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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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About people on here?
Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.
Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.
Bad to good.
Good to bad.
People, who'd have em.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
No! I don't think.
However I have been the person blocked to unblocked.
I can imagine myself being blocked, but not for the reason stated in the op. I am actually a good "friend".
I'm a "friend" that just so happens to be a twat, not a twat that has been "befriended". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The chatty patty ‘friends’ are hilarious. I’m only 26 and that’s entirely too old to be involved in playground drama. And yet people 40+ on this site are reliving secondary school on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't think I blocked anyone, but just noticed I had.
They are now unblocked. Maybe they said something I didn't agree with like "..the jam goes on before the cream" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block and unblock people all the time 
Some I unblock tho I should stay away
Some I've blocked when they've blocked me, so I can still sort of nosey at them haha. |
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I’ve yet to block anyone. But yeah, there are people here I liked who turned out to be dicks. And people who I thought were dicks but ended up liking because they’re the good kind of dickhead after all.
People are unpredictable buggers. |
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"I’ve yet to block anyone. But yeah, there are people here I liked who turned out to be dicks. And people who I thought were dicks but ended up liking because they’re the good kind of dickhead after all."
Also, the good kind of dickhead can be sexy. Sometimes even *that* opinion crops up out of nowhere. That ‘huh, she’s actually turning me on’ surprise. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I’ve yet to block anyone. But yeah, there are people here I liked who turned out to be dicks. And people who I thought were dicks but ended up liking because they’re the good kind of dickhead after all.
People are unpredictable buggers."
I'm an alright dickhead! People can confirm this.
Though they generally said "alright, dickhead" so it could be either way really. I just choose to view the positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I've changed my mind about people here. There were a couple here that I felt really disliked me then when we met in person at a social we actually hit it off and I really enjoyed their company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad to good never happens for long, they usually convert right back again in the future. So those I avoid.
Good to bad, this has happened and it's the same people that assume they're lovely but are usually the horrible gossiping dickheads this place attracts.
Finding the "good" ones on here takes time. |
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"I have done a few times, think I make a connection and talk to someone that I really get on with. Then further down the line find out they ain’t the person you thought they was at all. "
So this. In the end you can't keep making allowances for them. They are who they are and that won't change. Kinda sad but not worth the mental energy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About people on here?
Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.
Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.
Bad to good.
Good to bad.
People, who'd have em.
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I thought you were a bit of a dick tbh. Now I think you’re sort of alright… after a lot of rum. |
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The only people I block are those who are actively rude to me, get stressy via messages or send me "hey hows u"
Everyone I else I simply don't care about enough... if they say some dumb shit in the forums I don't agree with or I think is insensitive I just move on.
As for people I have met, everyone has been lovely and has remained lovely. |
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"The only people I block are those who are actively rude to me, get stressy via messages or send me "hey hows u"
Everyone I else I simply don't care about enough... if they say some dumb shit in the forums I don't agree with or I think is insensitive I just move on.
As for people I have met, everyone has been lovely and has remained lovely."
Ah this, oddly, was just the answer I needed to hear right now. Just move on and dont engage if someone is rude or insensitive.
Thank you so much for that
MrsAbz |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've never unblocked anyone and wanted to meet them in fact the few times I have unblocked I regretted it and reblocked them.
I have had a friend on here who turned out not to be a friend at all and was just using me for whatever reason they had at the time. They also shared my personal info and pics as well since,and twisted things to suit her agenda. But we live and learn I suppose and it's made me a lot more wary of those flying the friendship flag.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have changed my mind about people and thought they’re actually alright after previously disliking them.
I’ve never unblocked anyone though. If I’ve blocked someone they had to have done something that’s really pissed me off, I’m not interested after that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I’ve blocked everyone I’ve ever met but I do it on new profiles if I rejoin after a break. I just don’t want to meet them again and it’s easier to have them blocked than them expecting more meets. |
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"The only people I block are those who are actively rude to me, get stressy via messages or send me "hey hows u"
Everyone I else I simply don't care about enough... if they say some dumb shit in the forums I don't agree with or I think is insensitive I just move on.
As for people I have met, everyone has been lovely and has remained lovely.
Ah this, oddly, was just the answer I needed to hear right now. Just move on and dont engage if someone is rude or insensitive.
Thank you so much for that
MrsAbz "
You're welcome 
Glad to have helped |
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If I find myself getting wrapped up in all of that blocking and shit - it's time to have a word with myself I reckon.
People gossip for all kinds of reasons. For some it's a form of currency, for others it's just innocent fascination. Everyone's a critic these days.
A lot of people put on a show. Some people less so. Then even them that don't - well they got more than one dimension to them right? No one is perpetually one thing.
When it comes down to it, a lot of people are too wrapped up in themselves to have space to be friends, the way I view friendship anyhow. That's not specific to fab though.
And if it ain't that deep a thing to begin with then, why get all butt hurt about it? |
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Yes I’ve blocked a couple of people as they were being incredibly pushy then turned quite abusive. I had pre warned them about the tone they were taking with me & that I would not hesitate in blocking them.
I have no idea if I’ve ever been blocked. |
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I haven't unblocked anyone ,once they go in room 101 that's it for life lol.
I have changed my mind the other way ,ie chatted to people a good while and had to block them for various reasons.Either they've become a pest or shown themselves to be different to what they've originally portrayed .
We blocked a single bloke on here for some of his posts /views ,then we met him at a social and it confirmed exactly why we'd blocked him.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Not really as I mostly keep myself to myself.
I have blocked forum folk before and unblocked them - usually because I’ve got my arse in my hand about something and then I’ve calmed down and seen sense, but this happens less these days as I’m more chilled out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.
I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before. |
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I've never unblocked anyone once I've made a judgement call on them and their attitude.
I have met people though who have only been able to maintain a pleasant personality for a short period of time and turned out to be very different from how I first perceived them.
Thankfully that has been a rare occurrence and I am pretty good at seeing the crazy well in advance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No op.
I know people can be disrespectful and dishonest. As long as I stick to who I am.
Blocks stay blocked one reason is we do not connect.
I keep positive and do not rise to bait. Forum rules.. Be kind and don't name and shame. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can be hasty in my blocking at times, I have zero tolerance these days. And sometimes I've realised they maybe aren't so bad.
But I'm also very wary of guys that say they just wanna be friends. (By wary I mean they can fuck off to hell) They are friendly until a 'friend' comes along that is willing to let him stick his dick in her then funnily enough, they aren't that good a friend.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.
I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before. "
How did you find out about the stories? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"About people on here?
Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.
Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.
Bad to good.
Good to bad.
People, who'd have em.
I thought you were a bit of a dick tbh. Now I think you’re sort of alright… after a lot of rum."
I also think you're less of a dick after I've had rum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About people on here?
Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.
Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.
Bad to good.
Good to bad.
People, who'd have em.
I thought you were a bit of a dick tbh. Now I think you’re sort of alright… after a lot of rum.
I also think you're less of a dick after I've had rum. "
There isn’t that much rum… |
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"About people on here?
Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.
Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.
Bad to good.
Good to bad.
People, who'd have em.
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On here only changed my mind once, my initial perspective proved to be wrong... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.
I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.
How did you find out about the stories? "
He sent them to me. Gave me nightmares. He was the abusive side of kinky, it turned out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can be hasty in my blocking at times, I have zero tolerance these days. And sometimes I've realised they maybe aren't so bad.
But I'm also very wary of guys that say they just wanna be friends. (By wary I mean they can fuck off to hell) They are friendly until a 'friend' comes along that is willing to let him stick his dick in her then funnily enough, they aren't that good a friend.
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This!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly? I don’t really have any meaningful opinion on anybody in here other than those I’ve struck up a friendship with via messaging or meeting.
Anyone else is just pixels on a screen tbf and I know that internet profiles are mostly just a front and rarely a true indicator of what people are like.
So I can’t think of ever changing an opinion on anyone to be honest.
And I only block people that have blocked me (just being petty in that regard  ) so I don’t proactively make judgments to block people otherwise.
It’s just t’internet isn’t it? Nothing to get too wound up about! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't check my block list to unblock...
However I do seem to have escaped some from block jail of some.
However I don't think I've yet to meet a blocker...
That's next level fabbing. |
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"Yes I unblocked someone to pass on a message for someone else who’d been banned. And ended up as FWB for a couple of years because we got on so well.
That’s actually kind of a sweet story. "
It worked out well! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.
I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.
How did you find out about the stories?
He sent them to me. Gave me nightmares. He was the abusive side of kinky, it turned out. "
Shit !  xx |
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I’ve only met one set of people who have “turned out completely different” to how they seemed in a club meet and completely insulted/ gossiped about me
Almost put me off clubs/fab forever as we were new and also my partner was going through a medical scare for the big C so was a bit fragile and it added a lot more pain to it than needed to
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"About people on here?
Ever had someone blocked to unblock and now have semi plans to actually meet? I've done this twice now.
Or maybe you've made what you thought was a 'friend' only to realise said friend goes running off telling others what you say.
Bad to good.
Good to bad.
People, who'd have em.
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Not really any of what you mentioned. But I have made what I thought were freinds on here but they did not feel the same way. But then that's life in general not just fab. Peeps get close People drift away. |
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"I didn't think I blocked anyone, but just noticed I had.
They are now unblocked. Maybe they said something I didn't agree with like "..the jam goes on before the cream""
Lol you know it does though, right  |
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Lots on our blocklist, it’s a handy filter.
Good too bad though..?
Had someone on our hotlist and was really chatty etc. then we met them at a group social and realised that we didn’t want the drama that came with them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Multiple times. I'm quite happy to acknowledge when I may have misjudged someone.
I have started to really like someone here and we made plans to meet. Then he started writing violent stories about me on another platform. I don't think I've got it quite as wrong before.
How did you find out about the stories?
He sent them to me. Gave me nightmares. He was the abusive side of kinky, it turned out.
Shit ! xx"
Just glad I never met him! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't block anyone unless they persist with messages every hour.
Are there people who I think are dickheads? Yeah, but wouldn't stop me having an in person chat, just to confirm  "
She knows. ^ |
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