involved?
Should I apologise for not calling out every arsehole on fab?
I've spent my life propping people up and listening to their tales of woe.
I log in to this site for escapism. Not as an extension of reality. |
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Morphia, I hope you have reported the death threat. And I am sorry, yes me, that you've experienced this.
The lack of empathy shown during the derailment of this thread has been an interesting read. Too busy turning on each other rather than show any consideration for the OP. Lovely.
The advice to turn off "looking for" is good advice!
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
Depends on your perspective. I've spent my whole life not getting involved because getting involved in shit going down where I grew up could be life changing or life ending.
Not getting involved is why I am still here today unaffected by the madness that surrounded me every minute of every day.
I've always gotten involved in relation to individual abuse often to my detriment including being physically attacked.
I have never once in my life been abusive towards a woman and certainly not to one I've never met or on a website.
These forums are full of tall tales every single day and there are often 3 sides to every story so I don't pop in to offer lip service and empathise with everyone having a difficult time or tell them how sorry I am for their experiences.
Should I apologise for being Irish but not getting involved?
Should I apologise for not calling out every arsehole on fab?
I've spent my life propping people up and listening to their tales of woe.
I log in to this site for escapism. Not as an extension of reality. "
Totally understand your perspective with the troubles you refer too.. been there and experienced from an outsiders view, can't imagine what it was like living there..
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"Thank god you announced it anyway. We'd never have managed otherwise"
It's guys like you making comments like this why other single guys have a hard time making contacts. |
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I want to say sorry to all the amazing respectful and fun guys who are on this site, and make it such a great place.
I am sorry that arseholes spoil it for the rest of you.
I am sorry that this behaviour leads to all single males being judged this way, and that it makes it so much harder for you all.
I'm sorry that i may miss out on making some lovely new male friends.
So lovely men, I want to thank you for making this site such a great place despite the behaviour of so many.
Yes, the same goes for single females, couples and everyone else. But as they rarely contact me, I don't usually need to block them.
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Worrying that you had to block 83 dickheads, how many more are lurking in the shadows. |
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"OP I’m sorry (I’m the generic sense - I’m not apologising for someone else) that you’ve had to do that.
I’ve never had issues before - or particularly bad ones with a huge degree of abuse. But in the last few weeks it really has sky rocketed. I also hid my profile & I blocked everyone.
That there are men like that out there is bad enough - but what actually worries me is the undercurrent here. I’m getting the message that if
“I didn’t do it. I didn’t say it. I didn’t see it. It’s nothing to do with me. I don’t get involved”. That’s not a message I can live with. Not getting involved is turning a blind eye. That’s how people get away with shit. Apathy.
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I think we can only get involved relative to our own circumstances. Calling out a friend for being a dick for example is within our control and something we can tangibly effect. Apologising on behalf of all men achieves nothing. |
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"Thank god you announced it anyway. We'd never have managed otherwise
It's guys like you making comments like this why other single guys have a hard time making contacts. "
Do you honestly believe that? |
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Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always |
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always"
No we don’t. I’m not responsible for some of the crazy women on here. Nor would
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always"
Who are we holding to account in this instance? The person hurling abuse probably isn't reading this, neither are the 80-odd other men the OP had every right to block. Have responsibility for something you can actually effect rather than spouting apologies that don't change anything. |
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always
Who are we holding to account in this instance? The person hurling abuse probably isn't reading this, neither are the 80-odd other men the OP had every right to block. Have responsibility for something you can actually effect rather than spouting apologies that don't change anything."
Judging y some of the comments I wouldn't be surprised if one of those 83 are on here reading this |
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Some guys are dicks, some girls are dicks, some other genders are dicks
In other news, grass is green and water is wet
I don’t apologise for other people’s actions just as I don’t expect anybody to apologise for mine
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always
No we don’t. I’m not responsible for some of the crazy women on here. Nor would
I ever apologise for them. I’m responsible for me and my actions. "
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always
Who are we holding to account in this instance? The person hurling abuse probably isn't reading this, neither are the 80-odd other men the OP had every right to block. Have responsibility for something you can actually effect rather than spouting apologies that don't change anything."
You affect change through education awareness and action... like it or not awareness and education has happened here today, you might not agree or see it but a different thought has been offered.. thats the seed.. now its down to us to take action when and where we can. |
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"Some guys are dicks, some girls are dicks, some other genders are dicks
In other news, grass is green and water is wet
I don’t apologise for other people’s actions just as I don’t expect anybody to apologise for mine
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I feel like this sums it up pretty concisely |
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always
Who are we holding to account in this instance? The person hurling abuse probably isn't reading this, neither are the 80-odd other men the OP had every right to block. Have responsibility for something you can actually effect rather than spouting apologies that don't change anything.
Judging y some of the comments I wouldn't be surprised if one of those 83 are on here reading this"
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always
Who are we holding to account in this instance? The person hurling abuse probably isn't reading this, neither are the 80-odd other men the OP had every right to block. Have responsibility for something you can actually effect rather than spouting apologies that don't change anything.
You affect change through education awareness and action... like it or not awareness and education has happened here today, you might not agree or see it but a different thought has been offered.. thats the seed.. now its down to us to take action when and where we can."
You're right, I was just about to go on an absolute spree of verbally abusing women before reading this thread and saw that someone apologised on my behalf and now I have second thoughts
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"So, after a month of abuse, a death threat, ignorant pricks, and more unsolicited dick pics than I can shake a dildo at, culminating in 83 people being added to my blocked list, I have taken the decision to block single guys from contacting me.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Surely the first 2 (not sure if the others are, perhaps they should be) are bannable offences? I'd hope they were banned by the admins if you reported them."
They were blocked and reported. |
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"Is the OP new or something?
Or just informative?"
Old, jaded and simply informative.
Just amazed how much shit I've experienced in the past month compared to usual.
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale
Likely yes but I'm connected to that mate. I'm present at the time of the incident, and I know my mate (not a random prick) is in a state he can't apologise for himself on the circumstances.
I have no connection to these other men. I was not present at the time of the incident and they were in full control over their ability to apologise.
Try again.
you have Eno connection to these other men?? you are a man. you are single, you are on fab. you are associated with the behaviour of single men on fab.. same difference bigger scale.. stop trying to defend the poor behaviour of men and all accept we can do better and by apologising shows some level of care and effort to change.
ive seen the very best and the very worst of people in this world. we can al do better"
Okay you need to step back and touch some grass.
Noone and I mean noone on this thread has defended abusers. That you drop that in means you are feeling insecure and are reaching for the white knight bag of diversion to try and blame game those who think you have no right to speak for them.
Just accept it, move on and enjoy life.
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"What's actually hilarious guys.. you are more concerned about being apologised and defending your own actions than the behaviour demonstrated by the OPs experiences.. Just ponder on that
Yes. We are.
Because what happened to the OP is absolutely nothing to do with us
this is a good debate I like it, but, you are wrong because the behaviour is to do with us and the apology.. men have a bad rep not just on here and we should eb collectively working towards that, if we dont call out the arseholes if we all do not take responsibility for each other's actions then we will never do better
for example you are out with a mate. he turns to another person and starts abusing them.. would you shut him up and then apologise.. you didn't abuse them but you are embarrassed and ashamed to be associated..., think that on a bigger scale"
I think the bigger issue here is being friends with that kind of person |
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"Im jumping back in.. I am shocked how many blokes can not see the responsibility we all have to hold each other to account..if thats starts by an apology to show some of us get it... believe me I will keep apologising.. we all have. responsibility always
Who are we holding to account in this instance? The person hurling abuse probably isn't reading this, neither are the 80-odd other men the OP had every right to block. Have responsibility for something you can actually effect rather than spouting apologies that don't change anything.
You affect change through education awareness and action... like it or not awareness and education has happened here today, you might not agree or see it but a different thought has been offered.. thats the seed.. now its down to us to take action when and where we can."
Who is 'us'?
Are you restricting this responsibility by proxy to just men? Or should women take responsobility too?
If they shouldnt, then why not? |
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