"I’m only really into people who are also into me. Not a fan of the unrequited thing. I want sparks flying both ways."
Good answer. If there are too many 'hoops' to jump through then I lose interest. |
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The chase… is only fun if you think you’re getting somewhere. They need to give sone indication they are enjoying it. And false flirting can be spotted a mile away. But it’s fun when they try to play hard to get, and you know it’s because they don’t want to apear ‘easy’
Some people like a lady who is a cocksuckin monster in the bedroom.
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"Really! Interesting so it doesn’t make you want them more. I guess we’re all different ha. "
There’s a lot of women or men that have a persona of they are unattainable. And I suppose that works for them, and those that think they can ‘have them’.
Whatever floats their boat.
But if I get an inclin there’s no chance, then I would stop chasing and it just becomes friendly. |
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The chase is sometimes at least half the fun, the tension, the ability to converse is a manner where you both know where this is going to lead but you relish the anticipation.
Chemistry is an addictive feeling and is to be savoured and enjoyed.
It’s like when you go for a fine dining meal, it’s an experience, you savour each mouthful.
Let us linger on the palate…enjoy it.
As appose to a drive through where it’s just there to serve a purpose.
Each to there own but personally, I enjoy the chase  |
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I think its good for both sides to work for it a little bit. But as long as we both know the interest is definitely there, I don't play games and expect the same in return. |
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"To answer the original question … For me it’s a turn on when a woman lets me know that she’s into me. Definitely.
(So that’s a hint to any secret admirers who might be lurking out there!  )"
There no point saying if there is a distance problem |
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Yes I do wonder tho if for some people it’s only the chase that turns them on and not what’s to follow. It’s not that they’re not necessarily into you it’s just they don’t need anything more than this. |
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"There no point saying if there is a distance problem "
Oh, I wouldn’t say distance is always a problem. I mean … some people travel a lot. I’ll be in three different parts of the UK over the next two weeks. |
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"Yes I do wonder tho if for some people it’s only the chase that turns them on and not what’s to follow. It’s not that they’re not necessarily into you it’s just they don’t need anything more than this. "
There is that element too but that’s when you use your judgement and you read the situation.
Intent, actions, keenness, these are all elements one learns and observed.
You can learn such much from a simple conversation |
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"The chase is sometimes at least half the fun, the tension, the ability to converse is a manner where you both know where this is going to lead but you relish the anticipation.
Chemistry is an addictive feeling and is to be savoured and enjoyed.
It’s like when you go for a fine dining meal, it’s an experience, you savour each mouthful.
Let us linger on the palate…enjoy it.
As appose to a drive through where it’s just there to serve a purpose.
Each to there own but personally, I enjoy the chase "
I find this opinion interesting. I'm not into playing games, I'm no good at it. And the whole chace thing in vanilla world has left me with unrequited lust on numerous occasions!
I hoped on here that it would be different, more honest! But sadly sometimes it isn't. And a lot of men still want the hard to get thing! Which on a sex/swing site, I really don't understand! |
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"There no point saying if there is a distance problem
Oh, I wouldn’t say distance is always a problem. I mean … some people travel a lot. I’ll be in three different parts of the UK over the next two weeks."
I like to meet more than once in awhile. I'm big flirt I tell them if I'm interested. Men that big flirt s turn me on. Sex starts in the mind |
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"The chase is sometimes at least half the fun, the tension, the ability to converse is a manner where you both know where this is going to lead but you relish the anticipation.
Chemistry is an addictive feeling and is to be savoured and enjoyed.
It’s like when you go for a fine dining meal, it’s an experience, you savour each mouthful.
Let us linger on the palate…enjoy it.
As appose to a drive through where it’s just there to serve a purpose.
Each to there own but personally, I enjoy the chase
I find this opinion interesting. I'm not into playing games, I'm no good at it. And the whole chace thing in vanilla world has left me with unrequited lust on numerous occasions!
I hoped on here that it would be different, more honest! But sadly sometimes it isn't. And a lot of men still want the hard to get thing! Which on a sex/swing site, I really don't understand! "
Interesting point!
I can’t comment for anyone else but for me it’s about seeking pleasure, that comes in many different forms.
One doesn’t have a “God” complex but some yes your right do.
The mutual attraction and chase is part of the pleasure I enjoy.
I take a view of vanilla world logic and simple manners and respect and apply it to a swinging platform….. |
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"Does it makes any difference if they know you want them not necessarily need them or would you still be put of regardless if they seem too easy? "
This is an expansive question and each to their own. I suppose it depends what the other party seeks. What they desire, that interests them |
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Yes that’s very true I suppose it’s all about getting to know the person and deciding if you’re compatible or not regardless of it being swinging. It can’t just be about the sex for me has to be a little more depth. Thanks again for your input. |
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"Yes that’s very true I suppose it’s all about getting to know the person and deciding if you’re compatible or not regardless of it being swinging. It can’t just be about the sex for me has to be a little more depth. Thanks again for your input. "
You’re very welcome!
This is why I enjoy the social aspect of it.
If I can’t enjoy your company socially whatever would make me think that sexually it would be any different.
Only fools rush in!
Sometimes the loudest in the room ain’t the best in the room |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"I’m only really into people who are also into me. Not a fan of the unrequited thing. I want sparks flying both ways.
Good answer. If there are too many 'hoops' to jump through then I lose interest."
I agree if I see a wish list a meet long with a zillion hoops to jump.through I lose interest.
Life's to short. |
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It has to be reciprocal for me — the effort, the woo'ing, the genuine interest with conviction and all the honourable intentions. I am openly clear when I'm interested but I refuse to engage in ego-inflating chase theatrics.
If a woman reaches out to me I am often unnecessarily cautious... |
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I only associate an element of ‘chasing’ for someone who i am interested in as a potential partner- thats the real world - fab is my escape to a land of beautiful women and erotic adventures… im not going to go the lengths I would for real life in here… i want hello … followed by a porn star quality blowjob and a rummage in her panties before she tells me im the best shes ever had and is it ok if she cooks me a 3 course meal as a thankyou!!! Surely that’s not too much to expect???  |
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"I’m only really into people who are also into me. Not a fan of the unrequited thing. I want sparks flying both ways."
This for me too. I’m not chasing anyone and I don’t want anyone chasing me. Too old for that malarkey |
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I checked out this thread, presuming when viewing the quiz that Bradley Walsh hosts, that others might also conject which contestants are likely to enjoy group fun... |
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By *1876Man
over a year ago
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"I’m only really into people who are also into me. Not a fan of the unrequited thing. I want sparks flying both ways."
Same here 
I do enjoy a bit of a chase with work colleagues etc though, as that can be quite exciting...but even then it's only when there's a clear mutual attraction   |
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"I checked out this thread, presuming when viewing the quiz that Bradley Walsh hosts, that others might also conject which contestants are likely to enjoy group fun... "
Same  |
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Glad I'm not the only one! Every now and then, even if not recognised from a club, there is that feeling that a contestant enjoys the lifestyle. Is there a swinging equivalent to 'gaydar' I wonder? |
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