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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)
What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?
Mrs C xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)
What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?
Mrs C xx "
Penny always has a wank before her big meetings, slows her down a bit and rids some of the nervous energy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)
What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?
Mrs C xx
Penny always has a wank before her big meetings, slows her down a bit and rids some of the nervous energy."
And yes, in the building about 2 minutes before she is due to present |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)
What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?
Mrs C xx
Penny always has a wank before her big meetings, slows her down a bit and rids some of the nervous energy."
No no no. I'm not in a horny wanky mood. Be like rubbing sandpaper in the desert  |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)
What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?
Mrs C xx "
What kind of meeting is it? Keep notes of the points you're going to bring up. I'm sure you will do just fine  |
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Make bullet point notes of the important stuff you want to cover.
Before you commit to speaking take a brief pause to organise your thoughts.
Don’t panic that you’ve missed the opportunity to speak. You can always come in with “ can we just go back to x so I can check my understanding “ or “ I’ve been reflecting on something person A said and I’d like to share my thoughts “
Finally if you do find that at the end you have loads of ideas/thoughts that you didn’t manage to say, follow up with an email. “ thanks for your time earlier, since the meeting ended I have been pondering what was discussed abd have a few points I’d like you to consider “ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've got a horrible meeting this afternoon. When I'm anxious and feel overwhelmed my mouth runs at a million miles a hour. I must come across as agitated (this is not a good look)
What can I do to stay calm, speak clearly, to the point without losing myself?
Mrs C xx
What kind of meeting is it? Keep notes of the points you're going to bring up. I'm sure you will do just fine "
I can't control what others are going to say. That's the problem. Other people I think I have it all worked out in my head then BOOM  |
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As others have says, make bullet point notes of your points.
Take a breath before speaking.
Write something at the top of your notes that will help you to focus on speaking slowly and enunciating each word.
If you have time, take a look at Amy Cudd’s Ted Talk on power poses. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Make bullet point notes of the important stuff you want to cover.
Before you commit to speaking take a brief pause to organise your thoughts.
Don’t panic that you’ve missed the opportunity to speak. You can always come in with “ can we just go back to x so I can check my understanding “ or “ I’ve been reflecting on something person A said and I’d like to share my thoughts “
Finally if you do find that at the end you have loads of ideas/thoughts that you didn’t manage to say, follow up with an email. “ thanks for your time earlier, since the meeting ended I have been pondering what was discussed abd have a few points I’d like you to consider “"
I think I could learn a lot from you Dave x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As others have says, make bullet point notes of your points.
Take a breath before speaking.
Write something at the top of your notes that will help you to focus on speaking slowly and enunciating each word.
If you have time, take a look at Amy Cudd’s Ted Talk on power poses. "
Definitely will do. Thank you |
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"Make bullet point notes of the important stuff you want to cover.
Before you commit to speaking take a brief pause to organise your thoughts.
Don’t panic that you’ve missed the opportunity to speak. You can always come in with “ can we just go back to x so I can check my understanding “ or “ I’ve been reflecting on something person A said and I’d like to share my thoughts “
Finally if you do find that at the end you have loads of ideas/thoughts that you didn’t manage to say, follow up with an email. “ thanks for your time earlier, since the meeting ended I have been pondering what was discussed abd have a few points I’d like you to consider “
I think I could learn a lot from you Dave x"
Happy to help in whatever way I can |
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By *igjonny090Man
over a year ago
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I tend to have something to chew on like a soft mint you can chew on it when you feel yourself getting overly off topic but can swallow it and carry on, same goes for a sip of watering others have suggested |
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I can't control what others are going to say. That's the problem. Other people I think I have it all worked out in my head then BOOM "
This is the main thing really, you can only control your thoughts and actions, words and reactions. If what others say is off point, bring the conversation back to the point in hand. If what they say annoys you, take a slow breath in and out, and consider whether it's worth it to still be annoyed afterwards. If yes, make a point or speak to them separately after the meeting, if no, let it go. Wish you good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"deep breath before speaking , think before answering and take your time. sit on your hands to stop windmilling, lol. oh and avoid caffeine "
Already on my 3rd coffee
I don't drink caffeine after 11am so hopefully I'll settle before 1.30pm |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I can't control what others are going to say. That's the problem. Other people I think I have it all worked out in my head then BOOM
This is the main thing really, you can only control your thoughts and actions, words and reactions. If what others say is off point, bring the conversation back to the point in hand. If what they say annoys you, take a slow breath in and out, and consider whether it's worth it to still be annoyed afterwards. If yes, make a point or speak to them separately after the meeting, if no, let it go. Wish you good luck "
Good advice. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Imagine them all naked, they are just human beings just like you except you aren’t naked, doesn’t matter what title they give themselves we all bleed the same, gods speed to you OP and nervousness is a sign that it matters to you internally, harness that energy, you are better than good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Imagine them all naked, they are just human beings just like you except you aren’t naked, doesn’t matter what title they give themselves we all bleed the same, gods speed to you OP and nervousness is a sign that it matters to you internally, harness that energy, you are better than good"
Awww that's very good. Thanks |
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For myself in these situations:
Have a note pad and pen - any points raised which need to come back to or you want to think about, say "excellent point, we will come back to that shortly" and jot it down.
On your pad at the top, have a list of bullet points of main topics too, tick them off as discussed.
Also take a bottle of water and make sure you have been to the toilet beforehand.
Confidence is always key. Fake it if you dont feel it:
Shoulders back and sit tall
Try not to sit with arms crossed (pad in front of you and sit ready to write)
Eye contact and greetings to all present.
Best wishes for today and hope it goes well
MrsAbz |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Honestly thank you so much. Some really fantastic advice been dished out. I really appreciate it. I'm definitely picking some things out I know will work for me xx |
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