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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Afternoon you lovely lot 
How do you rate your confidence in general.
Mine is quite low due to difficult ho_elife & I’m crippled with anxiety & self doubt. |
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At work it’s high, I know that I’m good at it.
Personal life, flaky, much better than it was after many years of any confidence being nipped in the bud, hopefully good enough to know I can enjoy myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In general day to day life, I'm ok actually.
With men, that's a whole different story and I have zero confidence. But I don't stress about it anymore, I'm happy with no sex!
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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago
North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester |
Confidence levels are around 7.5..used to be higher but been away from the clubbing scene for about 11 months..Confidence levels will then raise to around 9 then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the situation. If it's familiar then maybe around a 7 but if it's new to me, then probably around a 3. At minute it's pretty much a 1 so just waiting for that to pass |
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By *ealMissShadyWoman
over a year ago
St Albans/ North Welsh Borders |
"Afternoon you lovely lot
How do you rate your confidence in general.
Mine is quite low due to difficult ho_elife & I’m crippled with anxiety & self doubt. "
How long have you felt like this? Do you have hobbies? Are you getting out and about? *hugs*
My confidence dips at times, but more often than not I am pretty confident - in who I am and how I look, it's taken a lot of work and still work to go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find myself a reasonably confident guy but never cocky or pushy. I am well educated and have a professional career so this helps somewhat with carrying on a conversation which augments my confidence.
However, when I meet new people my confidence levels tend to fall but as the friendship/association grows then so too does my confidence levels. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
As a kid every time I got on a plane to go on holiday with my dad he'd always say to me if this plane was to ever go down I guarantee you me and you survive and that stuck with me even until now I fear nothing I know I can do what I want I make decisions for myself I don't listen to any influence I don't need vaccines or masks I push myself at kick-boxing as it's the only thing that tests me and pushes me.. I have control over my state of mind because i choose to |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"As a kid every time I got on a plane to go on holiday with my dad he'd always say to me if this plane was to ever go down I guarantee you me and you survive and that stuck with me even until now I fear nothing I know I can do what I want I make decisions for myself I don't listen to any influence I don't need vaccines or masks I push myself at kick-boxing as it's the only thing that tests me and pushes me.. I have control over my state of mind because i choose to "
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In everyday life 100%. I could stand and speak in front of 10,000 people no problem. I can speak to anyone, do anything. Things like fab, not so. Not sure why but I’ve never really had great confidence meeting people here. Maybe it’s because I’m not from the “online” generation I really don’t know. It even baffles me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often thought that others had more confidence in me than I did
Imposter syndrome when used to work
Possibly pretty low at the moment esp as can't understand why people want me around |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"In everyday life 100%. I could stand and speak in front of 10,000 people no problem. I can speak to anyone, do anything. Things like fab, not so. Not sure why but I’ve never really had great confidence meeting people here. Maybe it’s because I’m not from the “online” generation I really don’t know. It even baffles me. "
It's like prince William he takes out his contact lenses when he does his talks at big events saw this on a game show as an answer  |
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Decent. I was surprised how relaxed I was naked in the club. I didn't walk around naked but then very few do but naked getting into and out of the pool and hottub and I was OK even though my shins are a bit of a mess. One on one I'm pretty confident especially in lingerie but fully naked too. I know that I'm appealing to those who like me and I enjoy teasing them.
Noone is attractive to everyone when you combine looks with personality but if you accept that some will really like you, Enjoy that and let it lift you up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It varies.
I find being outrageous and camp as Christmas is a very effective mask!
This is what I need to do! I need a Jennie in my life "
Be more Jennie!
Maybe I should sell 'What would Jennie do' bracelets! |
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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago
moon base zero |
"Decent. I was surprised how relaxed I was naked in the club. I didn't walk around naked but then very few do but naked getting into and out of the pool and hottub and I was OK even though my shins are a bit of a mess. One on one I'm pretty confident especially in lingerie but fully naked too. I know that I'm appealing to those who like me and I enjoy teasing them.
Noone is attractive to everyone when you combine looks with personality but if you accept that some will really like you, Enjoy that and let it lift you up. "
Im your fab friend and your confidence is something I admire about you...and your boobs  x |
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"Afternoon you lovely lot
How do you rate your confidence in general.
Mine is quite low due to difficult ho_elife & I’m crippled with anxiety & self doubt. "
Message me if you want to chat I'm a good listener |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine is pretty low tbh
Oh no
It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha"
Is that because you is ginger  (joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)
I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low. |
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"Mine is pretty low tbh
Oh no
It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha
Is that because you is ginger (joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)
I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low. "
I used to think so actually haha. I used to dye my beard when I was younger!
If I'm with someone I know I can be as confident as anyone, it's approaching new people I struggle with. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
My confidence level is 9.5 / 10.
I like myself. I am sure of my own feelings. Not everyone will like me, but if I am true to myself, I don’t bother about the few people that might not.
It’s probably the best part about being older. The confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine is pretty low tbh
Oh no
It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha
Is that because you is ginger (joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)
I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low.
I used to think so actually haha. I used to dye my beard when I was younger!
If I'm with someone I know I can be as confident as anyone, it's approaching new people I struggle with. "
Oh if I’m with someone I’m comfortable with I have zero filter,will new people I’m quite shy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A year away from Fab due to ill health, my confidence levels plummeted to zero. Stuck at home, rarely having any human contact. Only leaving the house for medical check ups.
Returning here, a few weeks ago, helped...people liking photos is a boost to the self-esteem...hanging out in the Forums has made me laugh again...thank you Forumites.
But then, I made the mistake of messaging a former FB. Three arranged 'meets' in three weeks. He cancelled the first two in advance with, what I thought were genuine reasons. The third, on Fri night, he just didn't show up.
Years ago I wouldn't have cared less. But this time it sent me spiralling downwards. My amazing fwb spent half the night chatting to me until I was calm enough to sleep. Yesterday, still low and zero appetite, I forgot to eat and had a bloody scary hypoglycemic episode (levels almost normal again now I've eaten and taken my meds).
So, today is a rest day on the sofa. Just reading the Forums...sometimes contributing...which has got me smiling. Again, thank you all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had bells palsy for over a year I also need a new hip so I do look like I've had a stroke. My confidence is still the same ! Different hat for a different day kinda thing. I've always been confident, mainly I think because I genuinely don't care what other people think of me. That doesn't mean I haven't had massive wobbles occasionally but very rare. I just walk tall and smile a lot ! |
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"A year away from Fab due to ill health, my confidence levels plummeted to zero. Stuck at home, rarely having any human contact. Only leaving the house for medical check ups.
Returning here, a few weeks ago, helped...people liking photos is a boost to the self-esteem...hanging out in the Forums has made me laugh again...thank you Forumites.
But then, I made the mistake of messaging a former FB. Three arranged 'meets' in three weeks. He cancelled the first two in advance with, what I thought were genuine reasons. The third, on Fri night, he just didn't show up.
Years ago I wouldn't have cared less. But this time it sent me spiralling downwards. My amazing fwb spent half the night chatting to me until I was calm enough to sleep. Yesterday, still low and zero appetite, I forgot to eat and had a bloody scary hypoglycemic episode (levels almost normal again now I've eaten and taken my meds).
So, today is a rest day on the sofa. Just reading the Forums...sometimes contributing...which has got me smiling. Again, thank you all. "
What a stupid fucker. Bullet well dodged there. |
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"Mine is pretty low tbh
Oh no
It always has been. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I am acutely aware of that haha
Is that because you is ginger (joking aside my 2 eldest boys are ginger!)
I think we’re not all someone’s cup of tea. Sometimes my confidence is ok but mostly it’s low.
I used to think so actually haha. I used to dye my beard when I was younger!
If I'm with someone I know I can be as confident as anyone, it's approaching new people I struggle with.
Oh if I’m with someone I’m comfortable with I have zero filter,will new people I’m quite shy."
This is exactly how I am. Not great for making first impressions! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" What a stupid fucker. Bullet well dodged there. "
Yep, you're right. But I also partly blame myself for believing that we still had the same amazing connection that we had for a number of years  |
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