I love the butterflies. If I’m not a little nervous, something’s wrong. I don’t want the person or the meet enough.
The ‘I don’t know if she’ll like me’ nerves.
The ‘will she look like her photos’ nerves.
The ‘might this be more than a social’ nerves.
The nerves that disappear with the first kiss. Those are the best ones. |
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Breathing can help, I use the 7-11 one where you breathe in counting to 7 then out counting 11.
Set a timer on your phone for 5 minutes, make sure you won’t be interrupted and just concentrate on your breathing.
Whenever your mind wanders, bring it back to the breathing.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Every single meet! If I didn’t something’s wrong it’s time to stop.
I learned this for public speaking ,to understand nerves & remind yourself it’s actually very similar symptoms as excitement / arousal just a different name. |
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"All the time and generally what happens is I start to nervous chatter/babble/waffle and don't let people get a word in  "
That's funny. I often go the other way and go quiet.luckily I tend to attract talkative men so it's OK! |
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"Not something I experience due to suffering from anhedonia.
No nervous anticipation before and no lasting effect after.
Just very present in the moment. "
Every day is ac learning day. Luckily that was safe to Google but Google thinks I'm a total pervert anyway. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes! I expend a lot of nervous energy and fail to concentrate on anything 
Hope you weren't expecting useful advice! 
J"
I've got so much nervous energy! Well excitable energy. I'm trying to trick myself into getting ready by listening to reggaeton. It's erm... not too successful.  |
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"Are they something you experience? How do you handle them?
Yep, there's not a lot of waffle to accompany this question. :D"
Never have them when meeting
A women .so funny women haveing them .
when most of the time they hold all the cards .
But I do like to see it . |
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I have learnt to embrace and enjoy that feeling. They no longer overwhelm me like they did when I first started doing this. The build up and anticipation is a huge part of doing this for me so without that there would be something missing for me.
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Now I just feel devoid of emotion.