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How long before bareback
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just out of curiosity, how long do you wait with a new partner to agree to start playing bareback?
Although a long time ago, I seem to remember we only waited about a week.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess it would depend on how well you know them, how often you've met, if off here or not (due to a lot on here will be meeting others too). With my fwb we played bare almost straight away with each other. I don't with anyone else even if met a few times.
Both me and Feb are tested regular and we were only meeting each other and who joined us at first. We do meet with others now too and trust each other to be honest about what meets they have had and go from there about whether we continue to play bare.
I only play covered, including for oral, if I meet others. Fwb does sometimes play bare tho, if he has we play safe until tested and negative results.
Men have told me before they are clean, tested but I don't believe just anyone lol.
Guess it also depends on your situation of whether married, single, playing away. Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that  ) so definitely like to be safe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have ordered my free nhs sti kit. No. Not had any sex in years. No symptoms. Play safe rather than sti sorry. I would not go with any guy who has had sex unprotected from here or anywhere. It is not a risk I would like to be in. Health and safety here is always paramount for me. |
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When our test results came back and we were all clear. We had an agreement (M(me) & MF cpl) that we wouldn't play bare with anyone else and would have regular tests (every cpl of months), we had formed a very close friendship between the 3 of us that's why we went down that route. Normally though, never. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also my fwb has had snip, I am on contraception but there's always the worry it doesn't work. The amount of guys saying they'd bareback without even finding out if on birth control amazes me |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
" Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that). "
Don't worry, few will be angry with you as you're not a single guy. They would tear me several new arseholes if I wrote that!
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After we've both been tested, hubs & I both went together and made it a date. Trip to our sex health clinic, then food & drinks.
Everyone else, safe sex only but would consider bb if testing was done and would happily get tested too for the other persons peace of mind |
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Safe always. Despite it being a pain, loss of sensation and overall a lot shitter (technical term) it's piece of mind and massively reduces chances of catching anything and passing on (if symptom free). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that).
Don't worry, few will be angry with you as you're not a single guy. They would tear me several new arseholes if I wrote that!
Gbat "
Unfortunately I've had plenty of abuse for it previously. Really don't get why anyone else thinks it's their business tbh. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.
Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?
Gbat "
By safe sex we meant not with numpties |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I met Doughnut many years ago, we spoke about contraception etc before we met, we knew it was more than a shag, so when we finally did sleep together after a month of dating, it was bare as we both knew we were safe.
With other partners though, when he had his gf last year both were tested and they went bare for a bit until it ended, however I never would, I mean a guy might pop up but that it got to the same stage it did with doughnut and his gf but I highly doubt it.
Danish x |
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It's difficult isn't it because I love eating pussy and love having my dick sucked. Then I usually go by condition of her teeth and breath. Stupid really because I won't shove it in a hole I can't see in ( maybe a conger eel or her spare teeth in there). Risky still but have been lucky so far im 60 now xxx  |
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We wouldn't go bare with anyone on here ,if they'd do it with us,who else are they doing it with ?.
We arranged to meet a couple at a club,bareback was never mentioned,yet they tried separately to get us to go bare.
We both said no thanks ,our sexual health is our responsibility.
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.
Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?
Gbat
By safe sex we meant not with numpties"
That's a good way of identifying a numpty.
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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Maybe 3 months?
Once had two clear STI tests and are exclusive?
Even if you were only playing in a closed group of couples... there is always the chance someone is stepping out. |
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How long is a piece of string?
I don't know what the OP means by "non judgemental" but I will say this, saying 'regularly tested' (ie every x months??) for very promiscuous bare-backers doesn't really cut it for me - you need to get a test after every possibly-transmitting encounter you had if testing means much at all. Or just admit that you are on PrEP or whatever and/or it isn't really an issue to you.
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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago
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Long term play partners only, and that is a certain level of trust about who else your playing with.
I've had 3 long term play partners that have been bareback but they all new each of each other and I was tested regularly as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Done the now wife multiple times on our first date raw.
Is that before or after you listed Safe Sex in your interests?
Gbat
By safe sex we meant not with numpties
That's a good way of identifying a numpty.
Gbat "
We still having lots of sex though. And well then there's people who are not and very very unlikely to, I'll leave you to guess who that is.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have ordered my free nhs sti kit. No. Not had any sex in years. No symptoms. Play safe rather than sti sorry. I would not go with any guy who has had sex unprotected from here or anywhere. It is not a risk I would like to be in. Health and safety here is always paramount for me. "
I've used this service. Very easy to use and return; and the results came back super quick  |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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"We still having lots of sex though. And well then there's people who are not and very very unlikely to, I'll leave you to guess who that is. "
Great news! You be you and I'll be me. I doubt that either of us wants to be the other person.
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" Personally I'm playing away and still get sex at home (expecting abuse for that).
Don't worry, few will be angry with you as you're not a single guy. They would tear me several new arseholes if I wrote that!
Gbat
Unfortunately I've had plenty of abuse for it previously. Really don't get why anyone else thinks it's their business tbh. X"
Alas, not only do they poke their noses into other people’s business, but they don’t bother to ask WHY one is playing away.
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only with someone I trust fully obviously. 
