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over a year ago
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"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests  "
Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with |
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"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests
Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with "
I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests
Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with
I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation "
That be them winning |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests
Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with
I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation
That be them winning "
Is that’s exactly what they want is people to leave and it will not happen |
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"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests
Unfortunately got to play game as that’s what others are doing to start with
I prefer to remove myself than lower myself in the situation
That be them winning "
I think that lowering myself to their level is them winning. Walking away is me winning. If they also see that as winning, then everyone is happy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No. I’m a pretty good judge of character anyway
Sorry to say but I have to disagree that you are as you not shown me you are sorry Nora
Shown you? In what way. "
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"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do
Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying"
This presupposes that people will have "toxic" traits. I can't face life expecting the worst in people.
If things go wrong later, at least I enjoyed the innocence of the initial interactions.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People will reveal who they are through their own choices and actions. To me, that includes playing games and putting people through shit tests "
There’s lots of toxic traits. I just hope people don’t have them.
I hope. |
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My intuition and gut instinct has yet to let me down. People will reveal themselves to you if you have the patience to observe and listen. I was never one for mind games or setting anyone up for a reaction, that's kinda cruel. Like the saying goes "give someone enough rope"... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My intuition and gut instinct has yet to let me down. People will reveal themselves to you if you have the patience to observe and listen. I was never one for mind games or setting anyone up for a reaction, that's kinda cruel. Like the saying goes "give someone enough rope"... "
So it’s ok for other to play toxic games
By group Incnoring people group single out people
Or getting someone to report messages back and all the dirty underhand stuff that happens
But when someone dose it back it rope to hang your self |
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No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.
Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona. |
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"No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.
Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you test people for toxic traits I know I do
Some off my toxic traits that I test for is group bullying
Happens in the forums a fair bit! X"
No shit!!! And the forum is only a small percentage of fab. Imagine how Michael there is out there.  |
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"No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.
Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona. "
I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me
And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread
As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen |
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"My intuition and gut instinct has yet to let me down. People will reveal themselves to you if you have the patience to observe and listen. I was never one for mind games or setting anyone up for a reaction, that's kinda cruel. Like the saying goes "give someone enough rope"...
So it’s ok for other to play toxic games
By group Incnoring people group single out people
Or getting someone to report messages back and all the dirty underhand stuff that happens
But when someone dose it back it rope to hang your self "
No it's not ok.
That's all way too much drama for me to want to be involved in
I'd just choose to ignore people who are out for that. It doesn't go unnoticed.  |
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Maybe it's the word "test" which is bothering people? As I know I've read here before that there are things that people look out for - red flags. Seeing if someone will do a video/phone call after chatting a while. Whether they only talk later at night. When I'm not sure about someone, I gently disagree with them about something to see how they react.
Call it playing games, call it caution.
Potato/potato. |
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"No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.
Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.
I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me
And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread
As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen "
What you testing people just found you? Sorry I don't buy that whatsoever. And I don't understand what the aim would be for people on a forum?
Fair enough reading something they've written and seeing it as a red flag. But baiting people and testing them, I just can't approve of. |
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"No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.
Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.
I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me
And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread
As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen
What you testing people just found you? Sorry I don't buy that whatsoever. And I don't understand what the aim would be for people on a forum?
Fair enough reading something they've written and seeing it as a red flag. But baiting people and testing them, I just can't approve of. "
As sed before seems it’s ok for other to play games but the minute it’s done back it becomes a problem |
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"No I don't test anyone ever. Personally I find that a toxic trait in itself. It would rarely ever unbiased hence unfair, plus I'm a great believer if you go out of your way to look for the negatives you will find them.
Observe people and be cautious of them that's I do, and is a natural way of learning about a persons persona.
I didn’t go out my way to look for this it just found me
And I really don’t think any one has a good sens off persons persona jugeing by the replies on this thread
As if you want to see my real persons persona it can be seen
What you testing people just found you? Sorry I don't buy that whatsoever. And I don't understand what the aim would be for people on a forum?
Fair enough reading something they've written and seeing it as a red flag. But baiting people and testing them, I just can't approve of.
As sed before seems it’s ok for other to play games but the minute it’s done back it becomes a problem "
I don't play games and I'm not interested in races to the bottom, therefore it's never a problem for me ta. |
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"Maybe it's the word "test" which is bothering people? As I know I've read here before that there are things that people look out for - red flags. Seeing if someone will do a video/phone call after chatting a while. Whether they only talk later at night. When I'm not sure about someone, I gently disagree with them about something to see how they react.
Call it playing games, call it caution.
Potato/potato. "
Yes I took it more to mean observe too. |
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