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Why is it always a choice?
Curvy or skinny?
Since when does a slim woman not have curves, their hips, boobs and arse don't count?
Not womanly enough?
Why is it always big one up by bashing the other down?
If it was the other way around it would cause a lot of negativity but it's ok to bash the slim women, there not allowed confidence issues, apparently have no curves, don't have a womanly body, I've heard it all.
So you curvy lovers that have to be negative about smaller body shapes I hope you get poked in the eye!
There's preference and there's body shaming!
Morning all btw.
Mrs
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Noone should be bashed. I hate reading in those threads derogatory things by men who think they are currying favor with bbws. They are not I hate seeing any woman put down and it makes the man very unattractive |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It's not acceptable.
It is a form of body shaming but I think sometimes people believe it's the best way to show their preference for one thing - by stating how much they dislike the opposite, not celebrating and focusing on what they do like.
Like profiles where they say I don't want x, y and z and are caps locky and very angry.
It's daft and makes no sense.
Fab isn't a competition. |
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"It's not acceptable.
It is a form of body shaming but I think sometimes people believe it's the best way to show their preference for one thing - by stating how much they dislike the opposite, not celebrating and focusing on what they do like.
Like profiles where they say I don't want x, y and z and are caps locky and very angry.
It's daft and makes no sense.
Fab isn't a competition."
Morning Meli.
The angry caps are just rude aren't they, I don't think people genuinely realise how much they body shame while trying to state preferences, I like ketchup but I don't bash brown sauce, there's just no need.
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We are stuck in the old Jessica Rabbit curves definition, it's unrealistic and need updating, all women have curves, they are just exacerbated by body size. Slender and apple shaped woman have curves, they are just positioned at different degrees on their body, the line ups in the women mags clearly show everyone's curves. I like the same weight different body shape line ups, that helps people to see how everyone, is the same in various guises  |
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"Every person will have their own hang ups about their body. Things they like, dislike, regardless of shape, size.
We are our own worst critics so no-one needs other criticising them too.
K"
Completely agree, there's people of all shapes and sizes here they all should feel welcomed.
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It is never right to body shame anyone at anytime ever.
I think some of this is rooted in the way Fab is. In general I think outside of Fab it is unlikely a slim woman will be told oh you have no curves that is bad. But in life outside and inside of Fab larger people do get snide remarks about their weight. And I think wrongly some assume because larger women explain how it makes them feel on here, they try to make them feel better. It's not the correct way of doing it and I often ask people to stop thin bashing on here.
I think maybe we need more threads by slim women saying it from their perspective. Then people maybe more aware of what they are doing. |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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I completely agree. There has been a history of fat shaming. And so I totally understand embracing fat, curves and bigger bodies, it has helped me become more confident.
But you can be slim with some fat, you can be the bang in the middle of a perfect BMI and have curves, you can be big without curves, you can be a model and have body hang ups. All our bodies are fucking amazing.
Let's pull each other up not step on each other and let's all enjoy our own bodies and each others. 
Also can I request us to not use body shape or weight to insult. If someone is behaving like an idiot call them an idiot. Not a fat idiot or a skinny idiot.
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"It is never right to body shame anyone at anytime ever.
I think some of this is rooted in the way Fab is. In general I think outside of Fab it is unlikely a slim woman will be told oh you have no curves that is bad. But in life outside and inside of Fab larger people do get snide remarks about their weight. And I think wrongly some assume because larger women explain how it makes them feel on here, they try to make them feel better. It's not the correct way of doing it and I often ask people to stop thin bashing on here.
I think maybe we need more threads by slim women saying it from their perspective. Then people maybe more aware of what they are doing. "
I can't say I'm very slim anymore, but I'll give you my side.
From my teens until mid 30's I was a size 6-8 I was constantly shamed by other women mainly, even some medical professionals, told to just go eat a cake/burger or whatever other snide remark they could think at the time, I remember thinking I'd never dream of telling a large lady to just diet so why is it appropriate to do it to me.
I was extremely insecure about my weight I didn't feel as feminine my tits were like little tea bags.
I tried to go to the drs to help with weight gain due to the ridiculous amount of comments I'd receive, they themselves found it appropriate to tell me to eat (like I hadn't tried that)
When you are already self conscious, trying your best to change it to have people think it ok to comment on your shape or lack of it is horrendous.
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"Why is it always a choice?
Curvy or skinny?
Since when does a slim woman not have curves, their hips, boobs and arse don't count?
Not womanly enough?
Why is it always big one up by bashing the other down?
If it was the other way around it would cause a lot of negativity but it's ok to bash the slim women, there not allowed confidence issues, apparently have no curves, don't have a womanly body, I've heard it all.
So you curvy lovers that have to be negative about smaller body shapes I hope you get poked in the eye!
There's preference and there's body shaming!
Morning all btw.
Mrs
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Who said its always a choice?
Though i do agree at times the slimmer ladies get a rough time of it..probably one reason is because they are in a minority.? .but ive never seen it as you must choose one or t'other. A lot of comments on here seem to be agenda led though. What can i say that will ingratiate me to the most vaginas.? |
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It’s honestly vile. I can’t even read those types of threads anymore.
I used to comment and then realised it was less of a chance for people to state their body type preference, and more of a chance for people who felt they belong to stick the finger up to anyone who doesn’t.
What happened to women championing women no matter what they look like. It’s very sad.  |
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"And the latest comment - "curves, only dogs like bones"
Why?! Just why?! People are so rude and disrespectful
Mrs
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Guess I'm a dog because I love a good boning 
People are shitty about a lot of things. It's strange how socially acceptable it is to talk about bodies that way. |
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"It’s honestly vile. I can’t even read those types of threads anymore.
I used to comment and then realised it was less of a chance for people to state their body type preference, and more of a chance for people who felt they belong to stick the finger up to anyone who doesn’t.
What happened to women championing women no matter what they look like. It’s very sad. "
I shouldn't have read that post today tbh, I'm thinking enough of the forums for one day.
Women definitely should big each other up regardless of shape, unfortunately it seems the women are the ones more likely to body shame others.
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"It’s honestly vile. I can’t even read those types of threads anymore.
I used to comment and then realised it was less of a chance for people to state their body type preference, and more of a chance for people who felt they belong to stick the finger up to anyone who doesn’t.
What happened to women championing women no matter what they look like. It’s very sad. "
 sadly being human let alone nice to fellow humans isnt a requirement ment. |
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"When you are already self conscious, trying your best to change it to have people think it ok to comment on your shape or lack of it is horrendous.
Mrs "
I agree with all you wrote but I’ve just highlighted this bit. The truth is that most women are incredibly self conscious and we should be doing things to stop it, not keep it going.
I know that some men are too, which should be all the more reason to not do it. |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
Lives in Preston, Eng |
"It’s honestly vile. I can’t even read those types of threads anymore.
I used to comment and then realised it was less of a chance for people to state their body type preference, and more of a chance for people who felt they belong to stick the finger up to anyone who doesn’t.
What happened to women championing women no matter what they look like. It’s very sad.
I shouldn't have read that post today tbh, I'm thinking enough of the forums for one day.
Women definitely should big each other up regardless of shape, unfortunately it seems the women are the ones more likely to body shame others.
Mrs "
Oh yeah I saw that post last night and about 3 comments in thought nope not for me. Hope it doesn't leave you feeling shit today.
This post has cheered me up because I can see there are people that feel how I do about bodies and supporting each other. |
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"It is never right to body shame anyone at anytime ever.
I think some of this is rooted in the way Fab is. In general I think outside of Fab it is unlikely a slim woman will be told oh you have no curves that is bad. But in life outside and inside of Fab larger people do get snide remarks about their weight. And I think wrongly some assume because larger women explain how it makes them feel on here, they try to make them feel better. It's not the correct way of doing it and I often ask people to stop thin bashing on here.
I think maybe we need more threads by slim women saying it from their perspective. Then people maybe more aware of what they are doing.
I can't say I'm very slim anymore, but I'll give you my side.
From my teens until mid 30's I was a size 6-8 I was constantly shamed by other women mainly, even some medical professionals, told to just go eat a cake/burger or whatever other snide remark they could think at the time, I remember thinking I'd never dream of telling a large lady to just diet so why is it appropriate to do it to me.
I was extremely insecure about my weight I didn't feel as feminine my tits were like little tea bags.
I tried to go to the drs to help with weight gain due to the ridiculous amount of comments I'd receive, they themselves found it appropriate to tell me to eat (like I hadn't tried that)
When you are already self conscious, trying your best to change it to have people think it ok to comment on your shape or lack of it is horrendous.
Mrs "
I have family who have similar experiences. Its led to emotional problems and eating disorders. Fucking terrible the way especially slimmer folks are talked about by some people. Including twatty so called medical professionals. Try buying clothing size 4 6 or 8 or a AA bra.... |
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I was very slender as a young woman but the whole population was smaller then, nobody ever commented.
Our daughter was a similar build as a teen and in her 20s at a 6 to 8 (she's a 10 now) and people would call her anorexic  some even asked if she was ill, never in a concerned way more as an insult.
What is wrong with people that they need to do this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What’s wrong with just liking someone because you do whether curvy or slim, it’s the aura and look in the eye and lots of other things that also makes a person sexy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have three sizes.
Smaller than me. About the same size. Larger than me.
Body shaming is ridiculous and not cool.
Op, I agree with you. When one body shape is worshipped so much, it’s kinda saying, ‘ any other size is not nice’. I take note of anyone who says that kind of thing. A preference is a preference or we can be attracted to a certain type.
Slimmer women get a bad rap in here. (But so do other sizes too) and I reckon a lot is done in Pms too.
There’s confusion, Curvy is in the drop down above average, and I’ve seen many slim curvy women in here. Curvy isn’t a size.
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"It is never right to body shame anyone at anytime ever.
I think some of this is rooted in the way Fab is. In general I think outside of Fab it is unlikely a slim woman will be told oh you have no curves that is bad. But in life outside and inside of Fab larger people do get snide remarks about their weight. And I think wrongly some assume because larger women explain how it makes them feel on here, they try to make them feel better. It's not the correct way of doing it and I often ask people to stop thin bashing on here.
I think maybe we need more threads by slim women saying it from their perspective. Then people maybe more aware of what they are doing.
I can't say I'm very slim anymore, but I'll give you my side.
From my teens until mid 30's I was a size 6-8 I was constantly shamed by other women mainly, even some medical professionals, told to just go eat a cake/burger or whatever other snide remark they could think at the time, I remember thinking I'd never dream of telling a large lady to just diet so why is it appropriate to do it to me.
I was extremely insecure about my weight I didn't feel as feminine my tits were like little tea bags.
I tried to go to the drs to help with weight gain due to the ridiculous amount of comments I'd receive, they themselves found it appropriate to tell me to eat (like I hadn't tried that)
When you are already self conscious, trying your best to change it to have people think it ok to comment on your shape or lack of it is horrendous.
Mrs "
I hear you, it is never right to be mean and nasty about anybody's size or shape.
People will always comment though, it doesn't make it right. The messages I get on here about my weight sometimes hit really hard, especially since I had eating disorders as a teen and young adult. People can be horrible, we can raise awareness and try if possible to increase our own resilience to these utter arseholes. |
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By *rLordMan
over a year ago
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Nobody is perfect as they say, some girls are straight and down some curvey. All are delicious in there own way , and all are someone's desire.
Love them all , not a bad one amongst them . Variety is the spice of life |
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It’s the wording. It’s ok to be really attracted to a certain look/shape etc and to mention it in your profile but I agree there’s no need to knock the people who don’t have what you’re looking for. |
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"Nobody is perfect as they say, some girls are straight and down some curvey. All are delicious in there own way , and all are someone's desire.
Love them all , not a bad one amongst them . Variety is the spice of life "
There’s no need to love them all though. And variety isn’t the spice of life for some people. Nobody’s saying love them all. Just have some common sense in what you say! (The generic you that is, not you you ) |
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"And the latest comment - "curves, only dogs like bones"
Why?! Just why?! People are so rude and disrespectful
Mrs
What!? where is this? 
Swingers chat curvy post "
I still can't believe anyone would post such a thing... Mind blown. |
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"And the latest comment - "curves, only dogs like bones"
Why?! Just why?! People are so rude and disrespectful
Mrs
What!? where is this?
Swingers chat curvy post
I still can't believe anyone would post such a thing... Mind blown. "
It's a comment that's frequently made on those threads along with others. |
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I agree with what you are saying. But it does happen the other way too. As a woman who has been on the bigger side, I got shitty comments and actions made towards me all the time because I was fat. So it isn't just slimmer women who have to endure the crap some people come out with.
It's not OK to make these kind of comments about any body shape or size, but people are dipshits unfortunately. |
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I avoid them posts as it always ends up being us vs them .Everyone is entitled to a preference but theirs really no need to put others down when describing it.
I find us women are more guilty of the bitchy and spiteful comments aimed towards other women.Men will do it to gain favour in a post where as women will do it sneakily .
I have heard about groups being made with the sole purpose of being nasty towards certain women.
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
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There’s space for everyone on Fab. It shouldn’t be one body type or other and there seems to be plenty of people attracted to every one of those body types.
No need to put others down or make them feel bad. Everyone has their own hang ups so no need to stick the boot in. |
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Doughnut only prefers a bigger lady because he is large himself and worries about hurting a slimmer lady, which I think is valid.
I absolutely hate anyone being knocked for their size, small, curvy, big. We are all people at the end of the day and we should all be celebrated.
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As someone who has witnessed someone they love dearly, struggle with Anorexia Nervosa to the point of skirting death - I find body-shaming to be abhorrent.
It's not just unkind, it makes people ill and ultimately, it kills people. Anorexia Nervosa has the highest death rate of any mental illness. And the majority of those that survive, suffer with it as a chronic condition their entire lives. The treatment for Anorexia, in itself can lead to trauma and often needs to be conducted under a section and involve inpatient admission that can last years. With patients often becoming permenantly insitutionalised and repeatedly force-fed.
The anorexia rates for children have doubled in the last decade.
It is only now that people are starting to consider the links between body-shaming and eating disorders seriously.
https://committees.parliament.uk/committee/328/women-and-equalities-committee/news/153711/government-approach-to-negative-body-image-dangerous/ |
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"I thought if you said it’s a preference on fab you don’t have to care about how it makes others feel? "
It has nothing at all to do with preference it’s the wording that people use .Comparing skinny people to skeletons /dog bones they have no tits you might snap them etc etc ..
Everyone is entitled to a preference you just don’t have to be a twat about it .. |
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"I avoid them posts as it always ends up being us vs them .Everyone is entitled to a preference but theirs really no need to put others down when describing it.
I find us women are more guilty of the bitchy and spiteful comments aimed towards other women.Men will do it to gain favour in a post where as women will do it sneakily .
I have heard about groups being made with the sole purpose of being nasty towards certain women.
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I have to agree it does seem like the women are the ones knocking each other down unfortunately, not that the men are completely blame free on this occasion.
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"Why is it always a choice?
Curvy or skinny?
Since when does a slim woman not have curves, their hips, boobs and arse don't count?
Not womanly enough?
Why is it always big one up by bashing the other down?
If it was the other way around it would cause a lot of negativity but it's ok to bash the slim women, there not allowed confidence issues, apparently have no curves, don't have a womanly body, I've heard it all.
So you curvy lovers that have to be negative about smaller body shapes I hope you get poked in the eye!
There's preference and there's body shaming!
Morning all btw.
Mrs
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Totally agree!
Even worse if you make hot pics. You just get labelled an attention seeker.
The one I hate is the fake boobs body shaming. They even title the threads and posts with the word fake used and think that's ok. Say fake to a cancer patient I'm pretty sure it's very wrong. Say fake to a trans I'm pretty sure it's wrong, but it's fucking fine to say it if you did it with no good reason for it other than apparently doing it for male attention. Which is clearly why I kept mine covered up for a decade
Don't be slim and have fake boobs.
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"Why is it always a choice?
Curvy or skinny?
Since when does a slim woman not have curves, their hips, boobs and arse don't count?
Not womanly enough?
Why is it always big one up by bashing the other down?
If it was the other way around it would cause a lot of negativity but it's ok to bash the slim women, there not allowed confidence issues, apparently have no curves, don't have a womanly body, I've heard it all.
So you curvy lovers that have to be negative about smaller body shapes I hope you get poked in the eye!
There's preference and there's body shaming!
Morning all btw.
Mrs
Totally agree!
Even worse if you make hot pics. You just get labelled an attention seeker.
The one I hate is the fake boobs body shaming. They even title the threads and posts with the word fake used and think that's ok. Say fake to a cancer patient I'm pretty sure it's very wrong. Say fake to a trans I'm pretty sure it's wrong, but it's fucking fine to say it if you did it with no good reason for it other than apparently doing it for male attention. Which is clearly why I kept mine covered up for a decade
Don't be slim and have fake boobs.
Rant over. I could go on, trust me"
It's ridiculous isn't it, probably just jealous of your amazing boobs!
I won't lie after my 1st with my empty teabags I wanted a boob job, unfortunately couldn't get one, luckily the weight gain gave me boobs too.
I just never understand how it's ok to shame someone for how they look and try and state it preference..... Nope it's fucking rude.
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"Why is it always a choice?
Curvy or skinny?
Since when does a slim woman not have curves, their hips, boobs and arse don't count?
Not womanly enough?
Why is it always big one up by bashing the other down?
If it was the other way around it would cause a lot of negativity but it's ok to bash the slim women, there not allowed confidence issues, apparently have no curves, don't have a womanly body, I've heard it all.
So you curvy lovers that have to be negative about smaller body shapes I hope you get poked in the eye!
There's preference and there's body shaming!
Morning all btw.
Mrs
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Nobody should ever be shamed...
I love all ladies and I agree 100%
Everyone has curves...except sponge bob square pants. ..because he is a sponge...and square...lol |
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I'm a supporter of all shapes and sizes..... literally I can support all shapes and sizes lol I'm strong, comfy to lay on and give great head 
Now for the serious part. I've experienced the negativity of being a larger size all my adult life and im proud that I have never shamed anyone for their size or retaliated when I've been called names, I will not lower myself to that level. I believe There's a tipping point with negative comments to anyone of any size with low body confidence, the tip happens and it takes root, leads to a unhealthy mind that needs help and support.
The shamers either don't care what they leave in their wake or get off on it. I may not like my size but I'm glad I'm me and not them |
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"Every person will have their own hang ups about their body. Things they like, dislike, regardless of shape, size.
We are our own worst critics so no-one needs other criticising them too.
K"
Totally agree with this and what the OP said to.
I have seen some extremely detrimental comments oh some threads especially against slim women which has been uncalled for.
We are all human beings, different shapes and sizes and yes all have our preferences but there is no need to add the shaming one against the other |
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