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Does age matter??
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It's the first thing I look for on any profile.
I change my lower age filter every year so it's always 10 years above my eldest child.
Doesn't matter to me in the slightest how mature, intelligent or hot anyone under that age thinks they are because I won't be engaging with them. |
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I tend to have a lower limit rather than an upper one. For me a women usually enters her sexual prime in her forties/fifties - that is the age that she becomes comfortable in her own skin, knows what she wants and doesn’t want and is less bothered by social pressure. I find that exciting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Older than me it doesn’t really matter to me at all. As long as they are respectful, not condescending and they don’t project their insecurities onto me. I’m not with someone to convince them to be with me. I know my worth. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Age matters to me as it brings with it impotence and limited performance. I am grateful to those I have met on here for their acceptance, understanding and repeat meets. |
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"I seem to get blocked from quite a few couples/single ladies, being classed as to old… but, that’s fine. I’m ok with EVERYONE being allowed a preference.
What age are those who block you"
Funny enough, they are around my age early 40’s they seem to want young chaps…which is fine.. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
It matters but it's not a simple black and white answer. Different factors come in the play.
I mean if age didn't matter we wouldn't have a legal and a morale minimum age. Some people walk the line of as soon as legal age hits things are fair game.
Others have a much higher minimum age. Some people have actual age limits were as other people have x years younger and older than themselves.
Yes I have age limits, younger and older. They are not solid and rigid in that suddenly one person going from 24 to 25 suddenly changes them as a person, I have a bit of wiggle room either side but for the most part the further somebody is from my own age the less likely I'll have things in common with them, the connection/bond is unlikely to form quite the same. |
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"I seem to get blocked from quite a few couples/single ladies, being classed as to old… but, that’s fine. I’m ok with EVERYONE being allowed a preference.
What age are those who block you
Funny enough, they are around my age early 40’s they seem to want young chaps…which is fine.."
And there are no clues on their profile that they're looking to meet younger guys? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I seem to get blocked from quite a few couples/single ladies, being classed as to old… but, that’s fine. I’m ok with EVERYONE being allowed a preference."
In the same boat but agree totally that everyone has preferences |
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I don't really like reading about kids and parents in these threads. If you are just not into people being much older or younger, I think that's all most people really need to know. If you are actually attracted to older but you then think of your parents (or kids etc) and it puts you off then that's equally a bit weird to me I guess.
So to people who do like a lot older (as I do with men) - or perhaps like a lot younger people if that's your thing - then for the vast majority of those people their parents and kids will have nothing to do with it of course, it just won't be on their minds.
They might of course think of *themselves* being *younger* for sure - which can work very well both with being with older people (who can automatically make you feel younger) and with being with younger too of course (which takes you back). It's a huge factor in age play and dressing up etc - rekindling our youthful days is just huge in sexuality. But they won't be thinking of their parents or kids I'm sure. There is just something about the connotation that suggests a connection somehow aught to be there, and then of course it makes it wrong.
The answer for me is that it's subjective obviously - but morally speaking (and Fab is often quite a moral place) why should age matter?
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"The answer for me is that it's subjective obviously - but morally speaking (and Fab is often quite a moral place) why should age matter?
pt"
Because to some, there’s an association which stops attraction. Same as any preference really, this one has just been explained in a way that you don’t feel.
Doesn’t make anyone wrong for liking 18-99+ but you also can’t say they’re wrong for not wanting to. |
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"The answer for me is that it's subjective obviously - but morally speaking (and Fab is often quite a moral place) why should age matter?
pt
Because to some, there’s an association which stops attraction. Same as any preference really, this one has just been explained in a way that you don’t feel.
Doesn’t make anyone wrong for liking 18-99+ but you also can’t say they’re wrong for not wanting to.
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.Fair enough, but you didn't need the last bit really.. I am not saying they are 'wrong' for not wanting broader age ranges, and I'm sure nobody else would say that too! (Ok apart from some desperate fabbers... but you know what I mean.)
I just feel that highlighting this reason is a bit off, but a few people always do it. That is always going to feel off to some of us who don't feel that way tbh. Because of the topic or connotations I guess.
It's because it just seems really irrelevant to me - but I guess I'm assuming that people really aren't into it because they just aren't into it. But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe people's own family actually do put them off and they are simply explaining this fact.
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"I don't really like reading about kids and parents in these threads. If you are just not into people being much older or younger, I think that's all most people really need to know. If you are actually attracted to older but you then think of your parents (or kids etc) and it puts you off then that's equally a bit weird to me I guess.
So to people who do like a lot older (as I do with men) - or perhaps like a lot younger people if that's your thing - then for the vast majority of those people their parents and kids will have nothing to do with it of course, it just won't be on their minds.
They might of course think of *themselves* being *younger* for sure - which can work very well both with being with older people (who can automatically make you feel younger) and with being with younger too of course (which takes you back). It's a huge factor in age play and dressing up etc - rekindling our youthful days is just huge in sexuality. But they won't be thinking of their parents or kids I'm sure. There is just something about the connotation that suggests a connection somehow aught to be there, and then of course it makes it wrong.
The answer for me is that it's subjective obviously - but morally speaking (and Fab is often quite a moral place) why should age matter?
pt"
I'm a father of 3 girls in their late 20s and early 30s.
It has nothing to do with thinking about them when having sex and everything to do with having zero sexual thoughts about anyone that age.
I block everyone within 10 years of their age because I'm not interested in the slightest.
I don't care how sexually mature or experienced anyone in their 20s or 30s are because I won't be engaging with them and certainly won't be having sex with them.
It's the same reason I block all men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But if we was all attracted to the same age group it would be a boring world. I’ve had much better sex much better connections with younger in fact will only date younger guys! My choice at the end of the day |
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"I don't really like reading about kids and parents in these threads. If you are just not into people being much older or younger, I think that's all most people really need to know. If you are actually attracted to older but you then think of your parents (or kids etc) and it puts you off then that's equally a bit weird to me I guess.
So to people who do like a lot older (as I do with men) - or perhaps like a lot younger people if that's your thing - then for the vast majority of those people their parents and kids will have nothing to do with it of course, it just won't be on their minds.
They might of course think of *themselves* being *younger* for sure - which can work very well both with being with older people (who can automatically make you feel younger) and with being with younger too of course (which takes you back). It's a huge factor in age play and dressing up etc - rekindling our youthful days is just huge in sexuality. But they won't be thinking of their parents or kids I'm sure. There is just something about the connotation that suggests a connection somehow aught to be there, and then of course it makes it wrong.
The answer for me is that it's subjective obviously - but morally speaking (and Fab is often quite a moral place) why should age matter?
pt
I'm a father of 3 girls in their late 20s and early 30s.
It has nothing to do with thinking about them when having sex and everything to do with having zero sexual thoughts about anyone that age.
I block everyone within 10 years of their age because I'm not interested in the slightest.
I don't care how sexually mature or experienced anyone in their 20s or 30s are because I won't be engaging with them and certainly won't be having sex with them.
It's the same reason I block all men.
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Fair enough obviously, but I need to say that I wasn't ever referring to people like you at all. I fully expect that most people are attracted to sexual partners who are 'broadly' in their own age ranges anyway (eg your 10 year max range going narrower).
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By *oanne ETV/TS
over a year ago
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Age is just a number, however I never would meet anyone younger than my daughter, that's just me. In general I don't like meeting men in their 30s or younger as they can be over enthusiastic and not as compassionate as I like but it isn't everyone, however as a previous poster has said: I like kind people, gentle people, naughty but nice and fun people. I don't like those who misinterpret arrogance for confidence. It's about having fun with like minded people. If people don't like this old tart, then just pass me by, I'll survive. I'm grateful for chubby chasers lol and simply enjoy myself. Just be kind and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a general scale, no. But from a sex point of view, yes. I find the thought of sex with people younger than me icky and the thought of sex with people old enough to be my grandad off-putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a general scale, no. But from a sex point of view, yes. I find the thought of sex with people younger than me icky and the thought of sex with people old enough to be my grandad off-putting. "
What about old enough to be your dad? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah it definitely does. I can’t have a proper conversation with most people in their 20’s. I don’t really understand them and I struggle with being over parental and patronising. I’m sure they have similar challenges with me.
If conversation is hard, how is anything else gonna work? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Playmates, age is just a number, we still have the energy to have fun.   "
Speak for yourself. I can barely take my pts off without getting out of breath. Foreplay before sex? Look, it’s one or the other!… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Age matters
Height matters
Weight matters
Face matters
Personality matters
Cock size matters
Matters is a funny word...
What about location? "
Not personally but I guess for some. |
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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago
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Hey,young people....
Here's a wake up for you,one day you will see a really nice looking woman, or man.whatever your preference..and think ,they look really nice!
And you'll be really attracted to them because in your mind you're still in your prime and you're brain will lie to you saying that you're still young and attractive.
Look in the mirror and you see this oldie looking back at you and can't figure out why or where the years went to 
So, when someone old enough to be your parent, or grand parent!!  messages you...don't be an arsehole,don't message back saying eeeugh!
They were young like you once,and sure as night follows day you will be old too one day
So be nice, time is coming for you too |
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"Hey,young people....
Here's a wake up for you,one day you will see a really nice looking woman, or man.whatever your preference..and think ,they look really nice!
And you'll be really attracted to them because in your mind you're still in your prime and you're brain will lie to you saying that you're still young and attractive.
Look in the mirror and you see this oldie looking back at you and can't figure out why or where the years went to
So, when someone old enough to be your parent, or grand parent!! messages you...don't be an arsehole,don't message back saying eeeugh!
They were young like you once,and sure as night follows day you will be old too one day
So be nice, time is coming for you too"
Or, older people could just stop expecting someone much younger to be grateful for their advances |
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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago
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"Hey,young people....
Here's a wake up for you,one day you will see a really nice looking woman, or man.whatever your preference..and think ,they look really nice!
And you'll be really attracted to them because in your mind you're still in your prime and you're brain will lie to you saying that you're still young and attractive.
Look in the mirror and you see this oldie looking back at you and can't figure out why or where the years went to
So, when someone old enough to be your parent, or grand parent!! messages you...don't be an arsehole,don't message back saying eeeugh!
They were young like you once,and sure as night follows day you will be old too one day
So be nice, time is coming for you too
Or, older people could just stop expecting someone much younger to be grateful for their advances "
That wasn't the point I was making at all..nothing about expecting gratitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm unlikely to meet anyone under 40 - i don't know what we'd have in common, plus I'd be super aware of my body  "
What, you mean the body in your pics isn't yours?....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm unlikely to meet anyone under 40 - i don't know what we'd have in common, plus I'd be super aware of my body
What, you mean the body in your pics isn't yours?.... "
 ... It's a 53 year old body.. It's defo better from a distance or in dim lighting! |
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"I'm unlikely to meet anyone under 40 - i don't know what we'd have in common, plus I'd be super aware of my body
What, you mean the body in your pics isn't yours?....
... It's a 53 year old body.. It's defo better from a distance or in dim lighting! "
You look pretty darn good to me. I have no hesitation in taking you to bed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Age only matters from a legal sense … I’m 56 and defo best seen from a distance and up close in do. Light it my mind still acts and feels like my 18 yr old self… ie sex mad… so assume .. and hope … I’m still thinking like this when I’m 70 of 80 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm unlikely to meet anyone under 40 - i don't know what we'd have in common, plus I'd be super aware of my body
What, you mean the body in your pics isn't yours?....
... It's a 53 year old body.. It's defo better from a distance or in dim lighting!
You look pretty darn good to me. I have no hesitation in taking you to bed. "
'cor such a charmer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey,young people....
Here's a wake up for you,one day you will see a really nice looking woman, or man.whatever your preference..and think ,they look really nice!
And you'll be really attracted to them because in your mind you're still in your prime and you're brain will lie to you saying that you're still young and attractive.
Look in the mirror and you see this oldie looking back at you and can't figure out why or where the years went to
So, when someone old enough to be your parent, or grand parent!! messages you...don't be an arsehole,don't message back saying eeeugh!
They were young like you once,and sure as night follows day you will be old too one day
So be nice, time is coming for you too"
Or you could read profiles and pay attention to the age range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When someone has not been honest about it then yes. On here it does not matter so much but on dating sites then yes.
If you are 52 for example then just say so rather than state that you are 10 years younger. |
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"When someone has not been honest about it then yes. On here it does not matter so much but on dating sites then yes.
If you are 52 for example then just say so rather than state that you are 10 years younger."
I'm 52!
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Nope age doesn't matter one iota for me. I take people based on their personality, rather than what their birth certificate states. I would say though for sites like this a lot very much do care about age - hence the reason so many knock years off |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Simple answer Yes, it matters.
But truthfulness, also no. Let’s just say, i met someone I really like, am I really going to ask her her age.
Let’s assume she looks over 25.
I’ll find out her age after. I like to talk first.
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By *ad BodMan 41 weeks ago
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My last girlfriend was half my age, I was 48 and she was 24, met her at work, she did the chasing, I turned her down a few times due to age but then went with it. Neither of us saw the age gap, we just hit it off and were great together. It was other people’s opinions which took its toll. We’re still best mates and speak for hours every day, still work together and get on great. We both want the other but alas it’s not to be. So yes, I suppose it matters. |
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"Hello asked it before but back to see who else wants to comment. Does age matter to you?
Less, more,similar? What's your preference"
Good Morning all
Yes age matters to most on fab
As most filters set to 55 on upper age limit
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To some extent. It's not something we ask in a club, you either fancy someone or you don't. However we're not into anyone young enough to be our kids (of which some are early 20s). So naturally without asking age chances are anyone who looks that sort of age probably wouldn't be for us. Generally the people we like tend to be older than us. |
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Cherry is not happy meeting folk same age or younger than her kids but has bent her own rules occasionaly when bumping into and befriending others in clubs. I Tony don't mind what age as long as there's mutual interest and attraction... |
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"Yeah I wouldn’t feel comfortable seeing someone in their twenties in the same age bracket as my son. Just feels weird to me. "
Yes I agree have to be older than my eldest child otherwise just too weird.. He's 31 |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Yeah, it matters to me. In person, it's more about attraction but there can be too big of an age gap in terms of how old I go and the idea of fucking an 18 or 19 year old gives me the ick. |
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"Yeah, it matters to me. In person, it's more about attraction but there can be too big of an age gap in terms of how old I go and the idea of fucking an 18 or 19 year old gives me the ick."
On the plus side they probably also say ick  |
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"I tend to have a lower limit rather than an upper one. For me a women usually enters her sexual prime in her forties/fifties - that is the age that she becomes comfortable in her own skin, knows what she wants and doesn’t want and is less bothered by social pressure. I find that exciting. "
Agree  |
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Mrs - age matters yes as I find I'm attracted more to older men but I also have a limit on how much older to. I look at males my own age or younger even women younger and think they look like baby's really of putting. |
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